| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/9/2004 9:48:55 PM | On-Line Dating is tricky at best,if you try to look only in your town, you may only see 25% of the ladies listed...*J*
This is because Women want to be entertained,they are looking for something new and exciting...(-;
Many of them would be thrilled and delighted to find the man of their dreames living right next door,bt if thing's don't quite work out they feel much safer with a guy from across town or perhaps 50 miles away...(-;
Since you are young,dumb,and full of cum, remember at your age ladies will think you a wuss, if you don't aproach the directly...(-;
WOMEN HATE WUSSIES!!! REMEMBER THAT ( WOMEN HATE WOSSIES!!! )
Don't stammer,Don't stare,make your aproach dead on,don't take any sh*t and don't leave without their e-mail address...(-;
I am 50,so I use very creative ploy's,fun name's that cause them to think...(-;
In the Woody Allin Movie Sleeper,
they had an automatic sex machine is was called an Orgasmitron,hay this account get's 1000 hit's a month and Jr. most of the ladies are your age...(-;
Most the time I hang out over on Single Parent.com
I have another account on another free dating site called The High Hard One,that account also get's over 1000 hit's a month and these girls want action...(-;
Yes I get date's and no it's not depressing it's fun...(-;
So start using your head for something besides muching on Frito's and get creative,DON"T LOOK ONLY IN YOUR OWN HOMW TOWN AND REMEMBER WOMEN WANT TO BE ENTERTAINED!!! | |
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| Re: Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 2:05:54 AM | raven, i think they all want their prince charming, and dont want to settle for less (you or me) even when it is more. i got lucky and met the love of my life, but i was misibrile(sp?) before my wife, i tried everything, shot down left and right. my wife and i just clicked, and havent been apart more than 3 days in a row in over 2 yrs.
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 6:48:22 AM | Silken:
I went out on the town for the first time in many many years. I had no luck what so ever spent the whole 6hrs setting alone. I did see a few things that bothered me and had to take action.
1. this guy was setting at the bar and a girl came up and set down two chairs aware from him. I instantly knew what was up but waited to see what his response was. After I noticed him checking her out I could sense his desire to want to speak to her but didn't know where to begin. It irriatated me so badly that I walked over behind him and his friend were they were setting. I grasped each one of them over the shoulder very firmly. I said "hello" how are you two gent's doing this evening? The game is going well for us is it not (the home team was on the TV and this gave me an excuse to interfere with their conversation)? Then I told them my name shook their hands and returned to the grasp over the shoulders so that I could keep them close and not be overheard. all the while observing the girl setting two seats away out of the corner of my eye. It was then I told the one closest to her in a very firm and strong voice so to not be misunderstood. I said: "It's none of my business but it really irrtates me to see someone blowing a golden opportunity away that I would die for and trust me on this fella. I've been setting in here for 14 years (a little white lie) waiting for a momment like you have tonight. The whole time I've been coming here in all of those years do you know that I have never had the pleasure to even ever visit the dance floor. So, beleive me when I tell you this. I've come to one conclussion in all ofthat time that it just not going to ever happen for me but it really breaks my heart to see a fella like yourself. Who has the opportunity I've always dreamed of. So, forgive me for saying this but if you don't talk to that girl right next to you I beleive I'm going to have to slap you in the back of the head and knock some sense back into you. Your a good looking guy and if I had half of your looks I could get any woman in this place, so don't throw away my good looks simple because God gave all of mine to you and left me with none. He was shocked what I told him and said well I was thinking that was wierd that she was setting there. I said: it ain't wierd and it isn't by mere chance she's there because she want's to be there and is waiting on you. His eyes brightened up and a smile of confidence fell upon his face. I said: I'll even go one step further and get the ball rolling for you so be polite and don't screw this up. I then said: Miss excuse me but my friend here was just telling me that he thought your outfit was really lovely that your blouse really complimented your eyes... Success! and I went on my merry way and returned to my sancutary of being alone and unspoken too...
