| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/3/2004 12:10:25 PM | Nothing is depressing for me anymore.
Online dating could not be depressing because it's something so new and I have never engage in it. So I don't know what that is. The same thing goes for real life dating.
Depressing, never. Know how to live within your means and if life gives you lemons make lemon added detergent. | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/3/2004 12:10:39 PM | Thanks Maidendag! My mom thinks the same ;-)
Space, I don’t have a problem with people who is looking for a partner to be shallow, because everyone has the right to choose who they want to be, and everyone is different, so for some people physical attraction will be important, for other people don’t… But if someone is looking for something that requires physical attraction, why they say they are just looking to meet new friends, c’mon… | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 53 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/3/2004 5:37:28 PM | Space_ace:
Your exactly correct they are not worth the gentic soup that created them.
Besides always keep this in mind (I'm not implying all of you ladies by this following statement:) when it comes to some of these women on the pay dating sites. Don't buy into that crap that they are tired of the bar scene. What is the paying dating site other than a cyber bar??? More importantly if they resorted to a website like that then obviously they are having difficulty finding a guy elsewhere... Wonder why that is? Could it be they are too stuck up and picky in real life? Then there is awlays the fact that were ever there is a single woman then there is an old ex-boyfriend happy to be away from all of the crap he had to put up with from her... | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/3/2004 6:09:18 PM | Thanks WS6TA!
That was a good one that I was missing in my Internet Translator!… “Tired of the Bar Scene”…
TIRED OF THE BAR SCENE = I’m having difficulty finding a guy elsewhere.
I will add these one with my other “Internet” – “What they really mean” translations, which my favorites are:
* JUST FRIENDSHIP = only if I’m attracted to you.
* ONLY REPLY TO PEOPLE WHO ATTACH THEIR PHOTOS = I’m shallow.
* SIMILAR INTERESTS = someone with a picture hot enough to catch my attention.
* YOU SEEM TO BE VERY INTERESTING = you are very good looking.
* INTELLIGENT = nice body.
* EDUCATED = with money.
* GOOD INNER FEELINGS = the three above qualities in one person. | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/3/2004 6:42:54 PM | I get no nor have ever gotten girls the normal way.
But I don't complain too much either.
I really don't like bars. When I think of bars I think of fights and knife bunds.
But I like going to clubs where local rock bands play and dance clubs. I like the places
that don't have a dress code, because as I say as I'm going in, "I'm here to have fun and not to be looked by nobody"
Stop complaining and start living. Life is so short in astronomical, geological, historical or any other term that is not worth it feeling down.
Miss Gothicorchid might hate me for feeling this way, oh well. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 56 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 6:39:02 AM | Excuse me W6STA but I am a single woman and I am on a dating site and you want to know why?? Because I don't go to bars, I can't meet anyone through work (I work with criminal clients and people in the midst of divorce... harldy dating candidates) and I have a very very limited social circle here in town (mostly because I am in my 30s and single... married folk don't seem to want to socialize much with singles it seems.) Not being in school now for many years and not being someone who goes out to bars, I don't know where to meet men... I basically go to work, do my errands and go home to do my stuff there... And before anyone suggests joining a club, I have tried that route but I seem to keep joining clubs where the other participants are either married or much older/younger. So you see I just don't know where to go to meet anyone so I decided to try a dating site...
As for having ex-boyfriends who are tired of 'the crap they had to put up with from me'.... I don't think you are right on that count either. I treat boyfriends with respect and always have. I've never cheated on them, never taken advantage of them financially, never had a temper tantrum on one either. I don't call them names, don't swear at them, throw things at them or anything. So I think you are wrong to generalize like that. I know you said it didn't apply to everyone on here but by the writing that followed, you made it sound like it did.
