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Posted: 6/26/2007 6:45:07 AM |
So if anyone knows any other ways to make them bigger, i'd really appreciate it
First off, you're just a kid. Not saying this to hurt you. Don't mean it in a derogatory way. You are v ery young. As the others have said, you will continue to grow in all kinds of ways into your 20s. You'll get taller and you'll get bigger boobs.
You might get married someday and want children...nothing like breastfeeding a baby to give you ginormous boobs.... Not sure it's possible to nurse a baby if you've had breast implants. maybe it is, but, I can't imagine it wouldn't interfere somehow.
Do workouts. Yes, do upper body workouts that strengthen your pectoral muscles.
Relax. At 18, how many men are you hopping into bed with anyway? Chill and enjoy life! When I was your age, i thought my life revolved around attracting men. Now I realize, hey, life is good no matter what.
I'd suggest finding other parts of yourself to appreciate. instead of focusing on the negative (or what you perceive as negative), focus on your pretty smile, your lovely hair, your sweet little girl body. Focus on becoming an attractive woman inside...learn to love yourself. EVERYONE has something about his or her looks that make them wince. We just learn to accentuate the positive.
I tell guys who ask that I've got a great butt and strong legs from riding horses, and big tatas, but I'm kinda squishy in the middle. Some men think, blech, they want a teeny little waisted woman. But you know, there's the man who said, 'perfect" I like squishy in the middle.
someone is going to think your little rosebuds are the sexiest thing he's ever seen. But you want him attracted to you and thinking you are sexy and wonderful to be with because of YOU, the whole you.
With decisions like this, why don't you tell yourself you'll revisit the issue in a year. I've been doing that with a knee replacement and it's been 5 years now and I still have my real knee and it doesn't hurt too bad! Once you go under the knife, you can't go back again.
good luck darlin. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 6:57:05 AM | Some guys like big boobs. Most guys don't care at all about how big a girl's chest is. Other guys like smaller boobs.
All guys like boobs no matter what though. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:14:38 AM |
I tell guys who ask that I've got a great butt and strong legs from riding horses, and big tatas, but I'm kinda squishy in the middle. Some men think, blech, they want a teeny little waisted woman. But you know, there's the man who said, 'perfect" I like squishy in the middle.
This reminds me of a rcent study that determined what body shape men found attractive.
When men were given shapes, it wasn't breasts that most determined what they found attractive, it was waist to hip ratio. A small waist (squishy or otherwise) and big hips were found to be the most desirable by the majority of men.
This makes sense, given that the primary purpose of sex IS to further the species, and large hips are a sign of fertility and ease in child birth.
Compatibility of basic social perceptions determines perceived attractiveness.
Johnson KL, et al. Proc Natl Acad Sci U S A. 2007 Mar 20;104(12):5246-51. Epub 2007 Mar 13.
Clues To Mysteries Of Physical Attractiveness Revealed (press release)
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2007/05/070523105948.htm
FWIW, I've been married twice and have only had one or two other relationships in my life. Only one man, my current boyfriend, ever expressed a preference for my large chest. And of all the men in my life, except for one, the primary thing they loved about me was my intelligence and my humanity -- not blonde hair, blue eyes, my body, my breasts, or my bank account.
My first husband was overly into my looks, which is why that relationship failed. This lesson stayed with me. My deceased husband could have cared less what I looked like -- he loved me the same no matter what.
In reality, this is what you want from a man. You don't want to be valued by a man for the external stuff.
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:19:26 AM | small tight lil boobies ar enice!
they won't sag down to your knees when you get older!
most of the time small boobies seem to have bigger nips which is SEXY!
the best way to have bigger boobies is to eat a lot and gat fat, most women who 'brag' of large boobies are overweight!
gain weight everywhere including on boobies..
have seen few with large (NATURAL) boobs that don't also have a gut & too much junk in the trunk | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:25:30 AM | ok exposing a myth about men and boobs. yes we like them, we covert large ones on the whole, but once we have them we don't really do anything with them do we?
seriously, they attract, which i suppose is their entire purpose, but once a guy has them, big or not he tends to generally ignore them.
stay small, get a decent push up bra or some chicken fillets, bag your man, and by the time your bra hits the floor on that first night he really won't give a damn.
