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Joined: 9/14/2004
Msg: 176 | |
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 177 | |
| Online dating is great
Posted: 10/11/2004 1:11:32 PM | flgriffin:
Well, how many time does one have to get knocked down until one figures it out your not meant to keep it up. I'm in life's concentration camp and only wishing that they would select me for the gas chamber. The suffering has grown to the point that I can no longer carry the load.
Maybe there is plenty of fish out there and the reason being is that some of us "Fish" get washed a shore during the storms to perish forever on the beach of the unwanted... | |
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 178 | |
| Online dating is FANTASTIC!!!!!! ;) hehehe
Posted: 10/11/2004 1:15:43 PM | Silken:
interesting saying!
I really don't see how that is helpful? I've already done that a thoudand fold. I mean how long does one keep beating their head against the wall until they realise the wall is never coming down? | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 179 | |
| Online dating is FANTASTIC!!!!!! ;) hehehe
Posted: 10/11/2004 1:23:07 PM | W6: To quote another great man......
NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER NEVER QUIT! :) (I'm not actually sure how many 'nevers' were in the quote! hehe)
W6 we have to be "bulldogs"... keep going after what you want... yes, it may take some amendments to the original plan, what you may be after may even alter somewhat through reflection and experience but we must never give up. Persistence wins the prize. It may not be fair that some of us have to persist much longer than others but nevertheless persistence usually brings its rewards in the end.
You know what? We all forget this and we all want to quit at times and we need someone else to step up to the mat and remind us to be a bulldog. ;)
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 180 | |
| Online dating is FANTASTIC!!!!!! ;) hehehe
Posted: 10/11/2004 1:45:21 PM | Silken:
Well, actually I'm really ready to give up on the whole notion altogether. I see no reason to accept the fact some people are just never going to find anyone. I mean has to happen to some people maybe I'm one of them. Heck all the signs seem to pointing to that fact. I'm not attractive, no one is interested in me, they have not been for many many years, and My life time is nearly half over. What further proof is needed? Almost everyone I know from my past is married, divorced or has been married more than once. However, I myself in the same time haven't even been able to get even one date... That should be telling me something!
You know if it walks like a duck and it quacks like a duck... Well, it must be a Duck. | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 181 | |
| Online dating is FANTASTIC!!!!!! ;) hehehe
Posted: 10/12/2004 6:54:10 AM | W6, in several forums now the ladies have all told you that there is nothing wrong with your looks, so why do you persist with saying how 'unattractive' you are? Also, continually repeating the negative statements that no one wants you, etc. is only going to continue a downward spiral in your thinking.
Please stop before I have to come down there and CORRECT you. ;)
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 182 | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 183 | |
| Online dating is NOT FANTASTIC!!!!!! ;) hehehe till you find dat right one
Posted: 10/12/2004 12:13:51 PM | hahaha pathetic stop tryin to control people minds silken
you wont control mine, you sure wont get as far, i hate hpw others are believing you but not me sister you got nothing over me
other than dat some are not worth it and some are some know wat "love" so be wit dat one who knows how to love and care for one another, tha others are pure players | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 184 | |
| Car's mind
Posted: 10/12/2004 1:23:40 PM | Car, I have no wish to control your mind. I wish you would though.
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 185 | |
| Car's mind
Posted: 10/12/2004 1:37:41 PM | Thank you Excalibur.
I don't mean to start trouble but I do hope you or the other moderators can persaude Car to tone it down... I just posted on this subject in his thread devoted to how terrible Toronto women are...
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| Car's mind - just be patient and positive
Posted: 10/12/2004 8:20:01 PM | Car,
Everybody here is nice to give you sound advice. If you have negative thoughts, you will not find anyone to your liking. There are plenty of fish out there, don't go for quantity, go for quality and the latter takes time if you care to be patient and perseverence will pay off.. I do not think Silken is trying to control your mind, in fact she has always been level headed and diplomatic with her responses.. Have a positive attitude and you will go far in life.. I'm much older so I can tell you that..
