| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/10/2007 11:40:16 PM | Friends.Romans.Countrymen.
First off.through my life.I have found a confidence...yet equal feeling relationships with "older women" I Luv you all.
It's as natural as..............well ...........apple pie.
But please.....a word TO THE YOUNG BUCKS.!!
Try and treat these"older" women with respect and with a distingished nature of speech and grooming....you may make it further.
Be courtious to all people you both may meet....be strong...AND MEEK !.
You don't have to be picking fights . ...with other people she may know...Whilst trying to impress her.
She ain't your ma-ma.....she's your date.
A bottle of wine and a nice walk in the park......goes alot further than a good -ol' barfight.
With that being said.and to the original O/P's question...
Q:.younger men love older women.....
A :: YES...it's a sexual thing.Hormones equal that of a "blossoming" woman.
Q :: but rarely *date* them?
A :: Because established ...good looking...sexy "older" women ....don't fit in well to street leval boomer bars ..or crack houses.!!
Put on a Tie Young Jetti's....clean up your speech......and take the "older"women to a nice resteraunt....
Don't worry....your friends won't see you there. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/11/2007 12:07:16 AM | My best friend is over 50 and had a young guy (she was 45 he was 24ish) pursue her, date her.. move in with her... and ten years later (last year in fact) they got married.
She was so embarassed at the start she didn't even want to tell me at first. Then she told me how horrible his friends were to her when they went out in public. Then his parents had issues.
They make a perfect couple though.
My ex husband was 9 years my junior. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/11/2007 3:57:34 AM | | I think the guys who hit on you but don't want a relationship are pursuing you for the sexual fantasy side of the coin but some younger guys in your age bracket are certainly going to be thinking about having kids down the road and if they want to wait 8-10 years they may see that as an obstacle to a relationship. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/11/2007 4:58:13 AM | some younger guys in your age bracket are certainly going to be thinking about having kids down the road and if they want to wait 8-10 years they may see that as an obstacle to a relationship.
That's a big part of why I don't go out with younger guys. I am not looking for a FWB for "awhile". I also learned while married to my ex that there was a big gap in our experiences at that age. Even though my ex was brilliant in many ways, he had too much growing to do and I was impatient. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/14/2007 3:18:51 AM | My ex wife was 10 years my senior. i wasn't interested because she was older than me, her wit, her dress sense, her charm, her finesse, our attraction to each other, including the physical intimacy, and the chemistry between us melted that gap.
My parents loved her too, manys a time she would go visit them on her own while i was working and my mother loved having an older woman to talk to instead of like my brothers gfs, someone in their 20s. We ended the relaitionship for reason other than age. age didnt come into the start of it, or the end of it.
Sometimes people see past the age thing and just see their soulmate.
I would happily date an older woman who made me feel the way she did, and whom I could make feel like a woman too and develop a healthy loving relaitionship between us. I will not seek out an older or younger woman, just someone attractive to me.
However one has to be reasonable, I don't think me dating a 60 year old woman would be on the cards or a 40 year old woman dating a 20 year old. That said if both are happy I am not going to be one pouring scorn on them, thats not my place, my place is to be happy for them.
Mick. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 8:22:26 AM | I'm definitely an "older woman" (check out my pictures) and will be 51 in about two weeks. I have younger men take an interest in me all the time. It's flattering but I'm not drawn to them (maybe there are exceptions but not my preference). Personally, I prefer men my own age or near by, give or take a couple of years. I think I look damn good for my age - face (going but now gone) and body (as good or better than any 25 year old)... but I prefer manly men, healthy men MY AGE... or a couple of years older, as long as their in great shape....
What's my point here beside bragging about myself -- not all woman WANT young men. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 8:31:24 AM | Sexual compatibility is fairly easy. If a 25-year-old with a taste for confident, experienced, and uninhibited older women meets a 40-year-old with an appetite for fresh, eager and energetic young men, it clicks. Or maybe the one likes to learn, the other likes to teach. Whatever it is, that's all that's needed for some good times in the bedroom.
