Her sexual past.....ur business? Free Dating, Singles and Personals

Her sexual past.....ur business? Posted: 3/25/2009 5:17:31 PM
If she had worked in the sex industry, I would not be comfortable with it; and I’d want to know. Other than that, with very few exceptions, it makes absolutely NO difference. If they currently had an STD, I'd want to know; and if I am likely to be introduced to someone they've had sex with, I'd want to know. In the past this was simply handled by, "____ and I dated for a little while" or "We were seeing each other." There was no NEED to say "I fcked ______." Other than that, there really is NO valid reason for disclosure; and lot's of reasons arguing against it. If you have moral/lifestyle issues; you can make those known up front. You DON’T need a “tally sheet” to determine whether or not they pass your test. ] no STD testing proceedure is perfect, not for HIV or HSV or whatever, this is why I believe my potential partner's past is my business No, the tests are not perfect; but they are the ONLY method we have of determining disease status. Which is better: 3 partners and 4 diseases; or 100 partners, and no diseases? The tests are equally reliable in either case. Experience levels I think should be reasonably matched... A lo of people, insecure or not are not going to be happy with a lover who has had sex with many times the number of people they have had.... And a lot of experienced people may find sex with someone who has only had a few lovers very limiting... Gotta disagree. First, your “insecurity” is EXACTLY the reason NOT to ask. What IS important is how sexually happy, and compatible you are when you are together. Do I make her happy, and satisfy her? Am I doing everything she enjoys? If one partner isn’t as skilled, but they want to learn, I don’t see an issue. Maybe she’s only had two partners; but is really into S&M and pain. I’ve had more than two partners; and am NOT into S&M and pain. In that case, I’ve had more experience; but CAN’T satisfy her. Ability and desire are important, and are NOT dependent on numbers of partners. Worried about being compared….who’s the best?... You can EITHER worry and get upset because you aren’t as good; which accomplishes absolutely nothing; OR you can put in the effort to improve your skills at the activities she enjoys; which is positive, productive, and fun. If she likes ______, and you are really good at it; you don’t need to ask, you KNOW you’re good. I’m comfortable enough with my abilities that I’m not worried about being compared; and I am a very earnest student if she enjoys something I’m not adept at. …worried about them snickering in the corner… LMAO…dude…man up. If they see us come in, they know I am with her now. Would YOUR ex’s be snickering in the corner if they saw her with you? The joke is on them. even if they were so great in bed, again, why are they single...? and the two are related how? It's not a case of "Out of all those lovers, she(or he) chose me..." That is EXACTLY the case. When you're seriously involved with someone and they're hush hush about their life and never communicate what they feel to you, it's a sign of two things. They obviously don't really care about you and they're hiding something. BIG BIG difference in NOT sharing the particulars of your sexual past; and “never communicating what they feel.” And what a negative and paranoid interpretation. What if the BIG SECRET she’s hiding is that she loves you dearly, and wants to grow old with you, even though you are less than mediocre in bed? Do you really want to hear that stud? You want to talk about “Red Flags”? Prying, insisting on knowing, and getting defensive, is a HUGE red flag!* It tells me you are nosey, controlling, suspicious, mistrustful, and paranoid. I’ve asked before, just out of spur of the moment curiosity; and I realized then that a/it really didn’t make ANY difference; and b/it really WASN’T any of my business. Personally, I don’t care if she’s been married 8 times and has 12 kids. Whenever I am with a woman, in my mind, I am the only lover she has ever had; and she is the only lover I have ever had.