Have a pleasant day!
Hui Ching | |
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| Car's mind - just be patient and positive
Posted: 10/12/2004 9:18:52 PM | They offering me to get married for papers for her.
Favor they say---- hell no. I want money and sex - for two years-
I've know regular prostitutes for much longer than that.
Who knows she might end up being the love of my life. | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/12/2004 10:14:31 PM | | I find it really depressing to see so many shallow girls on here and site like these. It seems like most girls are looking for an intimate encounter, they're Canadian, or they're a lesbian. It makes it even harder on guys if women are taking potential mates. What the hell is wrong with everybody? It seems like all these dating sites are the same. Girls just looking for sex. Their insecurities and self esteem must be really low if that's all they want. People like that are causing this country to suck and become a cut of the mold society. Have to look one way or else you're invisible. God forbid you express some actual intelligence then you really get left out in the cold. I'm not a woman hater but these mind sets that "most women" seem to place them between naive and ignorant. Grow up ladies! You can have fun but nobody asked you to be stupid. Sorry to the few good ones left. | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/12/2004 10:55:56 PM | | Why must everyone be so negative? If the girl isn't for you, she isn't for you,but eventually she will come your way when you aren't looking whether its online...or in real;) | |
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silken
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Joined: 8/19/2004
Msg: 192 | |
| Being Canadian/lesbian/looking for an intimate encounter?
Posted: 10/13/2004 7:51:37 AM | Hey Coldshot, never thought I would make it into the above group just because I'm Canadian. ;) Nothing wrong with Canadian girls... guess you mean it's just too far away. :)
Hui Ching: thanks for the comments. ;)
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| Being Canadian/lesbian/looking for an intimate encounter?
Posted: 10/13/2004 10:14:31 AM | | Actually, I find a lot of the Canadian women attractive. Unfortunately I'm from Rhode Island and this site, it seems, is all Canadian people. So therefor they wish not to speak to me cause I live too far from them. Yet, if I do a local search I get like 5 people. | |
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| For All
Posted: 10/13/2004 9:34:42 PM | My computer died over the weekend. I'm borrowing one to come on here. I have a few suggestions for everyone..
If you come to a juncture where there is no win... Laugh.
Stop thinking about today..Stop worring about yesterday.. Enjoy tomorrow.
If you aren't enjoying life, noone is ever going to want to join you.
If you can't find love, you're not looking in the right place.
If you think you are ugly, you are wrong. Thinking negatively about yourself will project that image on everyone you meet.
Everyone was a stranger to you before you met them, at which point they became a potiental friend.
Treat everyone as a friend, even if you aren't attracted to them.
Think about how what you are going to say would affect you, if someone else was saying it in the same situation.
The only cure for bad memories are good memories, if you don't have any..make some.
There are three C's to any good relationship.. Communication, Compromise, Compassion. All three are neccesary equally.
If someone is sad, offer a shoulder..an open ear, a quiet mouth, and a caring heart.
When going on a first date.. be creative, be honest, be yourself, think about now, not later, offer what you are willing to give, and expect nothing in return. Give them your full attention.
When you meet someone new.. don't expect anything more than companionship. If anything else happens, it will be for the good. If nothing else happens, you won't be disapointed.
Everyone you meet deserves your respect, even if you do not agree with them.
If you get mad, get real mad, and then get over it.
If you are upset with someone who is a friend, get a notebook, and write down everything you want to say to them. Put that note in your drawer and reread it a week later, you'll be suprised at how much your heart can change if you give yourself enough time to relax.
You can be happy.
No matter what anyone ever does to you or for you, it is you that has to live with yourself, and find happiness in the world. Make decisions that you and only you can be happy with, considering another person in the equation secondly. Even if you love someone with all your heart, you are the one who has to decide for yourself in the end.
I hope this is inlightening for you, and I hope that you all find happiness in your lives. If my situation gets better anytime soon, I'll be back too. But in the mean time, live your life, find something to be happy about, and before you know it, the problems you have now will be memories replaced by many more.
