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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 5:17:22 PM | I know this post was directed to the men, but I thought I would add my 2cents.
I worked in the medical field for many years and there is nothing wrong with taking anti-depressants if you have a medical condition that warrants it and you DO NOT ABUSE IT!
There are so many conditions out there that need to be treated with these meds; anxiety, depression, panic attacks, bi-polar disorder, etc....and if these folks are going to have a good quality of life it is essential in their treatment.
Obviously, it is not something you SCREAM at the top of your lungs or announce as it is a very personal thing and some are very ignorant when it comes to medications -they aren't educated on. They ASSume that these folks are crazy.
Until you find someone that genuinely has feelings for you I would refrain from sharing.
Best,
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 6:56:15 PM | I know a pile of medicated people but only believe two of them have good reasons for being medicated -- and I don't have a problem with either of them taking meds. The rest, in my opinion, are a bunch of drones that are too weak to face the ordinary challenges of their own lives. Rather than drinking or doing illegal drugs, they turn to doctors for prescription drugs. As far as I'm concerned it is an instant deal breaker. Who in their right mind wants a partner that can't even face down life? You might as well hook up with an alcoholic or drug addict. (And yeah, those are deal breakers too.)
For the un-medicated folks reading this, don't worry about the insensitive manner of the opinion expressed here. As you can see from reading the medicated responses, it doesn't bother them. Frankly, that's the problem. They really are a legal equivalent to a crackhead. And they deserve the same level of sensitivity.
Clinical depression, the sort that actually warrants drugs, is not so common as the prescriptions for it. People who suffer from it are very easy to pick out when they are not on their meds. The rest are simply the result of a society in which you can't cuff persons for being an a-hole, cry-baby, etc. Instead we hand them pills to modify their behavior. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:21:10 PM | okay, wait. ^^^you smoke & you're slagging people for prescribed medication? why do you smoke? too weak to face the challenges of your own life? 
maybe you shouldn't be too hasty, by the looks of your profile someone might NEED to be on medication to be around you for any length of time. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:25:15 PM |
For the un-medicated folks reading this, don't worry about the insensitive manner of the opinion expressed here. As you can see from reading the [b1. ]medicated responses, it doesn't bother them. Frankly, that's the problem.[2]They really are a legal equivalent to a crackhead. 3. And they deserve the same level of sensitivity.
Agree with 1.
Agree with 2.
Sticking the label of schizo/ bipolar or what have you, is the legal means of selling the crap without always disclosing all the dangers.
Somewhat disagree with 3.
Minimum they are aware they have problems, and are doing something...but the real work is not in taking pills, but addressing the Problem itself.
There are alternativeshttp://doctoryourself.com/hoffer_anecdote.html
but they are not covered by the insurance companies^^^ an interesting site. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:34:24 PM | I know a pile of medicated people but only believe two of them have good reasons for being medicated -- and I don't have a problem with either of them taking meds. The rest, in my opinion, are a bunch of drones that are too weak to face the ordinary challenges of their own lives. Rather than drinking or doing illegal drugs, they turn to doctors for prescription drugs. As far as I'm concerned it is an instant deal breaker. Who in their right mind wants a partner that can't even face down life? You might as well hook up with an alcoholic or drug addict. (And yeah, those are deal breakers too.)
For the un-medicated folks reading this, don't worry about the insensitive manner of the opinion expressed here. As you can see from reading the medicated responses, it doesn't bother them. Frankly, that's the problem. They really are a legal equivalent to a crackhead. And they deserve the same level of sensitivity.
Clinical depression, the sort that actually warrants drugs, is not so common as the prescriptions for it. People who suffer from it are very easy to pick out when they are not on their meds. The rest are simply the result of a society in which you can't cuff persons for being an a-hole, cry-baby, etc. Instead we hand them pills to modify their behavior.
What is your medical professional degree in? Obviously, you are not well-educated in this topic.
Why do you smoke? Are you addicted to the nicotine? Does that mean that you are a "weak" individual that turns to a substance to cope?
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:35:31 PM | I take an anti anxiety/anti depressant called Lexapro.
I was having trouble sleeping because panic attacks kept me up at night for a while when my mom was sick, I was in the middle of buying my first home, and all kinds of other things came up.
I realized after taking them, that I may have needed them sooner. I always assumed I was just a high strung person, turns out, my chemistry was all off and my brain didn't know when to shut off. NO WONDER I never got a good nights sleep!
I feel much better, I can relax in the evenings and get a good nights rest.
