| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:01:25 PM |
you can go first!
Okay, fine. I just took a shower, I'm naked, a little damp and wandering around a house-for-sale that I rented this week. It's quiet and empty and large with lots of trees and expensive landscaping and has a feel of exclusivity since it's on the edge of golf course. There are two chairs, one bed and stack of my clothes in the closet.
I have no idea if neighbors can see me but I'm average and I don't care much and if they want that badly to at a naked 50-year-old man, well, what the hell. And now I'll get dressed, go eat at PF Changs and attend a speed dating dealie thing tonight which will be moderately interesting and fun and yield no results.
Adieu. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/15/2007 1:20:07 PM | | I have always prefered someone closer to my age and if she is a few years older and takes care of herself then she is exactly what I am attracted to. I often get approached by much younger women and that is nice but not what I am looking for in the long run. So for me I know I could date and be with younger women but not my preference and prefer letting the young lads deal with it. In conclusion; To all you guys who want the young girls I say good for you and better for me and to all you hot fifty somethings I say keep looking sexy. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:22:59 PM |
southernguy1960 :: To all you guys who want the young girls I say good for you and better for me and to all you hot fifty somethings I say keep looking sexy.
^^^^ you certainly will win many  ..
I noticed when I visited the South & S/E (usa) a few weeks ago the S /Gents are quite charming.. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:51:31 PM | | im a 50 yo male,i prefer going out with women either 5 yrs younger or five yrs older,but i really do like women with nice shapes,cant seeem to find to many women out there that do | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:58:36 PM | Yep... and thanks for telling everyone how nice us southern gents are!
Bubba, every time I see a woman with a nice shape who attracts me she is taken or gets snatched very quickly. I usually avoid the young ones... they can break my heart too easily... | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/15/2007 5:45:53 PM | The following is what the OP says her 63 year old gentelman friend said.....................
"You don't even look 40, and you sure have the physical fiitness of a 30 year old. But the fact is that you're 53. And the fact is that the vast majority of men over 45 will not even consider dating a woman your age. It doesn't matter if she is well educated, very physically fit, or even financially secure. She could be wonderful company and very beautiful. If so, a man over 45 might have a short term relationship with her. But if she's over 45, he will rarely consider having a serious long term relationship with her."
I suppose everyone has a theory,however this one will not stand the BS test.Now just suppose for a minute that he knew what he was talking about...........,which he sure as hell does not,then that would mean there would never be May/December relationships.I say that these relationships are common.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/18/2007 12:57:56 PM | Hi Star,
I'll give you an honest answer...When I was 39,maybe 40 there is no way I would have dated a woman in her 50's...Something just seemed not right.On the other side of it though I wouldn't date a woman in her 20's or even early 30's either.Seemed I could've had a BETTER chance w/ a woman in her 50's but I think the # bothered me subconsciously. Now at 45...Not a problem,50 to 54 but I would have to say a "young" at heart person because I am as well.I may be 45 but can "hang" w/ younger people and still think much like them albiet with a little more wisdom I guess.
peace.....bosox | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/18/2007 1:48:51 PM | Well, I see this has been going on for a while. I recently joined this group and have met quite a few people. At first I thought that all men want younger women. It was a big surprise to me that many younger men don't care about age. I talk to men, mostly 5-13 yrs younger than me. My ex-husband was 11 years younger and we didn't have any problems related to our age difference.
From the time you posted this, I am curious how your views have changed?
I can find a man attractive and a prospective partner in a huge spectrum. Never listen to the odds. Somehow my life has been filled with exceptions!
I hope in the year since you posted this, that you have found what you are looking for.
Bethy    | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/18/2007 1:58:32 PM |  And here's another one...GratefulGuy says:
I'm more interested in the woman, who she is, what her personality is like, and all her attributes (physical, emotional and personality) than I am about her physical age...after all, it's JUST a number. I mean, for cripes sake, I'm 50 but still feel and act like I'm 25 (or maybe even 18)!
Uh huh...and his profile has his upper age filter set at 49. So he isn't even allowing women his age to contact him...that personality, attributes stuff only comes into play if she's YOUNGER.
BTW...just about every male's (and many female's) profile I read says something about looking, acting, etc. younger than their age. I'm pretty sure that's code for "I'm looking for younger only!"
Bosox0407.....Whew....after looking at your "stair" pic, then flipping to the pic in uniform...I can't get the thought of stairs and handcuffs out of my mind.  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/18/2007 2:39:42 PM | Ummm sweetheart? You are a tad confused now aren't you? lol
The one on the stairs and in uniform is "Richone"!
It's ok hun. You just go get yourself a cool cloth, take a couple of deep breaths and all will be well! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/18/2007 7:10:44 PM | Ummm sweetheart? You are a tad confused now aren't you? lol
The one on the stairs and in uniform is "Richone"!
