| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/12/2007 7:05:10 AM | No, I don't think its dead, it just dosen't seem to happen associated with "dating" casually, the only time it seems to really happen is when you are "regularly" dating the same guy, I find anyways.
Ps. The most "romantic" thing that happened to me, was I had this one b/f who I gave a key to my place, I came home and he filled my place with flowers and like 10 different "helium" balloons.... it was awesome! | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/12/2007 10:05:01 AM | | nah its not, its that it isnt good enough. I took a girl from this site out for a very expensive candlelit dinner, dozen roses, hit it off great and the next day she was after someone else. Maybe I just find being a romantic is a good way for women to take advantage of that. I have yet to find a women that can handle romance day in, and day out. aggreed? | |
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Posted: 8/27/2007 11:08:46 PM | Hey! What happened to 'flirting'? What happened to 'petting' What happened to those endless nights of tossing and turning? The yearning, the 'thinking of you all of the time'?
Fick! WHAT!? I am weird? What happened to 'love notes'?
So men aren't supposed to be romantic? Romance is Not a 'gender' based kinda thing.
What happened to the 'first (nervous) kiss'? Under the moon and stars?
Come on everyone. It's not a shameful act you know. Romance that is.
Hello?
Well it's not not dead here kitty. Nor has it lost it's luster. Look up outside tonight.
Is that not the moon? And is she not smiling? Hush my heavy heart. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2007 11:30:38 PM | I just got this book I used to have. Decided to get a new copy. Why a new copy you ask.
Because I get so frigging stoned in the'Romantic mode' . No sh*t. I have in the past near gotten run over (several times)wandering down the street in this blissful haze on the way home from her place.
Then one day I was listening to this interview of the author on CBC radio. I needed an explanation thats all, and I got it from this book. It's called, "The Alchemy of Love and Lust" By Dr. Teressa Crenshaw. Why a new copy? Cause the women never return it.
More of a women's book it is but there is something in the soul that makes us break these codes of conduct. And yes it is so about manners. I prefer the word, conduct. -how you conduct yourselves in the proccess. That 'lack of conduct' (or manners) is not gender baqsed either. Both men and women screw up the "romance" thing for various reasons including fear. No it is not dead.
That is why I do not believe in the "long talks" right off of the hop. That to me is a lack of manners" or conduct. Who the heck bears their soul or a 1st 2nd or 3rd date. No not I. Read My profile if I haven't cut that part out yet. | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/28/2007 1:43:36 PM | Romance is like happiness...a by-product of how we live our lives. Not a constant state of being. Whining and dining, flowers, the little surprises, chemistry a big plus.
Dead...I don't believe that...evolving perhaps, dormant in some, and it works best if it's give and take. | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/17/2009 10:35:57 PM | In the area I live in, I could almost say romance is dead - if I didn't believe how marvelous it is, and how important it is to a relationship. Going beyond what anyone defines it (since it IS a very general but very personal one) if there is no romance between two people, it doesn't quite matter how much 'chemistry' there may be... because if you don't know how to make your partner happy, treat them right and make them feel good in that way nobody else does (or if your partner doesn't know) then really all you have are some stray elements in some test tubes that don't explode when mixed together. :P
I am a romantic and love being able to do things for someone that nobody else can do, or things that make the woman I'm (not) with feel great, comfortable, and loved. It's great for me to be able to spend time with such a woman, doing special things or lazy things - on a couch with a duvet, candles and a movie, or perhaps a relaxing massage after she gets home from work... or perhaps making love and cuddling for hours until we fall asleep.
Yes, I said it - sex can be romantic, and really it should be. I think it's a very important part of a relationship, but it's not the basis of one. The relationship should be there before the sex.