I think you should really re-think things or why are you even bothering being on a dating site? I'm sure you will already have offended most of the decent ladies who would read what you think of ladies on dating sites.
silken | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 8:27:53 AM | | silken i agree of what u just said about offending some of the nice ladies on here i mean most ladies on here try an find a decent enogh guy 2 go out with | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 58 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 12:19:18 PM | Silken:
My apologies if you or any other decent lady thought my post was offensive... However if you or anyone else had noticed I clearly pointed out at the very begining, before saying what I said by making this statement:
"I'm not implying all of you ladies by this following statement:" Look again in my previous post and you will see it. You say you saw it then... I fail to see the difference betwenn that generalization than the same generalization you gal's associate us men with "That we have only one thing on our mind...
That should have said it all I would think? In no way do I see everyone on a site as being bad. However even you must admit and agree that there are several shallow females out there using such sites simply because they are to stuck up to find a guy elsewhere. It's like if he doesn't have a lot of money, great looks, and the brain of Albert Einstien then the rest of us guys are all scum... I don't think so?
As for the "EX" thing that's a saying I use to help people I know get through a rejection. It can be used both ways whether the friend be male or female... | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 59 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 12:38:08 PM | W6: I know you said that but farther down in your message you are making blanket statements like "wherever there is a single woman...." ... that certainly appears to cancel out the idea that you aren't including every single woman in there...
But I accept your apology. :)
silken | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 60 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 12:58:22 PM | Thanks Silken :)
I certainly didn't mean for anyone to think that everyone on one of those sites were bad. I just merely wanted to point out and prepare them. That indeed it is true that there are those out there that do practice such behavior. I think we all have our on horror stories and experiences that leave little doubt that such sharks lurk there of both genders.
I always found it hard to accept the fact that some of you ladies think all men in bars are bad. That doesn't hold true if I'm in one... :LOL:
Nevertheless, I'm glad we got that cleared up and back on good grounds... Sure don't want to upset the POF Police... :LOL: | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 61 | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 3:51:07 PM | CaR I for one do not lie and I'm sure that i speak for alot of others. I am truly sorry for ur bad expeirences but maybe it will get better. It's just like in the real world u weed the bad out and keep the good.
W6 u seem to have lots of opinions about women, where do u get ur information? In the one post u said that ur longest relationship was for 5 months and that was 20 years ago. So does that mean that everyone else in the world is incorrect and u happen to be correct? JUst curious. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 63 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 4:25:32 PM | Car, don't generalize. I'm a real decent girl and I'm here so there must be a few of us. :)
silken
badge-carrying member of the POF Police ;)
"pull 'em over boys!" hehehe
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 64 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 4:37:02 PM | exactly only a few,(and dat's sad shows how girls really are) but even they dont want to keep in touch, read my profile now im through im not giving into these girls anymore,how dare they play wit my head and mess wit me
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 4:47:05 PM | CaR, I haven't seen you a lot at the forums?
I think it's one of the best places to get to know the nicest girls.
They hardly can cheat here, for they are telling about their experiences, their way of life, about lots of things.
Well, it's your decision to leave us, but I think you should stay a little longer and make posts with the ladies here at the forums.
I dare to say there are no cheating ladies here, only some with another opinion, but that's just fair.....and honest!
Tom Orrow | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 66 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 5:04:36 PM | No, I don't think I'm right I know I'm right!
Just kidding :)
Seriously, No I'm not always right but I do like to weigh the facts and observe before coming to any conclussions. | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 5:12:28 PM | Hey romantic an sweet what happened with the girl who said she was your girlfriend?
What happened after that?
...and now?
still looking?
Did she tell you why she did all of this?
Tell us, tell us. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 68 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 5:53:20 PM | Tom you're right... the forums is the best part of this whole site! The men I want to talk to are the men I meet in here because I get to see their thoughts, how they conduct themselves, their sense of humour and listen to stories about their experiences. I learn so much more about them in forums than by simply exchanging emails.
Has anyone tried the HTML chat on here? It's horrible! So much rude behaviour... it's like night and day between the forums and that.
