| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 5:21:49 PM | | Well, the last one I was with I didn't have to ask at all. She was practically bragging about the guys she was with. It was a real turn off! I'd rather not know that he was tall, tanned, hung, and handsome. GESH keep that crap to yourself! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 5:30:28 PM | raw numbers don't matter...what's important is how safe they were, and their current sexual health status.
i especially find it amusing how some guys will say...i won't take a woman seriously if she's had more than X partners, when i'm sure those same guys have banged 10 times that number without a second thought. quite frankly boys, if you can be a slut, don't judge a girl if she was one too. just because a girl has been sexually liberated, doesn't mean she's going to cheat...some women who play when they're single, are also the most loyal and devoted when in a relationship (that's how i am). | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 5:32:08 PM | If I want to ask my partner anything - I CAN! ...If I am interested in someone and thinking about entering into a serious relationship, I think I have the right to know anything and everything about them. If they have a problem with answering the questions, then I guess they have something big to hide, and therefore - so not worth my time!  | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 5:35:45 PM |
She is unlikely to be faithful because you drive her to it. {/quote]
or just because she is unfaithful and likes 'variety' ?
let's not blame all cheating women on men who 'drive them to it'..
(like women can take no responsibility..if she wanted different cack she COULD break up with the first guy first..) | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 5:50:36 PM | To me, there is no real need to know. If you trust them, and you see their STD test results then there is nothing more which is need to know.
That being said, I don't have a problem answering this question, though I don't really think it is a necessary question to ask. If they find it important to know, then I'll tell them. If he then tells me his #, I may be leery if he is in his mid 20s and has slept with a ton of girls, but it isnt something that makes or breaks it with me.
And HUNTZEE - being with over 60 people at your age is sort of insane...hopefully you find a girl who doesn't get scared off by that (I would just think that you had a problem with either cheating, or remaining in relationships). Finding a girl to put up with the attitude that you have is another issue...
Thanks for broadcasting it for all us lucky viewers though | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 6:38:48 PM | | No point in even asking because you will probably end up getting angry hearing something that you really didn't want to hear. Asking for std's is one thing...Anything after thats your pushing it | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 7:29:35 PM | To all the people saying 'dont ask because you wont like the results'
The phrase 'ignorance is bliss' comes into play
For me the truth is more important then anything and I wouldnt want to be with a girl who has been with, 10 or 20 plus guys.....keep in mind Im 22 and the girls I talk too are usually 18-22. If she has been with that many, id rather know and end it.....then not know and keep running into her past lovers lol. THe world is a small place. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 7:58:09 PM | I,m at a loss here or maybe i,m being realistic, but when you first meet a girl or guy depending on which sex we are Male Or female most of the people on here are 18 and some a lot older.
When we first meet and then decide that there is something compatible or there is some sort of sexual chemistry we go for it, now for some it may be the first date that sexual things happen and for others it takes longer but it happens eventually if you stay together long enough and then for whatever reason some break up and the relationship ends.
Now what happens ?, do we sit back and let it hurt us for ever more or do we move on and try again.?.
The older you get then the chances are that you have had more encounters of a sexual nature. Its human nature that we move on, well for most of us anyway.
Now we get to a certain age and decide that we really want to settle down and meet the woman or man of our dreams and live happily ever after but we want to know about our prospective partner for life previous past sexual relationships/experiences.
Is this a good thing or is it a bad thing to want to know and question our now new partners past.?.
Well for me i,d rather let the past be the past and look to the future because if people are insecure then the relationship will fail.
If you really love some one then whatever may have happened in the past shouldnt come into the equation, old English saying let sleeping dogs lie before it comes back to bite you on the arse.
All spelling mistakes correct at time of going to press. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 8:42:01 PM | | You raise a good point, Tin - - with regard to how early people sleep together. I'm curious to know how many people who "need to know" how many people their SO slept with, decide they "need" to know after they have already had sex with their SO themselves. Because, if they have - - asking after the fact kind of defeats the purpose of asking for the sake of learning about STDs. So, really they just want to know so they can judge (and/or drive themselves crazy with the new information). I know one of my exes "needed" to know after we'd been together for at least 4 months - - and long after we had sex and got on the pill, etc. That's when I learned my lesson to never open up and be honest (or, answer the question at all), lest the man spend the next 5 years driving us BOTH crazy. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 10:48:03 PM | | Nope... my past is exactly that... the PAST. It's up to me whether or not to disclose my experiences and I would extend him the same courtesy. Curiosity can be a dangerous thing! The only thing I need to know is if he's healthy and going to respect my boundaries. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 10:52:19 PM | hell just use a rain coat on her till ya get married,
once ya get married ya both have too take all those tests,
then if she has something, then you will know | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/4/2007 11:32:53 PM | NO...........
