| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/26/2008 4:11:40 AM |
The fool then proceeds to tell me that the reason he disappeared last year was that he hooked up with a 38 year old, that he thought he had needed someone younger
I just keep hearing Dr Phil in my head....and what makes this fool actually think and women her age is really interested in him.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/26/2008 10:48:25 AM | Prof 48:
do you think that a valuable woman of any age would exchange her freedom for a free dinner? Do you think that a talented older man would exchange aesthetic pleasure for economic status? I highly doubt it.
Still the man is supposed to lead and the woman to follow: At least, in my mind.
Older women have an aesthetic sense too. It's not that a woman after 50 becomes blind.
Valuable and beautiful women above 40 don't settle!
You might find a young lazy woman willling to settle. But rarely an older one!
Not all older men have a wide range of choice. What if they are terrible lovers??
Maybe you meant to say that FOR YOU a woman needs to be not only a social peer but also an economic peer. Or maybe I misunderstood. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/26/2008 9:56:08 PM | Well Im 50 as of November and would certainly be willing to date a lady my age or older as long as we get along. I dont see anything wrong with it maybe a great thing for both of us. But I do think there has to be some common ground between the two. Its the little things that keep u together.  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 9:48:32 AM |
Several months ago, the gentleman who, um, ah, well, "inspired" the original post for this topic c ontacted me. His e-mail was headed "Like a Boomerang" and imagine my surprise when he asked if i'd like to go out for dinner sometime soon. Apparently the woman with whom he has been romantically/monogamously involved over the past year (about 15-20 years his junior) decided that she'd met her soulmate --- who is 10-15 years younger his junior.
In the words of the great contemporary philosopher Larry the Cable Guy ;"Now that's funny, I don't care who ya are!"
Cindy O | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 10:06:28 AM | Well Im 50 as of November and would certainly be willing to date a lady my age or older as long as we get along.
The better question for both men and women is: Who is willing to date you?
It seems that many people come here without any idea of who comprises their target dating pool, and believe me, such a thing exists. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 5:31:03 PM |
Rough crowd. The guy died and you gals are laughing hysterically.
Bad karma in here.
Bad Karma where? Did I miss something? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 5:39:23 PM | | ^^Maybe it was back on like page 22. I gave up searching, but that's some pretty heavy stuff to lay down with no visible reason why. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 5:51:05 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.................................................
Okay.. once again I'm late on this one.. but.. who exactly is dead? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 6:06:15 PM | | Motown you said it better than anything I've read here. They only thing I would add is that men should actually marry women 7 or 8 years OLDER because we die about that many years earlier on average. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/27/2008 8:32:14 PM |
Do your own actions illustrate the above statement as "mostly valid."? Should women in my st/age of life face "reality" and accept that our chronological age matters more to most men our own age than our physical fitness and all of the other things that we feel we have to offer Mr. Right?
I feel this is different from one individual to the next and not a cover-all. I had a long relationship with a woman who was two years older than I was. Age was never an issue and never discussed. Too many put too much value on age. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 1:29:19 AM | This from a male 64 years old.
I went to college at the age of 23, so the generation oof people I most identify with is for the most part five years younger than I.
So for a convivial life experience where I do not spend half my time as a history teacher or trying to explain the relevance of my point of view, I want to stick with my contemporaries.
The late sixties were a revolutionary time, and those older than I belong to an other era, mostly.
So I went fishing for my own age plus three minus six. Found one too.
In that age range are plenty of beautiful women, and I am outnumbered three to one in the fishing pond.
Something that good looking women tend to forget is that the pool of suitors thins out as they age, and the most eligible men have the least difficulty finding a nice rainbow trout.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 2:07:28 AM | Ohh... we do know freelance, down to the bone  .
But congratulations on your catch  !
Just read your profile and it brought a tear of envy to my eye....where in the world were you hiding???
If I'd seen you, would have stepped on my own tit trying to jockey to the front of the stream  .
Very Happy New Year to you! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:16:32 AM | I really AM out of sync. Most of the men my age (my contemporaries), aren't anything like I am...........they seem worn out and tired. I guess hard living in the 70's and 80's did them in????
Yet, I am not one for dating anyone in an age bracket that my daughter would date in. That just feels weird to me.....
And I can't see myself with a GOM (grouchy older man), either...........
