| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 5:19:40 AM |
One woman I know said, "I don't count the one-night-stands and the mistakes!"...
That is one smart woman,, I like her attitude..... | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 5:57:44 AM | "Quote" i slept with one of my friends wife before he knew her, i never mentioned it and i dont to this day even though there now divorced know if she ever told him, what would it achieve her telling him she'd slept with one of his mates, nothing except the possibilty of him getting mad at me "Unqoute"
M Church replied, Ever wonder why they're now divorced...? Maybe she already told him....
Kinda proving my point there, why would what happened between me and her years before they met be reason for divorce, if it had happened when they was together then yeah but it did'nt so it does'nt matter.
Also i never said to base a relationship on a movie script, it was simply meant as an example of the what can happen when wanting to drag up the past, a guy and girl are together and are really happy when the guys best friend digs up the girls past and finds out a story about her taking on two guys at once, he flips out and subsequently the relationship ends because he cant get it out of his head and says to her that they used her and how could she of done that, she replies saying she used them, but it happened when they was both young and didnt even know eachother so why would it matter.
To the guy who said if a girl has been with two men then she's obviously easy, i take it you still think that woman are sluts if they have lots of sex but its ok for men to do it, if a guy sleeps with two woman at once i bet you'd think he's a legend, it would'nt make the girl easy just adventurous is all and who is anybody to judge someone for making their own life choices, men and woman are allowed to explore just as much as each other and neither should be judged for what THEY do with THEIR OWN LIVES. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 7:46:29 AM |
i take it you still think that woman are sluts if they have lots of sex but its ok for men to do it, if a guy sleeps with two woman at once i bet you'd think he's a legend,
Actually, I'd think a guy who sleeps with two women at once is a slut too... It doesn't make a difference if you're male or female... same behaviour, same description...
neither should be judged for what THEY do with THEIR OWN LIVES.
No... just ignore all that completely... Just ignore it and therefore ignore any reasons behind it.... not the best plan...
If we were talking about a history of cheating...
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If we were talking about a history of making poor choices in life
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If we were talking about a history of gambling...
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If we were talking about a history of criminal behaviour...
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If we were talking about a history of alcohol abuse...
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If we were talking about a history of being compulsive...
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If we were talking about a history of self-destructive behaviour...
would you ignore that too...as just part of what THEY do with THEIR OWN LIVES.
The funny thing too is that so many people after a divorce or breakup say they shouldn't have ignored the red flags in the relationship from the start.... | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 8:23:36 AM | Go read the original question, he asked about sexual past as in how many and in what capacity.
I think people are intelligent enough to know that ofcourse stuff like alchohol abuse or gambling or a scoundrel who cheats is not a wise choice but then who like that is going to be honest about their checkered past, get a grip will ya, your just taking it to extremes to prove your point, the question was about sex not about if the persons an exconvict or has killed or raped before or whatever extremes your next likely to bring up, that stuff goes without saying and doesnt need questioning on here either.
As for thinking anyone who sleeps with more than one person at a time is a slut, well thats your call but then that probably makes half the population alive sluts. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 2:04:13 PM |
First off..........I didn't say you were a liar...........
I said those who doubt are usually............if you took offense to it maybe that is you.......but I didn't call you a liar.
Quit projecting, you passive-aggressive. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 5:05:37 PM | | Seems like an obvoius answer here, You dont ask the questions that you potentially dont want to hear the answers too. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 8:14:53 PM | The rule of thumb for me is.... I dont wanna know....But if she gives good head....How you think she got that way????? | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/9/2009 11:28:53 PM | | I could careless about someones past it's not my business unless that person has a std or is afraid that they might haved picked one up in a previous relationship. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/11/2009 4:44:34 AM |
The girl code it thus... I don't wanna sleep with a guy who's dated my friends... I'd know before dating you.... as far as anything else? Unless I want to "have" a sexual discussion beyond STD's... then it's entirely up to me... and don't be offended if I pass.. if it sounds like a drill then I'd say the guy has some insecurities or vice versa for a woman... if he asked what my wildest encounter was, names being withheld I might respond....
I'm gonna be honest. I don't understand how some things are off the table and some aren't.
If I'm not currently getting freaky with your grandma who cares what happened years/months/days ago if it was before I met you?