all he'll be thinking is "she's naked, she's naked, she's naked!" | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:38:49 AM | | I have small boobs, and when I was in my 20's thought seriously about getting a boob job. (The thought started with a rock station having a contest giving away free boob jobs...and my boyfriend at the time thought I should...) Glad I didn't . First, and I'm sure you've heard this before, but it's true: any guy who is going to be attracted to you just for your boobs or only if you have boobs isn't worth having. Second, the older ladies here are right. As you get older, you will be glad you have smaller boobs (mine would be in horrible shape now since I nursed six kids, I'm lucky they're smaller I think...). And, your body will be changing over the years. If you have small boobs it probably means you have a cute petite tiny figure, so flaunt your other parts if you're worried about your looks! How many girls die for a skinny waist, cute butt, long hair, nice legs, whatever..? (Although ideally I don't think looks should matter, but I know they do, but they become less important as you grow older.) I have a 21 year old knock-out gorgeous daughter with a well-developed chest and another 14 year old who inherited my genes. They both have their problems with clothes, boys, everything else. I think everyone in the world has problems with clothes!!! I'm a 5-7 and can never find anything that fits right!!! That's just a matter of finding the right brand. (You can probably shop in the petite section and there's lots of petite specialty shops with outfits to die for that you can wear and other people can't.) Be happy with what you have, dwell on your best features, and if you're flirty and want to feel confidence by gaining it from others, flaunt those attributes. But in time life will give you confidence with who you are. Life is not a race, it's a process. If I can throw in mushy parental stuff, God made you who you are for a reason. Someone will be attracted to you and your features the way you are. Everyone is (and should be) unique (although reading some profiles here you wonder if that' s true!) and has special gifts or talents to give but it takes years to discover them. Discover yourself and who you are and don't worry about your boobs. Small boobs are just something you live with, the more you dwell on them the more they'll bother you. (Of someone told you that you could think of anything you wanted to except chocolate wouldn't you want to think about chocolate the most?) Put your focus somewhere else. You are in control of your mind. Spend time on the important things. Sorry, getting overly motherly here...you are beautiful the way you are...don't let ANYONE tell you different...confidence comes with age, so give it time... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:46:28 AM | many many girls who do get enhanced come out of their shell so to speak and are far more relaxed around the opposite sex in particular 'cause they look great in their own eyes. I can think of a dozen better, cheaper, and less dangerous ways for a young woman to be more confident and relaxed around men. And none of them involve expensive unnecessary invasive plastic surgery procedures on an 18 year old whose body will be changing itself. Not worth it. Sorry.
The enhancements done by properly certified professionals is for the most part not dangerous and the results are very good. Better to work on your own retirement nest egg instead of helping the plastic surgeon maintain his lifestyle.
if most guys could get a penile enlargement as easily the plastic surgery profession would be unable to keep up. Nope, not if the surgery involves high risk and lots of $$$.
Watch a few 'Extreme Makeover' shows and watch the elation on the expressions of the girls who have an enlargement The OP is not like those women. She's 18 and has ABSOLUTELY no problem with her physical appearance. NONE WHATSOEVER.
and you feel that you will benefit for your own self perception The best way to do this isn't through surgical procedures; it's done through a competent counselor who would help this lady understand her self-esteem issues. I always vote for information versus a scalpel when the information will solve the problem.
Personally I can't understand the big emphasis boobs because of sex. You're 18; sex is only part of what goes on in life. If the other parts of your life are AOK, you will be with the right man and the sex will be great, natural boobs or not! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:53:44 AM | i haft to agree with the guy above, dont change nothing about yourself because u think it affects your sex life... it dosent, and fake boobs dont turn me on i think i can tell the first time i see some fake boobs they just dont look right, and yea there might be some that do but thats not the case for most ,so just take what u have im sure your boobs look nice, but serious natural is better in my eyes wether they small or not. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 7:55:36 AM | Okay, no boob job.
