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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/9/2008 1:08:16 AM |
I think one should date whatever age is comfortable to them. I'm 46 and usually date from late 30's to early 50's. I found that I didn't have much in common with the younger 30's men.
I agree. As long as both people are adults and they are both happy, it doesn't matter about age difference. As to under thirty, I have met a few that I did have a lot in common with, but I just don't think I could bring myself to become involved with someone that young. I am 51 and as far as age of people I am willing to date, they have to be older than my kids and younger than my mother!!! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/9/2008 9:39:56 PM | | I'm not that great at guessing ages to begin with, so it would have to be someone I was attracted to. And if the attraction is mutual, then I believe age is just a number. It's all about the person not the package. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/10/2008 4:57:53 PM | | I agree - you need to have something in common to talk about. I personally don't want to raise another child. Prefer the 50-60 age range. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/10/2008 5:53:39 PM | i searched the world over thought i found true love and then poof she is gone ! ah but is not this life a fairy tale , to live the happy life , of roses and wine . only the good times will i stay ! they and in sickness do they part , in hard times they do run !run for the hills we all scream ! are we not all spoiled rotten kids wanting things our way ! the perfect mate from on tv or the movies ! the perfect bodys of ken or barbies are a must . does one have to look younger than their age or is the rest look older than they really are !but this i know, wine gets better with age as does people ! so not younger that one wants. is it maturity and grace to grow old together ! romantic love is only a gift that is here for a moment !true love i think only comes from our pet dog fido and if i could only learn to love my mate like a dog instead of a cat !  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/10/2008 9:26:06 PM | I went out on a date last year?, she was 10 years my senior, we got along great, had she not went nuts the next day, we would probably have continued dating...
Age is a number - in my case, a number that keeps getting bigger and bigger  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/14/2008 1:52:22 PM | | That is not true. I'm 44 almost 45 and I've dated women older and younger. If some woman over 45 and I really hit it off, then I would want a serious monogamous relationship with her that would possibly lead to marriage. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/15/2008 3:27:18 PM | | this 46 year old really prefers 10 under to 5 over but nothing is ever that black and white, if we click and the attraction is there i dont rule out anyone | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/16/2008 4:49:23 PM | | I know for this 46 year old man, perhaps 8 under and 5 over, yet age is just a number, if the chemistry and attraction is there all else is folly, just enjoy it, cause it wont last forever. | |
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| Calling all 40-something Males?
Posted: 5/16/2008 6:22:38 PM | I can't believe this utter nonsense! For me, I'd rather be with a woman that is close to my own age. Let me get this straight. He was 63 and had the nerve to suggest that a woman of 45 is to old for most guys????? What a ridiculous , womanizing statement!
Does he think woman under 45 will fall for him? Sure some will if his name is Hugh Hefner!
I do not want someone so young that she does not even enjoy the same music that I do. Let alone the same values. My basic rule is simple... If I am old enough to have been her daddy, she is to young. for a date, a fling or one night stand, "maybe younger is OK. But since I generally do not look for any of those things, rules someone younger out.
This whole dating thing to me is... and always has been... the process to find a life-mate. Ask my first wife....On our first date she told me that she was thinking about becoming a Nun. I told her that if that's the case, this will be our last date. I explained to her the way I felt about dating. She then said, "well in that case, maybe I won't become a Nun. Looking back.....I sure wish she had! lol | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/17/2008 2:20:51 PM | Hey now us over 40's guys have something to say to this forum.
Well non of us over 40's guys has anything against dating someone our age.
It does seem that it is not anything to do with who we would date at all.
It seems in ontario canada that women who are in the 40's & over age bracket all want a specal type of guy. And which most of us guys do not fit into that ideal type .
So we are left with having to look for someone younger then us as then we find women who will at least date us ! Even if the younger ones are out for just a good time or because we will treat them nice .
As in ontario canada most women feel a guy 40 & over has to own a home /have good well paying job & has to accept any woman who is interested in datin him.
Yet us over 40's men have to take the ladies as they are or we are lower then a slug if we don't
So you see us over 40's guys in canada having to chase after much younger ones even if its a costly way to date someone !
And if you don't believe me check and see how many ontario women rated me ! Yep take alook & see how many ontario women think I am a good catch ! If you see more then one your not viewing my profile ! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 12:39:17 AM | | Right. I do not know where to start with respect to the dating thing at my age. My wife left a long time ago. I had several flings, but they were just flings. I used to worry about this sort of thing, but I let it go. God knows what I need. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 1:12:11 PM | | I just had this experience last year and it sent me for a loop! I was 48 and had been talking with a guy from POF that was 52. Things were going well and then, *poof* he disappeared. I figured, oh well. Then just a couple of weeks ago he gets back in contact with me and lets me know that he would like to reconnect. The fool then proceeds to tell me that the reason he disappeared last year was that he hooked up with a 38 year old, that he thought he had needed someone younger. Well, he then had a hard attack and what did Little Miss Thing do? Yep, she left him. Now he's sniffing at my door again saying he needs a "mature" woman! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 2:04:40 PM | | I am 57 and I can't talk for other men, but to me women my age or within 10 years younger or 5 years older I always look for whats in thier hearts not so much the age. They are the ones that suit me best. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 4:27:00 PM | | IF YOU READ THE PROFILES ON THIS SITE, IT SEEMS MEN AND WOREN BOTH ARE LOOKING FOR SOMEONE YOUNGER. SOOO--IT'S HARDER AND HARDER TO MAKE CONTACT ON HERE THE OLDER YOU ARE. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:31:10 PM | The fool then proceeds to tell me that the reason he disappeared last year was that he hooked up with a 38 year old, that he thought he had needed someone younger. Well, he then had a hard attack and what did Little Miss Thing do?
