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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 9:46:03 AM | Would it be a correct guess to suppose you don't see yourself dating younger as part of a mid-life crisis and an attempt to feel younger? There are probably things you just prefer about younger men, right?
Why would it be any different for a man? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 9:46:57 AM | | cautiouslady: Right, when a women exercises her beauty power at age 24, we call it a wedding; when a man exercises his financial power at age 54, we call it a mid-life crisis. Now there's a double standard and feminacentric point of view we can all get behind. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 10:04:03 AM | Toe...
tell it like it is "sister"....
YESSIR.....
I look my age and am proud of each wrinkle...
I also lost interest and am moving on...
what malarky is right...
sheesh....
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 10:49:11 AM | ahhhh ok...good luck to you all...can't judge a book by it's cover..funny you ppl have b een here for a looong time. Says alot...
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:27:13 PM | The shorter, balder, fatter a guy is... the lower the income, smaller the penis... it always seems his expectations are VERY high indeed !  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 4:41:16 PM |
I want to point out something I suspect is being missed by most of those posting to this thread.
The OP stated that the guy was talking about men not wanting women over 45 for longterm relationships. I don't think there was any implication that men 40-60 won't DATE women over 45. It was that they won't get into serious longterm arrangements with them.
Bullseye!
And i have had (more than a breadbasket's worth) numerous men with extremely appealing profiles, respond to an e-mail of interest with, "Sorry, I'm looking for long term, and I'm young for my age; therefore, I'm only interested in women 10-15 years younger."
Over the past 6 months two friends (one male; one female) have asked, "Are you seeing anyone?" and when hearing "nobody romantically" have said, "I have a friend your age who would be really nice to know. Would you be interested in meeting him." Only to come back after hearing my "sure" and say, "Wow! His age range is 30-45, and I don't understand why. So sorry I brought up the idea in the first place."
The majority of responses here indicate the above is not the norm. So maybe those of us who have experienced this sort of thing are in the minority. Again, it's very helpful to gain broader perspective! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 5:19:55 PM | | Age is important, but not like some imply. I am 59 and have fallen in love with the woman of my dreams, She is over 45. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 5:24:54 PM |
The shorter, balder, fatter a guy is... the lower the income, smaller the penis... it always seems his expectations are VERY high indeed !
Even us lowly worms can wish upon a star!  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:05:15 PM | Well I for one like my males well aged, not into young guns...although many try to approach.
I have not met a well aged one without some kind of baggage, but then is there anyone out there without?
Chemistry is important but so is companionship
If I don't find a compatible well aged man soon I guess I'll have to take the young guns up on their offers....lmfao | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:27:15 PM | Well.... yeah, to be blunt, generally speaking, we will always look for younger. We will fall in love with someone older and occasionally have a long-term relationship with women who are 'older', but even then the younger ones will always be more appealing sexually.
Just as women will 'settle' for a guy who makes less money or isn't that real alpha-type, men can be realistic as well.
There are exceptions, of course, as there always are on both sides of the fence, but what you friend told you is pretty well on the mark if the majority chooses to be honest. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:44:12 PM | | I'd have no problem with a LTR with a woman 10 or even 15 years older. As long as her family was OK and didn't think I was a gold-digger. | |
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| Speaking for me personally...
Posted: 7/5/2007 6:57:17 PM | | I prefer a younger woman (early to mid 30's) because she still has some time left on her biological clock if we both choose to have kids.But,if I met the right one, age wouldn't be a factor at all.Lots of beautiful older women out there...inside and out. | |
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| Speaking for me personally...
Posted: 7/6/2007 6:58:28 AM | I have to speak to that "mate value" thing...
Basically it's probably true and I have to tell the gals to quit tying their self esteem to having a partner. Because otherwise that failing will be used by a lot of men to manipulate you.
And don't worry about "mate value" because your value just SOARS with men 20yrs your senior,who've just been diagnosed with a serious/debilitating medical condition or had a "wake up call" medical event. It's knowing your market and the product you have to offer that controls value...
If the idea of having a guy court you for your caregiving potential makes you go "oh YUCK", I don't blame you a bit. But I had to put this stupid "mate value" thing into it's PROPER perspective and context!
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| Speaking for me personally...
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:22:27 AM | Thanks for a little bit of confirmation, ladyc4. A lot of people abhor the term, but when someone says "So-And-So would be a great catch" they're using the concept. And everyone understands it intuitively. But there's a lot of stuff out there in the media which panders to women and tells them they're all 10's, which is an obvious impossibility (I'm thinking of "He's Just Not That Into You", which was a huge bestseller among women, and which simultaneously tells them all men are zeros, thus doing everyone a great disservice...).
...quit tying their self esteem to having a partner. Because otherwise that failing will be used by a lot of men to manipulate you.