I'm 19, I was always thinking the same thing as you, over the last 4 months, my boobs have gone up a completely cup size, they keep growing until around age 23, so at least wait and see what you're going to end up with, most guys don't like huge boobs, any guys I know think more then a C cup is a waste. =P
So don't go doing anything insanely drastic yet, wait and see. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 11:09:56 AM | I, myself, would wait a few more years to see how your body fills out more. You may be happily surprised that they get bigger! There is a great support website for those women that are interested in breast augmentation. Do your homework and research it thoroughly. DON'T do it for ANY guy.
It's not about bigger boobs necessarily, but about feeling more confidant in your own skin. It's your body and your decision. Just know that it's a big decision and major surgery. Also, they have a life expectancy of about 10 years; meaning you'll have to get them replaced about every 10 years. If you don't have the implant put in through the aereola, a boob job can make your nipples more sensitive; I'm not sure why. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 11:49:08 AM | Careful what you wish for, lets just say you have the boob job, big boobs are not all that you know why dont you speak to a friend who is "big boobed" sure she will point out the cons and very few pros. Not meaning to sound pecimistic but you fix ure boobs guarantee some other part of your body that you at the moment say is perfect will start bugging you.!!
Try some "chicken fillets" or a gel bra, ok some guys call them false advertisng but it may help your confidence as a short term measure. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 11:58:27 AM | OP you are sounding obbsessed with this. You are making it a BIG deal at 18 years of age. I'm starting to think that you think that by doing this surgery your life will improve fantastically and THAT IS JUST NOT THE CASE. Any kind of life comes from you the person, work on that for a few years. Just imagine walking around in your petite body feeling (yes actually feeling) 2 sacs of some jelly like fluid in your chest.
This is not something that you should try and if you don't like it, get it undone, doesn't work that way. Remember what someone else said. When you start making artificial changes to internal body parts something will go wrong some where else.
I sincerely suggest you get some counselling about this matter, it is NOT the big deal you are making it AT YOUR AGE. I suspect you will go ahead with it because of your obsession but I also suspect you'll not get all that you expect afterwards. If you don't have pride and confidence in yourself now, false boobs isn't going to do it for you. | |
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Joined: 6/30/2006
Msg: 113 | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 12:16:31 PM |
If i'm getting the boob job for myself, to make me feel good and make me feel like a woman is there really anything wrong with that?
Im all for a nice set of boobs, but hey, if you get them, be prepared to be looked at just because you have your cleavage hanging out. dont get mad when a guy will look at your chest and basically ask your "chest" out instead of you.
nothing against boob jobs here...they certainly look good...BUT....women who say they get them for "self confidence" are lying there ass off.....just be honest and tell it like it is.....
you want more attention from the male ....call a spade a spade will ya? | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 12:23:38 PM | Don't do it!! Years ago when I used to model, my agency said if you want more work you need to get implants. I had a funny feeling I shouldn't do it. I was right. Silicone implants were the "make" back then. Many of the bathingsuit models did and I ran into one 5 years later after my career ended (at 26 I was now too old!) She had hers taken out because they were leaking. When the surgeon went in he said it was like trying to scoop out jello with a spoon, out of a human body. They leaked into her lympatic system, etc. and she was deathly ill for 2 years! She did not get any put back in either because her husband loved her too much and didn't care! The scarring was horrific!
Now they do not tell you enough what happens with these implants. First off, they are expensive. You can not get a bargain job as you need to be certain it is a Board Certified Surgeon doing the work. A bargain job will cost your health as they are just not interested in your body or health, just your wallet. A good boob job starts at about $5,000.
Secondly, they only last 10 years and they must be replaced. That price tag will go up with the years. If you do not replace them, you are left with sagging empty pouches as your skin has stretched greatly over 10 years.
Thirdly, there are a ton of things that can go wrong that few people will tell you.
1. As the 10 years are coming up, they can get hard and the surgeon has to painfully manipulate them back into shape. This hurts like hell. You will be on pain killers for days after the manipulation.
2. The implant can shift, so you can look like you have one breast in the middle of your chest, if they slip out of the created pocket.
3. As they heal they could be rejected by your body, etc. You have to pay again to have them taken out!
4. Women that get nipple inserted implants (You can get them inserted in an incision under the nipple, under the breast or through your arm pit), lose the sensation in their nipples. If the surgeon did not stitch properly and there is no blood flow to the nipples, they go black and fall off!!