Dating, or growing a relationship, takes a lot more than that, and it gets to be harder to find common ground. The 25-year-old may be focused on fast-tracking a fledgling career, while the 40-year-old is well-established and beginning to plan for retirement. Maybe he's not even thinking about marriage and kids until he's got things stabilized, while she's already divorced and the kids are grown. He's hanging out at bars playing in the volleyball and dart leagues, while she's got her partying days behind her and prefers community activities and the theater.
Whatever the specifics, the point is that we're talking about two people who are probably in different stages of life. He may be looking at her and realizing she's experienced a lot that he just can't relate to yet, while she's looking at his life and thinking been there, done that, moved on.
There are exceptions, of course, but as a rule I'd say a relationship is considerably trickier. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 9:42:33 AM | | To be honest, I met a woman who was older than me (14 years older) right after my divorce was final. she was attractive, smart, funny and a great person to be around. We had a great time together. One thing I liked about her was that I am an old fashioned guy and it seems like older women like to be treated old fashioned (and I hope no one thinks I am stereo typing here). But alot of younger guys are not old fashioned and are not ready to settle down so if you are ready to get married then a 20 year old may not be. At 20 I was ready and always saw myself as a husband and a dad. That was my dream to have a family and to take care of them. But that was the key, I wanted to start a family so I would probably not have considered someone who was in their 30's and had 2 children because I figured they would not want anymore kids. I dont know if this makes sense or if I communicated very well what I was trying to say but this is my thought on the subject. also I read from another post about thinking ahead in the future, what the other person would look like in the future. I would agree with that as well, I mean if you would be 50 when I am say 35 there would not be much in the way of physical attraction (not saying that all women in their 50's are not physically attractive). Think about this, I am 34, and my mom is 53. That would be like sleeping with one of my mom's friends, and frankly that is just sick! Think about it the other way around. I have talked to several women who say that I am tired of the old perverts on here emailing me telling me how hot I am. Guys are the same way. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 9:57:04 AM |
I have talked to several women who say that I am tired of the old perverts on here emailing me telling me how hot I am. Guys are the same way.
Not all guys. Women of any age can email me and tell me how hot I am any time. :P
Hear that, ladies?
...hello?
*crickets* | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 11:00:04 AM | ^^^ A man after my own heart...
It's not all about sex, just like in any relationship, that's only part of the equation. Is sex important? Of course... that's a pretty obvious answer to a pretty obvious question. But, like in all things that involve human beings, it's not just one thing... it's the total package that matters. If you go around thinking that all or even most younger guys (whatever that means relative to you) are simply out to score and nothing else, you would be wrong.
Yes, there are other factors to consider, especially the larger the age gap gets, as you might have different goals. But, life is never cut and dry and neither are people. While the odds might be stacked against you (for whatever reason... imagined or real), you should never be afraid to take a chance.
the giggleparts - Ah.... the old cut a hole out of the bottom of the tub of popcorn trick... never fails. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 11:10:11 AM |
Not all guys. Women of any age can email me and tell me how hot I am any time. :P
Hear that, ladies?
lol I stand corrected then. I would not mind getting complimented and I do not believe that is what these women were talking about. I believe they were saying the age gap was so big that they felt like they were being pursued by old men that should stick to women their own age. I mean who doesnt like to hear that they are hot? I know I do!  | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 11:23:48 AM | ^^^ Just for you " Huntingu".. you're hot! And omg.. SherryBeachGirl ~ no way you're 51 woman! You're gorgeous.. Happy Birthday!
I too love younger men.. and I have not had a problem with them not wanting to date or have a long term relationship thus far. I had a 2 year relationship with a man when I was 35 and he was just 22 ~ and we were amazing together. He was very mature for his age.. and what can I say, the chemistry was intense and undeniable.
Me ex looks like Colin Farrell.. so ya know, age really became a non factor. lol
To the OP ~ You will find a man in the age range you seek.. fear not. I do agree.. you may just be meeting the "wrong" young ones, who perhaps just like to experience an older, more mature, and experienced woman one or twice then move on. But that's okay too.. you can leave knowing that you taught a young man a few new tricks and you will always be " the hot older chick".. all his guy friends only wish they could experience. And believe me.. you will forever linger in his mind.. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 12:01:59 PM | I am dated all the time by younger. I also have been in relationships with younger - as much as 20 years younger. The reasons the relationships ended had nothing to do with age.