And vice versa, as a couple of the snarky comments by women here about men not being attached implying various things about them attests, there is a sub-set of the population which thinks you're a worthless person if you're not on some sort of relationship track for a period which exceeds a couple of months -- just like in the job market you've got some `splaining to do if you're out of work more than 6 or 8 or 10 months; it's like if no one else wants you, then you must be flawed and they don't want to have anything to do with you either.
But I had to put this stupid "mate value" thing into it's PROPER perspective and context!
Good for you! Everyone should follow your lead. Dating/mating are only one aspect of life. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:33:14 AM | | I totaly dissagree! I find the older ,er...more experianced, I become the more I am attracted to more mature women. I never can understand guys that are in their 40's and looking to date girls young enough to be their daughters. That's just gross! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:38:24 AM | | ^^ beershark, I agree with you. But maybe that's because we both have kids already. If I were in my 40's, male and wanting to have a family still it would just make sense that the person I look for should be alittle younger and better still if they don't already have their own kids with the added complications that would bring. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:47:52 AM |
The shorter, balder, fatter a guy is... the lower the income, smaller the penis...
I am totally screwed...... 
Be good, Jim | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:56:02 AM |
That's just gross!
Yeah, yeah, sure, sure.... but you have to admit that they are WAY sexier than the vast majority of 40-50 something women....
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 7:59:12 AM |
Yeah, yeah, sure, sure.... but you have to admit that they are WAY sexier than the vast majority of 40-50 something women....
Yup. Just like guys in their 20s and 30s are WAY sexier than the vast majority of 40-50 something men... | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 8:01:03 AM |
Yup. Just like guys in their 20s and 30s are WAY sexier than the vast majority of 40-50 something men...
Well, not that I'm into guys at all, but I'm absolutely sure you are correct (with a few exceptions like me.... I'm extremely hawt!)
backatcha.... and raise ya one. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 8:05:04 AM | | Obviously can't speak for all men in my age group, but I "prefer" women in their 40's - 50's. I think they're the sexiest creatures alive. Nothing against women under 35, but to me most are still caught up in the frivolity of their youth. I just can't take them seriously. I wouldn't think of dating women that much younger than me, anyway. Just what would we have in common? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 8:10:01 AM |
Well.... yeah, to be blunt, generally speaking, we will always look for younger. We will fall in love with someone older and occasionally have a long-term relationship with women who are 'older', but even then the younger ones will always be more appealing sexually.
Funny, I never thought that someone near my age would be "settling" by dating me. And if I ever detect that's the case, my interest in the deluded dumba** would drop to...well...on the minus side of zero.
Just as women will 'settle' for a guy who makes less money or isn't that real alpha-type, men can be realistic as well.
Actually, the women I know don't really give a cr*p about how much money a man makes, as long as he's responsible with what he does make. We generally make our own. I also know of no women in my life who would "settle"...period.
There are exceptions, of course, as there always are on both sides of the fence, but what you friend told you is pretty well on the mark if the majority chooses to be honest.
That is certainly a common internet mentality. Many men take one look at all the hot, thong-clad, 20 something year old a**es flashing across the screen and think they can have it, that they deserve it, just because it's there. But this doesn't seem to be the case in the real world. A 40 something hitting on a 20 something in a club or bar is quickly humilated to the point he wouldn't do it many times. The internet gives them a false bravado so they email the young girls, thinking they're going to be entranced with the "older, mature" man. lol | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/6/2007 8:38:30 AM | *sigh* the age thing again! Who wants someone who judges first by age anyway? That only means that they're totally clueless to the factors that actually make a relationship strong. Here's the deal... not to stereotype because there are lots of exceptions and you can't judge someone solely by whether they are male or female but... men, in general do tend to seem a little more arrogant about this, believe themselves to look younger/more attractive than they actually are, and tend to feel less guilty "judging" people on largely irrelevant or selfish characteristics. They also happen to have an easier time finding a younger mate and keep the option of future children open longer than women tend to (partly due to biology so being able to/wanting to produce a healthy baby is still part of their set of considerations).
Truth is both sexes would probably prefer younger if it is all about physical characteristics. Most 30 year old men have it all over most 40-60 year old men when it comes to physical beauty, stamina, health. It's just what happens! And there are alot of men (and women) who have reached "middle age" and are having real problems with it. Being with a younger partner helps them hold on to that youth that they are desparately clinging to. The may have wrinkles, thinning hair, and a paunch but if they get to look at a young partner every day instead of the mirror, they can convince themselves they are still attractive.
But it's not all about the physical and a lot of women, and more astute men, take in a wider range of factors when choosing a mate, moving age more to the background because they realize that other factors are much more important if you're actually looking for a serious (and strong) relationship. | |
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