| Outside activities
Posted: 10/5/2004 6:57:28 AM | Lovely post Silken, about you fishing.
And you're right about the greener grass.
To think of it, the best grass is in Ireland.
Not so strange, it's a lot raining there. Now that wouldn't be nice either, would it?
Conclusion: if you're of to the greener grass, you'll get lots of rain over you.
Note: the umbrella is not included in the holiday-trip.
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 77 | |
| Outside activities
Posted: 10/5/2004 8:11:49 AM | Re: my fishing post.... I had put at the bottom that I was just trying to freak you guys out ...about the relationship talk and doing magazine quizzes while you're fishing... but i keep forgetting that when I put stuff in brackets on here it disappears!
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 12:59:14 PM |  here's a thought maybe they don't think that you are being sincere... so many women don't go on these sites because of the stories from friends who have. Some get on and meet lots of goofballs quickly so we get off just as quick... Some of the males who are using this as a screw them and leave them are wrecking this for both...men and women
Just a thought... you are attractive so that may be part of the problem they may not think you're serious who are on the sites so they stay away... wierd a double standard... too good looking screwed ...not great looking screwed...ironic....!
People are just not trusting.. Don't give up and be sincere. I've been in BC so there are lots of girls get out and join things that girls would be into.. Dance classes, excercise class, look up at pool with your friends, shopping anyone, tennis, whatever... take a course outside of the university and you will never know..Hey don't sit in the back pew at church,... they are there and answer ads that don't have pics... that may also an avenue that you're not tapping into.. lots of us don't feel comfortable with the picture thing..
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 79 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 1:41:24 PM | I have to agree that it is far better to meet potential dates in the real world.
No offense, and I'm not excluding myself from what I'm about to say. If your spending all of your time behind a mointor & keyboard then obviously you have a problem meeting potential dates else where. Its not that there are not decent people in nightclubs, laundry mats, grocery stores, or even on a dating website. It's just that we all seem a bit guilty of something or another why else would we be here talking about it?
For me its a combonation of things: For one I'm shyer than most I think that is partly to blame from a relationship that I had many years ago. I soooo loved the girl that I think I exhausted my lifetimes worth on her. When we were forced to break up I was devastated and withdrawn. I had no desire to move on because of the hurt I had felt. Several years ago I began to see things more clearly and came to grips that what had happened was meant to happen. So, I began the process of restoring my empty & terrified heart. However by that time it appeared no one was interested in me. I'd ask girl after girl after girl out and all would shoot me down. I couldn't get a date! After hundred upon hundred of tries I began to accept the fact it wasn't going to happen and I stopped asking. Eventually I started to reflect upon this and felt like I had to know the answer before I slipped away forever. So, I started trying this dating website stuff. I thought at least I might finially discover what it was about me that was so repulsive? Was it my looks? Was it because decent values was no longer envouge? Or what it was? It was an experiment to resolve the issue as to why I was avoided. If I could discover what it was then I might be able to do something to fix it... Unfortantly, I have found no answers but the quest does go on. Maybe, eventually I'll learn why every single woman I ask out turns me down? Why the women in the clubs won't consider me something worth dating?
Who knows? But all I've learned so far from the dating websites is if I send an e-mail, tease, or wink. It will most diffently be ignored?
I feel for everyone that has had a simular experience with those sites they are very damaging to the men's esteem. | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 2:33:37 PM | | well, i guess i would say that if you are looking for miss right, she is probably not looking at a dating site online. She probably has better things to do, thats the case in my town anyway. Another factor is that not many people are aware of what a great site this is, not to mention that it is free. I think that in a few years, this will be the most popular site on the internet, once word circulates. Also, when online, trust nothing. Anybody can present a ficticious description on here. In person is the best way to meet people. Good luck! | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 4:23:14 PM | Come on, stop whining. Leave this forum if that is the way you feel.
I'm here to post stupid response and make funny comments.
I would never pay for a paying date site. I would take that money and go get me what I want, without going through the middle man. Like the Rod Stwart song says, some guys have all the luck... I feel that song is for me and many of you out there. A message by somebody of you (us) brought me here. But I don't complain. Dating and sex is only a small percentage of the total everything life is. So sure I don't wanna be left out. So I don't. But I don't expect a stupid internet site like to solve my problems.
Do you know what I'm talking about????????????
Stop crying and be.
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 4:57:08 PM | Everybody is wrong sometimes. "Hmmm, I wonder what they is today?" "I think is wednesday"
and you about your day believing it might be tuesday. When is time to go to bed you find out its actually Thursday.
Another example, "... ahhh, you get the idea. | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 86 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 7:02:06 PM | i hate it here, and on this site girls just lie more, see i still talked to dat girl and she deleted my replies, she didnt even reply back because she wants to lie and ignore me, really it's tha truth im sick of it, girls are a joke to me on this now well tha toronto girls at least they just sayu they lookin for love would be wit any guy but no just crying out for attention and playin wit guys' heads, it like their serious but their not
really it's really sad to see it too, cause they dont even know wat they want
they say no head games no players, but their tha ones who really are tha players and play games
so wateva
how dare they tell us guys dat we lie, and we play games wit them
dat is so not tru=/
i must be tha only guy on this site from toronto to be sayin this | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 87 | |
| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 7:52:56 PM | Car I'm tired of hearing you go on generalizing about girls. What you're saying is not the truth of all girls in Toronto nor of all girls anywhere and you should stop making like it is. We've all had tough times in the dating world, men and women, so you are not unique in that!
