| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 6:51:30 AM | Obviously people who read my post missed my point when I said there ARE legitimate cases where medication is necessary (and in fact vital) to combat clinical depression - but not everyone who takes medication is clinically depressed, most are just depressed because of their current life circumstances. As many have written here - in time they are able to work through things and no longer need medication. If it helps you through the rough spots that's great - if it is being used as a crutch to avoid being responsible for ones own life that is where I have issues with it.
For those who have legitimate reasons and the medication is helping, I'm glad it is working for you. For those who are just sad and considering taking pills to fix their life - it won't fix the problem and THAT is what I was attempting to express in my previous post.
In the written text things can often be misinterpretted based on someones past history and where they are coming from and often things are written in a way that can have multiple meanings (obviously mine came across differently than what I had attempted to express). Not all posts will be successful in sharing the writers intent. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 7:02:26 AM | | wel i take them as i apparantly have a chemical imbalance and have to,i wish i didt have to,and i am not mad or unstable or imbalanced in anyway,so i guess its best to find out why aperson is oon them before concluding anything,i am also anti tablets,but if i dont take them i feel ill,and i dont want to be that way, so i am with shanmardev on this one | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 8:07:45 AM |
I wonder. How many of you that are taking antidepressants and swear by them would not hesitate to suggest that your children might need to be medicated? " Doctor Smith, My son likes to dress in black, listens to strange music, and does not talk to me like he use to. Maybe he is depressed. Lets get him on medication."
While taking medication can work for some it is not the answer to all your problems.
My children who are in their late teens, have never and I pray will never need to be on antidepressants. They have seen the difference in me with and without medication. We openly discuss it as it is a fact of my life. As I said before I am on Prozac to treat multiple health issues...currently pms and insomnia. If I didn't take the medication those issues become part of a vicious circle that only worsen my depression, feeding off of each other. I have been in that vicious circle and don't want to go back living that way. I am a single parent, and it is my responsibility to do what I need to do to keep myself healthy. If I need Prozac to do that, so be it. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 8:51:09 AM | I've taken antidepressants for situational depression for years. I don't take them long term, because of the loss of affect. I don't like feeling like I just don't care about anything, even things I should care about. I really haven't noticed any sexual side effects when I take them. If a guy turns me on, he turns me on...period!
The strange thing I've found is that most guys I tell about this have been or are on anti-depressants too. I was shocked at work to find out how many people are on mood altering medication! Makes me think it might not be a good place to work. 
Seriously, though, if a man doesn't want you because you realize you have a problem and are willing to treat it, why would you want him? | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:01:32 AM |
For those who have legitimate reasons and the medication is helping, I'm glad it is working for you. For those who are just sad and considering taking pills to fix their life - it won't fix the problem and THAT is what I was attempting to express in my previous post.
I think some people use anti-depressants the same way as flu medicines. You are on when you have a fever; you are off when you are cool again. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:22:38 AM |
they've never seen me be the weepy overemotional mess I am without em.
I hear that! I'm on paxil for anxiety and before I used to cry very easily - it wasn't that I was upset, I would just cry over something I was watching on TV, or something sad I read. Now I hardly ever cry.
Some people don't get the use for meds - they would never question a diabetic taking insulin, but when it comes to a chemical imbalance in the brain, they think you should be able to work it out alone. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:29:25 AM | I would want to know the TRUTH, plain, unvarnished, no hedging, no half-truths.
Once the real condition is out in the open, we can talk about all the surrounding issues.
Telling me you are Paxil for "some slight anxiety issues" and then revealing after marriage that you have Borderline Personality Disorder is NOT cool. Struedel, I didn't see your Paxil comments until after I posted. My experiences are what I am talking about in this paragraph.
Guys, it can happen to you...be careful out there. The Master Manipulators are alive and well in society, masquerading as nice girls.