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 10:16:52 PM | Hi all,
Many of us, with different backgrounds, different problems and experiences - good or bad, joined dating sites for various reasons.. Sometimes when you respond in a thread you might unintentionally offend people with your comments, valid or not, so my take is to be positive, take the good advices and leave out the bad. I'm sure everybody is matured enough to discern what is best for themselves. At the end of the day it is just an opinion, you don’t have to lose sleep over it.
@Ws6ta, I hope you don’t mind I am just stating my honest view - your comments on the bar scene and women on the dating scene is subjective and not many women will agree with you… Also your statement on “Then there is always the fact that were ever there is a single woman then there is an old ex-boyfriend happy to be away from all of the crap he had to put up with from her... “ if I don’t read your other thread, I would have thought you had a lot of bitter experiences with women. So just these statements alone will come across as being strong opinionated..
But its good you clarified and able to see things positively too.
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 71 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/4/2004 10:24:25 PM | wat do you mean tha forum? im talkin bout girls in a stupid place called "toronto", dat's right tha party comming up, it girls here who suck, i hate it here im sure girls in tho forums are ncie cause their from other places far away, i have 7 girls on my aim list who i be wit if i had my chance to blow this pop stand city called toronto crap and go to america where tha girls are tru well some and some are not, but america has girls who actually want love i hate it here so much
i hate it here(repeat) they just lie!!!!! one girl already toying wit me, playin games tryin to ignore me and said she would hang out wit me but she dont want too cause she lied,
it's crazy here when i go out on tha streets i think girls are truly those bad type of girls, and only some are worth it ,a few, rare
everyone else is trash you dont know how i feel and this site even shows it there aint no girls worth in Toronto,
im sick of being there for them giving my time wastin my time on them
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| Outside activities
Posted: 10/5/2004 3:26:49 AM | I can relate to the experience of receiving few replies. It is frustrating to have an unread email deleted. But we have to learn from it and respond accordingly by looking for women in the real world. I'm glad to read other people's experiences because I thought there was something about my profile that women didn't like.
Partly, I think the profile makes it easier for women to "eliminate" men from consideration; especially with the favorable ratio of men to women. I suspect some women "feel" better about not responding to an email than to give a rejection. (Sort of like a woman giving a fake phone number or not returning phone calls if she isn't interested).
Since you are in college, I would think there would be a lot of women. Are you a shy person? If you are studying engineering or a hard science, then you probably have less women in your classes than you would with a different major. For activities, think like the women you are pursuing: what would they like to do?
Have you ever gone fishing? When fishing, you need to go where the fish are. Have you tried taking an aerobics class? Yoga class? Cooking class? In these activities, you will have a better men to women ratio. Similarly, for a woman looking for a man, she should target activities, such as golf, hunting, etc.
Personally, after reading this post, I will focus my time on outside activities in the real world with a better ratio of women to men . I am taking a Swedish Massage class, there are about 12 women and two men (including me). Next I will try a cooking class.
Happy Hunting,
Mark | |
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| Outside activities
Posted: 10/5/2004 3:34:32 AM | | Dancing Classes are right up there too, due to the close physical Contact. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 74 | |
| Outside activities
Posted: 10/5/2004 5:54:36 AM | Hmmmm I don't like worms so I don't think I'd be fishing... besides, a male I was talking to last night told me that if I went fishing with him I would have to be quiet in the boat or I might scare the fish. My plan was that I would bring my nail file, lots of women's magazines and we could "discuss our relationship" and I could give him all the quizzes from the ladies' magazines. Doesn't that sound like fun? ;) hehe
:) Although I don't think I would be too quiet unless we compromised.... for instance, I can be quiet if I am being cuddled. ;)
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 75 | |
| Outside activities
Posted: 10/5/2004 5:55:55 AM | Car, don't be generalizing. Not all girls in Toronto are bad and not all girls in America are good. You have the "grass is greener" syndrome going on here. I've heard guys say exactly the opposite too.... it's always easier to figure it's a geography problem.
silken | |
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