I would never begrudge anyone who needed any type of medication | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:37:26 PM | I'm fine with them, when they're truly needed. However, if she acts like a crazy ***** most of the time that'd still be a pretty big turn-off, depression or not.
My ex. was on effexor, and it did help her. I've seen her at her best and her worst, and the meds. kept her stable in situations where I'd often seen her fall. It was always frustrating, seeing her fail at something whenever she fell into a clinically depressed mood, because I'd seen the success she's capable of. Often she'd be going fine an entire semester with a 4.0, and she'd break down and everything would fall apart. I don't talk to her anymore, but when I was with her that stopped happening once she started and stayed on the medication. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:41:24 PM | This thread has caused me need for another xanax. 
~OT~ Here's a startling thought: you might be dating someone who's on anti-depressants and not even know it. I know, it's so covert and sneaky.  I've had panic disorder most of my adult life ~ unless I feel the need I don't take any meds. If I feel the need, I not only take them ~ I say prayers in their honor. In other words, I'm a PRN person. The truth is, I've dated plenty and no one knew unless I mentioned it. I have never been on an anti-depressant drug, that isn't my problem. But, I've been with one or two men who needed them and weren't on them because of the closed-minded opinions of some ~ and the reality is: if you need it, take it. I have no issue if someone has a problem and is trying to solve it. Ignore the problem and it just remains a problem. Now where did I put that oxy-cotin? Oh, I don't have the good drugs....damn it.  | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:44:06 PM |
Lady Kay....you are sounding a little Tom Cruise-ish :)
everyone is going to go through depression at some point in their life
i disagree with that. sure, everyone goes through highs & lows...THAT is a given....but not everyone suffers with life altering depression.
personally, i'm as sick of the people tossing around the word "depression" to describe a sad mood as i am of the doctors that prescribe meds without counselling.
as to the OP, unless you are more involved than just casual dating, i don't think it's anyone's business.
this rollergrrl agrees with that rollergrrrl
after my divorce i was prescribed an anti depressant. i cant remember which one. also, my doctor told me to get counselling and suggested several doctors.
i'm good now and going to the doctor was a very good decision. it's not always about just trying to "face life down"
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:44:25 PM |
I always assumed I was just a high strung person
What's wrong with that?
I was having trouble sleeping because panic attacks kept me up at night for a while when my mom was sick, I was in the middle of buying my first home, and all kinds of other things came up.
Sounds "normal" to me.^^^^
Why would you want to even accept this list:http://www.theroadback.org/lexapro_side_effects.htm
of potential side effects?
Once your mom gets better, finish the house deal...the other things that come up will be of minor importance. The first two are definelty worth losing sleep over.
"After reading the above I am angry. I, too, have been on 5 different drugs over a 7 year period for depression. I am an intelligent, successful full time working mom with 2 small boys, a husband and a mortgage. How can I deal my whole life with headaches, insomnia, dizziness, inability to remember things, and panic? The makers of Lexapro should be jailed for the garbage they put on their web site about side effects "no clinically important weight gain reported" What's clinically important for them
-- 100 lbs?"
http://www.theroadback.org/lexapro_side_effects.htm
Read the whole page.... | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:50:44 PM | I know a pile of medicated people but only believe two of them have good reasons for being medicated -- and I don't have a problem with either of them taking meds. The rest, in my opinion, are a bunch of drones that are too weak to face the ordinary challenges of their own lives. Rather than drinking or doing illegal drugs, they turn to doctors for prescription drugs. As far as I'm concerned it is an instant deal breaker. Who in their right mind wants a partner that can't even face down life? You might as well hook up with an alcoholic or drug addict. (And yeah, those are deal breakers too.)
For the un-medicated folks reading this, don't worry about the insensitive manner of the opinion expressed here. As you can see from reading the medicated responses, it doesn't bother them. Frankly, that's the problem. They really are a legal equivalent to a crackhead. And they deserve the same level of sensitivity.
Clinical depression, the sort that actually warrants drugs, is not so common as the prescriptions for it. People who suffer from it are very easy to pick out when they are not on their meds. The rest are simply the result of a society in which you can't cuff persons for being an a-hole, cry-baby, etc. Instead we hand them pills to modify their behavior.
You got your license to practice medicine and psychiatry where? I am one of those legally equivalent crackheads you speak of...you would be wrong, your post pi$$es me off. Translation...it bothers me. Again you would be wrong about clinical depression...I have dealt with it for decades and believe me I can hide it well if need be.