OP- do not think this is levelled at you- I admire you for asking the question and being realistic enough to know it could be a problem. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:34:24 AM | | Being smart enough to know you need a little help is needed is nothing a guy should slight you for, does that mean that some guys will anyways? Absolutely. Everyone is different though, and if they can't accept you for all you got going on, then that's their loss. I think that as long as you're okay with it and you show you have no shame in it then people won't be taken back by it either. Good luck! | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:45:36 AM | | since worked in pharmacy management in the past understand the issues of the drug industry versus the holistic health approach. prefer the approach of vitamin supplements and other health alternatives rather than traditional medicine. if a guy does not accept or respect you as a person then it would seem that considering him for a relationship would not be an option. for me at least if the other attributes such as personality, good character, ambition, and attitude outweigh the issue of a mental illness that can be managed it would not be an issue. though would like to encourage alternative medicine rather than traditional medicine when able | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 9:56:01 AM | Depends. Did the person actually see a therapist to work through any issues, sticking with it until the therapist felt the depression was under control. Was the issue addressed that causes depression addressed? Or did the person take the easy route and get a script first? This happens when a psychiatrist is used instead of a psychologist or licensed therapist. Some people just say they tried therapy, but didn't really stick with it.
Medication is a great help to those that take the appropriate steps and exhaust.
I'm not suggesting you didn't take other options before getting on anti-depressants.
I've become aware (and amazed) of just how many people are actually on them, without actually working on their inner stuff - using the drugs as a crutch to keep from feeling the hard stuff - which is cleansing when worked through. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 10:18:51 AM | Ok.. I may blow any chance I had of getting dates on here with this reply, but so what.
I take Welbutrin and Lexapro. For six years I was so extremely depressed and in a very bad marraige, and cried all the time, and was what i called 'psyhco mommy', exploding at the drop of a hat. But I did not want to have to take medication to be normal, thought I could do it on my own.
I finally realized I could not continue to be like that and my kids deserved better. Well, immediately the doctor put me on the meds, took me out of work for a while.... Three years of therapy later and I was able to get the divorce my kids and I so desparately needed. Weekly therapy, monitoring for the medication. I got my divorce moved on and thought ok, now I do not need the medicine anymore. Guess what.... wrong!!
After a few months I was a mess again, back at the doctor, back off of work. And back on the meds. I have major depression, caused by a chemical imbalance, and have no choice but to take the medicine. And I am a much better person with it. There was no "reason" for the last major episode I had... I could not pinpoint or name what the problem was. That was when the doctor explained that me needing the meds was no different that someone who needed meds for diabetes, or any other disease. I accept that I will always have to take them, and they do not make me unfeeling, emotionless or anything else like that. They keep me normal. Yes I still have normal ups and downs, NORMAL... not out of control.
So, there is nothing wrong with taking medication if it is needed. And sometimes it is.
Like i said above, if posting this keeps me from getting dates or finding someone, so be it. I am happy with me, my life and will be no matter who does or does not come into my life. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 10:41:17 AM | To all the folks who dont believe antidepressents are truly needed. I just wanted to point out, that when it became known that some anti depressents were causing suicidal tendencies in teenagers,and doctors quit prescribing them as much for teenagers, the suicide rate actually went up. I guess some people really needed them.
I also think that anyone who has never suffered from depression, can truly grasp the sadness and hoplesness that takes over your life | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 11:39:59 AM | I am going to have to say... if I find out a guy I am "dating" or "with" is on anti-depressants I have to admit that I would be going the opposite way. I dealt with an instable man for almost 12 years of marriage, it is not fun. Love is not a cure all, and it isn't healthy for me to have to deal with some one on that level. But that is all because of my personal experience. I am not saying I've not taken anti-depressants, but usually only after something traumatic has happened and I just just needed a boost for 2-3 months.
If I am on anti-depressants I probably wouldn't be out trying to date or establish a relationship because obviously I need to be working on myself.
Just my .02,
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 11:48:25 AM | Emmy-
I understand from your past experience how you feel, but to say that someone that is on them should not be dating or trying to establish a relationship is not fair. I will unfortunately probably always be on them.. it is not that something has happened and I need to get through it.
It is a chemical imbalance and is simply the way I am made. So, should I just never get the chance to meet someone, just because I need them? At this point in my life I have nothing I need to work on about myself, nothing will change the fact that I need to take meds. Like I said before, it is just the same as any medical condition that requires medication to keep it in check. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 12:09:46 PM | Meds have their place for certain conditions and people. Some have even had their live's saved by taking them. However, it is a fact (there are exceptions)that women on anti-depressants have a harder time reaching orgasm than women who aren't. And what is one of a man's greatest joys in loving his woman? You betcha, it's taking her over the edge to that place of total connection, surrender and ecstacy that a powerful orgasm allows. The man who is completely enamored with his woman wants her to reach that place inside herself. That shared sense of total submission, safety and pleasure for both people makes their sexual connection a complete experience.
