| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:04:40 AM | don't you think it is funny how one lets age guide them on if they contact or let someone contact them. We all have boundries in some way if it be age, looks, height, weight, hair color or what ever. there is something that we each have that will be a boundry. I have no boundry on age as far as connecting and thats up or down. I have no boundry as far as a woman with children since they are what makes her what she is or has become. I can honestly say the one thing that has been a turn off to me is stupidity. Now before anyone goes off the deep end I am meaning someone that is acting that way trying to be what they are not. I am 56 and quite proud of it since it took all those years to make it here. I get quite a few ladies email me that are in thier 30s and I don't mindand ladies older and even some younger than that. I really haven't found the one that has caught my attention enough to go after so to speak. Not to say that the ladies that have written are not nice enough. everything depends on whats happening in the outer world at the time with me. distance is of no matter to me either I have traveled half way across the us to meet a lady and the time was well worth the trip. we just have to open up and let ourselves go and hope that we make a good choice in where and what we seek. good luck people
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 11:49:33 AM |
A lot of people don't realize they're blocking certain age groups. I was doing that and changed it when I learned of it.
Uh huh, and this one came back immediately and said he was going to chang it. Want to guess if he did or not?  Nope...His post was false. Women 3 years older than him still cannot email him. But those 18 years younger can.
I'm surprised sometimes at how "unclever" people can be when they're misrepresenting themselves. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 12:56:22 PM | Wow, 39 pages of "Calling all 40-60 Something Males"...
If they haven't answered by now they ain't GONNA answer.
Look, ya can't make anybody like something they don't, even if their dislike of whatever is misguided or downright stupid. Men who have cloudy mirrors and insist on chasing after women half their age aren't gonna change because of 39 pages of opinion. There is no law saying that men and women MUST pair up(good gawdamighty, we're not SOCKS) so let them hunt for whatever they want and if that hunt turns out badly how is it any skin off our collective noses? If they have success I applaud their perseverance.
As for the question posed in the OT, are all men over 40 caught up in this illusion? No, I don't think so. The ones that ARE, will either find some young thing to go along with ( maybe for money, maybe because she don't like sex and thinks an old guy won't bother her), they'll die alone( which is better than dying with someone you DON'T want) or maybe the malfunctioning brain cells will come back online and he'll throw the "must be younger than 40 " filter out the window in time to form a worthwhile relationship with a woman in his own age range. We aren't ALL dried up, angry and bitter. Some of us think life is STILL an adventure! I'm on a quest to find a man in my age range that doesn't have his head up his butt. If I don't find him I still intend to enjoy the process of looking. I do not mind exerting a little bit of effort to help a guy pull his head out. That's not a problem. What I WON'T do is spend the rest of my allotted time on earth yelling up guys' arseholes trying to make myself heard....
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:01:59 PM |
maybe... she don't like sex and thinks an old guy won't bother her
A mistake which would be quickly revealed.
Thank God I didn't *marry* her.
Ho ho ho.
We aren't ALL dried up, angry and bitter
I tempted to agree but I want proof.
I doubt if all older women suffer from all three maladies.
I'm not sure I want "juicy, angry and bitter", though.
Sounds too much like eating a lemon. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:14:50 PM | Sounds too much like eating a lemon.
Sounds like you might have MARRIED one or 2 in your day...lemons that is.
If you actually FOUND what you want, a woman willing to be available for longterm NSA sex, I suspect you STILL wouldn't be very happy because she would be lacking in so many other areas...
But it's your life and you are certainly entitled to seek whatever it is you want. I suggest that you spend your time LOOKING, not arguing with the women who've already decided NOT to buy what you are trying to sell. Because one thing about being older; having dealt with whining and pouting from spouses and kids in the past, we know how to make decisions and stick to them.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:26:21 PM | suggest that you spend your time LOOKING
Clearly you haven't seen my references to ItsJustLunch, Events&Adventures, 5 online personal services, speed-dating, lock&Key events or Craigslist.
Heck, I bet there's nobody here that put out that much effort.
And I did have sex a few times.
But as I've said before, women instantly want permanence out of it.