Matt..Panama City, Fl | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 195 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/16/2004 1:07:39 AM | iT IS DEPRESSING, IT'S CRAZY I BEEN GIVING MY TIME FOR THESE GIRLS BUT NOTHING
im surprised some actually could care but others dont want too, as in my previous posts
i talked of how some girls arent worth it, well i still say it though some are, all i know is some girls want to lie and dat's THA TRUTH, DONT SAY IT ISNT, AND THEY JUST MESSAGE THA GUYS WIT GOOD LOOKS, THEY SAY THEY WANT LOVE AND PERSONALITY, BUT IT'S ALL HOG WASH
but you americans seems to all have messages it makes sense i need to go to america...
canada really sucks for girls here
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WS6TA
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Joined: 4/26/2004
Msg: 196 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/16/2004 7:23:08 AM | Car:
Trust me it's no better in America. I have never once recieved a romantic e-mail or a romantic reply to any E-mail I have ever sent. Your not alone in that boat.
Yes, I totally agree that there is some bad women out there just like there is some bad men too. The world is not a perfect place.
I agree that many women state that they are looking for love and personality. However, I have found that remark is merely a ruse either known or unknown by the messanger. Looks are something we simple can't discount despite our best efforts. We are all guilty of wanting something that is appealing to our eye. I think the fault really rest in our gentic DNA and is not done intentionally. Our individual make up is geared to seek what our innerbeing see's as a ideal candidate for progation. Our outward appearance represents much of this. It tells us whether the person is of acceptable height, weight, health, eye color, hair color, etc,. So, don't feel guilty because we as a species do this it is our inherited nature to be selective. If not none of us would be here to discuss the issue, now would we?
On a side note: I think your attitutude is improving a great deal and you should continue along this path. We all truly wish the best for you and are here to help. However, in the end it's entirely up to you to accept the help. I feel your making good progress just work on opening up more. | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/16/2004 9:58:28 AM | Mr. CaR, what WS6TA just said might be right, because I agree 100%.
I could write something too. But it would be the same exact message,
worded differently.
Don't get angry. If you get angry you lose.
Don't need to move. Unless you move to a far away land - Asia, Africa, or the South Pacific -There you will be different that most of the people. hmmm, maybe you should try moving there instead of to the U.S., if you move for that reason. | |
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CaR
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Joined: 8/17/2004
Msg: 198 | |
| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/16/2004 10:48:41 PM | Car:
Trust me it's no better in America. I have never once recieved a romantic e-mail or a romantic reply to any E-mail I have ever sent. Your not alone in that boat.
dood, i got at least 20 girls from AOL: aim i would sure be with or go out and they from America or Australia
but here i get nothing but just a waste of time, and im just talkin of tha net, not offline
toronto girls on tha net are just truly picky and shallow
im tellin you for a fact cause it's so true,
why cant people believe me
IM NOT GOIN CRAZY
IM REALLY SICK OF THESE TORONTO GIRLS | |
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| Online dating is depressing for guys
Posted: 10/17/2004 12:13:42 AM | | I have to agree with the original post. But I think it's depressing for both guys and girls. The whole concept of online dating is just depressing in and of itself. I hate being resigned to searching for romance/companionship online, but it seems that the older you get the harder it is to just approach someone with honest intentions. I'm in university, surrounded by thousands of members of the opposite sex, but it's d*mn difficult to actually meet, or strike up a conversation with any of them. I don't think I'm all that bad looking - I'm not an Adonis, that's for sure, but I'm not Ugly-Bob either - probably pretty average. That shouldn't present such a problem for finding someone who is interested in me - or so I would think. But it seems that in the real-world, anytime you attempt to approach a female, whether it be because you are interested in them, you just wish to strike up a conversation, you wish to borrow their notes, or you just need the d*mn time because you left your watch at home, you are always met with wariness and suspicion. I'm not even sure what there is to be wary or suspicious about. It's almost like we should feel guilty or evil for expressing interest in a girl - but hello, how can we not, and why should they be so suspicious, everyone wants to find love, be they female, male, straight, gay, etc. If