5. If you play sports and land heavily on your chest they could break and leak into your body!!! China the wrestler had hers break in the middle of a wrestling match. Painful!!!
I could keep going but the main point is.....
Any guy that does not have the decency to look at you and see the beauty inside and then the outside, judges you and your sexuality by the size of your breasts is a schmuck!! The good ones take awhile to find but they are out there. They will want a "natural" woman with a good heart and head on her shoulders - not a pack of silicone or saline (current implant of choice).
Get confident in yourself and your sexuality first. Sex is a new thing for you and well everyone feels awkward even guys at your age! Believe it or not!
In grade 9, I entered High School at 5 feet tall and 90 pounds. I learned the hard way what being a good person was all about as I was the last girl ANY guy looked at as they oogled all my curvy friends. I did though make a lot of female and male friends as I was a good friend first. Heck at your age-18, I was still a very competitive gymnast therefore - NO BODY FAT. Breasts are body fat. I didn't even wear a bra as I had still not hit puberty!! I grew late and finished growing and maturing after college! I then at 5'8", had a lucrative modeling career as I still had that reed slim figure required for modeling. Even with an AA bra cup, back then modeling, I had plenty of boyfriends. Trust me, I felt a lot sexier after leaving High School!! Age and experience helps!
With all that said, save that money and take a trip to Europe with your best friend. Those hot "women saavy" men in Europe I guarantee will instill a lot of your confidence on attention alone, as they are not into breast implants like the denser guys here! It will also be the best holiday you will ever have in your life! If I am wrong......but I won't be.......your photos and memories will be laced with new friends and lots of adventure. ;)
The Cinnamon Girl | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 12:35:36 PM | There are plenty of guys who prefer small breasts. And, yours haven't reached full maturity yet. A baseline would be to observe the older women in your family to see what you may develop into a few years down the line. One girl I knew was small breasted until she was about 24, and then all of a sudden her heritage kicked in and she wound up with DD cups. And the rest of her wasn't fat, either. It just took a couple years for her to become what she was 'designed' to be.
On the other hand, if everyone in your family is small breasted or flat chested, and you really don't think it's ever going to change for you, then sure, go ahead and consider augmentation. No, it won't solve all your relationship problems, and there will be guys who will date you ONLY because you have nice breasts, which will become a whole new problem to deal with. But as someone who had a facial defect and had it repaired via plastic surgery, it removed a big reason for insecurity for me, and maybe that's what you are looking for as well. The person most important to please is yourself; there simply is no substitute for being able to look in the mirror and like what you see. It really does change the world.
I don't know if you've had any long term relationships with a guy who really, really liked your body. If you have, then you know that having larger breasts really isn't all that important. If you haven't, then maybe it's a big reason that you're considering making a drastic change. The bottom line is to do what you want. Surgery is expensive; and you have to make sure to go to a really great plastic surgeon, and check out his previous work. Maybe go to gogo bars and seek out women who appear to have especially fantastic breasts that you think might be 'enhanced', and find out who did theirs. Don't make the mistake of going cheap; you'll be even more self concious about your body than you are now if your breasts don't look perfect after the implants. It's something that you are going to have to live with for the rest of your life.
Oh, and forget about what everyone else tells you about being 'natural'; very few of us is 100% natural. People get their teeth fixed. They fix bad hair, or dye it into a different color. Nose jobs. Go to the gym to 'sculpt' their body into something different from what they have without all that work. Wear heels to appear taller. Put on make up to have their skin look different. I could go on and on.
Be what you want to be, and be proud of who you are. Take your time making the decision. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 12:47:44 PM | | Its your choice of course to get a boob job . The most important sexual organ is the brain and how you feel about yourself. Personally the more real a woman is the better.I like natural ladies with as little makeup as possible or even no make up. I understand you have to do what you have to do . I would say to work on your confidence and when you radiate that confidence you automatically become more attractive to members of the opposite sex. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 2:30:47 PM |
most guys don't like huge boobs, any guys I know think more then a C cup is a waste. =P
Id have to disagree with you there. Most guys I know, including myself, will tell you there's no such thing as "too big". Its just more to play with. ;)
That being said, though, I will take someone "natural" over implants any day. When youre looking at a relationship, youre looking at the whole package, not just one or two things. The OP is a cutie, and has far more going for her than the lack of cleavage can take away.