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| Hey CaR!!!
Posted: 10/5/2004 8:57:00 PM | | Hi I just want to jump in. I am new to this forum and chat dating circuit and this seems like an interesting subject. I don't think you can generalize. All I know is that even though I have a computer in front of me I still find it intimidating. I know that maybe this is the way of dating in the 21st century but I guess we still need to work out the kinks. It is rude when someone doesn't answer your e-mails even to say thank you but I wonder if some people try this out for a lark and then don't pay attention to it? Or it could be that there are just rude people out there and you can be thankful that they don't respond to your e-mail because you really wouldn't want to get to know them anyway. J | |
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| Hey CaR!!!
Posted: 10/5/2004 9:06:36 PM | I started these sites about 6 months ago and find this to be one of the better ones
i live in a small town and there are about 7 females in a search and lots of guys just like in a bar there are normally more guys then girls so they have the pick of the crowd so we can't expect it to be any different here. Its a matter of meeting the right girl at the right time so we just need to keep trying at least out here we know that the person is lookng for some one
and what thier sexual orientation is compared to taking a shot in the dark at a bar.
i have meet 3 girls since starting 2 were a wash out and one has become just a friend with benefits but thats a lot more then i have meet in the mall and im not a great looking guy but they have seen my picture so for a shy person like me this is a great fourm.
I guess what im saying is keep on trying sooner or later your number will come up.
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/5/2004 9:26:20 PM | kryptosdaddy I agree one hundred percent.
I also believe that while these personal sites might assist in bringing people together, it will eventually be the pitfall of your american couple. If your spouse/partner/bf-gf get into a spat. Plop in front of the puter, start chatting with someone online and there goes the relationship. But then, if thats all it took, maybe the relationship wasn't solid in the first place....hmmm | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 91 | |
| ah some girls lie and yea some are sweet-.-
Posted: 10/6/2004 12:57:15 AM | | some girls are worth it and some are not,this girl named vicky replied to me wondering wat's up wit my profile i explained to her she knew and understood we talked couple, it's too bad she in america it shows only american girls are really sweet and knowing,i wish i was in america, alot of nice sweets girls there all tharest of my net friends even there, i was born to be there not here in canada, my life is such a flaw, *sighs* | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 92 | |
| ah some girls lie and yea some are sweet-.-
Posted: 10/6/2004 5:53:15 AM | Well Car, maybe you should move to the States then. I hate to hear a Canadian who is not grateful for what his own country offers him. We may have problems but we live in a wonderful place and although you say there are no nice girls here, I beg to differ.
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 93 | |
| ah some girls lie and yea some are sweet-.-
Posted: 10/6/2004 5:55:04 AM | Leidypia: this brings up a good question for everyone.... when you are in a committed relationship, how do you feel about your boyfriend/girlfriend chatting on line? Anyone?
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 94 | |
| ah some girls lie and yea some are sweet-.-
Posted: 10/6/2004 11:16:26 AM | | FINE NOW CANADA, SINCE YOU KEEP TELLIN ME CANADA IS WONDERFUL,, i just blame Toronto i hate toronto i hate all arround here it's soo pathetic girls just lie they always will it's just too rare to find tha right girls here and well this site shows Toronto girls lie, i mean your not in Toronto, so you dont know how it is, dat why guys here are players,they dont want dat love,they just dont cre they learned not to give love, it sucks it, it's a sesspool of coruption infidelity of girls=/ | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/6/2004 2:56:55 PM | he lives in vancouver, I find tons of girls in the area, his loss =P
not to mention the girl I'm now in love with that I met at the pof party | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/6/2004 3:41:47 PM | I think your id name is totally hilarious. Your sense of humor alone should attract some cool girls. Keep trying. I'm alot older than you, but I think you're a hoot. Don't give up.
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| ah some girls lie and yea some are sweet-.-
Posted: 10/6/2004 6:20:42 PM | | TO CAR....Look, I am not trying to be rude, but don't you think that possibly your negative outlook and expectations of the women around there could be coloring the responses, or lack thereof, that you are getting? I know that if I lived in Toronto and you wrote me, then I got on and checked out your profile, I probably would not write back. You use incredibly bad slang instead of actually talking, you generalize all women from that area as being so incredibly awful that they probably figure that if they met you or talked to you that you would disrespect them. Sitting here just looking at your postings it seems to me that you have incredibly high expectations and some illusions about American girls. People are people no matter where they are. If someone is going to cheat or lie, they will do it regardless of their nationality or ethnicity. It kind of seems that the majority of the posts that you have on here are negative and most people honestly do not want to hang out with or have extensive conversations with those who seem to be always looking on the negative sides of things. Sorry if this message makes you mad, but you need to kind of relax and stop judging people. Take the time to look at your messages and look at your profile, read it as if you are the person checking out the ads. Then tell me, would you write that profile back? Hope that things change for you and you get happier. Life is too short to spend it crying for something you can have if you try. If you want to be in the States so badly, move. But once you are here, you will discover that it is no different here than it was there. | |
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| ah some girls lie and yea some are sweet-.-
Posted: 10/6/2004 6:50:09 PM | Move up north in Canada. How is up there in Northern Canada? Do people live there?
Is it cold year round? I live in sunny Southern California. When I see the map of the world, I wonder about the top and also the bottom of the world. I don't like cold weather myself. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 100 | |
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