Walk a mile in my shoes then come talk to me. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:54:13 PM | | I never took anything until a few yrs into my marriage[ha and ha] but its good to know that I wont necessarily be judged by all,cuz for me it feels a bit shameful.... | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:57:06 PM | I learned a VERY valuable piece of information about depression from a dear friend who is a psychologist.
There are psychological as well as PHYSICAL reasons why people get depressed.
Outside stressors can cause INSIDE physical reactions. Many of us think we can talk our problems away but there are MANY of us who cannot. It is like talking yourself out of a terminal illness. Cannot be done. Some drugs do help. They help because they "right" what is "wrong" in the brain which is a MAJOR cause of depression.
Yes, there are many people who benefit from psychological help, but when the mental does not cure the physical, drugs are the answer as much as chemotherapy and radiaton are necessary to eradicate cancer . Unfortunately it is the stigma that prevents people from seeking the help they need.
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 7:57:46 PM | | freefallin,don't buy or feed into the stigma of needing medication. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:08:41 PM | In my experience, at a period time in my life where it felt like the whole world was a problem and I needed to change many aspects of my life, I was having a hard time accomplishing so many goals all at the same time. All the pressure of trying to do too many things at once depressed me. When this happened, my doctor explained to me that sometimes, the adrenaline that makes you react to these stressful situations can get stuck that way and can cause you to stay in that state of mind. So, in some cases, situations warrant you take the drugs for a period of time until your body brings itself back to equalibrium, assuming you are solving the problems at the same time. So, in fact, if you don't solve the external problems, you aren't solving the internal problems either and hence, the drugs are going to be necessary until you do.
The one thing that stuck in my mind that my doctor told me was, that sometimes the brain synapses get suck in the adrenal phase (just like when you would react in an ermergency situation), and sometimes you need the drugs to bring it back to the normal thinking and feeling.
During my hardest times, I took the drug, Wellbutrin, for about a month and it felt like it brought me back to feeling okay again, and able to cope with the problems I was having. And during that period of time, I was also solving those problems.
I truly believe folks use drugs as a crutch to often, and don't give their own mind and body a chance to do the job.
I also believe that physical exercise has to be part of feeling better. First, it gets the blood flowing and works with your adrenaline. Second, it just gives you time to think things through or forget your troubles. What a wonder an hour away from your troubles can do for you. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:14:20 PM | No taking antidepressents would not be a dealbreaker for me,and I dont consider people taking them crazy.And of course it is better to be taking something that will help you.Exercise is also very helpful in combating depression it gets the endorphins going the bodys naturual high.All the best to you. | |
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Keljo
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Joined: 12/28/2005
Msg: 43 | |
| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:21:06 PM | Being high strung, anxious and not sleeping is no way to live. My doctor didn't randomly prescribe me medication, he did a fill work up before deciding to prescribe the Lexapro. I ended up in the ER twice in the past because my body was exhausted and I wasn't sleeping - I just dropped. Down, blue lips and an EKG off the chart. The EMTs thought I was in cardiac arrest. Since taking the Lexapro I have had no such episodes and I am sleeping well.
I haven't experienced any of the side affects, I have actually LOST weight since am no longer emotionally eating to deal with stress and insomnia. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:29:52 PM | | Prudegirl, bayrab, PGIsailor, indigoeyes, writerguy1975, shanmardev, verygreeneyez, freefallinT. I notice that all of you stated NO to the "Do you do drugs?" section of the profile. Although the drugs you take are legal and prescribed I think it is important to let people know you are taking them. It is kinda scary when you find out the hard way that the person you are seeing has stopped taking their medication for whatever reason and you had no clue he or she was medicated in the first place. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:32:13 PM | It's not a deal breaker. The vast majority of women I've dated should be on anti-psychotics, too!
As for the guy who's telling us that most people shouldn't be on medication, he's right. Most people shouldn't be, and those people aren't. But some people should be medicated, and I'm glad we've got the resources to help these people. I've been working with them for years, and it's pretty obvious when the meds run out for a few days... and obvious that they need the meds to function safely around other people.
Example: I worked with adolescents, and one kid's parents took him off all of his medication. His reasonable response to not hitting Free Parking while playing Monopoly was to throw the table through a picture window, and then try to cut himself on the shards of glass. But as most people will agree, he was weak and simply giving into societal pressures to "not kill people for petty things."
