| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 9:03:29 AM | **sigh** forty .... My friends bought me a helium balloon with '40' on it for mine ... after I was done staring and shaking my head at it for a week, I decided to inhale it and sound like a smurf for a minute or two ...
Forty isn't as bad as I imagined it would be when I was 30 ... I even think I'll be having as much if not more fun with life at 65~if I make it~I can growl "get off my lawn!" to young innocents and such, and it wouldn't seem out of place.....
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 10:57:37 AM | I love getting older. I waited a lifetime or so it seemed to meet the right man for me. I don't think I would have recognized his complete worth or value when I was younger.
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/24/2009 6:26:36 PM | Yeah well I'm fifty! I can kick and stretch and kick!!! (said in a Molly Shannon voice).  | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 12:12:44 AM | It's mindset.
I separated, started a new business, quit a job, moved out, had the kids move in with me, and bought a house and started a new career; all after 40; made new friends, changed churches, divorced.
I feel like my life began, not ended at 40. I LOVE it.
Looking at magic around, find things you are passioante about, reach out to other people for their own sake, discover things untapped within yourself,
It can be amazing, awesome, liberating, and magical. Get excited, this is your time :)
You do this you will find others with similar mindsets; guaranteed.
Very best of luck to you. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 1:02:52 PM | | I've had more fun in my 40's than any other age. I feel that I am more accepting of others, but I am also more selective about how I choose to spend my time. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 1:11:26 PM | | I feel u on that about spending my time | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 1:16:19 PM |
Over the top humor = obnoxious/in-secure. Cool if you're looking for someone 10/15 years younger...in which case I'll mind my P's and Q's. ~peace~
What a bunch of horse crap. LOL
Over the top humor rules. My old customers loved my over the top humor. Young and old loved me for my humor. I guess it's hard to find a woman who really likes humor. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 2:06:50 PM | Well have to admit I feel that 40 mark approaching just about 6 months from now.
Believe Im still in denial mostly, thank god I still able to exercise which does help the cause but the recovery process is longer thats for sure. The minute you feel almost back to normal its back to the gym, so basically all week your walking around beatup.
I think it does help dating slightly younger though keeps us old farts on our toes.
Least for those of us who can still keep up w/them =)
But back to your original thought, its people getting set in there ways for sure. Think about all them years living a certain way losing contact with certain friends etc . Some due to marriage, kids, totally different lifestyles. Finding that "Perfect" fit at this age is nearly impossible, one really has to bend they're ways of thinking & be highly acceptable to change along the way. Which for most people is highly challenging, I still stumble across those on here who think the "grass is greener" ya good luck w/that theory....lol | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 4:50:56 PM | I agree it is harder to meet people as most of our friends are married and don't want to go out (always a bit harder to go out on your own and look like the oldest swinger in town)
As far as everything else that goes with being 40, it's great, I'm a grown up now, don't give a rats about what other people think. Embrace it, it's a whole new chapter of your life and up to you what's written. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/25/2009 11:17:06 PM | | Age is just a number my friend. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/26/2009 8:09:54 AM | 40 was a sobering age for me, when I realized I'm not going to live forever. 30 had that effect too, but, at 40, I really, physically felt it (I was putting on weight). Thankfully, I took up bike-riding and that's helped.
Life moves at a slower pace these days. So do relationships (at least with women my age, 44, or older). We don't want to give ourselves a heart attack, aneurism or stroke with all-day/all-night sex marathons. The hormones have cooled a bit, but they can be ignited and percolated with slow, intense foreplay-! 40s are a very groovy time. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/28/2009 8:09:39 AM | I'm 41, just recently thrown back into the dating scene...
Although, the dating part is not going so well, I've made new friends, a handful of them, that are awesome. Love Them !! Hang out, Talk every day, texting...etc Its like they've been my friends for years. So, YES, its possible !!