I was bothered by my lack of experience and naive acceptance in my marriage
but that's fixed now. I put out enough effort this time to know the Real Deal.
And it sucks.
That's not the answer I expected but... that's how it goes.
not arguing with the women who've already decided NOT to buy what you are trying to sell
You're imagining if you think I've tried to change anyone's mind here.
My expectations are much lower than that.
It's a Master Debating club.
Many women have a certain mindset which I have no power to change,
which is why I've dialed my efforts back. Nope, what I got out of this place
was that such a mindset exists, it's commonplace and immutable.
It's fun to poke holes in the logic, though.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 1:56:07 PM | I'm sorry, but I can't see where you've "dialed your efforts back."
But as I've said before, women instantly want permanence out of it.
No, not all of them. But most who will accept a FB are so lacking in true self esteem that they have multiple other issues. Or she is a raging "femiNazi" who is probably porking multiple partners, just like she imagines the men she's so angry at are doing.What's gonna happen when you call her up wanting to fark and she's not available until later because she's farking somebody else at the moment?
Dude, I hope you find what you think you want. But I suspect if you do there will be so many collateral drawbacks that you STILL won't be satisfied.
I love ya Broward but I think holes in logic is ALL you're gonna be poking...
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 2:23:48 PM |
I'm sorry, but I can't see where you've "dialed your efforts back."
I haven't used Events&Adventures in about a year.
I cancelled all my online personals ads except for PoF, which is free.
I've still got my ItsJustLunch subscription, it expires in a few months and I might renew it, I haven't decided yet. It's expensive but it's easy.
But the #1 way to verify that I've dialed back my efforts.....
The amout of time I spent on the PoF Forums!
HO!!!!  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 6:09:57 PM | | that is not true I am completely shocked at the younger men that email me some to just say they find me cute..... I think if you are attractive men are sure to see you that way It hasn't been my experience that men over 45 aren't willing to date you, and I am 49 so that blows your theory............... | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 6:41:03 PM | | Firstly ,when anyone is judged by their age they are well off without the person making the judgement,Insecure people make these type of assessments and concern is for their own image rather than the qualities of a partner.Their egos outlast their usefulness and rarely find success in relationships due to their selfish outlook.Referring to a previous and similar question I would like to share a statement with any of these people who take the trouble to read your question and replies.THERE IS "OLD "AND THERE IS "OLDER"....WE ALL GET OLDER BY THE MINUTE BUT OLD IS A STATE OF MIND ONLY....MY FATHER WAS 74 WHEN HE PASSED AWAY AND WAS STILL YOUNG.HE NEVER ONCE SPOKE AS AN OLD PERSON,ACTED LIKE AN OLD PERSON OR EVEN WAS AN OLD PERSON.MY MOTHER WAS THE SAME AT 82 YRS YOUNG.I know a man who is 38 and boy is he OLD.He is a transport manager who is seen by the workers AND management as the enemy.He believes(incorrectly)that it s all he can do and walks with a downtrodden look and stoop,OLD before he has lived.Being old is when you act,talk and feel old and does not have to happen...i AM 63 AND NEVER BEEN FITTER,HAPPIER OR AT EASE WITH MY LIFE THAN NOW.i CAN EENJOY EVERYTHING MORE NOW THAN AT 20 WITH ALL LIFES EXPERIENCES WITH ME.(yes,everything) Those who look for youth to support their egos will most likely the ones who are OLD before their time... | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:22:04 PM |
Many women have a certain mindset which I have no power to change,
which is why I've dialed my efforts back. Nope, what I got out of this place
was that such a mindset exists, it's commonplace and immutable.
It's fun to poke holes in the logic, though.
Damn, Broward, that's why you're my hero! You go places I fear to tread!
The difference for me is that, even with all the broken and mulilated bodies in the dating world, I still have no fear of wading into the fray. Despite the throngs in thongs that want to cut out my liver, I will still expose my heart!  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 10:46:38 PM | Can I put in my application? I feel the most important trait in a lady is showing she has the respect for herself to try and look good. Look good for herself, not others. That is my most influencing factor when choosing a date.
