| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 6/30/2007 10:47:56 PM |
I don't think his reply was even nasty.
-- He thanked you.
-- He listed reasons why he was not interested in you and stated his feelings.
-- He wished you good luck.
Having read your ridiculous thread and how "insulted" you feel, I think that you have supplied many further reasons to support this man's decision to reject you. It's been a while since I read anything so immature and egotistical. The idea that you call a polite but firm rejection "nasty" and react in this way shows why many people choose not to respond at all rather than respond with a "not interested thank you".
Polite would have been:
"thanks for the interest, but i am interested in a serious relationship. listing "girls night out" at the top of your fun list and "getting hammered" in the intro did not give me the impression that you were interested in something serious. if that's not the case, you may want to consider rewording those. good luck." | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:04:22 AM | Well there's your reply then....
'Thanks for replying and saying that you weren't interested but wishing me luck. In future, to avoid offending you could consider wording your response in the following way: "thanks for the interest, but i am interested in a serious relationship. listing "girls night out" at the top of your fun list and "getting hammered" in the intro did not give me the impression that you were interested in something serious. if that's not the case, you may want to consider rewording those. good luck." Good luck to you too.'
Honestly, I see very little difference between his original reply and your version of it. Of course he's talking about what you wrote: he's never met you so what else could he be talking about... I think your pride was stung but I think you'd best get over it and consider the advice you suggested that he could have given you rather than seeking to sting him back: I don't believe he intended to offend you. If he had then he'd have said much more. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 12:28:52 AM |
Well there's your reply then....
'Thanks for replying and saying that you weren't interested but wishing me luck. In future, to avoid offending you could consider wording your response in the following way: "thanks for the interest, but i am interested in a serious relationship. listing "girls night out" at the top of your fun list and "getting hammered" in the intro did not give me the impression that you were interested in something serious. if that's not the case, you may want to consider rewording those. good luck." Good luck to you too.'
rune3, thanks so much for your response. I think this is probably the best solution. However, based on all the responses that have come through I'm almost inclined to dismiss his comment. He may take my response to be offensive and then this would just never end. So, it may be best to just let this one go.
I do believe his feedback had merit. So, I went ahead and changed my profile. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:36:17 AM |
Posted By: piscescoda on 7/1/2007 12  22 AM Subject: I need a witty retort!!! Message: Aww, I like him already. Hook me up.
piscescoda...an excerpt from your profile...
"Do not bother sending me messages on how much I suck. I will only be flattered that you took time out of your OH-so busy day to contact me."
I'm flattered you took the time out for me ;) | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:43:22 AM | As someone who is very much of the same opinion as rune3, I think I can safely say that he was joking when he suggested your reply.
What this man sent you was indeed polite, honest and (I think) well-meaning. It's almost exactly what I would have said to someone in the same situation. (I'm not making a judgement about your profile OP as I didn't look at it - I just mean that a girl that doesn't look like she can be serious enough).
It hurts to be rejected, but this man at least took the time to tell you. It irritates me how some people think it's okay to completely blank people who are kind enough to contact them in response to an ad they placed for that exact purpose.
He also took the time to be helpful and give his reasons, rather than him letting you think he just saw your picture and ran for the hills.
And then he wished you luck to further demonstrate his good intentions.
Incidentally, if you want feedback on your profile, there is a forum section devoted to just that. If you're able to take a bit of stick, you can get some excellent help there. | |
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Joined: 11/15/2006
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:50:02 AM |
i doubt anyone looking for a real girlfriend would either.. good luck
I agree with the guy who sent you the message. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 2:34:27 AM |
But to respond in such a nasty way I feel I deserves a response.
I don't think his reply was nasty at all. Honest and blunt, but certainly not nasty. Don't waste another minute on this issue, and move on with your life. You have no emotional involvement with this fellow, other than your 'wink' and his brief reply, which amounts to the most trivial of anomymous internet encounters, nothing more.
With all due respect, getting even with this guy for something this trivial, smells to me like stalker/psycho ex-girlfriend behaviour. The best way to get even is to not let these things bother you, and to move on with your life. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:20:43 AM | I don't think a witty retort will do anything...
Maybe you should THANK this guy for pointing out that your profile is not going to attract the kind of man you really want...unless they are alcoholics or into "party girls".
Just remember folks "You never get a second chance to make a false impression" (c) 2006 NingenYoshi | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 5:41:14 AM | This all happened on match.com, but you ran over to POF to complain about it ?
See there ? You can get scrwed and bicth about it, all on the same site and not pay a dime over here. | |
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 38 | |
| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 7:45:56 AM | Sorry, but if you have to get your "witty retort" from someone else, it's not that witty. If you can't come up with your own...leave it alone.
