| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/18/2008 3:36:36 PM | I do agree, don't ask if you " CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH " !!
I have asked, and DAMN, I wish I hadn't !!! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:39:09 PM | Re the OPost:
Her sexual past is none of my business but much of my "pleasure". Our sexual experiences help in defining who we are today, and knowing your partner includes that, IMO.. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/18/2008 4:56:25 PM | in my opinion its a waste of time to ask a woman how many guys they slept with because you will never get the truth. plus i know for a fact that women only count the good lovers not the bad. thats the reason why they usually say they slept with 7 or 8. i met a woman the other day from pof who's 39 years old said she only slept with 4 guys....yea right! i've always said women are the biggest liars. its so easy for women to give up the booty. lets say you work with a girl on the 20th floor, she tells you shes going downstairs to get some coffee, she can meet a guy in the elevator on her way down, lift up her skirt and **** the guy in 45 seconds and nobody will know anything. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/18/2008 7:28:50 PM | | I wouldn't say at the beginning of the relationship, but before the first sexual experience with that person, I would like to know something of her past sexual experiences. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/18/2008 8:17:28 PM |
I wouldn't date a chick who was with over 10 guys. She's more likely to be unfaithful.
I wouldn't necessarily agree with that statement. There is no 'magic' number.
I would say though, that the more sexual partners you have had, the easier it is to become sexual with someone new. That's regardless of whether he or she is cheating, or simply moving on. It's simply common sense, the more you do something, the easier it gets. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/18/2008 8:37:18 PM |
i met a woman the other day from pof who's 39 years old said she only slept with 4 guys....yea right!
Why is that so impossible? It really depends on how many of her sexually active years she was single, doesn't it? If a woman (or man) was in one relationship for most of their adult lives, that's not unreasonable. Not that I think there's anything "wrong" with ANYONE who has a higher number, but it's not necessarily unbelievable. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:17:59 AM | | I don't understand the term "slutting around". for every woman you are talking about she had a partner. that's just a sexist comment. how is number of partners relevant to ability to be loyal? that correlation sounds like its coming from an insecure person. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 7:42:15 AM | I would disclose this to someone before being intimate with but not someone I was just talking to.
I don't think someone needs to know a brief history of every partner you've ever had, its more important to get an idea of the number of partners they've had and what type of people they've been with.
It does work two ways guys. Some men won't sleep with a woman who's had a lot of partners and some women won't sleep with a man who's had a lot of partners.
I've always believed that information allows one to make an informed decision. I'd rather know upfront roughly how many partners they've had and then its my choice whether or not to go forward.
I know most won't agree with me but I'm more than ok with that.
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 7:47:03 AM | great expert 900 writes: :
in my opinion its a waste of time to ask a woman how many guys they slept with because you will never get the truth. plus i know for a fact that women only count the good lovers not the bad. thats the reason why they usually say they slept with 7 or 8
It really pisses me off when someone lumps all women into the same mold. If you feel the women are lying to you, perhaps its more the type of women you date. I don't have a problem being honest about my number but then honesty means more to some people than to others.
its so easy for women to give up the booty. lets say you work with a girl on the 20th floor, she tells you shes going downstairs to get some coffee, she can meet a guy in the elevator on her way down, lift up her skirt and **** the guy in 45 seconds and nobody will know anything.
Would a women that you date even count an encounter that lasted such a short time?
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:06:24 AM | | It's such a touchy subject, because most people (men AND women) will lie about their numbers. Not because they have been whoring around for years and have been with millions, but because there is a fine line that exists (for some people) where you are either going to be a prude or a whore. I have never asked a guy for his "number" because I probably wouldn't want to hear it anyhow. It doesn't matter. There are only TWO things that matter when it comes to sexuality 1) is being safe about things. People need to be upfront and honest about STD's if they have them, and 2) sexual habits (S&M, 3somes, stuff like that). | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:19:12 AM | We're all a culmination of our life's experiences. Just because I know what I know doesn't mean I learned it from 1,000 women. All it takes is 1 open-minded person who wants to explore with you, and you can get all the experience you want.
That being said, what happened in the past is part of what makes us all who we are. You can't hold that against someone if you ever accept it in the beginning just to get your pathetic [ock wet. If you accept someone for who they are, then the rest doesn't matter. It's what people do forward of this point which really defines who they are today - not crap they did 12 years ago.
I'd rather have someone with some experience than next to none. That doesn't mean she has to have 500 guys, but it doesn't always mean it's 1-20, either.
If you are so insecure that you're worried about who she banged in every room the two of you walk into, I guess that's your issue. Not hers. Get over it. If you brought enough to the table, it would come with some self-confidence and sense of self-worth. Who she had sex last year really just wouldn't be a matter of contention.
STD status is very much a need to know thing, regardless of promiscuity status. Protect yourself - nobody else will do it for you. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:30:06 AM | You are entitled to know if your partner has a STD and that's about it.
Numbers & frequency are none of my business and visa versa. If someone tried to grill me about ancient history I wouldn't answer . | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:35:19 AM | | No. Her past is her business. If you are worried about getting cooties you can politely suggest to her that it would be a good idea for the both of you to be tested for diseases before you have unprotected sex. If she objects to this, then she has deeper issues that you had better explore together. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:37:16 AM | | Noneya!!!! The only thing that should matter is that you both get tested before you throw the Jimmy hat out the window! Other than that it's not your business where she's been. And vice versa on the dudes too. I don't care what/who he's done so long as he isn't bringing me home some STD! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:52:53 AM | | Heathenistic, that was well said. It is good to read a thoughtful and well-reasoned reply in the midst of all the self-serving nonsense. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:15:43 PM | Would a women that you date even count an encounter that lasted such a short time?
HR
happyrebel.....all the sex count, it doesn't matter if it lasted an hour or 30 seconds. when somebody ask you ladies how many guys you slept with, they're not concerned about length of time, they wanna know how many guys you sucked off and how many penetrated your vagina. i never ask because most women will lie. i judge them based on how easy they gave it up to me. if she was easy i know darn well she gave it up to other guys just as easy. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:30:06 PM | | ..............and if you sunk that sucker in there, wouldn't that make you every bit as easy....????? | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 1:31:20 PM | | Aside from testing for STDs your out of line I am 48 at what age do we stop giving or asking for the rundown on ones sexual history maybe a question about their sexuality would be appropriate always hetro bi gay etc but the history come on thats a bit much | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:11:29 PM | | Anyone's sexual history is their own business. If, as a relationship develops, an individual wants to divulge a bit of history, it is up to that person. The only situation where it is really important is if an STD is present. I'm over 50 and I have an extensive array of women in my "past" and in the course of conversation I often refer to past relationships to explain a point. My partner is the same age and has had her own share of "experiences", but I would never pass any judgements on the relative quality of a person based on these. It's the woman NOW that I'm interested in! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:23:46 PM | | The only information a person is entitled to is anything STD related. Have they had one recently, last test, etc etc. If they want to know "numbers" and who, that's a self-esteem issue. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:12:57 PM | ..............and if you sunk that sucker in there, wouldn't that make you every bit as easy....?????
excuse me but i'm not hardly easy, i turned down many women before. i have sex on my own terms not theirs. | |
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