I can't help my self but I will go out of my way to help others... This is why I say it's bad to go to a club alone without a friend there is no feedback or embarrassment and both are needed to acheive success. | |
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Msg: 155 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 6:55:04 AM | Off topic here but wanted to just say:
Hey everyone I'm starting a new thread in the dating & advice forum and everyone is invited. I would enjoy the feedback. It's going to be about myself and my reinvention of myself. So, please if you can stick to the topic in it; I'd appreciate it. It's basically a scientific experiment and I being the test subject. It's going to read like a soap opera but it isn't a made up story but real life in real action. It should prove to be interesting... I will report my findings and hopefully I will become a better person? Plus maybe some others can learn from my experiment and the advice you offer...
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Msg: 157 | |
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Msg: 158 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 8:59:45 AM | W6: Did you reall do all t&at last nite? (my keyboard is not workin)
Also about t&e new datin* sa*a..... will t&ere be a movie? ;)
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 9:07:45 AM | the answer to the 6:1 guy/girl ratio is that many men online are posting although
they are married or in committed relationships. Women need to be careful about who they're
corresponding too as there are a lot of 'dirty dogs' out there | |
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 160 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 9:23:29 AM | Kryptos wants to marry me! (the disguised threat of puttin rice in my shoes!).... Slow down dear, this forum is gettin you too worked up. ;) hehe (just kidding)
As for my "mask".... it's not a mask, it's a bellydance veil.... ivory silk with gold sequins and embroidered flowers... :)
silken
P.S. Suddenly my keyboard is working again... I think this is a virus causing a problem! | |
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Msg: 161 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 10:13:42 AM | How do you suggest I check it out? It happens every once in awhile and then eventually goes back to working...I just don't get it.
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 11:09:11 AM | Silken:
Why yes I did... I wasn't joking about this sort of thing. I'm serious I know I need lots of help to get this ship back on its keel but I'm tired so very very tired of being ignored. You all tell me I look okay and nothing to be ashamed of yet, no one seems to see it no matter where I go. Be it a night club or an e-mail sent on a website both places I'm ignored... So, what gives I have to ask? I know it's not my overly good looks that is scaring them away 
If they or just someone would only take the time speak with me I think they would be pleasantly surprised. I'm very funny but I'm even more charming when I put my accent into the mix. Afterwards they will discover my more serious nature, manners, polite behavior and other great strenghts that lay just bellow the surface...
The wierd part is that once and if I ever do get a girl, then that added confidence will over flow the cup and I'll really come out shinning. It always worked that way in the distant past. When ever I had a girlfriend then everyone around me just fell in love with me. It was then they saw the plesant person I was and they were attracted to the fact that I was totally commited to my gal, something I beleive they enveyed because their own relationships lacked such a noble quality. Yea, I used to be encircled by women every where I went but that came to an abrupt end my heart died. It wasn't until about 5 years ago my heart started to slowly come back to life. It had been like a bear and from it's long hibernation it finailly arose to once again prowl the woodlands were the flowers bloomed and the tress spead it's leaves in the spring thaw.
As for your computer silken: Could be "spybot" that is causing the problem. It was for me a few weeks back. | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 11:13:43 AM | Silken:
"Yes" maybe a movie?
I'm still working on the script...It could turn in to a sequal but I hope not? I'm just looking for the one time greatest love story that can never be equaled.
Also working on my acceptance speech for my "Oscar" | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 1:38:30 PM | Ok.. Heres how I see things..Take it or leave it.
You write a little note to them that says:
I read your profile and I liked. Hit me up sometime.