I say, if theyre big and NATURAL, then its awesome. But if youre not so blessed, stay natural anyway...if a guy wants to play with a bag of silicone he can do that without a girl present. lol!! | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 2:59:12 PM | OP. Wait a few years. If still no luck in your mid twenties, and you still want implants go for it then.
When I was 18 I wore a B cup. By the time I was 20 I was sporting DD's naturally, and did not gain anything elsewhere on my body.
Besides most guys I know think big boobs like mine look kinda silly on a really skinny body (which was how I was prior to motherhood - a walking stick woman with huge knockers)
Most guys I know your age and just a little older just really appreciate someone who is fit.
Your a pretty girl, give it some time. They just might swell up and surprise you! (I personally want smaller ones now having been on both sides of this fence) | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:08:58 PM | Just thought that I'd step in here with a vote to say IMHO natural is best !!!!
Just add me in there with all of the other's who have said that smaller is beautiful too!
Just be yourself and dismiss those who are boob obsessed.  | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:10:54 PM | Honey, boobs dont make the girl but having said that and being a surgical nurse who has participated in a lot of breast augmentations, I have seen that some people who have small breast really gain confidence after their surgery. You are very young though and I do think I would wait a few more years to make that decision. You have plenty of time.
Most men are very visual creatures. They also love big breasts, but be very careful,
as you can attract some real losers from the way you look. Work on other aspects of your personality, to boost your self confidence. So there is more to you than just big breasts.
I never had breast implants mine are real. I do get a lot of attention because of it. However I am also very intelligent and know how to weed out the losers. I really don't think it is something you would regret doing. Just think long and hard anout the reasons for doing it. If you are doing it for you then thats a good reason. If you are doing it for others to like you that is very wrong. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:28:51 PM | I know I'm going to come off sounding like a bad guy but what the heck....
Wait a couple of years and then go for it if you want to. There are a couple of points to it though. The first is you are talking about surgery and with that comes recovery process which is a pain in the but. Also every 10 years (?) or so, you will have to go back under the knife to get a touch up job. The second is that it's like any other body mod, it has to be an extension of who you are as a person. It shouldn't be something that defines you as a person. People who get any work done for image reasons usually regret it later after the coolness factor wears off.
Seriously your a beautiful woman, if doing this makes you feel more comfortable about being yourself then go for it. However if you doing it just to attract more attention then your better off going around with another crowd. Not to ruin the warm, fuzzy moment but you should look into slowing down in general. You get more mileage out of life if your able to remember it the next day. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:33:29 PM | 2.5 things:
-First, if you want to do this, make sure you're doing it for yourself. Getting surgery to impress others seems a little twisted to me.
-Second, physical appearance is not important to all guys. In fact, the nicest guys are going to love you for who you are on the inside. A body's just a sack of skin covering some really ugly bits you need to live.
-Second and a half, if I were forced to choose, I would say small or medium beats large. When you're older, you'll be thankful they aren't acting as knee-warmers. Think of small breasts as a long-term investment in beauty. =) | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 3:53:12 PM | Honey...let me tell you having boobs is not all great and dandy as you think or been told....When I go out and meet a nice guy or I think he is a nice guy for some reason he always fails to look at my eyes...man for the most part like to look below my neck and it makes me mad because who are you intrested me or the boobs and as for shirts...I can buy does pretty little tops because it always freaking looks like Im busting out....
Just before you do anything seriously think about it.....in the end it may be something you may hate....from the looks of it plenty of men on here like smaller breast...makes me wanna go have a breast reduction.....just really think about honey.... | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 4:23:04 PM | I have to agree with IceQueen07.............bottom line as far as I am concerned is getting them because you want a boost inself-confidence (and possibly attract more men in the process) is no different than not getting them because of the opinions of people who you don't even know.
From a health perspective you should consult your doctor to find out the chances of them increasing in size as you get older, then weigh your options.
If it is something that is going to make you happy....than that is something that you may want to consider. Just make sure you weigh in all the facts (and not opinions) before taking a huge (no pun-intended) step like that. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2007 5:25:24 PM | | I could care less how big or small a girl's boobs are. Instead, I look for a good personality in girls. | |
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