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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/7/2007 10:45:16 AM | > I hear all the time about the old "creepy perverts" who come on
> to them. And "old" starts around 35 to them.
Brad Pitt is 43. I bet they'd go for him if given the chance faster than you can say "Angelina Jolie". Those other guys are only "creepy perverts" because they're not interested in them.
A 20-something curvacious blonde wearing blue jeans that are so low as to reveal her underwear will draw the attention of men - ALL men. To that woman, though, a 60-year-old unshaven man ogling her exposed midsection is a pervert, whereas a 20-year old Tom Cruise look-alike ogling in exactly the same way is a dreamboat. ...The only distinction here between "pervert" and "dreamboat" is in her interpretation and what she wants to attract. If she thinks her dress will arouse only "dreamboats," she needs to think again. And if she thinks the "pervert's" response is sick and demented, she also needs to think again. The responsibility for, and control of, these men's immediate visual sexual responses is entirely hers.
In the abstract, of course every 25 year-old woman thinks of a 40 year-old man as a Homer Simpson at best, but success is still the best foreplay for any man regardless of his age, or hers. Isn't Sean Connery still getting marriage proposals at age 77 from women thirty or more years younger than him? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:10:52 PM | "Well uptowner, I'm turning, looking at my door, and I'll be damned -- there is nothing there but an open screen (with the hopes my independent cat will run away and find life is better somewhere else). So take me serious or not, I don't give a wahoo."
But your profile says you are just looking for friends. I doubt there is a single guy on this site just looking for friends. | |
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| Of course not...
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:18:54 PM | ...and be glad you won't be having a long term relationship with that a$$hat...
If you are looking for love...and you find someone who is looking for love...and the two of you love each other...what difference would age make, assuming you are roughly the same age?
I hope to gawd that when I am 63 some physically fit 53 year old who looks younger 40 has an interest in me. I'd be flattered....
BTW...the sexiest (and all that REALLY means...versus just physical appearance, though she was a looker...) woman I have "met" on POF so far was 62 (according to her profile). I actually tried to get her to go out with me but she thought I was too young...LOL | |
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| I've noticed this too....
Posted: 7/7/2007 12:32:12 PM |
It's only on the internet that everyone has an age attached to themselves . In real life we don't walk around with our age printed on a name tag .
I believe that by far men are much more concerned about some physical chemistry than the actual age.
IMHO ... women are atleast as age conscious as men are on the internet .....maybe more so.
I have noticed that some mid- thirty women think anything over forty is "ancient" ....which is only true on a really bad day . lol
...with many women in my personal favorite age range (40 - 45) prepared to date guys 10 years younger but only a couple years older...including one I recall being shocked that I BARELY made the cut (she said 42 was her upper range...and I am 41).
Personally, at this point in life I cannot imagine doing anything other than having sex with someone 10 ears younger than me...and after we did that a few times..then what? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/7/2007 1:06:28 PM | obervation i have a son, 15 never has a problem with girls his age and have at times older women hitting on him as well, so does this observation you inadvertantly assume it just falls into the catagory of just men? " perverts " females alike ? like in the news a teacher supposidly falls in love with a high school student, goes to jail and gets out , and still persist to persue this boy? and she's a female ! no! so these "creepy perverts " as you call them , are they not female and male alike?
i incline to heard a more define observation, mot just a one sided approach, of male gender alone, as you profile suggest you base your assumption on your personal experiences whith the loosers you came in contact with. who lied to you and as i see it left you bitter. where is this woman i read on your profile that's open to all types of people of all walks of life? " friends " or have you conformed to this governmental stamp of approval that you so called hate ? or is it just words" blah... blah.... blah,,,
or are you true to your convictions of your heart as you say you are?
feed back please !! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/7/2007 2:37:31 PM | Stargazer;
I'm 42, and I can unequivocally say whoever told you THAT is full of what comes out the south-bound end of a north-bound horse. The best relationship I've had in years was with a woman who was 50 (she, too, looked "under 40," and was in GREAT shape). She was not only great company, she was fantastic in bed and very affectionate.