If you get any responces to that at all I would be suprised. It's very inpersonal, sounds like you could have said the same exact thing to every profile in here. Women like to believe the guy is being open and honest. Read their profile, and then write to them. Say hello. If there was a specific thing in their profile that you found interesting, write about it. Give them something to think about, a little about yourself, but not so much they need not ask you any questions. Something of interest in there profile can be from what they have said, or even the background in their picture, or the metalica tshirt they are wearing. Don't try to get too personal, but dont act like you dont have a personality. If they don't write back right away, give them time. Not everyone has time to answer every email they receive as quickly as others. If your message gets deleted, so what, she wasnt the only fish out there. There are Plenty of Fish out there. Subject lines are important, it's usually the first thing that a person sees, and can be the reason behind simple deletion. You can be very creative here.. use your imagination. Give them a reason to open the email.
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 3:02:54 PM | flgriffin:
Sorry, to say but you did error here but we aren't all perfect; your forgiven 
I think you would even agree after I point out some obvious facts. One I appaerently have no difficulty in writing, now do I? It's pretty clear that I read what is said and thus respond accordingly. I've done exactly what you have described above and if you had ever seen one of my E-mails you would agree that I couldn't have a done a better job. The thing is that all those I write of interest simply ignore it... That's it! I guess this online dating thing isn't really going to work. If I don't have super good looks, lots of money and job with much clout they don't give squat about you... That's a fact I've learned over three years with one site which I just ended my account with a few days ago. when they asked me to do a survey of what i thought of their sight I gave them both barrels. I never seen so many rude people in my life as on that site. I told them I'll not be recommending it to anyone.
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Msg: 166 | |
| Online dating is great
Posted: 10/10/2004 4:03:52 PM | I changed the subject line because we needed a more positive theme. ;)
There's lots of great people on this site W6. And on the subject of people deleting emails...to anyone who has sent someone an email and hasn't yet received an answer.... don't think they are purposefully being rude if you don't receive a reply back immediately. For people who get large volumes of email or just have limited time maybe, they may have it saved in their inbox to reply to when they get a moment... I would not jump to conclusions unless you see they have deleted your email without reply. Then I think it's safe to assume they are not interested in answering you. But best of luck to all. :)
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/10/2004 4:37:49 PM | Actually WS6TA....
After reading the original thread I responded to what I believe the problem was. But to address your responce correctly..there is a big difference. I am an accomplished writer, and have no problem describing my entire life and history writing. But when you write someone for the first time, it needs to be personal, but concise. Giving them a reason to read it is done with the subject line, the body of the email should be personal to the person you are writing, as well as informative, but if you tell them all of your good points as well as your failures, writing your entire online experience in one masterful piece, then what reason does she have to talk to you? You've already answered every question she would have. The firs email is supposed to give her a reason to want to talk to you, not avoid you. And on a final note, when a woman opens her email and gets a message from someone new, and opens it to find a few pages of .................................... She's online to check her mail, and see whos on..she doesnt know you from nobody, and you've written her a book. Now unless she is just bored out of her mind, shes gonna delete it without a second thought. So..Short, but personal. Inviting..
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Msg: 169 | |
| Online dating is great
Posted: 10/10/2004 4:39:55 PM | | Thanks for the encouragement I will, but its hard too keep your chin up when it keeps getting knocked down. | |
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| Online dating is great
Posted: 10/10/2004 4:52:02 PM | | Everytime it gets knocked down, look up. Don't let anyone get you down, because if the one today doesnt want you, its her loss. Theres Plenty of Fish out there. | |
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| Online dating is something
Posted: 10/10/2004 6:09:50 PM | Dont change the title from being depressing to being great.
It's not great either.
I got no exp. whatsoever.
Let just call it "online dating is something | |
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 172 | |
| Online dating is FANTASTIC!!!!!! ;) hehehe
Posted: 10/10/2004 8:38:35 PM | Sorry Robetini, I had to antagonize you a bit. ;)
W6: I think there is a Japanese proverb you might benefit from hearing and it's a very simple one too......
Fall down six times.
Stand up seven.
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Msg: 175 | |
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