| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 8:35:33 AM | Well, when I was about twenty-two I dated a woman who was thirty-seven, and wasn't the least bit intimidated by the idea. She was good looking, fun to be with, and great in bed - what would be intimidating? Even now I am dating someone a couple of years older than me. Still, I think when dating someone significantly older (say, ten or more years, or in my case, fifteen) a few concerns come up, such as kids (which crazycurlz mentioned) and also (though it is extremely shallow) what another ten years is going to do in the looks department.
Oh, and it may have already been asked, but why exactly do you prefer younger men anyway? | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 9:05:48 AM | | I agree with what many people have already stated. It often depends on the amount of the age difference. I'm 28. I would date a man in his mid to late 30s. However I couldn't have a LTR with a man in his mid to late 40s. The age difference might not be a problem right now, but it could be a problem in the future. When he is ready to retire ( around 65 yrs old ), I would still be around 45 yrs old. When I'm ready to retire, he could already be dead. Therfore most likely we couldn't enjoy our retirement together. I'm sure many younger men feel the same way about much older women. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 10:00:24 AM | OK here goes: I've been on both sides of the spectrum
My ex was 19 yrs older than me. I would still be married to him and age was never an issue. However his selfishness and ***hole attitude was an issue.
Now it seems the men my age want younger women or have such an old outlook on life (sit in the chair and look at tv) I cant be around them.
For myself personally I've found men 10 yrs younger are more compatible with me. I don't worry about 10yrs from now because of the way I've aged and the women in my family age. I'll always look and feel younger ! I'm 50 and don't mind telling it! I earned every yr, and am better for it! I actually dated a 32 yr old who was much older than me 
It all boils down to the personality of the people involved , if you are happy go for it !!! | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/19/2007 11:32:53 AM | i once met an older woman ( 53) for a coffee date, we snogged and i rubbed her gorgeous legs ( in tights/hose) up and down in her car....phew it was amazing.
i would love to date and be with an older lady......the more mature lady knows how to dress and wear more feminine underwear.....uuummmmm.
yes i would date a much older lady than my self tho i wouldnt have any problems dating a much younger woman either.
younger women tho it seems have more of a problem with older men tho....as tho its disgusting.
i cant speak for all guys as some older men are not genuine or honourable but if only these younger women knew what older guys could do for them....!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 6:46:41 AM | I myself have dated an older woman 38 and I 21. We went to a bar ate and drank and I had no intention in sleeping with her. My whole goal to myself is to prove to myself that I could date older.
I've dated girls my age and young IT NEVER WORKS OUT. My maturity sets me apart in years not months. My last steady girl friend just turned 24 and we got along great. One after that 20 and broke it off in a month.
Maturity and communication is key to ANY relationship. It all depends on where you are in life that really determines the relationship. Most girls when they find out I'm younger than them they drop me like a bad habit and don't give me a chance...there loss. But the ones to try for it with nothing to loose just to see what happens are presently surprised.
So ladies if hes pursuing you with intent to date let him have a shot were only on this earth for so long and you'll be amazed at what happens.
I myself will continue the hunt for older women because i don't date my age or younger knowing it won't work, there are select few who are mature enough and I DO notice. Most of the time though they lack maturity. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 7:50:19 AM | Scorpiomover wrote:
It's just the latest fad to be a young, fit guy, or to be a sexy, older woman. There is a word for women like this: MILF. There is no equivalent positive name for a young woman, only insulting and degrading ones.
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Huh. I could have sworn that "Mother I'd Like To Fu*ck" was insulting and degrading. It does not mean "Mother I'd Like To Be In A Relationship With". It means "Mother I'd Like To Use As A Place To Stick My Penis And Not Have To Care About Her In Any Way Afterwards".
I'm relatively sure it does not get more insulting and degrading than that.
Oh wait. Yeah. It does. "Cougar". | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 8:04:36 AM | I could have sworn that "Mother I'd Like To Fu*ck" was insulting and degrading.