So... getting back on-topic, I have to say no. Romance isn't dead, but it is bruised a bit by the vocal apes trying to just get laid. | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:08:56 AM | It sure seem to be,especially on here along with honesty, morals and self respect. f**k buddies or friends with benefits have replaced the age old tradition of romance and relationships for many in our so called FAST PACED society. Why slave over a hot stove to prepare a home cooked meal filled with love when you can just run to 7 eleven and grab a frozen pizza pop and tomorrow a corn dog. The taste of the home cooked meal will linger. The quick ,easy, no work way will always leave a bad taste in your mouth. Learn to take the time to cook. | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/18/2009 8:31:06 AM | | Its not dead - it merely took a sabbatical - it was chased away temporarily by the feminist movement. | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/18/2009 9:37:33 AM | ^^^^
are you saying it went over the rainbow to the other side just so not to be out done | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/18/2009 10:10:33 AM | dead as a doorknob in the petrified forest  | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:20:57 AM | Consider this
Romance isn't dead, but it is bruised a bit by the vocal apes trying to just get laid.
added to this
it was chased away temporarily by the feminist movement.
Equals this ~
Its not dead - it merely took a sabbatical
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/18/2009 11:18:35 AM | Like so many have already said here, it depends on your definition of 'romance'.
Each caring, considerate man has his own unique way of expressing love (aside from sex), just as each person has his or her own speech mannerism. If it doesn't flow from within, it's a duty or an effort, and I'd rather he didn't do it.
A chore that's difficult for you ... you come home from some errand, and he's done it; taking you somewhere but he won't tell you where till you get there, and it's a nice surprise he found (like a new hidden lake with lots of birds on it to photograph). It doesn't matter what it is; if it's meant to please you and it comes from the heart, it's romantic. If it's fulfilling an expectation or a duty, then it isn't romance; it's a price paid.
Anyway, that's my take on it. | |
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:33:51 PM | | Romance is so much alive...you have to let your heart be open and if a man comes along that wants to romance you...accept it. He is one in a million on here...so if you find romance...don't discount it. For me romance..is just that..its romantic. If someone takes the time to romance you...find out more about him or her...there are so many players on here I feel like I am in a poker tournament. Don't question it...go with the flow...what do you have to lose? Life is short so if you find someone who wants to romance you..go for it!!!! There will always be negative people but you dont' have to accept them into your life..go with the flow and give love a chance...good luck my friend..hugs MsBehavin | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/23/2009 11:44:16 AM | not at all - but it's always helpful to check first and make sure the person you are feeling all giggly about is really human and not just an android or a complete and utter waste of carbon matter - rose-coloured glasses can disguise that telltale blue tinge! LOL! embarrassing later when they bleed green or start to smell bad
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/24/2009 9:00:46 PM | Hey DCT.. nice post and so happy to see your keyboard does not get stuck on certain characters...  I really do enjoy your posts, but when your keyboard gets stuck it is hard to take them seriously.. Welcome Back! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 8:44:30 PM | no romance is not dead.....
you certainly dont see alot of it, but I have minor proof that it does infact still exist
two nights ago, my ex, whom I love dearly but am no longer in love with, came to me and told me he missed me and would I just hang out with him for a while?
we went to the beach and sat and talked and we had a wonderful time, listening to the music from my truck. Then he took me by the hand and we danced on the beach to Van Morrison`s Into the mystic, then he sang Patsy Clines Crazy to me.....
romance is not dead, its in remission | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/28/2009 11:47:58 PM | we could always slow it's heartbeat down, refrigerate it, freeze it in a coma state...then try to revive it! if we throw it in the pond and it floats, it's guilty! if it sinks, we'll compose a special sonnet...
The Claw (gettin kind of sick of insipid threads, if you don't mind me SAYIN!!!!) | |
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Posted: 8/28/2009 11:57:47 PM | | romance isn't dead but i think it was seriously wounded in the eighties might have been those parachute pants | |
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Posted: 8/29/2009 12:01:48 AM | no it was the rock singers with big hair, spandex pants, neon shirts (cropped even! GAAAAG!) and disco and it's all a nightmarish blur thank god i was barely conscious during that decade and had enough sense to slope off and listen to some decent music once in awhile.... 
The Girl Your Mother Always Warned You About | |
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| is romance dead?
Posted: 8/29/2009 9:47:33 AM | No it isn't dead. I think the perception of what romance is, may have changed along the way but its still very much alive. I was told last week by my other half (his quote) "that I may not be the most emotional person and I may not show it well but I will do what I can so you know how much I care".
I went out for about an hour to do some errands, and when I came back, he had pulled out some candles that I had bought, lit them, set the picnic table and had dinner on the bbq.
To me, that was romantic and that's all that counts. | |
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