More to the point, how is my sexual history any of *your* buisness? That including my crazy encounter with grammy? If they're telling you then isn't that a private discussion I should have been included in as it's potentially damaging to my future hypothetical relationship with you?
Honestly, what I'm getting out of thread from a lot of people is "your history doesn't matter to me unless it starts to matter to me."
That isn't logical, that's not reasoned. That's not even good grammar damn it! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/11/2009 4:48:42 AM | Im personally dont ask dont tell policy myself BUT
i met this woman 27 years old this past sept and we went out a bunch of times and then we made love a couple times then we found out more then we really thought...
she had been with my ex brother in law DAMN i wish i woulda know that before i was with her .....
so yea know im goign to be askin from now on...!!!  | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/11/2009 9:57:26 AM | | Sexual pasts are a person's past. I don't want to hear a full blown history - all I want to know is when you were tested last and are you disease free. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/12/2009 1:03:05 AM | Nobody said you can force peopel to be honest with you, but if they're going to lie about something and I later find out the truth that's going to lead to a serious argument.
I'd rather face a horrible truth from my S/O's mouth, volounteered, than find out she used to get gangbanged regularly by all her male friend she's still very close to, than find that crap out later on.
At that point, she didn't just do somethin that pissed me off, she's hiding it from me.
If you're not ashamed of your past why would you hide it? | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:45:28 AM | | The Past is the past... high level details might be important like less than 100 or more than... any movies that are on youtube, that kind of thing... but seriously I would don't really need to know and most people have told me one way or another... without asking... probably cause I don't really care... | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/12/2009 8:55:41 PM | | i don't recommend talking numbers to one another, it's not gonna end pretty...but if your gonna be 2gether...you should both get tested together | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/12/2009 9:33:10 PM | It depends on the situation. If a guy has had a lot of sexual partners in his past then I would want to know, as that would increase the risk of STI's. It would make the difference in wanting him to get tested or not. So for that sake, yes.
But just knowing for the sake of knowing? Well...I only ask if I'm prepared to hear the worst. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/12/2009 10:07:46 PM | | unless you fear you might have gotten some sort of disease from her or him...then i don't think peoples sexual history is anyone's "right" to know unless they offer that info. I don't care to know that my bf slept with 3 other women before we hooked up. if its disease that makes anyone person worried? then both people should get some testing done together for peace of mind. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/27/2009 1:06:41 PM | | Her sexual past came up in conversation. Ive been with one and she has been with something arround 5. Im having a hard time getting over this. I know its none of my business what she did before I met her, and that compared with other people on this site 5 is on the low side. But its bothering me quite a bit and I cant stop thinking about it. I feel kind of like somone took my sportscar out for a joy ride, even though it wasnt my car at the time, its my car now. I can visualize her "doing" these other guys in my head, its driving me nuts. How does one get over this. Id like to be able to let it go. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/27/2009 2:23:45 PM | | What you don't know can't hurt you.(unless its a STD) I like to be left in the dark. As long as she isn't the village bicycle I don't want to know about it. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/27/2009 3:45:47 PM |
How does one get over this. Id like to be able to let it go.
I got over it by dating an escort. I'm sure there are easier ways, but that did it for me. One thing is certain, though. If you don't get over it, you'll ruin a lot of perfectly good relationships and if you ever do get over it, you'll realize that you've been an idiot. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/27/2009 3:55:36 PM |
If a guy has had a lot of sexual partners in his past then I would want to know
As long as she isn't the village bicycle I don't want to know about it
These two quotes really sum up the ostrich with it's head in the sand concept...
How will you know unles it's either volunteered or you ask...?
Essentially you're saying "I don't want to know unless I might need to know...."
Well, that seems a little silly... It's like not going to the doctor's in case he's going to tell you you're sick....
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/27/2009 5:31:00 PM |
The rule of thumb for me is.... I dont wanna know....But if she gives good head....How you think she got that way?????
BS!!! The woman who I thought gave the best head, was 47 at the time, and I was the third person she had ever been with in her life, period. Too bad we are no longer romantically involved... she was one of the best in bed period. We are still friends, the relationship thing just didn't work out. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 2/27/2009 11:23:13 PM | | I dunno about a description-but names and dates would be nice. Just in case she slept with several of my friends-or people i know.Theres alot floating around out here as well-so between paperwork-and a brief rundown on whom she slept with is fine. I dont need to many details though | |
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