How is it in anyway insulting to an older woman if a man her son's age finds her extremely sexually attractive? Can't you see how that's a great compliment? Most women I know are very flattered by it. Most women I know would be freaked out by the addition of the "LTR" element. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 8:11:14 AM | Well, lets see. How about we women coin a term "MILTUFHM" - "Man I'd Like To Use For His Money?"
That's OUR equivalent of the shallowness of "MILF"......
Think with something OTHER than your penis for once. You think the ONLY thing a woman has of value is her vagina. Oddly enough, we women think we have a lot more of value than that. A man who ONLY is interested in a woman's vagina calls them a "MILF". A woman who ONLY is interested in a man for, shall we say, his money....calls them a "Sugar Daddy", i.e. "MULTUFHM".
Is it insulting yet? Or would you love to be appreciated JUST for your checkbook? Wouldn't you be FLATTERED that a woman would think you were sooooo successful and able to make such a great living?
Any older woman who is flattered by a shallow compliment like "Hey. NICE VAGINA"....well, I think that speaks for itself. *shrug* Each to their own. For me, being called "MILF" is exactly the same thing as spitting on me. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 8:43:47 AM | I happen to agree with bethlet on this.....
MILF.....is a total disgusting way to describe an older woman...they deserve so much more respect than that, matter of fact all women regardless of age deserve respect when dating..
Myself.....I will date a woman 10 years either side of my age of 41yrs....and would be happy to be in a long term relationship with them as well...
I would hate to be called a " sugar daddy" or worse...
Why must sex be brought up when talking about dating someone......you get to make love to a women's mind before her body....
Get to know your date on emotional level first and the physical part will come if you are compatible...
So......all the young fellas who are attracted to older women and wish to date them......show these ladies a lot of respect and treat them as you would like to be treated...
Cheers | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:13:16 AM | I was not defending the term MILF or any other term with the word "f*ck" in it because I can understand some folks not liking bad words. My questions were regarding a woman being found sexually attractive by younger men and feeling complimented by it
The author came back and after first commenting on my penis tried to explain by relating sexual attraction to money attraction. However, there is an equivalent expression for sugar daddy for women and that is sugar momma. I would think that both sexes would not find that a compliment. So, my questions were still not really addressed.
Fortunately, along came another writer, a man making his living as a nurse. He explained that the disgusting part was related to having sexual attraction towards a woman before you love her mind first. However, in his advice at the end, he tells young men to use the Golden Rule (Do onto others as you would have then do onto you.) if they find themselves attracted to older women. I assume he was referring being attracted to their minds because earlier in his comments we already learned that it is not right to have any sexual attraction until the men have explored the wonderfulness of the woman’s mind first. Then it dawned on me that some young fellow reading how he should apply the Golden Rule may use it incorrectly. If he wrongly and disgustingly finds himself wanting to just f*ck an older woman, he may see it as okay to actually enjoy the idea of her doing onto him what he desires to do to her.
Thank you both so much for the enlightenment. For so many years I have felt highly complimented by younger women being sexually attracted to me. I see now how that is wrong and considered disgusting. I also see now how it is really the excitement of exploring the young man’s mind that these older women enjoy. For those older women that do date young men, they surely must rush through the sex part so they can enjoy talking afterwards.
I sure hope my penis is not upset with me later because I did not ask his opinion at all. You see, the little guy can be very rude. I will remember to let him know that he came up in the conversation today. He loves being the center of attention so he should be pleased. Pleased by an older woman too. woo woo
Thanks again | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 11/20/2007 11:27:34 AM | "For so many years I have felt highly complimented by younger women being sexually attracted to me."
lol. I know for sure that you completely understand what I am saying and are just being arguementative for the sake of being arguementative - for you seem to be intelligent. That, I hope, removes the chance of you being clueless as to the differences between men and women regarding sex.
Unless, of course, you are under the impression that if I go to the next Ladies Garden Club and say "Whoa, guess how many 20 year old guys I did last weekend???? TEN!"....they will all say "RIGHT ON, you MILF, you STUDETTE, you ROCK!!!" and pat me on the back.