Does Harry Belefonte have a son that I could date.......??? Because if he was anything like his father, I sure would! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:36:18 AM | | Most of the men I meet who are in the 40-60 age range have children they are supporting, since most have been married at least 2 times and they usually have a child who is younger since wife number 2 or 3 was a lot younger than them. Many seem to be looking for wife number 3 or 4 to be 50 but look 30 and have the same interests as they do. Some of us are in our 50s, proud to be our age and look a bit younger but not 30, and have our own interests. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:37:02 AM |
Storm55...too many MEN put too much value on age.
I wonder why this is? If so many do this then there must be a common factor somewhere. Age 45 was mentioned somewhere along the line. Could menopause be the issue? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:45:20 AM | | Some might need the ego boost of dating a younger woman, some might want to have a child with a younger woman, many women who are ages 40-60 are more financially secure than men, that might bother them, so they seek someone who earns less than they do, guess it could be many reasons. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 7:53:24 AM |
If I'd seen you, would have stepped on my own tit trying to jockey to the front of the stream
The day I start stepping on my own tits, I'll be signing out of Adventures in Modern Dating, for a couple of reasons.
Age 45 was mentioned somewhere along the line. Could menopause be the issue?
Ahh yes...menopause. The 'boogey man' of midlife male/female relationships. Except the boogeyman only exists now in men's minds, in most enlightened western societies. Any woman who's doctor tells her she has no choice but to suffer through menopause and take her distress out on people around her, should be given a "get out of jail free" card, and permission to shoot said doctor. Even where HRT may not be medically advisable, there are a variety of alternatives.
That said, if a certain segment of the 40+ male population wants to use the menopause boogeyman as an excuse to run after significantly younger women, with the inherent risks of such behavior(For ever man who finds a genuinely functional, loving relationship with a younger woman, how many others get used for financial gain or as a rescuer/father figure? Or just plain end up looking like pervs or jackasses?). You might want to think about it.
And just as an afterthought, "45" is not some "rule"...women can pass through "normal"menopause ( not brought on by surgical procedures or illness)anywhere from 40 to late 50's, occasionally even later. Another thing men don't realize, is that it is not uncommon for a woman's libido to spike up pretty high for a few years before actual menopause starts. And if she is willing to stand up for her medical rights, it is not necessary to become a sexphobic manhating **** on wheels during and after menopause.
Now shall we discuss "andropause", or shall we just call it male midlife crisis? Dare we women hope that our mature men have the smarts(and balls) to stand up for THEIR medical rights? Or is male midlife cranial rectosis something we just have to either put up with, or date younger men to avoid?
The key word there IS 'date', who'd want to put up with a younger man when he hits MMC? Don't let yourself get overly attached, because there WILL come a time when he shows up with a new Harley( or Corvette) or quits his job to bum around the country in a ratty old motor home,and did I mention he'll start banging the 30 yr old trailer park diva who works at the local convenience store?
Please understand my preceding remarks were meant to be humorous(mostly) and made with (mostly)gruff affaction for middle aged males, and of course, just to jam the shoe onto the other foot and just generally be a difficult old bat....
Cindy O | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 8:21:23 AM |
Some might need the ego boost of dating a younger woman, some might want to have a child with a younger woman, many women who are ages 40-60 are more financially secure than men, that might bother them, so they seek someone who earns less than they do, guess it could be many reasons.
My guess is it's closely related to a fear of getting "old." In the U.S., that is a common affliction. We don't honor our "old" people; we put them in 'homes' (what a strange thing to call them--they are nothing at all like any home you or anyone would choose), say we "love" them, and visit them with decreasing frequency as they age even more.
Not all countries are like this one. Like other men, I guess, I get 'hits' from younger women in other countries who appreciate the wisdom of age. While it strokes my ego to look at the pictures of a young, beautiful woman, there is no way I will pursue or even date a woman my daughters' ages.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 12/28/2008 8:25:59 AM | | ^^^Women from other countries hitting on older men from North America are often trying to scam them out of money. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/2/2009 3:35:36 PM | 59 pages and no one agrees yet..bouncing from cougars to foreign women wanting money..sheesh..
what did we all do before the internet?
talk face to face, meet face to face...make mistakes and correct them..
seems simple to me..
good luck fishing,
dusty | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/2/2009 3:56:15 PM | Chelsea hou
This has happened to me many,many times. That is why I am doing the on-line thing. I can date a guy under 35 easily, but the 40-57 and in good shape, not so much. I figure this way my age is already out there for those in search of real connections. | |
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