| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:04:01 AM | Hi
What an interesting post, I myself am 48 but have always been told I look and act much younger, I dont like to "act my age" I just enjoy doing whatever it is that makes me happy and i look for the same in a partner, age to me is no barrier we all get old and our looks will change i have never been into the wrapper so to speak but look at whats inside , I have never been out with an older woman but would not ask for id when i met someone, if the sparks fly that is all i need | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 2:22:41 AM | Wow!!
I'm on the other side of this. What's with all these women referring to themselves as Cougars?
Here's what I think. Men and women-both, who seek out younger partners are looking to fill a void in their lives. They lack the feeling of youth and live precariously through the lives of their younger partners.
It's like carrying green banana's around so everyone will think your planning for your future-Duh! The fact of the matter is, everyone knows banana's are at their best when: bright yellow and a few spots on them.
I beleive the true essense of a woman doesn't come to fruitation until she's in her forties. Hang in there ladies. You have at least one fan-me!
Ron | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 3:50:57 AM | Re the Opost
"....Should women in my st/age of life face "reality" and accept that our chronological age matters more to most men our own age than our physical fitness and all of the other things that we feel we have to offer Mr. Right?..."
To paraphrase a well known joke in my native country, I think that men and women over 40 and "old" (see wise) enough to not believe in myths and fairy tales, and those myth and fairy tales include "Mrs Right" and "Mr. Right" (and to practice "carpe diem").
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 4:37:16 AM |
t doesn't matter if she is well educated, very physically fit, or even financially secure. She could be wonderful company and very beautiful. If so, a man over 45 might have a short term relationship with her. But if she's over 45, he will rarely consider having a serious long term relationship with her."
Brouhaha, balderdash, ballyhoo
It's only talk
Some of us men are looking for 50+. I'll be turnin' the half century mark and I'm not going to run'n'hide. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:28:51 AM | | I am currently getting to know a lovely man of 45 year and I am 60+. I think it is possible to date someone well out of your age range. In the end, it's what's inside the head...read..brain...and inside the heart that matters, isn't it? I have known young men who were more mature at 30 than perhaps another man of 50. Since I spent 33 years with my late husband, I feel that I can draw on a lot of experience and hone my communications skills with someone of any age! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:32:27 AM | Some like apples and some like oranges. Age has nothing to do with it, it is how the whole package looks like. You have 40 year old that look 75 and vice versa.
h If your heart's and body's age is the same as the calender age it becomes a matter of preference  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:41:09 AM |
Here's what I think. Men and women-both, who seek out younger partners are looking to fill a void in their lives. They lack the feeling of youth and live precariously through the lives of their younger partners.
So, by this logic if a smoking hot 20-something approached you with lust in her eye, you would turn her away? This line of thinking appears narrow and closed-minded. Maybe the individual preference (male or female) is for someone younger because they enjoy someone younger. It's not always about validation of the self since that can happen within ANY age demographic.
and BTW - in this context the word I think you were searching for is vicariously, not precariously. And, did you intend an entendre with the use of "fruitation" or were you trying to say "fruition"? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:26:09 PM |
Here's what I think. Men and women-both, who seek out younger partners are looking to fill a void in their lives. They lack the feeling of youth and live precariously through the lives of their younger partners.
I think you mean vicariously but I do agree that being involved with someone significantly younger could be called precarious as well...always the chance they'll wake up one morning and ask "WTF am I DOING with this old person!" So in that sense it IS precarious.
Find a partner you feel comforable and right about being with. Chances are it's going to be someone around your own age.
Cindy O | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:34:12 PM | If I could find a 54-yr-old Lady that was as fit as a 30 yr-old . .
I'd be on my knees So Fast . . that she'd be expecting a chorus of *Mammy* . . !!
. . B u t . .
Since there is _ V e r y _ little chance of finding her .. looking for Me . .
I'll continue on my Merry Way . . One Foot in Front of the Other . . !! . . 
* TRIP * - Foooommpp!! - | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:43:59 PM | If he can make my heart go all fluttery just by saying my name, I don't care how young he is... would prefer him to be in his 50s though. My only experience dating a much younger (by 8 years) man did not go well. A mature man will grab my attention, especially if he writes me poetry!
