| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/27/2007 3:39:17 PM | Autumnwind: Thank you for your post. As I also mentioned in my post. I kinda like these roses. They are a definite reality check for me. Everyone once in a while, one makes the mistake of thinking that the grass is greener on the other side. There is no need to wonder ..... there are no buts. I read your profile .......you're one smart cookie. Happy Fishing !!! What's meant to be ........ will be. Believe in karma ......what goes around ..... comes around.   | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:21:15 PM | If I am in a funk I send out my roses and buy my friends gifts with our little point system... kind of like retail therapy ~ makes me feel better when I send something nice to someone. I can't remember who I sent my roses to... Never thought it would be counted against me... but
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If someone doesn't write me because I have no roses then I think they're barking up the wrong tree anyway. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/27/2007 4:48:07 PM | I received a rose.
I think they're kind of tacky. Sorry, if it's just me. I know other people like them. Send me a message that's thoughtful and references my profile instead of a random attachable jpg. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/27/2007 9:04:13 PM |
Well the reality of virtual roses is that they are meaningless. They are not real.
You want to get into a discussion of reality? Sure, I'm game.
After a week, what happens to a flower that you buy for someone? Dumpster, gone forever. What about a box of chocolates? Eaten, excreted, wrappers thrown away. How about a kiss? If she's wearing lipstick, it might leave a mark for a couple hours. If she's got a disease and you're giving a full kiss, the effects could last longer. Or, take a diamond, which "lasts forever". The reality of a diamond is that it's a bunch of highly compressed carbon that has almost no useful value in lump form.
Yet, all of these things are considered real. Some act on many senses, some just 1 or 2.
In many ways, words aren't exactly "real". Words only act on one sense, hearing. Yet, millions (billions?) of people have been killed throughout the history of the world due to words.
The virtual rose cannot be sniffed, touched, heard, or tasted, but it can be seen. Like words, it is real because it symbolizes some real feeling. What exactly that feeling is, is open to interpretation. Sometimes it's just a joke or a friendly gesture, other times it's much more. Whether or not you should care, that's open to situation and interpretation too.
Now for the interesting twist. Actions are said to "speak" louder than words. A person can say just about anything in their profile and conversations. They can lie in numerous ways. The rose system may be misinterpreted, but it does not lie. It is an action, though small, that is absolute. The reality of a virtual rose is that it's more real than the words that are spoken online.
If you don't see the little clues in a person's actions, you might be the next person coming onto these boards whining about how person XYZ said s/he loved you a thousand times, but then s/he cheated on you. Find the actions, you'll see the real person.
Finally, you guys that are sending out roses with first emails. Don't! Not only are you not helping your chances, you are actually hurting them by coming off as very desperate and needy. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/27/2007 9:13:19 PM | | ok they are pictures of roses so why would it be a big deal...the only time I used one on here was just to see what they looked like...I mean really the thought is nice, its kind of the same with the gifts I really see no point however it is cute to send them or recieve I wouldn't say I would never email someone who had 0 roses that would be silly and like swamphunter said what if someone sent 1 to them and felt compelled to do the same doesnt mean the person is wanting a relationship with everyone they send roses to. I would still mail them if I felt drawn to them. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/27/2007 9:53:37 PM | Virtual roses. Another "reason" to evaluate someone here on POF. Goodness. The minute I have two sitting there, I send them to my lady friends who need them that day. I don't browse profiles ~ but I could care less what's on the bottom of the profiles I do browse. Favorites list and virtual roses ~ just another non-concern of mine.
I do have this hilarious friend here, she wants to know: If he sends me a virtual gift, does he expect a virtual roll in the sack?  | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/28/2007 7:22:52 AM | I've never heard of anything so ridiculous......this thought process never even occured to me.....who has roses, who doesn't....WHO CARES!!!! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/28/2007 8:45:16 AM | verygreeneyez: "I do have this hilarious friend here, she wants to know: If he sends me a virtual gift, does he expect a virtual roll in the sack? "
EXCELLENT IDEA !!!!! LMAO......................... | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:08:40 AM | 0,1,2......who cares?!!  I'm with Mr Vulf on this one....fire off those roses asap to avoid the nutjobs out there who're gonna lose their cool over digital flowers !
A life of stress and misery would doubtless lie ahead for any chap encountering such a 'trivia-trauma temptress'
Rather useful though as a 'final check'
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:19:27 AM | Now I have teased one man on here about a missing rose...lol...but mind you it was playful jousting.
Your on a dating site...regardless to what you are searching for …you are kidding yourself, if you think that just because you have great communication over the net and exchanged some photos or numbers that you are the only person that he/or she is possibly interested in. They wouldn't be on this site...or still on this site, if you were the only one. LOL...Maybe they would...but they would state so on their profile, I hope.
My point is roses...those candies, drinks and whatever other courtesy net gifts they send attached to their emails is a sweet gesture regardless to how interested someone is or isn't about you. That's all it is. It doesn't mean you’re in love, or any other label emotion you want to place with it…or that the person is more interested in someone else. Have some confidence people! You’re taking the connection way too seriously to be jealous enough to make a fuss about some missing roses (it’s not like they are condoms! Geesh! LOL). Jealousy isn’t a good quality and it lacks trust…perhaps you need to re evaluate your situation and feelings then..