Some of us guys might just dismiss you if you're over 45, but don't shunt me into that lot. I'd say some of the best women (not only looks-wise) on this site are in the "over-40" and "over-50" category. In fact, I just wish one wasn't so far away, I think she and I'd really hit it off---she's 54. Does that answer your question? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/7/2007 11:54:37 PM |
Where? lol By direct observation. Very few men who are 15 or more years older will even approach the girls. But there's always a few who'll get liquored up and think they have a chance. It's fun watching. Oh, and I have 3 daughters...25, 25, and 22. I hear all the time about the old "creepy perverts" who come on to them. And "old" starts around 35 to them.
It's been a few years since I have actually been dating, so maybe I'm just out of the loop, but I used to date and talk to women in their 20s, and that was when I was well into my 30s yet I never came across someone who felt I was a "creepy pervert". I've only been 40 for about 4 months now, is that the official age one becomes a "creepy pervert"?  If so, sucks to be me! 
Anyway, like I said I'd be more inclined to date someone closer to my own age if only I could find one I liked and was single! (seems all the ones I like are married) | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 1:18:05 AM | | haha toenailclippings that was funny. but where did you come up with such a sexy name? What do guys say about it when they contact you? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 1:35:51 AM | I believe it may be the feelings of a few, but as a 60 year old, I like women in all those ranges. The most important thing is someone you are comfortable with. Actually, I thought dinosaurs like that guy were extinct or looking for trophies. Real people judge on better values than that guy. I think we're living in an age where tv, movies, the news, etc. just screw up so many people with their propaganda and stupid fatansies that people forget that it's just people out there. So, just go out and be the lovely person you are and just walk over to the next guy until you find the real, unpretentious, and loving person who will capture your heart.      | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 3:41:16 AM | When I was seventeen, my girlfriend had a son who was one year old than me. So, age is not a huge factor for me. If it were not for practical issues, we would have likely married a few years later.
An ex-fiance of mine is now with a man who is eight years her junior.
Some men prefer older women for long term. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 4:27:35 AM | I am the first to complain about generalisations but this one is at least true. Individuals can post all they like about how they are not like that, but I would say a lot more than half of middle aged men were after someone younger, thinner and prettier than them! Note I did not say ALL...
How do I know this? First, the longstanding experiences of me and my friends (both online and offline), secondly proper research on the subject which was born out in a UK TV documentary a while back. And if you still have doubts, you just have to ask any Introduction Agency. Really, just go and ask them what the reality is!
Going back to online and that tired cliche, 'age is just a number', I've noticed that the men who quote it most are generally those seeking, ahem, a substantial downwards adjustment, but who would run away screaming if contacted by anyone older.
Present company excepted of course. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 4:38:57 AM | | As a 54 year old male let me say that in the 40-60 year old female category it is difficult to find women who are single or without a complicated life. I am in good shape, better than I was at 30, as well as stronger, smarter, and more sure of myself than at 30 and, hell, maybe even better looking too. In looking at any female I do not expect to pursue any who are not as good looking or as in good shape for a female as I am for a male. Add to that, unlike when I was 30, I am not looking for just 10s and I don't mind a little extra weight. I have seen many women in their 50s who are attractive and who I would consider for a long term relationship. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 8:19:27 AM | Alfmiester? You must be getting better as you grow older, good for you, I honor your pst, a good one and a real picky man you are lol
Though I couldnt open your profile at all. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 10:21:49 AM | Think he was rather myopic, myself. Now I've indicated that age 52 is the max I'm interested in. But the truth is, I'm more interested in the person, and if I found a lovely lady older than that whose company I though I would enjoy, I'd not turn away from it. It's attitude that counts, not the numerals.
Why the age indicator I put down? Too complicated to talk about here. But reckon a lot of it has to do with my being a widower, the time I reckon I have left.
Don't listen to him. Just be you. And what's meant to be, will be. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 11:40:35 AM | Curious traveler? You want younger women for yourself and there's nothing wrong with that, anyone can pick who they want to have a relationship. You are right age is really just a number, if I look on my age group which is ok , i will be happy to meet them in person. Have a good day and take care  | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 12:09:18 PM | physical and mental fitness is what it's all about
if you look healthy and can do healthy things your age isn't an issue
not to me anyway | |
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Joined: 3/24/2007
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 2:08:16 PM | Ok I'm not male but I am calling all males 40 -60!