It's important to know if someone get's tested.... It's important to know if they practice safe sex....
It is NOT anyones business how many partners..... that can mess up peoples relationships!!! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 12:03:12 AM | If a guy asks that question, run like hell. You're looking at one insecure person and it will only get worse. Same problem with a woman asking a man. Perhaps there is a time for such questions but it's somewhere around retirement when you're looking for a good laugh and by then, that's all it counts as.
More partners means better chance of unfaithful? Damn, is THAT a stupid statement. All it means is that to insecure people there is less chance the relationship will work anyway. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 12:37:45 AM | details? no.
a 'rough estimate', yes.
edit; If we're starting to date, no none of your business. Depending on what type of person you both are though, before I'm going to have any 'fun', yeah, you know what... I wouldn't want to sleep with someone that's been with over 15 guys at the age of 23. I focus my priorities on life in general, not on 'getting it on' -- not that I look down on it by any means, but... priorities. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 2:35:50 AM | Nope.. nor is your's her's... other than for safety's sake, testing etc, it's no ones business unless you share it.
Most girls I know, would freak out if I told them I'd slept with "x" girls, "x" times, in "x" ways, and it's the same with some guys, they get all messed up over "am I good enough?", or "i wonder if I'll measure up", and no one needs that. NEVER ever, start comparing your ex's to your present interest, is a one way ticket to "dumpsville", no matter how well intentioned.
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:40:04 AM | Is it any of your Business? Probably not. Should you get tested together before having sex? Yes! Its a great idea and continue to do so. 
Will it come up in a LTR? Often times it does I think.
Personally I have no problem sharing and learning with someone I find interesting. Having no hang ups about Sex and not being judgmental about other people I am often blessed with an honest depiction of my partners past. Obtained not threw confrontational questioning but rather by my openness and genuine interest in learning about their life experiences. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 5:19:59 AM | Well well HUNTZEE i think the biggest slut is you on here ...
It's ok for you to have ample partners but not ok for a woman.. Who are you to judge with your track record....
I wouldn't touch you with a barge pole it would probaly walk off form all the goo on it...
You are slimy and to all you women even thinking of talking to this man your nuts..
To the rest of you lovely normal people have a wonderful day    | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 8:29:39 AM |
And HUNTZEE - being with over 60 people at your age is sort of insane...
and not really a very good advertisement for his 'skills' ?
if he was any good, wouldn't some of those women have wanted to stay around for alonger time..??
limiting the ability to amass a 'score' of 60+ ?? | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 10:06:36 AM | i don't worry; but everyone i have been w/has been REALLY honest about it, mostly cus we are always friends 1st and i just know what/how they have been living.. Not to mention the fact i am a really accepting/calm/understanding person; sleeping around does not make me think less of anyone as a person/woman.
its not my place to judge; but like anything else there are consequences to what u do, an i can't blame someone for not wanting to date someone who slept around, just like i don't blame people who are virgins or have limited sexual exp. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 10:12:31 AM | then again i have seen situations-rare-where someone is dating someone and intro them to friends and family and found out she slept w/a brother or a close friend before; or in another case dude had slept w/her mom and her co worker-prior to her meeting him.
so it can backfire-but that is rare | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 3:12:46 PM | | No, no, and NO! Unless she has an STD and needs to disclose that, and WANTS to tell you how she got it, it's NOYB. Besides, a play by play of someone's sex life is either boring, disgusting, or intimidating...depending. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:29:04 PM | | The only sexual past that is your business is your own. Nothing can be done to change the past anyway. Until you're engaged or married, I'd venture to say the present sexual activity isn't your business either. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 4:57:44 AM | | to a point numbers matter, i mean if a partner said he had been with a hundred or more women i would be thinking .. ohhhhh kkkk... and totally turned off.. but really not sure i would want to know.. the most important thing is.. that they are faithful and honest. and for the men who have double standards.. like one in particular.. are u kidding? dont want a slut for a wife or partner.. but its ok for u to slut urself? farkkk me.. | |
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