| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/9/2007 1:51:36 PM | | I think it's perfectly fair for him to wait a while before telling you. It gives you time to fall for him for him and not base too much on sex. Especially being on a dating site it is easy to just toss someone aside for 1 trait because there are so much to choose from. He has more of a fighting chance once he's gotten to your heart. On the other hand if by chance you told him up front that sex is a big issue for you then he should have told you earlier. I also think he should try to find out himself if women aren't up front about it to begin with. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/11/2007 7:14:02 AM | It is a very hard subject for men to talk about, for many it has to do with how they feel "manly". It is even hard to talk about with your frineds, same problem. You never want woman, especially one that you are interested in, to think less of them.
As hard as it may be, no pun intended, it should be discussed and put out front before all hell breaks loose. I went through this with an ex. We had no problem the first couple of times and then all of a sudden..........no dice. She had the problem with another man before and the reaction on her end was......extreme. It never worked out. I went to the dovtore, took her with me, got the pills, changed my diet, exercised more....the relationship was not salvagable. My problem started with blood pressure medicine.......hmmm get laid or stay alive. Seriously, it doesn't happen all the time, the man has no real control over it and as my doctor put it....it is simple plumbing.
As a man speaking to anyone else, if you have a problem..talk about it and talk to your doctor. I did, I have talked with my friends and it is much easier to deal with when it is out in the open. As someone else said, you can still please a woman in other ways. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/11/2007 7:16:15 AM | | Sounds to me like another in the long line of good reasons to wait until you really, really know someone before getting in bed with them. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/11/2007 9:52:25 PM | WaywardSeeker
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CAVERJECT
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if u or another user have any personal questions i try to answer them in a private e mail
you might try to get the stuff on line... and for you guys who want an erection that lasts and lasts STAY AWAY FROM THIS STUFF great sex you get will not be worth the pain of heading to the emergency room with an erection that will not go away
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/12/2007 6:57:55 AM | | I think waiting until the second time you two were together was the right thing for him to do. I don't think a woman appreciates the importance a man places on being able to get and maintain an erection - it's how we're wired. His optomism that the first time things with you would work out differently - hey, denile is not just a river in Egypt. You don't want a woman think she is the problem either, by confessing right up front about the issue - of course by not mentioning it - that's exactly what happens - no one accused our species as being the sharpest tool in the shed. Assuming he was a competent lover and pleased you in other ways - I don't see what happened as a problem at all. I will admit it is a guys perspective. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/12/2007 10:07:44 AM | how about not ignoring it??? or blaming it on something else.
at this point in my life I am looking for more than just sex. But when I click resently with someone it was great, except for ED that he seemed to ignore!? I am confused. The first time was while necking that turned passionate, the next time he takes me to his boat we drink wine and nothing happens. okay fine but to then say you were not "emotionally ready" for things to go further??? WTF??? you take someone to a boat to drink wine and get somewhat going and then you weren't prepared??? Okay I firgured ... well never mind. But I was and am willing to discuss this and now .. now I am the bad guy and being ignored and getting snippy messages! what is with you guys??? Perhaps you had too much to drink? okay lets work on that!
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/12/2007 10:16:20 AM | | A guy should be honest about such things, but who are women to complain...with their false hair, fake boobs, makeup plastered faces, phoney nails, etc? Honesty is a two way street. I think most guys with ED hope it won't occur this time, and worry that thinking about it enough to mention it may cause it to happen. I haven't had the problem yet, and may never do so. I have avoided the heart/vascular damaging things-coffee, smoking, high cholesterol, etc-which lead to ED. If I ever do develope the problem, I will be honest about it. I will also know how to please the woman with my tongue, fingers, her vibrator, etc. Erections are not absolutely necessary to the providing of satisfaction to women. The trouble with most guys is that their egos are so wrapped up in their penises that when it doesn't work they feel like a non-entity, and they don't like to think about that, much less talk about it. Many women feel the same about their uteruses after a hysterectomy. Attitudes can be changed, with effort. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 9/19/2007 7:23:19 PM | >Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
This shiznit just gave me the giggles, if only from the Freudian slip styled title. "Up front," about ED? Just makes me want to holler, DOWN IN FRONT!
All kidding aside, aren't you *both* aware of "other," forms of sex which do not require a ROCK HARD penis? I mean, unless you subscribe to Clinton's dismissal of oral sex not javascript:smilie(' ') being worthy of the category 'n all. Regardless, it's all good in the neighbourhood if the playground is rife for activity, little Johnny remembers to bring his *toys* (javascript:smilie(' ') maybe?), a spirit of *teamwork* is involved, a good game is had by all players and we all leave happy, yeah? javascript:smilie(' ')
Otherwise, maybe it's time to "Pump up the jam! Pump it up a little harder...." javascript:smilie(' ') | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 11:52:03 AM | ya... i actually think guys who aren't up front about it are victimizing other people. I don't even know if they still get pleasure from the act. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 12:52:13 PM | I had this issue while taking certain medications some time ago. I'm good now but I can tell you that as a young, otherwise healthy man, it's a TERRIBLE blow to the ego.
