| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 5:41:59 AM | | I agree with K-lo. Get tested together, and if that is clean then who cares? It really shouldn't. If both people are wanting the same thing on any level that is. Past partners are just that, PAST. A person's experiences if clean health is maintained doesn't matter to me. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 6:25:05 AM | | I agree with Giddymonkey. The only time I think someone should talk of past experiences with others is when there is a health issue that your sexual partner should know about & if that's the case, you shouldn't wait until if & when someone asks.... SPEAK UP & BE REAL ! ! ! | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 6:25:17 AM | I have a rule.. never ask question you truly dont want to hear the questions of... No-one is a virgin anymore... you dont want to hear who was her first, her best, who she did the nastiest with or how or where... And she truly doesnt want to hear how you've been a hero.
The only responsibility to each other you have is to endure that you care of your sexual health, and ensure if your are promiscuous, get tested regularly. Just because you wear a condom doesn't remove you from risk.. Funny how people put their member in or allow it to be put in... but they'll put it in their mouths... There are many risks.. and many reasons the ensure that you are tested.. so you know for sure... you are clean and safe... but just saying.. "I use condoms"... doesn't mean squat. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 2:43:50 PM |
Ohhhh Phaaaaleez ...If STD's are what some are worried about.....You can get that from having slept with ONE person unprotected.....or 90 ....
Everyone is stating yes because they basically dont want to catch anything..but just like this poster states it really doesnt come down to how many. You can be a virgin..have UNPROTECTED sex that first time and catch an STD. The person you had sex with could have only had 1 or 2 partners, but those 1 or 2 partners had it. To me the number game does not come into play...it is how safe you are that does.
The OP mentions if they have a right to a brief description of every guy shes/he slept with...hmm
Does this mean height, weight, positions, locations, sizes, etc..does this have any bearing on your present relationship..i would hope not...lol.
I do believe everyone should get tested, and use protection, at least until the two are openly exclusive to one another....(even then it only takes one to cheat and then you are back to square one....)  | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:35:15 PM |
I disagree.
you have pretty much disagreed with everyone who disagrees with you...wondering why bother to post a question if u have no interest in what anyone else says unless it is of the same opinion as yours? | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 8:10:48 PM | I can see discussing experiences, likes/dislikes, health concerns...but to be so crass as to ask 'so how many people have you had sex with?", that is beyond me.
What is the point of knowing a number? | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/6/2007 9:49:14 PM | Her past is HER past. Unless she's got an STD or something, I don't think you really NEED to know.
My partner and I are very open about our pasts (and mine is quite a bit more colourful than his is), but it was because we had an open conversation about it.. neither of us asked the other, but we just started to talk. *shrug* No pressure, no judgement.
I don't care who my lovers have been with, provided that they can answer 'no' to the "have you ever had an STD?" question. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/7/2007 5:55:16 PM | | Having been down this road myself, I suggest you don't ask the number of partners you've had. No good will come of it and chances are it can be used against you in the future, even if his "number" is higher than yours!! Just make sure you're both tested as clean and be done with it. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:32:32 AM |
Do you think you have the right to know your partners sexual history?
Seems to me that the majority of people posting in this thread have answered "no".
Let me suggest you start a similar thread, only, instead of asking "Do you think you have the right to know your partners sexual history? " you ask "Do you think your partner has the right to know your sexual history? "
I predict the majority will answer "yes". | |
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Msg: 111 | |
| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:45:37 AM | | I, for one, do NOT have a double standard...I have not been with very many women, considerably less than 10...and I want a future wife to be the same....I want someone who has made the same choices as me in life and has the same values/morals as myself, because no matter what you say...what you have experienced in your past DOES make you who you are today...a woman who has slept with a lot of men tells me that she most likely still does not take sex seriously | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 1:17:35 AM | As long as they are healthy, free of any diseases and faithful when they are with me then I really don't care. Also people can make mistakes. I think if someone felt proud about being with a lot of people and would fool around with just about anyone and even cheat to do it, then that's cheap. But if they want to be serious with someone, and aren't so proud about their sexual history that's different. Not saying they should be 'ashamed' or anything. But at least willing to admit their mistakes. Though I often don't see many guys doing that.
I wouldn't date a chick who was with over 10 guys..
This isn’t just to you but any other guys that think like this (I see one making an appearance above my post!) What if she had been with one or two, or three or four or even 5 over that limit? (Ok so MAYBE you'd accept the one or two but anymore I could see you getting uneasy) But what if she regretted that extra 1-5 because she wasn't that into it or whatever. Maybe was really wasted, high, (I could see anyone not wanting someone who’s a big partier, but if it were just once or twice that’s different), experiencing emotional problems, or as an effect of sexual abuse/ rape, etc (there could be a ton of reasons, depending on the woman). Would that be any different? Or would it not matter even if she could turn out to be the most committed, faithful and wonderful partner you could ever dream of having. Should past mistakes really be set in stone?
She's more likely to be unfaithful
Really? Let’s see some scientific evidence on that Dr Freud. It's basically bull crap. I think if she has cheated in the past that more an indication of what her future behavior will be. Way more than if she had been with 11, 12 -20! guys in her life but had NEVER cheated on a boyfriend. Perhaps she was single for a while and played around a bit, made some mistakes (as I stated as a factor in the above paragraph) but was totally faithful when she was in a relationship. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 1:26:36 AM |
But at least willing to admit their mistakes. Though I often don't see many guys doing that.
That's because I haven't made a mistake yet. I'll let you know when/if I do.