The guy wasn't nasty...he was honest...he doesn't want a party girl or a barfly...why is that bad? I think you were just insulted that he called you on it.
Let it go. | |
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Joined: 4/12/2007
Msg: 39 | |
| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 8:15:54 AM | send him a blank thank you card in the mail ,, and move on
with Your life (:-) . (just a thought)
cheers | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 8:28:22 AM | How about 'i could reply to your message but im going out in a minute to get hammered with my mates and enjoy myself'
mark | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 8:33:17 AM | Why waste energy on it? You are upset he said this, so, in turn, you wish to upset him? Revenge sounds great but really, it won't get you anywhere in the long run and its best to set the example. If you think you are worth more then this idiot thinks, move on and silently prove that to yourself - that'll be more then a witty response. What he said will be nothing more then a useless memory you'll never recall, again  | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 8:46:31 AM | Honestly, I see very little difference between his original reply and your version of it. Of course he's talking about what you wrote: he's never met you so what else could he be talking about... I think your pride was stung but I think you'd best get over it and consider the advice you suggested that he could have given you rather than seeking to sting him back: I don't believe he intended to offend you. If he had then he'd have said much more.
I agree. It sounds like the OP should actually be thanking him for the constructive criticism, not looking to get vengeance over it. The guy sounds like he put a lot of thought into it and was being honest. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 8:50:11 AM | Well, I would agree with the first poster.
He took the time to read your profile, and based off what he read, he is not intrested. He was nice enough to tell you why he wasnt intrested, and wished you goodluck...
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 9:02:20 AM | Op: Rejection sucks. We all understand that. His response was less than polite and rather presumptious to boot. However, that being said, there is nothing worse than turning down someone for whatever reason and done politely even and then have them come back with a Fawk-You response (whether it be whitty or not).
Just thank him for his honesty and wish him luck in his search. Be the Better person here. Why even give him the time of day?
Good luck in your search for a better match!
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Posted: 7/1/2007 12:06:01 PM | It's kind of sad that the response can off how it did, yet your comments didn't come off the way you wanted to. If you list it don't get too upset about the way someone interprets it. We all see things different. Just take it as a lesson and think of how the things you write can be viewed. Every word the president says is reviewed by a half dozen people to get the most effect and maybe hopefully piss off the fewest people. Of course we don't have this at our disposal but be cautious and take another minute to say what you want in a different way.
Otherwise, if you are still mad you can tell him that when he wakes up having his midlife crisis saying "I never did anything fun", he should've shut his mouth and joined you in drunk jenga or any other drunken activites.
We all have our own interests. Not something I've done but sounds fun. cheers | |
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Joined: 10/14/2006
Msg: 46 | |
| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:09:56 PM | | well i think he was being honest. Most guys are not. He didnt like how you portrayed yourself in your profile. No big deal. I think many others guys would be glad to read "girls nite outs" etc. I am like him though. not interested in girls who write getting hammered in their intro. Just move on. | |
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| I need a witty retort!!!
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:16:50 PM | | Lets look at it like this, if those ARE your interest then it is clear that he does not like them. however you need to retort says something, im not gonna assume and say but really think about it. He may be at a different walk of life where getting hammered seems childish. As we know most bad decisions are made when drunk. So yeah let it go | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 12:18:27 PM | It takes all kinds! So what difference does it make?
You two don't even know each other and it's such a big deal to you? I can't even figure out what people who mean something to me are trying to say!
Suck it up! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 12:58:11 PM | | I think you are thinking his response would be like how a woman would think. Men don't get so detailed or wordy in their responses. They get to the point and say what they have to say. That's it. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2007 1:03:33 PM | I dont think that was the gentlemanly thing to do at all. Criticizing or condemning someone for that seems kind of cheap and unnecessary, especially after she showed interest with a wink. If youre going to condemn or judge someone for something so minor as that than thats pretty low. A real gentleman rejects women he doesn't want with more class than that.
He should have just ignored the wink and not said anything at all if he wasn't interested, because obviously now she feels used or slighted. Thats absolutely the wrong way to go about treating someone and i can understand why she feels robbed in some way.
I think it's appropriate to respond and say something like, "member x, Any man that shows such a lack of class when talking to me after a friendly wink is not someone i really want to get to know anyway. Im sorry you have such an issue with such a minor thing as that. Passing off or discarding another human being because of something so minor as that is really low and undignified to me. Good luck on the site and I hope you find your match."
something along those lines...you dont want to appear like a victim so be careful how you word things. | |
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