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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/2/2009 3:58:10 PM | | I am not male, but the fact he is twice married and now divorced says a lot about the man. I believe a quality man would appreciate and want a quality woman like you and many others. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/2/2009 6:35:54 PM | "You don't even look 40, and you sure have the physical fiitness of a 30 year old. But the fact is that you're 53. And the fact is that the vast majority of men over 45 will not even consider dating a woman your age. It doesn't matter if she is well educated, very physically fit, or even financially secure. She could be wonderful company and very beautiful. If so, a man over 45 might have a short term relationship with her. But if she's over 45, he will rarely consider having a serious long term relationship with her."
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/2/2009 11:34:45 PM | Well I know most guys prefer and are always talking about girls a lot younger then them in my case I prefer older than me most of the time, I´m 45.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/3/2009 10:09:28 AM |
But the fact is that you're 53. And the fact is that the vast majority of men over 45 will not even consider dating a woman your age. It doesn't matter if she is well educated, very physically fit, or even financially secure.
That is a generalization I can't agree with. Until my current GF, I was normally in relationships where the woman was ~5 years younger then me.
My current GF is 1 year older. We met here on POF, and although I had seen her profile, I did not contact her, she contacted me (I was age prejudiced!).
Not only is she a wonderful person, but she looks and acts younger then most of my previous relationships.
The best of it all is, if we should end up living together, I already know what she will look like when "she gets older". This is a person who is blessed with good genes and a healthy lifestyle who will look good 20 years from now. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:20:06 PM |
what did we all do before the internet?
talk face to face, meet face to face...make mistakes and correct them..
seems simple to me..
I'm not finding it simple at all. Have been trying for almost 4 yrs to meet someone face-to-face but no matter how 'approachable' I try to be (I'll even break the ice and speak first), and no matter how much I go out and do things that put me into what should be a 'target rich environment', I have not been asked out EVEN ONCE. The only dates I have had since my divorce have come from online.
Is it the internet that has made men so reluctant to make a move in real life? Or am I just that scary? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/3/2009 7:31:08 PM | | This will only take a second! He's an idiot! RUN..QUICKLY! I'm realising more and more often that age has nothing to do with love OR passion. The stereotyping idiots who say that someone can't love or enjoy a man or woman who's age doesn't align with theirs are just that..idiots! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 1:07:26 AM | | I have noticed in the dating age range, quite a few men are looking for someone at least 5 years younger than them. Most women will list that they will date someone 5 to 8 years older than them. I find it quite amusing. Fact is most women will outlive a man their same age by 10 years. Logically in my mind, a woman should be with someone at least 5 years younger than them, preferably 10. Women just seem to stay young and healthier longer. Sorry guys, just stating a fact. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:52:18 AM | CynthiaM said: I'm not finding it simple at all. Have been trying for almost 4 yrs to meet someone face-to-face but no matter how 'approachable' I try to be (I'll even break the ice and speak first), and no matter how much I go out and do things that put me into what should be a 'target rich environment', I have not been asked out EVEN ONCE. The only dates I have had since my divorce have come from online.
Is it the internet that has made men so reluctant to make a move in real life? Or am I just that scary?
Cynthia... I tried to email you thru the site but it turns out I'm too damned old. Damn! I'd date you in a minute! Problem is, I'm too old (according to you) and I live in Albuquerque. That's all. Anyway, I think you're gorgeous. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 6:28:04 AM |
I'm not finding it simple at all. Have been trying for almost 4 yrs to meet someone face-to-face but no matter how 'approachable' I try to be (I'll even break the ice and speak first), and no matter how much I go out and do things that put me into what should be a 'target rich environment', I have not been asked out EVEN ONCE. The only dates I have had since my divorce have come from online.
Is it the internet that has made men so reluctant to make a move in real life? Or am I just that scary?
LOL. I have often wondered if there is some sort of higher power announcing to the guys in my area that I'm about to leave my house and maybe they should stay inside!
I do think there are a lot of women in this situation.
I've been trying for 2 yrs to meet someone face to face, with no luck. All my dates have been from online too. Like you, I have not let myself go (a common, nasty, and unjustified diatribe against all women over 40. Some do, some don't). My problem though (offline) is that I don't even see any men in the 40-60 age group out anywhere to approach ( I rarely go to bars). I am more than willing to make the first move too - nothing ventured, nothing gained. I cannot figure out whether males in this age group simply don't have passion/energy for life anymore, so they don't go anywhere to look for women, or whether they only want young women so only go to places young women are? Probably some of both. There may be a third group of unmarried men with energy who are willing to date middle aged women, but that group must be small - and they would obviously be in high demand - and so they likely are rarely available for a new relationship and thus aren't looking.