I think it started with me, just being open to making new friends !! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/28/2009 10:51:21 AM | @OP:
Just turned 40 on Friday, the 22nd. I ended that evening reading the riot act to a snot faced kid of twenty up here on pof who kept making references to my age. I love the new outlook I have, it goes with the new attitude about myself that I have been cultivating for the past 4 years. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/28/2009 7:08:55 PM | at first i thought it's gonna totally suck to be single in my 40's.
it turns out women in their 40's rock my world. the sex is magnificent and i'm having a blast. i'm recommending the single life to all 40 somethings. those in the know say aiight. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/30/2009 12:59:48 AM | | I'm just a week or so off the big 4 0 and it's kind of weird to think I'm that age but hey, I don't feel it. I still feel as healthy as 20, have dated women in their 20's only a couple of years ago, and I could tell the generation gap. Besides, who we really are is ageless. If you keep healthy, you won't look 40 and it's the new 30 anyway! :) Plus Botox is cheaper nowdays (kidding ;) | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/30/2009 4:07:39 PM | | I LOVE being 40. The dating thing was WAY more interesting, people had definitely better experiences and stories and I found the love of my life (she's 43), so far, so good. Being in your 40s ROCKS!!!! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 5/31/2009 5:27:42 PM | So how did turning 40 turn out for you OP? I see that was three years ago. Anything interesting to report? I'm 40 this year, in December. I didn't care about turning 20, 3o wasn't an issue, 40 shouldn't be bad. I'm settled into my career, have all the trappings of being an adult, (and the bills) a little wiser, I still look not too bad for 30, and getting better every day. It does take some work.
But yeah, 40 in December for me.
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/1/2009 9:42:25 AM | turning 40 tomorrow and and am up/down about it...i don't feel 40!
it's just a number though :) most of my friends are quite a bit younger and they can't keep up to me so I think my 40th may be my best year yet. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/1/2009 12:25:52 PM | | Enjoy your birthday tomorrow Straight up!! | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/2/2009 12:08:28 PM | I know what you mean. A lot of my mates are younger than me too. I hit the nauty forties this year and I'm finding it hard to find any of them that can keep up with me too. Lookin forward to it  | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/2/2009 8:26:18 PM | does anybody check dates .... originally posted: 5/3/2005 11 50 PM
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so of course he'd be 43 or 60 by now ................. lol (but don't worry, nothing really changes @40) ....WE ALL remain single on here
regardless :p) ...by choice  | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/3/2009 11:14:38 PM | Yeah, it's all over but the crying. May as well get those shuffleboard skills up to par. You'll need them in the old folks home. It's all attitude and perspective, brah.
I work in hospitality and most of crew is eaully divided between the 20-30 and 30-40'ish crowd, and we have a blast. Go to theme parks, clubs, house partys, dinner partys, movies, bars, etc. etc. In short we have a hoot. There are so many clubs, and associations, and such that do stuff there's no reason you can't find shit to to. Join a summer league playying volleyball, or sailing, or soccer, or what have you. Same sort of jive in winter. There are tons of ways to get out, enjoy yourself and make new friends. Don't expect it if all you do is chill at home or hang out at your local bar. You have to make the effort too.
There's a whole world out there waiting to get to know you if you give them chance. | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/7/2009 11:28:51 AM |
40 was easy, 44 started to hurt ---------> heading to 50 blah
I feel your pain. On the up side, remember the half plus 7 rule; you can date a 29 year old!! That'll keep your focus away from the big 50.
Actually I know a few 50+ guys who are actively dating under 40s so its not all doom and gloom.
I don't look my age and I don't feel I should be confined to pipe and slippers. Most of my work colleagues are 20+ years younger but I can still  with them, unless they go clubbing, I hate night rave/dance music.
Growing old is unavoidable, growing up is optional  | |
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/7/2009 12:31:51 PM | There's nothing wrong about 40 infact i like the age of 40's ..how i wish i want to be 40..for me 40 is sexy a prime of life...the age of maturity where most people reach the success in life, carreer,family.And if youre single..then the wiser stage and finding the one for you,as youve been honed about past relationship.
You are what you think...you feel older and undesirable if youre not that confident..its all about attitude that matters.Embrace being 40 i still believe life begins at 40!
Number 40<< here's something about the DESIDERATA:
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Most of all do something good for yourself so that people will say "man,hes a HOT 40!
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| Hitting 40
Posted: 6/7/2009 4:59:22 PM | | Isnt 40 the new 30...I am really enjoying this part of my life, | |
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