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 12:21:08 PM |
When a panic attack begins you cannot talk the cortisol away.
And this is where I'll raise the fact that I have Generalized Social Phobia/Social Anxiety problems and point out that I also know what a panic attack is like. A lot of texts on dealing with this problem point towards "exposure therapy". I.E. Purposely exposing yourself to situations that cause you discomfort to learn how to properly cope with the feelings they bring about.
No, you can't "talk" it away, you can learn to deal/cope with it, and get past it though. (Hence, the mind healing itself...) Depending on something like medication is like using a crutch after your leg has fully healed. It's like the people with drug or alcohol addictions. No, medication is not the only way of dealing with this issue.
I agree, it can help some people. Sometimes it does. Other times it doesn't. Which is why I agree, if someone finds the thing that helps them, great. But claiming medication is the "only" solution to a problem is wrong.
Ever heard of Munchausens(sp?)? My grandma had it. It's where people will purposely claim they have something wrong with them, and then seek out attention/some form of medications for it. My grandma used to purposely go to different doctors to get herself prescribed all kinds of things. She was always trying to get them to give her something new. It really messed up her kids also, because she'd make something up about them also, or tell them to say something was worse than it actually was, just to get access to some medications.
There are some cases where people are just using medications as a "I want to feel better", and taking legal pills instead of doing the illegal drugs that sometimes create the same effects. Do you seriously think illegal drugs would have a chance if anyone could freely get access to todays "happy pills"?
I do agree, some cases, medications are wanted/needed by the patients. But I also don't agree that medication is the "only" solution to dealing with life's many problems.
Changing your situation, altering the way you handle things, learning coping mechanisms, therapy, there's all kinds of ways to deal with life's problems, without resorting to medication, and that's what I was pointing out.
Like I said, I know a tad about this stuff. | |
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| what do guys think of girls who take antidepressants?
Posted: 6/28/2007 12:34:18 PM | I think every case is different. And people are probably safer and happier working within their own personal comfort zone.
I don't think less of anyone who seeks out and gets help of any kind. I also don't think less of anyone who decides that they don't want to date someone with a situation that they don't find comfortable.
Personally?
I think this is a subject people should be upfront about, but there is definitely a time and place and way to talk about it. | |
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Posted: 6/28/2007 12:41:04 PM | I was once told to "cheer up, things could be worse." So I cheered up, and sure enough, things got worse. Then I saw this list on meds_r_us.com:
DAMNITOL
Take 2 and the rest of the world can go to hell for up to 8 full hours.
EMPTYNESTROGEN
Suppository that eliminates melancholy and loneliness by reminding you of how awful they were as teenagers and how you couldn't wait till they moved out.
ST. MOMMA'S WORT
Plant extract that treats mom's depression by rendering pre-schoolers unconscious for up to two days.
PEPTOBIMBO
Liquid silicone drink for single women. Two full cups swallowed before an evening out increases breast size, decreases intelligence, and prevents conception.
DUMBEROL
When taken with PeptoBimbo, can cause dangerously low IQ, resulting in enjoyment of country music, pickup trucks, and watching American Idol.
FLIPITOR
Increases life expectancy of commuters by controlling road rage and the urge to flip off other drivers.
MENICILLIN
Potent anti-boy-otic for older women. Increases resistance to such lethal lines as, "You make me want to be a better person."
BUYAGRA
Injectable stimulant taken prior to shopping. Increases potency, duration, and credit limit of spending spree.
JACKASSPIRIN
Relieves headache caused by a man who can't remember your birthday, anniversary, phone number, or to lift the toilet seat.
ANTI-TALKSIDENT
A spray carried in a purse or wallet to be used on anyone too eager to share their life stories with total strangers in elevators.
NAGAMENT
When administered to a boyfriend or husband, provides the same irritation level as nagging him.
See you at group on Tuesday... | |
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