One should accept their age and try to look good, not try to look younger! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/22/2008 11:03:52 PM | Well, of course a man over 45 should never consider dating a woman his own age (or heaven forbid, an older woman). The rule of thumb is for men to date women half their own + 5 years. That means, for a 50 year old man the ideal age for a woman is around 30 years old.
How else can a man expect to impress a woman with his knowledge of fine wines (educating her how the right wine should be packaged in a the box the right size and shape to easily fit in the fridge); or enthralling her with tales of his world travels and adventures (catching the wrong bus on his way to a professional wresting match); or making her laugh with his clever wit (telling jokes so old they haven't been repeated since she was born). Besides, how is a man of 50 to be expected to compete for the affections of a woman his own age when there are so many 65 year old men who not only no longer have a mortgage but also have a cool job welcoming customers as they walk into the local Wal-Mart (not to mention the employee discount). | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/23/2008 2:26:32 AM |
Besides, how is a man of 50 to be expected to compete for the affections of a woman his own age when there are so many 65 year old men who not only no longer have a mortgage but also have a cool job welcoming customers as they walk into the local Wal-Mart (not to mention the employee discount).
Exactly what I'm looking for ! Where are those men! Send them to me! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/23/2008 3:32:52 AM | I think he has lost his marbles, I am 57 and looking for a partner in life and if my partner was a beautiful woman such as you I would no longer be looking as she would have my total attention. As some of the other guys said, if she and I get on and can make a go of things then age is irrelevant.
PS if you are ever in Australia please contact me. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/23/2008 4:24:57 AM |
Those who look for youth to support their egos will most likely the ones who are OLD before their time...
This from a fellow who is 63 and has his filters set to receive email from females who are 37 to 60.
Yep, he wouldn't even consider a woman who is 2 years YOUNGER than he is. Walk the talk. Just another example of why it's important to look at what people do...rather than what they say. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/25/2008 9:42:36 AM | Stargazer46 : Wow !! Certainly the 63 year old is very foxy (in a disgusting way!) Don't you realize he is "hustling you" Think of it-why else would he utter such nonsense ???? You sure do not have to be concerned (or any other ladies in this forum) about his incredible statements which add up to nothing other than to try and lure you to him-tks  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males? Older Women ARE better!
Posted: 1/25/2008 8:12:56 PM | many many many men will find you beautiful, hot, sexy and even as a possible marriage material!.....
Those 20 and 20 year-olds will be here someday---------
Men who don't know what they want go after the young ones.....so let them have the fun of the empty chase. Maybe someone younger for you? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males? Older Women ARE better!
Posted: 3/11/2008 1:01:34 PM | ^^^Really? They do? Who knew?
Yes Sir, I suppose they do know what they want. Money, a way to get ahead in their careers...We mature ladies have already been there, done that, earned our way and now want to explore the entertaining side of life!!! Power to ya cuz your going to need it!
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males? Older Women ARE better!
Posted: 3/11/2008 2:10:54 PM | I was contacted by a 60 yo man, 10 years my senior. We had met 15 years earlier, so when he saw my pic decided to write. He asked me out. I said no. He said why not. I said look at your profile, your looking for women 28-38, I'm much toooooo old for U. 
He said middle age women aren’t typically active, fit etc and he was...
Boochit. We did go out and I ran circles around him. Now who's too old? lol
Another friend 28 always looks for older women over 35. I asked him why. He said older women know what they want, sexually experienced and have dealt with self-esteem issues. I have since found out there are allot of younger men looking for older women for similar reasons.
So write the dude off. there are plenty of fish in the pond
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males? Older Women ARE better!
Posted: 3/12/2008 5:03:17 AM |
Oh, Birdhope, that was hysterical...........He was 10 years older, 60 and he wanted women more then 20 years younger then himself? I swear some of them only think with the wrong head..........
It makes some practical sense for older men to pursue younger women. If we manage to catch one who is a keeper, we've got a partner who can be a help mate during our infirmed years.
I am searching for a date/friend in the 40 to 60 age group. I am 60. I guess I could go a little bit older, but can't see myself going younger. My last wife was 16 years my junior and despite my chronic medical conditions, I was in better shape than she was. | |
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