only it were so easy to go up to someone and cut through all the bullsh*t, come right out and say: "I saw you sitting there, and I found myself attracted to you. I wanted to approach you and see if maybe the feeling was mutual, and if maybe we could find out if we were also attracted to each other in more than just looks. To see if our personalities could mesh, could be compatible. Think of all the people you pass everyday without even giving a moments recognition to, think of all those people who could enrich your life with their presence as a friend/lover/companion. I couldn't help but think of that, and that's why I'm talking to you, I didn't want to miss the chance of possibly having someone else meaningful in my life. So, would you like to maybe go for a coffee and just chat?" But no, if you were to ever attempt such a thing, you'd be met with a resounding "Piss-off you freak", or some other such rejection. Only because we can't seem to break out the habits of societal interaction that have been ingrained into us since our birth. What a shame, and so we are resigned to playing these stupid online games, hoping to attract attention to ourselves and wasting our efforts contacting others, only to met with the message "deleted unread" in our d*mn mailbox. What a shame, people need each other, but we spend all our time playing stupid games and we all end up losing - it's like watching two people playing chess when neither know the rules. | |
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Posted: 10/17/2004 12:27:09 AM | | Your profile, for the most part, looked fine to me. A few things, however, might benefit from some polishing. Disclaimer: I'm brand new to this site, so I don't have any experience here, but most dating sites have a supply/demand problem. There are generally way more women than men. It's like living in Alaska 40 years ago. Large demand for women, short supply. So yes, we get more inquiries. Personally, my policy has been to give everyone who writes to me on a dating site the courtesy of a reply. Unfortunately, we live in a society where manners aren't all that important to a lot of people any more. So I can understand your frustration at having your inquiries deleted without reply. Here's what I see in your profile right away. First... There's a bit in your profile where you say you don't care if a dating relationship turns into anything. Bad move. Being a woman, and talking to women often, one common complaint of ours sounds thusly... "Men don't know what the heck they want!" We're used to men giving a good show at the plate... great stance... looks like a home run hitter. Then suddenly, he bunts, and we're left standing there wondering what happened. Silly analogy, I know, but I'm betting that your slight ambiguity shows up as a bit unattractive to women reading your profile. Couple that with the fact that you're 26, employed part time, and working on your undergraduate degree. Honestly, I find it admirable that you're going to school, but some women may interpret that you're a guy who's still trying to figure out what he wants in life. A lot of women your age may already be finshed with school and established in their careers. My advice would be to sound more "defined," if you are. Say specifically what you want in a dating relationship. If you're looking for something that has the possibility of a long term bond, say so. If you just want to make friends to do fun stuff with, say so. Don't say you don't care. If you don't, why should she?? Tell a little more about what you're trying to accomplish in school. "I'm studying - fill in the blank - and my goal is to -fill in the blank." Most women are more attracted to men who know what they want out of life and are working to achieve it. I'd also suggest not mentioning that you could take a gal out with your free pass. Know how we translate that? He's cheap. He'll probably want to date dutch (which is cool if a woman offers, but most of us want to at least have a guy who offers to treat us to a nice time - we're still big on traditional romance). You could, instead, say something like, "My current profession allows me inroads to many special events that we could enjoy together." You've still got your free pass thing in mind, you're not lying, but you're making it sound a lot more attractive to her. Now, it's not, "this guy is cheap," it's "this guy has connections!" Make sense? On the up side, your profile shines in the way you very specifically present your wide range of interests. Leaves a gal going, "Wow!" That's a good thing. We women are not such a mystery. We want to be cherished. We want to love and be loved in return. Most of us want to know that the guys we date aren't just out to use us for a "good time." We want to know that the men we're dating are at least open to the possibility of an emotional bond developing if everything is right. We all want really great sex in the context of romance. Best wishes to you, darlin'. I hope you find what you seek. | |
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