My age range is 40-60 but I find that I enjoy talking to men within a few years of my age. I think it all comes down to a personal preference for everyone I suppose. Who knows maybe these men that are our age didn't have a chance to raise their daughters and they just want another shot at it and it's easier for them to marry one that is 18 than to try and adopt one! And who knows maybe her dad wasn't around and she likes having a father figure in her life....but then who really knows since we haven't really heard from the ones that date the 18 year olds and the 18 year olds that date the 40- 60year old men??
I could never date one of my son's friends.....now if he brings one by to meet me and he's a good looking (or even if he isn't) kid, I would probably have no problem asking if his father is single!!!! Life keeps getting shorter better enjoy it while we can! | |
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Joined: 1/10/2007
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 2:49:50 PM | | From what my female friends who have "been there, done that" tell me, hitting 50 sharply reduces a woman's dating opportunities. Males in their sixties have told me the same thing happensed to them at 60. A woman who manages a popular and well known dating service verifed these statements to me, based on her many years experience in the field. It is just another fact of life! | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 3:37:31 PM | | Wow, another age thread. Women, you have to stop complaining about men until you start having better taste in them. If you're going to go after egocentric alpha males, and telling us how sexy octogenarian Sean Connery is (who openly admits to physically beating his women), those will be our role models and many of us are going to continue to go after much younger women and act like a$$holes. Not a day goes by at work that I don't hear some 20 something young woman reading some celebrity mag and comment on how sexy Brad Pitt / George Clooney / Tom Cruise is. Seems like middle aged guys are what young sexy women are looking for. Orrrrrrrrrrrrrr, is it just the money and fame? Hmmmmm. Food for thought. That being said, I don't have any problem with dating women older than myself. I DO however, have a problem with women that are having their own biological clock crisis, and who need to get married and pregnant RIGHT NOW. I'm middle aged, but have no children, and have no problem with the idea of having them; my lineage suggests another 50 years of live, plenty of time to raise 'em. But not...right...away. So younger women are fine, as are older women who are either done having kids or are comfortable never having them. The gentleman referred to in the original post was simply stating his opinion, and yes, I'm sure there are some others out there that share his opinion. But he doesn't speak for everyone. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 4:00:54 PM | OP your gentleman friend needs to seriously consider having his head removed from his posterior, as it simply won't serve as a proper hat. Chronlogical age for the most part should probably be one of the last things one takes into serious consideration when it comes to matters of the heart, as it simply is of absolutely no value whatsoever in determining if someone is a suitable dating candidate in and of itself. Far too many people fall for that nonsense, and miss out because of it.
I can say this because I have seen both sides of the issue, and dated on both sides of it. I have dated women 10 years younger than me and 10 years older. Age and Physicality are at best very distant cousins, and chronologicial age and intelligence, and maturity generally have little to do with one and other as well. My ex wife is 4 months younger than me chronologically, but to look at the two of us physically and how we act now, most would consider her at least 6-8 years older than me (sometimes more). Even when we were married most who met us presumed I was 3-4 years younger.
People start to look old when they start to let themselves go, and start acting old, and in that respect, regardless of age, it simply is not considered attractive to many (including myself). I myself turned 45 within the past week, and quite frankly don't feel a day over 35 despite the amount of snow collecting on the "rooftop". While I won't go to ridiculously extreme measures to maintain a youthful appearance (no bad dye jobs or plastic surgery in my future), I sure as hell will not "age gracefully" emotionally or physically, nor am I like to be attracted to someone who looks and acts like some "fuddy duddy" regardless of how old or young they might be. The only rule I have now regarding age and dating is that I will never date anyone less than 10 years younger than my Mother, or less than 10 years older than my Son. It works for me. Good luck!
Have fun ;)!