The internet gives me opportunities that I don't have anywhere else with my own age group.
Anyways for now I'm taking a break from the whole thing, and not even looking offline or on. I've just gotten too discouraged. Maybe I've been looking too hard. When I do start again I may actually, for the first time in my life, look for older men (over 60). That is the age group I do see out doing things - bookstores, taking night classes, at Home Depot, etc. Whether any of these guys are single, however, is another question. I know I need to do something different from what I have been. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 8:20:46 AM |
I'd date you in a minute!
Oh my! Didn't mean to turn this into a 'pity me' party. But, you do answer OP (since you're in the 40-60 range kinda/sorta and I'm over 45). Thanks for bringing this back OT so I don't get accused of hijacking the thread ;-)
If we're talking about online meeting I get as many 'offers' through the internet as I care for. Right now my 'dance card' is full in the very early stage of emails and meet & greet. Since I prefer older men that would answer OP's question that, in my experience, men 40-60 are not opposed to dating a woman over 45.
Thanks for the encouragement but you actually prove my point. Where are you guys offline? I see the single men in my age range, I even make eye contact say 'hi' or other opening, but it doesn't go anywhere.
So, I'm left with the impression that there's something materially different about online vs offline. Is it the age differential thing that OP raised? Or, is it the 'approachability factor' (as discussed in a great thread in the Washington forum)? Or what?
Given Know Better's post it seems I'm not the only one who would dearly love to know the answer to why no approaches offline. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 8:21:29 AM | | As a mature male I have always believed that age is simply a number, but we are all influenced by these numbers. I have met and had pleasant experiences with women considerably younger than me....from another dating website. Unfortunately I have had no success whatsoever from this site using the same honest profile. I am not sure what this proves!...except that age doesnt matter to at least five women! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 1:40:44 PM | jdmetro-
OH that is SO true on SO many levels !!
That is the whole issue in a nut-shell for most guys on here, I would venture.
How many on this site are pro-active in persuit of the opposite sex for ANY Reason.?
Gee's, if a lady indicated she would not mind if I asked her for a 'coffee meet', I would be there NO Problem. The male, 'Now what do I say / do, is a big problem. Perhaps we get a bit of cold-feet to at a certain point. Ladies, this is where you step up and tilt the scales a bit for the poor guy. He'll make it up to you for sure, although I am refering to 'good men'. It takes only a little honey to catch or closely examine a male.
Not even taking the time for that means knowing what's on each t.v. channel each night by memory. Give us a break and we'll give you our best. Isn't that easy ??!!
TRY IT LADIES !!! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 1:48:32 PM | Sorry Kellygrl51, but I have had different experiences. One girl aged 40 told me aged 62 that my age was just a number and of no consequence. I had a great relationship with her for a long time. More recently a 35 year old told me the same thing and we have had a lot of fun together....unless you mean a 35 year old girl is an oldster??
Everything is relative of course! Thanks goodness we are not all the same in our likes and dislikes! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 2:40:13 PM | | I turn 50 next month. My rule of thumb for dating has always been from 10 years younger to 5 years older although that's not set in stone. I've known older ladies who look better than some who are much younger, and I've found I have little in common with women who are much younger, musical tastes for example, while I'm listening to say, the Eagles, she prefers 50 cent and yuk, I can't stand rap. Also I can't relate many of my life experiences to younger women because they haven't been through it yet. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 6:27:17 PM | You ask: "Should women in my st/age of life face "reality" and accept that our chronological age matters more to most men our own age than our physical fitness and all of the other things that we feel we have to offer Mr. Right?"
Nope, no way! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 6:48:27 PM | It's not easy to "fish" in one's own ponds at our age. Workplace or even work encountered relations are pretty much taboo everywhere. That eliminates most of the natural habitat of the species. Even approaching friends of friends can be risky to one's social milieu. As one grows older, social circles shrink and become more fragile. There are fewer and fewer people interested in being approached, and more and more who take surprising umbrage at being so. Don't even think about expanding the pool through inter-generational dating. I suspect that will soon go the route of gay marriage in the U.S. ; from mere moral perversion to a constitutional prohibition or criminal statute (lol). Life gets full, time short and many of the things that got one out and about into "target-rich environments" when one was younger seem less attractive (e.g. noisy bars, public drinking, bad behavior). Most people in activity groups, often including oneself, are more interested in the activity than in meeting people.