To put it into perspective, imagine you want to get intimate with a new man, then on the day of the big event you get some crazy outbreak on your face and suddenly seem to gain 50 pounds.
That might give you just a sense of what it's really like, but honestly, I wouldn't wish that hell on anyone. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 4:52:25 PM | | NO! NO! NO! The 'blue pill' does not solve the problem. Actually, in some cases those pills do not help nor solve the problem. I have met a number of women and let's say the number is ten (10), I have told 4 of them, they left. Two (2) stuck with me and the other two (2) moved on! I do enjoy the experience that having this condition has put me in and to those women, now more than (2), are enjoying with me! To those men, who have or experience this, BE UPFRONT with woman or women in your life! Those that leave are like "spilled milk" and those that stay are as a 'four leeaf clover'! Enjoy and be happy! | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 5:07:22 PM | | If ED is the problem then what are you looking for??????? I would love to know..... I would love to have someone to travel with,laugh with, cook with, garden with, exercise with, and then what?????????????? | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 5:07:44 PM | | If ED is the problem then what are you looking for??????? I would love to know..... I would love to have someone to travel with,laugh with, cook with, garden with, exercise with, and then what?????????????? Please tell...... | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 5:40:35 PM | I hear you, it could certainly leave a women feeling lacking.
I guess if a man can't get it up he's not going to want to "talk" about it.
Cut the guy some slack, try to imagine how he felt. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/8/2008 5:59:38 PM | | I've had two long-term relationships with men who had ED. Wasn't a problem for us at all. The emotions were there and there were so many other ways to enjoy a sexual relationship together. Depends on how one looks at it, I suppose. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 3/9/2008 6:40:31 AM | It depends on the reason for this problem. For many, it's an emotional response. Some men were sexually abused as children and this problem is a fear response to intimacy with a woman. Don't think you can change that. It takes many years of therapy to make a dent in that type of problem. Go on to the next person.
If someone tells you this is a medical problem, research this! It may be denial, or it may be true. Find out what can be done about the problem.
Then, make your decision from there.
Judith | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 4/6/2008 4:40:06 PM | For some men it is a matter if being a diabetic, other it is taking high blood pressure medication, and still others (both men and women) it is a matter of anti-depressants. Thank God for Viagra, Cialis and other medications. I have known many women who have no interest in sex after a certain age, and quit. Sex is for all adult ages, and finding pleasure in sex is wonderful. I am not looking to find a woman and then find out she in not interested in having sex or finding out why she feels that way. I want to f**k until my dying breath, and if you think sex ends and begins with an erection, you do not know very much about sex. Sex is a state of mind and the sexual orgasm for both sexs can be prolong for hours if not day. Although, I can no longer do it seven times a day. I certainly have sex all day and night with the right woman.  | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 4/7/2008 3:59:27 AM | | I work in a Urologist office. ED is not an easy thing for a man to talk about. Many things can cause ED. It could be his testostrone, or his prostate. My advice would be to talk with him and have him get into a urologist. They specialize in male reproduction along with basic urinary problems. There are treatments. Some are as simple as a monthly shot. Others are taken on a more regular basis. Remember men aren't as open to talk about health problems like us women are..they are to macho for that. Be patient and understanding with him. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 4/8/2008 10:51:50 AM | I can see a wide spectrum of knowledge and ignorance on the ED subject. My very first impression is to feel sorry for the women who can't deal with it. Say they find a guy they really like and he doesn't have a hard bat. Is that the end of it?
I am sure that some would end things and give no thought to matters of importance. Wow! Spare me of such heartless people. What do they want? Where do they come from?
Give me the person who cares and who understands. I would surely pleasure her in all ways because I'm not a teen-ager.
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:01:08 PM |
So is it ED or the perceived undesirability/rejection thats the issue?
Brilliant question! When I was younger, it was always the "rejection" issue. . . . Thank Gord, I finally grew up, lol! As my good friend/spiritual advisor keeps saying (about *everything*) It is never about *you.*
Difficult lesson to learn, eh?
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 4/8/2008 12:31:05 PM | I have dated a couple guys with this issue- the first guy didn't tell me at first, but certainly took care of business in every other way imaginable. He taught me a lot about intimacy, and we actually had a spectacular sexlife. The second guy told me up front before the situation arose- when it came down to it- he really didn't have much of a problem with me- I appreciate both men for the way they handled the situation lol
because I was aware of the situation, I was not questioning my abilities | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 4/26/2008 6:33:13 AM | I too dated someone who did not disclose his dysfunction. I thought it was something we could work on together, apparently he had no intention of doing what needed to be done (penile Implant) to enable us to enjoy sex together. I believe he should have been upfront with his issue. His reply was "would you (or anyone else) go out with me if I had told you ahead of time".
Our relationship ended when he suggested choosing someone for me to have sex with so he would watch and for me to go to swinger parties with him....I was not interested. | |
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| Being upfront about erectile dysfunction
Posted: 5/16/2008 5:02:15 AM | I have ED I have to get testerone shots weekly I can get an erection but have trouble maintaning it. If I had not told you that you would have never known . I take LEVETRA and VIAGRA and its like being 20 again  . Anybody want to reacherch it  | |
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