PS: For the record I have seen some woman 50+ on this site (as well as on the beach where I live)who put some of the 20 and 30 something posers to shame when it comes to how they look. Go figure huh? | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 6:53:35 PM | Chronlogical age for the most part should probably be one of the last things one takes into serious consideration when it comes to matters of the heart, as it simply is of absolutely no value whatsoever in determining if someone is a suitable dating candidate in and of itself. Far too many people fall for that nonsense, and miss out because of it.
Hi, Everyone,
Well, my children and i just returned from running The Utica Boilermaker 15K where the kids finished in the top 300 --- out of 12,000 runners -- and a good thing for the family honor. Because their mother um, well, finished.
Anyway. I see that this thread has continued to elicit a variety of strongly-held opinions, and that's wonderful.
Dear "40, 50, and 60 Something Ladies,"
The title of this thread duly acknowledged, your imput is very much appreciated. What many of you have written to me privately amounts to this:
"Men 'here' are talking the talk, but when it actually comes to long-term dating, few of them will date a woman their own age."
I do wonder, though, about the number of persons responding along the lines of "Mr. Thorn" above. In other words, "I would date a woman my own age, but most men would not."
Dear "Most Men Who Would Not", (minus the few "here" such as "Mr. Iago" and about 4 others who have spoken for themselves quite directly -- thank you -- on this topic),
OK. Where are you? We understand that some women - and men -- over 40 "let themselves go." We also understand that some 40, 50, and 60 something men want to conceive children, and this is not a practical option for most women their own age. What remains puzzling is this:
Why will you "IagoGuys" not consider long term romance with woman your own age whose educational, emotional, financial, and physical attributes are very complementary to your own? There are a lot of us 40,50,and 60something women out here who are ready, willing, and able to love you healthy, happy, and honorably for as long as you'll be alive and kicking -- and probably a little longer if we're the same age.
Where are all of your thoughts? Please feel free to share them with us.
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 7:07:57 PM | Hey Star Gazer
For a fact I know that the age of a woman crops up a lot with men I know. Its a bragging thing the silly beggars do, about how young they can " get them".
Please dont feel you are missing out though, that type isnt worth worrying about, believe me.
Age is realative, I know woman ( and men) in their forties that act older and lay on the couch more than my 80 year old Dad who still runs a farm. Dont let them get to you, there are still many men, like my self, who appreciatye beauty regardless of chronological age and seek the courage of a Lady who has weathered the storms of life .
The excitment of this thing called life, is not exclusive to the chronologiclly young. Beauty though, is exclusive to those who still are excited about this life, regardless of age. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 7:11:52 PM | Whoa, Stargazer, I had to do a doubletake at your name! I belong to a forum for snake lover that I was just visiting. My username there is Stargazer. In snake talk, it refers to a snake that has a neurological problem that causes it to stare straight up. But I just liked the name.
Since I stumbled onto your thread, I'll add that I also look young for my age and people are always surprised to find out I am 46. It makes dating a little strange because a lot of guys my age seem old to me. I like younger guys but they usually only like older women for a fling. It's not a cause for major concern, but I definitely have noticed this in the last few years. I do tend to meet a lot of people just in the course of my life (and on the snake site) and age does not seem to be an issue once the connection is made. However, I am much pickier than I was in my thirties, and tend to look at most men first and foremost as friends anyway. I looked at your profile, and you are beautiful. Women like you inspire me. Thanks for posting. | |
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| Calling all 40-60Something Males?
Posted: 7/8/2007 7:15:57 PM | i dont know if i should tip my hat too some of girls that ive allready meat here ,most belive im only 45,{but really im 56}sometime ill see 2 females in one day,sure its all short term,but at ec one one they females home ive eather cook a meal that they wish they knew how too cook and clean-up after my self too,pamper the hell out of them only if but for 6 or 8 hours,i love the ones im with ,i turn off my cell ph.so none of the other will brother us,and im married,she know she got something driffent the 2nd time around yes she was married before this is my first time i put on a ring,i dont need any pill too keep my self the way they like it hard,some say i treat them like a other girl would,i do and dont know where they get this from im not the type too dress up like a girl,i read body langue real will | |
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