Bottom line; it's not you. It's not the Internet. It's just real scary out in "real life". | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 7:19:00 PM | In answer to "Know Better" and "Cynthia," regarding the over-40 males' whereabouts: I think most of them are home watching TV.
Actually, Vlietman touched on part of the problem. We are involved in activity groups wherein we actually are interested in the activity. How many of you would join a Civil War history discussion group looking for a partner? It'd be pretty boring if you weren't actually fascinated with the history of the Civil War. I build flying model airplanes. I have met a wide range of fellow modelers through the internet, and even arranged to travel to fly in contests. However, it seems to be a hobby that very, very few women develop an interest for. Most of those who are involved in any way in model airplanes have a husband who is as well. Conversely, I'm really not interested enough in quilting to join a quilting group, online or off, to hope that there are enough single ladies involved to make it a good prospect for meeting someone. Most ladies in the over-45 range long ago tired of the bar scene. If you go into a bar where there are a number of mature men sitting, for the most part, they are there to drink. If I were to go to a singles bar, almost everyone there is 20-something, and since I'm not looking to date someone younger than my daughter, I don't go there looking again. Hence, if a lady does drop in looking, I'm not there.
I actually do think the internet has become one of the best resources for mature singles to try to find other mature singles. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 7:32:46 PM | Sorry to double-post, but I can't edit to add to my previous one.
What it all boils down to is that mature singles actually HAVE a life that they are used to living. Unfortunately, that life they are living doesn't involve a partner or looking for a partner. I can't tell you how many profiles I have seen of ladies that say "I have been single for x-years, raising my kids, and now they're about all out of the house." As I alluded to earlier, the life they had made for themselves didn't involve looking for a partner. With parenting chores and parent-related interests now taking on less importance in their lives, they're finding that while they were absorbed with that, others were developing their own intests to which they devoted their time, but those interests usually weren't based around the fact that they were single. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/4/2009 7:55:22 PM | I have met a wide range of fellow modelers ... However, it seems to be a hobby that very, very few women develop an interest for. Most of those who are involved in any way in model airplanes have a husband who is as well.
Boy do I understand. I'm one of only 4 female r/c model sailplane pilots in the entire northwest. 2 of the others are married to pilots, the other lives with a pilot. There are only 2 single men near my age on the circuit and I've already dated one lol.
Same with shooting. 1 single man and he's 10 yrs younger :-(
Maybe I need to find new hobbies. I already quilt too. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/5/2009 1:56:03 PM | Whoever your 63 yo guy friend was is full of hooie. I'm 52, seriously looking and anything from 40-60 would be fine by me as long as they are physically active and consider the glass at least half full. I do however live in the mtns of CO so the pickin's are slim to none depending on the season.
My sister who lives in the bay area of CA posed this same question to me a couple months ago, and I told her basically the same thing. If the guy is really looking for a companion the age is a moot point if she is health and happy and they both share the chemistry. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/10/2009 2:06:55 PM | | speaking as a 50+ yr old Ithink a lot of older men lose confidence with their hair. We dont need contiual reassurance but a lot of us do not want to jump straight back into the water. I have seen profiles on here from 40+ women who are looking for commitment straight away. Most men in this age range that I know want to tread more cautiously and not rush in. So to the ladies over 40. and I mean this sincerly, refrain from putting on yuor profile" looking for commitment or share the rest of my life with me, etc, etc. You did'nt do it when you were 18 why do it now when we are all at a more vunerable age? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/10/2009 3:57:54 PM | one never knows when the "Right One" cums calling...so try the different candy jars..some you like..some you dont..some are better new..some are better aged..:)  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 1/10/2009 5:45:29 PM | OP- the man you speak of is a loser. does not matter what he has accomplished in his material life. He is empty.
You hold your head up and let him face the loneliness of aging.
Read Judsen Culbreth on Boomers and dating. She documents very nicely about boomers and also reports that the most successful relationships are between people who are 3-5 yrs in age difference. | |
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