Ms. wheels............you did mean to type heart attack instead of hard attack. Right? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 5:55:58 PM | Phoebe have you considered that maybe one led to the other?
I cannot imagine hooking up with lady who, according to another section in the forums, would be entering her prime period of desire. I would rather live to a ripe old age than die of exhaustion in a month.  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:17:32 PM | Way to go WaywardSeeker
Love it 
I think I found a forum I can stick with - maybe has something to do with being among my peers??????? 
I have had the same experience- no problem getting a younger man's attention, but men my own age just don't seem to want to give me a tumble, so it's really good to hear from all the "grown ups "  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 6:30:38 PM | | As I get older, something has started to advance as well - my appreciation for older women. I find them beautiful but the issue still exists - will I find a person who can be my partner? That has certainly been a challenging role to fill. The problem with age is that it takes more energy to continue growing and maturing to be able to tackle all those enigmas like me out there looking for more of a spiritual being. I could care less how many miles you can hike, how hot you look in a sweater or skirt or knee high leather boots. It's what you are made of, the depths of your soul and character that will attract my attention and keep it in my sights forever. The challenge is to grow, to mature, is it easier at any particular age? Perhaps you grow tired and get set in your way, on a spiritual level? Perhaps, all those organic veggies, holistic skin products and days sweating in the gym are only treating the superficial aspects of the attractiveness formula. Go deeper. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:02:52 PM | Every time I delve into one of these “age”-centered threads I have to chuckle.
Guess we should delineate just WHY you’re dating in the first place? What are your goals/parameters? What type of relationship are you seeking? These kinds of questions aren’t age or gender specific, either, btw.
If you’re only after a sexually appealing activity partner to play around with for a few weeks/months...maybe even a couple yrs, then I suppose age doesn’t really matter. But in my experience sooner or later these types of transient, frivolous, “live for the moment” relationships wear out like an old shoe. On to your next conquest, I suppose.
If you’re looking long term, with specific expectations and goals of permanence in mind, age DOES matter. You can’t get around it with a lot of lofty platitudes that “age is just a number, people should date any age they want, what’s the big deal” crap, and here’s why…..
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**** Family, children, and all that goes along with it. ****
Men: There are plenty of examples of older men wooing and marrying much younger women; the reasons vary but the biggest are: to start another family, vanity (makes them feel young again), ego (they’re entitled and “deserve” the young filly), arrogance (trophy wife to show off to family, friends, coworkers).
Women: I hear it all the time, older women love the young studmuffins because the attention is supremely flattering and makes the women feel young again. Some swear up and down their boyfriends say at the start they’re not interested in starting a family and won’t leave them when they both get older. But a funny thing happens when they boyfriend outgrows his adolescent mindset and the women get older and less physically appealing. They find the lust that held them doesn’t last as long as either thought.
**** Health ****
Look people, we all age. We could be lucky and healthy well into old age, but the statistics and our modern, western lifestyle argues against it. If there is a huge age difference, no matter the gender, the first to enter into that phase in life where your body stops you from fully indulging in all the activities you both enjoyed when you first met will put a huge strain on the relationship. The greater the age gap, the more pronounced and profound the shock.
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If you notice, not one of the reasons above has anything to do with true, real love and companionship. They're all coming from a very selfish, short-term, self-centered mindset of "what can you do for 'me' and what do 'I' get out of the relationship?"
To me, people that automatically target partners that are either much younger or older do so for dysfunctional reasons. They are doing it out of either ego, financial security, vanity, or any other host of psychologically unhealthy criteria.
I have absolutely no desire to date a much younger woman, for the simple reasons that our physical, cultural, and maturity gaps are so great they’d catch up to us rather quickly and interfere with the relationship. And believe me, that'll happen much sooner than later. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/18/2008 7:42:55 PM | Well said Mowtownmaniacs. I have reached a point where I would be happy to have a pure and honest friend, rather than a frenzied "relationship". I've pretty well made it on my own, so I'm financially ok - not rich, but certainly ok. People that I have been exposed to in the dating scene have just not been a match for me. I'm beginning to think it's me, but my idea of the end of a really nice first date would be a sweet kiss that says thank you, I'll call again, not one that brings out the lust and "lets spend the night together tonight or soon!" Don't know if I'm making myself clear here, but it would be sooooo refreshing to meet someone who is checking out what's between my ears rather than what's between my shoulders. whine whine whine 
Anyway, I agree that age IS important, with the rare cases in mind. My friend is 80 with her "friend" in his 40's. They have been together ten years and he just isn't going anywhere. Trouble with that example is just that, it's sooooo rare. Friends  are forever, hot sweaty sex isn't. My late husband was my best friend.. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 5/19/2008 9:13:51 AM | Pheobe, it must have been a fruedian slip!!
[Ms. wheels............you did mean to type heart attack instead of hard attack. Right? } | |
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