| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:21:31 PM |
Do you think you have the right to know your partners sexual history? Ie. a Brief description of every guy shes slept with? Same question for the females...gender reversed.
The answer to that question will never be what you want to hear. Even if she's slept with one or two guys who were both virgins that'll be too much for you.
Nature pushes men to desire women who have little or no sexual history. If you have a solid, committed, monogamous relationship and are considering marriage, don't let something like that get in the way.
Have a healthy boundary in the relationship where talking about previous sex partners is off limits. Nobody wants the image of their S.O. with her previous sex partner floating around inside their head.
What everyone DOES have a right to, IMO, is knowledge about STI's. If she has HIV, herpes, HPV, Hepatitis, or anything of the sort, you have a right to know! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 3:45:57 PM | | I agree completely with Chris. However if you find out something about him/her down the line like they had sex with 200 people or were cheaters you do have the right and probably should look into it. Outside of that most times you don't want to know. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:05:23 PM | | I know that I would like to know something. It can tell you what kind of person you are with or what they may prefer. BUT YES, I think everyone has a right to know their partners history at SOME point. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:28:27 PM | | Any sexual past is a reasonable business. The only thing you need to ask is: "When is the last time you had sex? And when is the last time you were tested?" | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 9:42:29 PM | Never mind when the last test she and I were "tested" was! Even if she provides official results. I still always use a condom and not just for STI reasons, except well into a very serious LTR and then only some of the times and only if pregnancy is not a danger (see age of partner). Talking about each others previous rels and sexual experiences is a very interesting, useful and bonding tool, in the day and age.
I dropped a GF who told me that she did not realise (!!!) that her prev BF did not use a condom, in seconds, because I thought that meant that her brain was not in the right place. There is a lot one can gain insight into another person and her personality and brains merely talking of each other's sexual experiences and practices. So it is in no way off limits discussion for me.
Denial to discuss or evidence of BS is good reason for immediate breakup, IMO. This is not late 19th century England!!!
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:30:54 PM | i like knowing how many ppl my date/ partner slept with ..ummm not that it would change anything ..its in the passed But i like knowing lol
ppl are looking 2 much in to this ..its just a random question like any other .
y wouldnt ppl just say the damn number ..no one should be ashamed or scared to talk bout their passed .
i dont think anyone has the right to kno though ..if your parner/date is comfortable enough to say it ..thats cool ...but no one should feel obligated to talk bout their sexual history | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 10:50:34 PM | | I personally never tell any guy what my real number is. Frankly it is none of their business....all they need to know is that I don't and have not had any std's. Same with the guy, i don't want to know how many people he has slept with | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 11:44:29 PM | See. It's different with girls. We wanna know when you were last tested cause if we're going down on you, that can give us all sorts of transferable diseases and infections. However, if you're going down on us, unless you tear something (which you shouldn't be doing, by the way) there isn't nearly as much you can get from us.
Yes yes, always wear a rubber. The number of partners shouldn't matter. The past isn't tangible. It's gone. Over. Focus on them now. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/19/2008 11:52:34 PM | | HER sexual past is just that..HERS..not yours.......just as YOUR sexual past is YOURS not hers.... therefore it should stay where it is IN THE PAST...you cannot Judge anyone by what was...only by who they are now......and anyway WHO are you to Judge anyone.........if she had 3 lovers before you and you had 2 does that make you better than her..???.....leave the past where it is and concetrate on the Future..THAT you have some control over... | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:23:18 AM | | i only had one woman tell me the truth about how many guys she ****ed, this chic admitted she ****ed over 100 guys and she was only 25 at the time...i found that hard to believe. despite that number, i was still interested in her because up to this day, she still has the best **** of them all. one thing i found out though, that line that women who ****ed alot of guys have bigger and wider pussies is just a myth because this chic was still tight and her lips wasn't hanging out loosely. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 4:38:16 AM | Re post 309 as it pertains to the Opost:
"HER sexual past is just that..HERS..not yours.......just as YOUR sexual past is YOURS not hers...."
I do not see the rationale behind "hers" and "his" and "ownership" of "pasts".
" therefore it should stay where it is IN THE PAST..."
History is a most interesting and fascinating subject!
"you cannot Judge anyone by what was..."
It is not a matter of "judging" per se.
"only by who they are now......"
Convenient!
"and anyway WHO are you to Judge anyone........."
A potential lover and SO? Someone making a "selection"?
"if she had 3 lovers before you and you had 2 does that make you better than her..???"
It (number of lovers) does not seem that that is what the Opost referred to, per se!
".....leave the past where it is and concetrate on the Future..THAT you have some control over..."
Who says anyone has any Real "control" over anything? It is about control, or rather, it should not be (about control). It is about life, as in "c'est la vie" and "dust in the wind".
I hope the above comments help re insight into the topic!