If you, however, go to the next Guy's Golf Gettogether and repeat the same, only alluding to the 20 year old females, you will be given a trophy. And they will all be jealous.
Of course....that will not ever happen to you. Unless you have a LOT of money. And I do mean a LOT. (including the trip to Vegas)
And the possibility of ME being ABLE to make that a reality right here where I live is 100%.
Course, that would make you a Sugar Daddy.
And that would make me not only a MILF but also in need of therapy AND probably labeled something similar to "slut".
Which is really the difference, isn't it. You WISH you were a Milf.
However.
In an effort to stay ON TOPIC...the question is "Why do younger men love older women but rarely *date* them?
The question itself is incorrect. The correct version of the question should be "Why do younger men *date* older women but rarely *love* them? I think the OP was referring to *dating* as an ongoing relationship where they go out together and are seen in public together as a couple. They don't do that because they don't *love* older women. They only *lust* older women. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/19/2008 6:20:51 AM | that's an easy one...
older women teach younger men how to be better sexually... but dating them means giving up the need of being the knowledgeable partner or lead...
then the younger man can go and find a woman his own age to show her how good and experienced he is in bed...
further it's a male's instinct to propogate the species... and that places the desire on younger women more so than older women... | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:59:44 AM |
but those same guys are more than a little excited about having a woman like me as an ongoing fwb or occasional fling. we're a fantasy
OP. You are mistaken "fantasy" for "an easy lay". Younger guys go for older women for one reason, and one reason only. There are a few exceptions, but in general (90%+) it has to do with easy non-committal sex. Sorry for the bad news but it is the harsh reality. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/20/2008 12:03:04 PM | Younger guys go for older women for one reason, and one reason only. There are a few exceptions, but in general (90%+) it has to do with easy non-committal sex.
I don't think the percentage is that high. Yes there are many younger men that will want to use an older woman for sex. But there are many men around my age or older who are just looking for sex as well. There are also many younger men who would seriously date an older woman. Since my divorce, most of my relationships have been with younger men. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/20/2008 4:42:35 PM |
There are also many younger men who would seriously date an older woman. Since my divorce, most of my relationships have been with younger men.
Sure there is always exception. But the vast majority is not in it for a relationship. Ask yourself honestly, what kind of relationship did you really have with these younger men? What level of commitment was involved? | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/20/2008 4:58:13 PM | | I couldn't agree more, but the trend is changing as men realise they are losing half their assets in a divorce from the younger women, and the benefits are definitely there dating a 40+ woman. I travel light these days. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/20/2008 5:10:51 PM | A few years ago I dated a guy who was 26 years younger then my self. it wasn't just sex. we dated for 3.5 yrs. we dated in public here as well as went on holidays to Banff, BC. the US for a week or so at a time.
My friends and family knew and some of them met him.
He was proud to take me out in public and I was proud to be with him.
He treated me with respect and dignity, and yes the sex part was good in case your wondering.
"I' broke it off only because I didn't think it would work out long term as I had my kids and he wanted a son which I no longer could give him.
Love has no age.
I also dated a couple of younger guys from this site, they would take me out and not just to bed.
When your Hot, your Hot...........I have found the younger guys I dated to be far more advanced, experienced as well as we had more in common than the ones over 55.
These men had their family and they were done playing the field or taking a girl out for one thing. I'm not into one night stands, their has to be feelings there, I also have good morals,
Their is some sensable men on this site.
I never got as far as reading past the first 3 posts.. | |
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| Why do younger men love older women, but rarely *date* them?
Posted: 5/20/2008 8:55:45 PM | Sure there is always exception. But the vast majority is not in it for a relationship. Ask yourself honestly, what kind of relationship did you really have with these younger men? What level of commitment was involved?
Many of my relationships with younger men were more than just sex although the sex was great. LOL. I did a lot of things with these men whether it was going to sporting events, concerts, weekend trips etc. As I stated earlier, I know that there are a fair amount of younger men that are only looking for sex with an older women. But there are also a fair amount of men around my age or older that are also only looking for sex. | |
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