I wouldn't have any problem dating a medicated person. I'd rather be with someone whose issues are known and under control than with someone who represses everything and then drinks or gets high to try and cope. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:35:53 PM | | I know that for a time I NEEDED my meds to survive,and I believe that someday soon I can get off of them,Im ready,just a bit scared.There are people I know who struggle everyday just to get out of bed,they need their meds. | |
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Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 47 | |
| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:38:46 PM | | Sosaysodo asked: "Why can't people choose to deal with their problems and overcome them without drugs?" I think this is a very good question to ask, and I think the answer might be that we live in a society that promotes instant gratification and very low tolerance for suffering which, from a Buddhist perspective, is essential for anyone to achieve some degree of enlightenment. When I say enlightenment, I mean to achieve inner awareness of dysfunctional patterns of thinking that can and need to be changed in order to become authentically connected to our personal power. There is a plethora of books on the market that can help, and some very good counsellors too, but lots of people choose to believe in, and depend upon, the medical profession to provide an easy solution. It takes alot of courage and strength to work towards awareness and to search out the reasons why our life is not working in a way that we would like. It also takes the willingness to tolerate pain, to read, investigate, understand and take responsibility to find a new way of thinking about oneself and the world. This process of change requires examining our deeply held values and beliefs...all of which have been handed down from one generation to another, and most of which are basically sabataging our best efforts to experience happiness. For example, we were NOT born in sin, we were born powerful beings, but religious institutions and perhaps ones' parents, relatives...significant others blindly accept this belief which is one root of the dysfunctional thinking which contributes to depression...there are many others which people have blindly accepted. These beliefs are held in one's subconscious mind and underly and influence emotions, reactions, choices and behviors which result in our lives. Once a person has reached adulthood, it becomes their own responsibility to have a look at these inherited beliefs and values and decide what is truth and what isn't. This is how we achieve awareness...through of process of inner exploration. This inner journey has often been referred to as The Hero's Journey...because it takes strength and courage to challenge deeply held beliefs and values, and is not for the faint of heart. When we are unsuccessful at finding peace and joy in the outside world, or we experience a crisis in our lives, this is our invitation to look inside...where we will find everything that will make our lives worthwhile. I generally see medication as just one means to escape or bypass the natural growth process, and a roadblock to connecting with our personal power. Most people have chosen to numb the pain rather than embrace it and use it as a catalyst for change, and this, of course, is encouraged by the medical profession and pharmaceutical companies because they will profit immensely when one makes this choice. Kevin Trudeau has written a great book called "The Natural Cures They Don't Want You to Know About", Don Miguel Ruiz has also written a great book called "The Four Agreements". The point is, we have to start to take full responsibility for our own happiness and our own healing. Has any heard of "White Light Healing"? I invite you to look into it, and embrace your natural, "God-given" power. This, of course, is just my opinion for what it's worth. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:47:04 PM | | ok,lets clear this up,you have cancer,you survive;ew,nephew in a comma for three months;eww,sexually assaulted;ewww,,,,abusive spouse,ewww,crazy in law living with you.....ok...isssues everyone has them the difference is,some of us have points where we literally cant focus,cant get out of bed,we have lives to live,jobs to keep,kids to raise,sometimes when shit happens some of us need a little help,so Tom,shut up! | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:48:26 PM |
Prudegirl, bayrab, PGIsailor, indigoeyes, writerguy1975, shanmardev, verygreeneyez, freefallinT. I notice that all of you stated NO to the "Do you do drugs?" section of the profile. Although the drugs you take are legal and prescribed I think it is important to let people know you are taking them. It is kinda scary when you find out the hard way that the person you are seeing has stopped taking their medication for whatever reason and you had no clue he or she was medicated in the first place.
If we are smart enough to seek medical attention to get our prescriptions, I think we are smart enough to follow our Drs. advice as to if, when and how to go off our meds. I can only speak for myself...I am very open about my need for medication. BTW I would be on the same medication for pms and my sleep problems even if I were not being treated for seasonal and/or clinical depression. Should everyone who takes a prescription say yes to the doing drugs question?
You choose to smoke pot once in awhile that is your choice. I am on medication because I need to be not because I want to be. | |
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| I'm sooo depressed!
Posted: 6/27/2007 8:56:37 PM |
I haven't experienced any of the side affects, I have actually LOST weight since am no longer emotionally eating to deal with stress and insomnia.
I can completely relate to this. It has been a life long struggle for me and I finally have medication that works after decades of trying natural supplements, otc's and a zillion prescriptions that didn't help. Chronic insomnia can be devastating...it affects your brain and your body. If an antidepressant is the answer and someone feels the need to judge me they have a bigger problem than I do. | |
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