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:46:21 AM | | If you are in a relationship that's actually going somewhere, there are no topics that are off limits including sexual pasts. Although, I agree that one should concentrate on the future and not the past but to make parts of your life taboo seems like there is a lack of trust to build on. Now, if you are the type that really just doesn't want to know about your partner, that's fine. I also think that it's impossible to remember everything so I don't remember is sometimes the honest answer. I also think that one should not feel like they are getting grilled by the police or that there be ANY negative judgments resulting from sexual honesty. In other words, if you ask, you better be able to handle what they tell you with a smile or you should not ask at all. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:07:48 AM | If you are in a relationship that's actually going somewhere, there are no topics that are off limits including sexual pasts. Although, I agree that one should concentrate on the future and not the past but to make parts of your life taboo seems like there is a lack of trust to build on.
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Yes, but that doesn't make it your "RIGHT"! If he/she wants to tell you that's all good and well but what would be a good reason for asking a question like that anyway? You don't discuss your bathroom motions or your flatulance...a couple can be TOO close! There are some things you just don't ever need to know!!! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 6:28:45 AM | | Unless the other has a disease from priors, NO its nobobys business but your own. I have found a great quote that I live by emphatically: by George M. Lamsa: As long as a secret is secure in your heart, you are its master, and you can ride on it. As soon as you disclose it, it becomes your master and rides on you. Never did I find this so true until my ex asked for a divorce, the secrets were used as a weapon. Nobodys business but my own. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 8:49:36 AM | | mojo......i never aske a woman how many guys she slept with, i can judge that by how easy she gave up the booty to me. if she was easy with me i know she had to be that easy with many others. i know i'm great but not that irresistable to the point where she'll drop her panties in 5 minutes | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 10:51:14 AM | "mojo......i never aske a woman how many guys she slept with, i can judge that by how easy she gave up the booty to me. if she was easy with me i know she had to be that easy with many others. i know i'm great but not that irresistable to the point where she'll drop her panties in 5 minutes "
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HA, HA, HA, HA, HA!
I don't think so dear!...i slept with my childrens father on the 1st date, we knew each other before that but we weren't a couple in any sense of the word!...i dropped mine in about 5 seconds!!! guess what?...he was only my 2nd sexual partner! The 1st guy i had sex with only once so was somewhat of a novice...practically a virgin! We were together for 6 years so i must have done something right! Oh, and those are the only 2 sexual partners i've ever had...i am not loose or easy but i do love a good romp!
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:11:28 PM | I want to know because it lets me know what they are comfortable with, and what if any inhibitions they have....not to judge them....that is not acceptable.... | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 1:17:11 PM | | i hear ya claire, i guess theirs alot of women that fancies me claire, because most of the women i slept with it happened really quick, usually the first night or within an hour of meeting them. onetime i met a sexy sista on the greyhound bus, we talked about 10 or 15 minutes, i invited her to the back of the bus and she just dropped her pants and started riding me...lol i hardly ever have to work for **** | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/20/2008 5:30:45 PM | | Talking about each others magic number is only going to cause problems. Never go there. What you both did before is past tense and has nothing to do with where you're going. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/21/2008 6:12:57 PM | "i hear ya claire, i guess theirs alot of women that fancies me claire, because most of the women i slept with it happened really quick, usually the first night or within an hour of meeting them. onetime i met a sexy sista on the greyhound bus, we talked about 10 or 15 minutes, i invited her to the back of the bus and she just dropped her pants and started riding me...lol i hardly ever have to work for ****"
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Lol! You mus be irrisistable to women! Ha, ha, ha!
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/22/2008 8:30:22 AM | | i never ask women how many guys they ****ed because i know i won't get the truth. the only way to find out is look at how long it took you to have sex with yourself. if you got the **** quick, you know other guys had to bed her just as quick if not quicker. those are the loose booties to me. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/23/2008 11:16:54 AM |
Do you think you have the right to know your partners sexual history? Ie. a Brief description of every guy shes slept with? Same question for the females...gender reversed.
You are entitled to ask anything you want if you are willing to accept the consequences of asking. In my opinion, she ought to answer truthfully, any question you pose and you ought to be secure enough to not care about asking some questions. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/23/2008 12:15:16 PM |
Personally, right now I dont care...but when I get to the stage of life where marriage is a option, id like to know. I mean you remember back in highschool there was that girl who slept with everyone.......would you want to be married to her lol?
If she's great at it and she's not doing it now, WTF NOT???
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:49:45 PM | | i only had one woman tell me the truth about how many guys she ****ed, this chic admitted she ****ed over 100 guys and she was only 25 at the time...i found that hard to believe. despite that number, i was still interested in her because up to this day, she still has the best **** of them all. one thing i found out though, that line that women who ****ed alot of guys have bigger and wider pussies is just a myth because this chic was still tight and her lips wasn't hanging out loosely. | |
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