One positive about dating a younger man: You can teach him everything you know about the pursuit of pleasure. He will always remember you for that, and you will remember the fun you had being the teacher!     | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 1:23:50 PM | Should women in my st/age of life face "reality" and accept that our chronological age matters more to most men our own age than our physical fitness and all of the other tings that we feel we have to offer Mr. Right?
I'm a little late offering my opinion to this question and I haven't read ALL 37 pages. So, I apologize if this has already been said. But, from what I've read in the profiles of men in my age group, they're looking for a younger woman. Most state they are looking for women 10, 20 and sometimes 30 yrs. younger.
I think chronological age does matter to most men. I also think some older men and women are lying about their ages on their profiles. If they didn't they'd be overlooked.
I don't believe people when they say " age is just a number". Or, say they don't care about a person's age. They do SO care. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:32:13 PM | Personally I think that age is a number but only to a certain extent. I've had guys in their 20s approach me to get to know them. I have kids in their 20s. I love them to death, but I wouldn't want to date the,m. I don't want to hear 'that was before my time'. I agree that some people act very old and others don't. I think that just maybe the drama from women and the games they play might lessen with age.
But personally, I just want someone that I can enjoy outside of the bed too. Someone that I enjoy talking to about things in general. Someone to explore this world with.
I want someone that is smart. Someone that can help me in life. Someone that can teach me things still. Is that a specific age? I don't think so. Think it is the person. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/12/2008 9:26:25 PM | | those men in their 50+ who want under 50 gals are just wishing. and missing one of life's greatest pleasures | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 12:27:38 AM | | Chronological age means nothing especially at my age. I am still attracted to a beautiful woman who enjoys the same moral and ethical standards as I do. If she clicks, she clicks no matter her age. If she gets me and I get her we really have something. I sure hope chronological age means nothing. I'm pushing sixty after all. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 12:53:32 AM | Bravo and Kudos to the guys who have said they find the over 40 woman desirable! Many are. Hell, most are. I can see that and I am totally heterosexual.
My stats. 5' 1"... 107 lbs. (physical 3 weeks ago)...B/P 110/65. Pulse/HR 67. Cholesterol 110.
Reason I state this: I guarantee a lot of 30somethings aren't that physically fit. Thing is I prefer men close to my own age. Here's the clincher though. Men 50 plus.. (check out the majority of the profiles...I did just to see) have a max age limit and it is usually in the mid 40s at the upper end. Go figure. 
I am contacted by the men, on average 10 years or younger than my age. It's not my choice. Just the way it is. I honestly believe the older men believe they can get these women in their 20s and 30s. It's a mindset...society...had led them to believe ... back when the men represented security. NOT the case anymore and a lot of these men will find themselves lonely... very lonely ... old men unless they are filthy rich.
Some of these threads have similar themes; therefore, if I have repeated things here ... even in the same thread... since I didn't go back and review all 37 pages at these wee morning hours... to see if I had already posted here....Just forgive me if the repetition is there. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 1:47:26 AM | You have sparked an interesting theory. I have been on POF for a while now and it seems that because I am 57, have greying hair and a professional status that I am ready for the frypan, I have contacted a lot of ladies between 45 & 60 and yet no response. I recently had dealings with a 45 y.o. lady and she said she was looking for someone younger, OK I accept that but then I find out she is dating a 19 year old, - So should I be looking for a lady who is 87 ????????????
In answer to your last paragraph, I think that any woman over 40 who takes care of herself, the way you describe, would be a wonderful partner in life and for a long term relationship. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 2:06:25 AM | | I just wish that men who are looking for thin/younger or thin women would state in on their profiles. I know some do and that is fine. Many of us are not thin, and or young looking, we are middle aged but still attractive, even with our shapely non thin bodies and faces that show a bit of living. I would gladly date men 40-60, but find that most of them on POF do not seek a woman there age unless she is model thin, or if they are interested in me it is becauase they are seeking a FB, which is not my scene. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 3:22:35 AM | I found your post very interesting. I just turned 61 and have been told that i dont look my age. the truth is that i will not date a woman under 55. I hve found that for a relationship to work that there must be common ground and age is certianly a factor.