Personally, I don't send my roses just because of stuff like this thread alone. *smiles*
I am not giving anyone ammo to joust me with...lol. I prefer one on one...if ya got my number than I am interested.
Roses aren't red flags...they are roses. LOL. Who cares who they are given to? If ya have their number...and you’re talking to them...what difference does it make? If I was given more than just two...I'd send them to everyone...everyone deserves a little something special once in a while, don't ya think? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 7:57:06 AM | | I guess it's cuz i posted in this thread but i havn't sent anyone a rose since they came out, now the other day i had zero and now i have one . So I think someones playing with me. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 9:09:27 AM |
If a man has 1 or 2 roses missing, then I figured he sent them to someone else and there must be a budding relationship happening. Or he's really into someone so I usually won't bother.
Likewise, if I have known of a man who has gone through 6 months or more and the holidays, valentine's day, and mother's day and is always online and NEVER gave out a rose...that is a red flag as well. Some people are selfish.
^^ Insert icon of shaking head as if just hit with anti-logic.
Can men do anything right?
Scenerio: a woman views my profile, finds interest in me and is about to write but first checks my rose status out:
If I haven't sent a rose, I'm doomed; if I have, I'm doomed.
Now I'm just paranoid about these roses ... | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/1/2007 4:55:08 PM | | I'm greedy I've just kept them to myself. It takes a real good connection to even consider sending mine out. I do think people look at this as a clue to see if you really do have your eye on someone special. There is always the case someone gave it to a close friend or fam member. I just don't find that as likely. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:09:14 PM | | only two times have i ever sent roses - and both times were on accident - eek! so you never know, someone may look at someone's profile and be turned off that the person sent cyber-roses to someone else, when if fact - the person may simply be a dork like myself and have sent them entirely on accident. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:17:33 PM | | I wouldn't notice, because I don't look at those things... the quality of the person, in what they've written or the commonalities you have should be the only determining factor. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:22:57 PM | Virtual roses are on here???  I need to start looking at the new goodies on the site a little more often! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:28:36 PM | I receive them quite often but it doesn't make me blush like if I was given the real thing.
Hell, I wouldn't beat myself over it, just a waste of time and energy.
And besides, the person has the right to send it to whoever he/she wants to unless there is already a romantic involvement between the two of you.
But wait, the two of you shouldn't be here at all if you're an item, right?  | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:44:38 PM |
When you see a profile that you like and maybe would like to email them then see down at the bottom that they have 0 roses to send, is that a red flag to you? Yellow flag maybe?
Does it make you think twice about emailing them or maybe click to another profile and forget about it?
wow, there ARE legitimate red flags we could be concerned about -- but looking at whether or not they have any roses left? that's really taking it too far -- it almost sounds like looking for any possible reason you can come up with to avoid people.
i just sent a rose to a guy the other day only because he had sent me some virtual thing or the other, and he is someone i only feel friendly towards in a platonic way, i wouldn't date him if he asked me to, but i DID want to send something in thanks for his, so -- i sent him a rose.
is this actually a big deal to people?
of course i'd e-mail a guy with fewer than 2 roses, of course it is not a yellow flag, and of course it does not make me think twice about anything whatsoever.
my advice? worry about things that have actual meaning, OP, and leave the nonsense be.
cheers all!  | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/3/2007 8:31:23 PM | I got lucky the guy I've been chatting to has sent me both of his roses along with numerous email gifts. | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/3/2007 8:35:55 PM | | I got lucky the guy I've been chatting to has sent me both of his roses along with numerous email gifts.It's the thought that counts! | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/3/2007 9:15:21 PM | It excites me to get a gift... I admit it, but do I really judge someone on it??? well... no, not really... but hey I'll look now and see how roseless they are.... lol...  | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/12/2007 5:20:39 PM | | Oh no, I didnt realise there was an I LOVE YOU and an engagement type ring on the red teddy!! i just had a closer look at it! iIsend my gifts and roses to a friendIi have on here, my friend sends me all theirs,.. its a sort of standing joke between us. I never realised that now, by exchanging red teddys and rings, we are now officially cyber engaged! blimey, I'll have to inform my friends partner of this! LOLOLOL. I never realised people read so much into someone having no roses,.. Gawd, the paranoia!. Still, I wont be sending any more red teddys out, thats for sure,.. I may be accused of cyber bigamy. x | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/12/2007 5:35:07 PM | Why would that be a problem? All that means is that at sometime in the last thirty days someone has gotten their attention. If the person sent 2 roses in the last few days I would make a mental note of it but not allow that to stop me from contacting this person if I was interested. I also feel that the roses feature should be private the same way the virtual gifts are.
Now please don't take this as a shot but a bigger red flag for me would be someone I don't know questioning my intentions and or motives based on the fact that at an earlier time I sent someone a virtual rose.
Just my take | |
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| 0 roses... Would you email them?
Posted: 7/12/2007 5:59:02 PM | No Roses? No Roses you say? My God, how can they have no roses.
I will e-mail anyone for any reason as long as I can make it a e-mail that might make them smile.
Well, unless she has no roses left, lol. | |
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