The premise of this thread is inaccurate. Younger men date and get into relationships with, older women, all the time.
And it works. Very well, in fact. Every bit as well as the alternative.
To ride this ride one must be intelligent, secure, confident, witty, solvent, and realize that we are not competing age wise. I demand exactly the same thing from a 26 year old that I do from a 56 year old.
Period. :-) | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 4:16:16 PM | bethlet
no wonder you have guys of all ages falling for you.........you are gorgeous thats why.
one look from you and i would be mesmerised..........i really would.
(WHY do all the best ladies live so damn far away) | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 9:15:01 PM | I dated a younger girl once. Awful.
Granted alot of guys are immature. But not all of them. I'm mature but I don't want to settle down right now!. I'm 23 years old. Why would I plan to settle down right away when all the advice I get from older people is to not think about marriage or commitment till 28 or 30ish.
Don't give up hope, theres always exceptions to the rule. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/15/2007 10:37:44 PM | "Aging,damaged goods"??? Holy crap!
You may get "distinguished" with age- then again- you just might get old. Let's not forget the little blue pill you may need when your younger woman hits her sexual peak and you can't keep up. Then she might start looking at younger men who won't see her as "aging ,damaged goods" . | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/17/2007 7:20:51 AM | It's really a matter of personal preference. What ever makes people happy is what they should do as long as it's not hurting anyone or illegal. My personal preference is not to date anyone too much younger. 6-8 years is really about as far as I have gone in either direction.
On a related note, I will admit I tend to discriminate against women my age who have their filter set to date an 18 yr old. I won't date a 25 yr old because we're not in the same place in life and not going to have as much in common. I guess I tend to think that women my age who are looking to date people 18-20 yrs younger than themselves are probably either in some sort of midlife crisis mode or else they aren't going to be in the same place as me maturity wise. Nothing is written in cement but that is how I think.
Just my .02 your mileage may vary. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/17/2007 7:51:21 AM | | To me age is no more than a number, and have usually, but not exclusively, dated women older than myself. I think a lot of younger men don't "date" older women because those older women are not looking to "date" younger men! | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/17/2007 8:55:52 AM | In response to Vitiate.
A younger guy is exactly that....YOUNGER. They can find an older woman attractive NOW and since cougars put out much more readily than the girls that are say...18 or so...a younger guy will have NO QUALMS about bedding a cougar.
That might be true, for Cougars. I'm not one and I can tell from looking at your photos that while I may have a head start on the aging process, you wouldn't turn my head anyway, so consider yourself safe.
Date one?....Are you CRAZY?...Why would a younger guy want to date an older woman that will get older faster than they will, sag faster, wrinkle faster...basically get ugly earlier.
We don't age faster, Boy. We age at the same rate as you and some show it more, some show it less than others. You think you're going to be distinguished when you're in your 40's? Dream on. That is class that comes from the inside and manifests itself in a man's face. You are ugly on the inside and it is likely that as you age that ugliness is what will show. You end up with the face that you have earned, whether through constantly frowning, laughing, crying, drinking too much, smoking, too much sun.
You get the face you've earned. I am not curious to know what kind of face you end up with, I think that the excrement that came out of your mouth is telling enough.
Why?...Because you older women are OK to f*ck...but by and large are aging, damaged goods.
Spoken like an ignorant pup.
Now...
If I throw a stick, will you leave? | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 7/17/2007 10:22:13 AM | ^^^^^^ (Irreverent Lass) Great response to an ignorant, self absorbed idiot who is nothing special to look at.
Why do people feel that, just because we have freedom of expression, it means they can say whatever they want without considering the feelings of others.
Consideration is a much more attractive trait than ignorance.
Sorry.... "Vitiate's" post just made my blood boil.
OP - great thread. | |
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