And as it relates to my post 111 above, you'll note that my prediction is flawless. Nope, no mistakes yet. Am I being arrogant? No, just honest.  | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 2:02:37 AM | C'mon lets be honest here. women screw just like men do.. it's a natural thing. To cheat is not a mistake, people don't make mistakes on purpose. And, once a cheater always a cheater! I believe this. I can't prove it.. but time will prove it to you.
One person said if they knew a women had over 10 partners they wouldn't fool with that.. BS that is so dumb. 10 partners isn't crap. I slept with that many girls in the first 3 years of becoming sexually active. The simple fact here is that woman wanna get laid too. So, if she wants to and you want to.. wheres the problem? | |
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Joined: 1/26/2007
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 8:48:41 AM | | ^there is no problem, cuz that's your own personal standards...and I'm not here to judge you or anyone like you (and most people in this thread are like you)...you want women who enjoy sex and have it with anyone, that's entirely your perogative as a free human being in this society, and luckily for you, there are plenty like that around...I have my own personal standards when it comes to finding wifey...and like I explained before...your past experiences shape who you are today and I want someone who has made the same choices (and/or mistakes) as I have and who has had and has the same values and morals as myself...I don't want to have a wife that has been around, plain and simple...same reason I refuse to date someone who has kids...if I'm gonna marry a woman I want everything about it to be exclusive...a woman's profile I once read explains it very well...she said she didn't want to date anyone with kids or had been married before because she wanted to experience those things in life with someone else that was new to it as well...nothing wrong with that, same line of thinking applies to me and a woman's sexual history | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:23:28 PM | | It's only my business if it resulted in an STD or kids that I don't know about. Other than that, I don't want to hear about it. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:34:16 PM |
Yes it's your business if you are gonna be sleeping with her. I would not want to have sex with a chick who has been with over 10 men.
OMG You have a lot to learn. I hope that the day reality is looking at you that you can look right at it. It's important. I am on your side so don't think I'm picking on you. I'm not. I just want you to take better care of your own mind and reality. The one you end up with will have had more than 10 I assure you. Hell in most cases that's before 22 or 23. That is not a slam on women. Not at all. It's the way things are. Deal with now and there will be less pain later. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:38:00 PM | | Assuming it's an exclusive relationship (b/c otherwise I don't think we owe each other any explanations unless we want to give them), the only part that pertains to him about my past sexual history and would therefore be any of his business would be anything that has made a difference in who I am sexually. For example, an abusive relationship, promiscuity, etc. Even then, I think he's entitled only to basic information and certainly not names and dates, etc. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:41:14 PM | Let me suggest you start a similar thread, only, instead of asking "Do you think you have the right to know your partners sexual history? " you ask "Do you think your partner has the right to know your sexual history? "
I predict the majority will answer "yes".
Maybe I missed something in 5 pages of posts ~ but I don't see where this is the case at all. Most clearly state: it's not my business, nor is it my partner's business what happened in my past.
For me, I have a son ~ that means I've had unprotected sex at least once in my life. And that means: we get tested before we play naked twister. His safety is every bit as important to me as my own. Condoms and dental dams for oral ~ clean results ~ go wild. 
The only "past" that does matter to me is his overall interest in sex, what he prefers sexually and what he'd like to do sexually in the future ~ sexual compatibility is vital to me. I want to know if we are on the same road (sexually wise.) JMO  | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 2:27:36 PM | | looking at the OP I told someone recently that certain things had happened in my life and that I wouldn't put up with that again, so I told him some of my sexual history without him asking. In hindsight, maybe I should have kept quiet about it now I've read all these posts! I think he was shocked by me being so blatantly honest. I don't want to know his sexual history though, what went before me is not my business as long as we are safe together in terms of STI's. So no I don't think I have the right to know my partners sexual history. I wouldn't want to know about every woman he has slept with. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 3:55:32 PM | | If she wanted to know My sex history I would oblige probably. If she sujested a visit to a Dr. to double check for STD's I would so accommadate. But this is someone I would already be deeply in love with right? Not a sexual excapade right. (just putting this into perspective). In America it has been reported that 30% of American women now have venerial worts. I have a friend in her forties who was infected since she was 17 and you do not want to know what the surgical treatment is. I dread on day seeing a herpes on the lip of someone I've been fooloing around with when it wasn't active. | |
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 4:00:58 PM | | Some people Want a very experienced partner and others don't. I personally prefer the inexperienced. (it leave more to experience for the first time ever). As for "the right to know?)-that is a two way street. | |
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*Jay
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 5:00:12 PM |
The one you end up with will have had more than 10 I assure you. Hell in most cases that's before 22 or 23. That is not a slam on women. Not at all. It's the way things are. Deal with now and there will be less pain later.
that is absolutely NOT true...there are plenty of quality (in my eyes) women out there who don't just go out and have sex with anyone....they're what we refer to as "dime" girls...they're out there, I know a few of them
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| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 6:00:57 PM | | JAY I think you should read my post. Because you obviously don't have much understanding of the things that women can go through. You're thinking in a box. | |
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Msg: 125 | |
| Her sexual past.....ur business?
Posted: 7/8/2007 7:36:05 PM | moontress...fair enough....but with the exception of the drunken ho that fuks randoms guys every weekend (which gets absolutely no respect from me), those others, imo, are not really the type of women that is being discussed in this thread
in regards to them though, call me selfish, but I'm not really interested in dating any women that has gone through a lot of shite in her life... | |
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