In the last 10 years i have been in 2 serious relationships both with women only a year or less younger than myself. I also feel that being romantic and capable of love has nothing to do with age; rather spiritual and emotional maturity. I would encourage you to ignore ignorant advise and believe in yourself. From your writing and photo I am sure that you will have no trouble finsing that which you seek. Jon | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 4:46:33 AM | | I am a tad bit older than you young 'uns ,lol. I am not senile & I don't have alzheimers .But I will give you my opinions. Sometime I think age bothers guys more than gals. Myself, guys my age are boring. Its all about how they don't feel good, the only thing works good any more is their 'imagination'. Anybody 10-20 years younger than me , I can have a good conversation with, laugh more, and enjoy their company. I don't dwell on my age. I'm still here & plan to enjoy every minute of it. I might be old but I'm not dead yet, lol. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 9:34:13 AM | No chronological age has nothing to do with it from my point of view (BTW I am 47 y/o). For me if the woman has the traits that I am looking for in a person, then that is the most important thing.
I think these days chronological age is so much less an issue for many because people take care of themselves much better than years ago. Mentally and physically people tend to be more sharp and active. I would have no trouble dating a women older than me or younger than me if she and I shared similar traits and interests. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 11:05:08 AM |
No chronological age has nothing to do with it from my point of view (BTW I am 47 y/o). For me if the woman has the traits that I am looking for in a person, then that is the most important thing.
I think these days chronological age is so much less an issue for many because people take care of themselves much better than years ago. Mentally and physically people tend to be more sharp and active. I would have no trouble dating a women older than me or younger than me if she and I shared similar traits and interests.
This is how a normal person perceives the age issue! The problem is, most of the people on dating sites are not normal. Bill Cosby used to talk about his kids being "brain damaged". That's what life's experiences do to us folks. We are all brain damaged to a degree, but I've found that the majority of women have more serious issues. Some of it is tolerable, and some is plain insane!
I was on match.com for awhile and if you want to see the most brain damaged people, go there! I changed my profile to a comedy routine called "The Top Ten Excuses Given By Women." These were actual email responses that I received to my attempt to open a line of communication:
1. Your name is Bob? I'm sorry. I was married to a Bob and will never date another Bob!
2. I saw the picture of your Corvette. I'm sorry, my ex liked Corvettes, so I will never date another man that likes Corvettes!
3. I saw the picture of your two little dogs. I'm sorry, but I had a dog once......
4. I saw the picture of your race car. I'm sorry, I won't date a man with a death wish!
And, so on.
Clearly these people have been brain damaged to the point of insanity. Just try and imagine the odds of finding someone who is normal on match.com.
I just received a response from a woman on POF. She says that she saw the picture of my "camping trailer". Despite the fact that the picture was obviously of a MOTOR HOME, she goes on to state, "Not for me!" Not only did she not make a wrong asssumption, but was rude to boot. I'm 55 and she is 62! Can't you still knit while traveling in a motor home? Yes, I should have known better! 
I've removed all those photographs now. Maybe that will help the brain damaged here people on POF?
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 11:14:01 AM | | I have found the men to act brain damaged. Most can do nothing but imagine that I am tall, thin, divorced with children when i say I am not, and then when I send a pic they accuse me of lying, and how can I ever be a sexual woman when I must be crazy since I have not been married and ALL women who are my age and have not been married are gay and if I am not gay now I will be gay later. but they want to talk about sex and meet me for sex when they live 3 hours away and i am supposed to pay for a hotel since they live with their mother or ex wife who they still sleep with even though she is fat and ugly now since she gained weight after having children and she got a good job and divorced them and they lost their job but hey I am a teacher so I make a lot of money (red flag) so even though they are not attracted to me they can use me to pay their bills and have sex with me since I am a larger woman and I surely am desperate. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/13/2008 11:37:07 AM | | My thoughts on the matter are: It's not about the men in one's life - it's about the life in one's men. | |
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