Yes..indeed..I did get confused. And after verifying it...I feel another fit coming on. Dang, I need to calm down before posting after looking at pics like that. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:14:41 AM | | Well young lady, I would certainly not put a lot of stock in what your 63 year old friend has to say. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 12:44:24 AM | | Msg 877, you ARE joking aren't you? If 'age is just as number', why aren't you willing to date women your own age or even (heavens, the sky might fall in) a bit older! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:14:43 AM | Age is just a number. Personally, I would never allow that number to get in the way. There are 25 year olds that don't have enough life in them for me. I have a couple of lady friends in their 60's that could eat me up in short order. I could see some men being intimidated by your superior fitness level or the gracefull manner that a lady may age. This , I feel is only due to a lack of self confidence in their own physical & age/health related status. Reasons such as these are why the playing field keeps getting smaller for romantic relationships.
Me thinks, you just ran into that one or two out of a hundred guys who might feel that way.(although this could happen over and over if its what your attracting) | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:40:51 AM | let me say this from exprience, most guys are lookin for a younger gal( you know why)and most of you women are lookin for a younger guy (with a job) for the same reason!  what kills us normal guys thats lookin for a normal relationship, is you people on here! you make the normal people (men and women) gun shy of falsehoods! we arent lookin for a young stud or barbie, we just want a relationship!and after weeding through you people , we might get a little discouraged | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 9:55:29 AM | | Well, the older guys who are only looking for younger gals should go read some of the posts in the younger forums where the younger gals are ranting about "old farts", "old geezers" hitting on them. Very few young women are looking for older men who think they're Tom T. Hall (faster horses, younger women, older whiskey and more money). And that's a fact, jack! I know several young women on dating sites and they are just grossed out when they are contacted by a guy even 5 yrs older. They are looking for someone their own age that they can relate to. I want to see some 60-yr old guy (or even 40) keep up with a partying 20-yr old. And those young'uns even want B-A-B-I-E-S, OMG!!!!!! Yeah, fill yer boots guys, while us 50-something ladies party on without all those responsibilities. WooooooooooooHoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 10:50:30 AM | | I think the most fulfilling and satisfying happiness requires that kind of commitment. That's the door to the level where real, authentic closeness and intimacy can begin to happen. And, I think that having someone reasonably close to your own age can be the most comfortable and least stressful arrangement. I've thought about these things a lot since my divorce. Personally, having someone who enjoyed snuggling on the couch as much as I would while listening to Donovan, The Beatles, The Moody Blues, etc. (performers and messages from my era...) would be a pretty damn nice situation... and, could lead to some serious "bonding" between us (which is what we would all like, I think... if we are honest with ourselves) | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 11:09:16 AM | Chronology has little to do with Attraction . .
And...while physical fitness has Something to do with it . .
[I've never been a fan of BBW's...~Sorry~]
The _Chemistry_ is the biggest factor to develop . . !!
Whether it's the love of Nature . . Camping..Fishing..Golf..Skiing..Sex..
Amusement Parks..Flying..or..Triceratops Wrestling . . the _Important_ thing is that
we B O T H like to share it with each other . . !!!
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/23/2007 3:03:37 PM | | Oh there's someone out there for you but the problem is finding him. People who make absolute pronouncements about who and what type and age person they will date invariably will hedge on that when someone catches their fancy. When you get older there is more of a sense of resignation that you're not likely going to find a long term relationship. Opportunities don't seem to come up. Where are the available people you would like to meet? Gets pretty discouraging and when its all said and done I guess I didn't answer you query at all. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/3/2008 4:41:00 PM | | Maybe because they want to feel young . But ironicallywhen you see an older man with a young woman he looks twice as old in comparison. And you just know his money is a factor in this kind of relationship. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:33:39 PM |
I mean, for cripes sake, I'm 50 but still feel and act like I'm 25 (or maybe even 18)!
Late to the thread - but have enjoyed the feedback of what I did read. I do hear what you say Grateful Guy and I agree to a point. I deliberately did Not put on my profile nor will ever say that I feel young. I have 5 Young guys living in the strata next to me and I don't want to ever again feel as dumb, drunk, pewking, obnoxious again if that is young:) But I do feel like I am living Richly and Fully for every day that I am given. I want to taste it all (okay not bungee jumping cause thats just more than I can do although I keep getting closer). Dating me at 56 is no different than dating me at 16. I have come full circle in living richly and fully - no longer trying to struggle to raise a family, pay a mortgage, find the right/perfect career - just living. So what age am I looking at? possibly I should change my age restrictions just for that very reason. 60 plus - 30 plus - just be living fully. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:17:10 PM | | Being a newbie here,I'm sure some will try to educate me.lol I would date someone my age or even older. I prefer that.Your as young as you feel.I'm a very active person so you have to have the energy to keep up with me.Not a couch tater by any means.When two people click with each other,age doesn't really factor in. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:00:33 PM |
The following is what the OP says her 63 year old gentelman friend said.....................
"You don't even look 40, and you sure have the physical fiitness of a 30 year old. But the fact is that you're 53. And the fact is that the vast majority of men over 45 will not even consider dating a woman your age. It doesn't matter if she is well educated, very physically fit, or even financially secure. She could be wonderful company and very beautiful. If so, a man over 45 might have a short term relationship with her. But if she's over 45, he will rarely consider having a serious long term relationship with her."
I suppose everyone has a theory,however this one will not stand the BS test.Now just suppose for a minute that he knew what he was talking about...........,which he sure as hell does not,then that would mean there would never be May/December relationships.I say that these relationships are common.
...And with age comes wisdom and truth.
...maeflowers
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