| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 3/31/2006 8:20:15 AM | | oh, and guys? it's not all about the money. i'd rather live in a one room shack with love than a mansion in a loveless marriage. | |
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 3/31/2006 2:56:39 PM | Women are players too, my friend. Learn boundaries. Don't pine over her. Call her once and let her get back to you. If she doesn't, move on.
I know that's over-simplified but seriously. Why waste your time over someone who isn't respecting yours? | |
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 4/1/2006 1:36:20 PM | I AM A WOMAN AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHY ANY WOMAN WOULD DO THIS. I CERTAINLY WOULDNT. IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE. WAS THIS A ONE NIGHT STAND? MAYBE SHE WAS INTO YOU FOR THAT NIGHT IF IT WAS. PERSONALLY I DONT DO ONE NIGHT STANDS ANYMORE. THEY CAN BE PAINFUL. I THINK DATING AND REALLY GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE BEFORE SEX IS INVOLVED IS CRUCIAL. IF ANYONE MALE OR FEMALE JUST WANTS SEX, THEN JUST SAY SO . NO NEED TO LIE ABOUT IT. AT LEAST EVERYONE WOULD KNOW WHERE THEY STAND. I AM HONEST, SOMETIMES BRUTALLY HONEST. SOME PEOPLE CANT HANDLE THAT. BUT I AM SORRY THIS HAPPENED TO YOU. BECAUSE IT MAKES SOME MEN THINK ALL WOMEN ARE ALIKE. BUT WE ARE NOT. JUST LIKE NOT ALL MEN ARE IDIOTS, ALTHOUGH SOMETIMES I WONDER WHERE THE GOOD ONES ARE. WE HAVE THE SAME PROBLEMS WITH MEN THAT U MEN HAVE WITH WOMEN. DONT LOSE FAITH THERE IS A RIGHT ONE FOR YOU OUT THERE SOMEWHERE, ITS JUST FINDING HER. REMEMBER WE HAVE TO MEET A LOT OF IDIOTS BEFORE WE MEET THE RIGHT ONE TO MAKE US APPRECIATE THE RIGHT ONE WHEN THEY COME ALONG.
TAKE CARE AND GOOD LUCK
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 4/1/2006 2:51:51 PM | | ^^ I agree and i like your post, the smartest answer i heard on this thread. | |
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/13/2007 12:57:00 PM | | I must be on the wrong Plenty of Fish, all the women I've talked to/met are real, great people. I guess I've just gotten very lucky? And in my past life experiences the end results were as much ME as them, actually at times more so and no one deserves to be blamed for the break-ups. We BOTH decided it was time to end the misery and have a chance to live again. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2007 1:53:08 PM | I totally agree with your comments..I also have met lots, and have some very good freinds from here..but it does not always work out cause if it was that easy then didn't mean alot..or why would u be here if it was that easy to meet someone that u can feel and relate and enjoy the day with. Takes time and 2 not 1...So keep on going until u meet someone that u both wish to share. Some men are not the nicest..and some women also..takes 2..Keep up with your searches all..just be honest and dont play with peoples hearts cause in the end..u hurt and so do they ..not what this is about.
All take care and good luck...
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:00:31 PM | | as far as not reply back saying not interested, you shouldnt complain about that as most of the women on here wont respond back at all either | |
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:17:38 PM | It happens. Happened to me too. It made me question things, him, myself, then someone here said the guy has "NO MANNERS" And then I felt better.
I was more put off that he could not be honest and kind, and have some manners, call and say something like "gee, it was fun , but not that fun" , Or Thanks for meeting me, you are a nice person just not the one I am looking for. Any thing is better than a lie, "i'll call you tomorrow, I REALLY like you etc." So, even if it was not a mutual thing at least
be a good person and think about the other person in the equasion.
Men and women, it's not all about YOU !! That sort of lie hurts everyone involved.
People are not a pair of slacks you buy try on and take back to the store . Even the store wants to know why you are returning or rejecting them.
Kindness goes a long way.. try it :) So do manners
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/13/2007 2:22:10 PM | | ya we do have thinngs screwed up sure would be nice too get simple back. Im interested in being useful im not all men . the ladies arent all women . I have read experienced and in the past done wrong guilty. today I would really like too know how to be useful and find a solution . I will do my part. first thing is work real hard not too let past hurts make future ouches. Be good too all even if you stub your toe. thats a good start dont ya think/ | |
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Posted: 2/17/2007 8:33:11 PM | This whole post could very well have been written by a woman. I don't think either sex is immune to these feelings. We each get sick and tired of being lied to and mislead.
I'm sorry this happened to you but not all women are like this and Yes there are honest women out here. Women looking for an honest, man who is ready for a real and honest relationship...It just takes time, sometimes alot of time, before we find one another..
Don't give up hope and may God bless you in your search | |
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Posted: 2/17/2007 8:34:21 PM | | Men and women do it all the time. Honesty is the best policy. Unfortunatley some people either find it easier to just disapear rather then deal. Or, you have those people who just like to play games. The best thing you can do is move on. They are not worth your thought..or your time. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2007 10:35:56 AM | | Bro, women would say the same thing about us. That's the joys of dating, things like that are going to happen. Sooner or later you'll find a keeper. If it makes you feel better, i haven't found mine yet either. You just gotta hang in there. | |
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Erikka
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Joined: 1/28/2007
Msg: 90 | |
| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/18/2007 8:48:51 PM | | You have obviously dated the female version of some of the males I have met,maybe they are related !! Seriously I think there are an awful lot of gamers around regardless of gender. I would love to be there when someone gives them a taste of their own medicine. | |
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RT1986
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Joined: 7/24/2006
Msg: 91 | |
| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/19/2007 1:29:17 PM | I have entirely lost faith in women, dating, and friends. In other words i have entirely pulled my self out of the game. but oh no! its not enough everyone has to pull the guilt trip on me why i dont know
when you go and tell someone your deepest darkest thoughts and feelings even those 3 little words and mean them .. only to be told friends is all its going to be ... what the **** do you say to that ? | |
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a1na2
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Joined: 10/3/2006
Msg: 92 | |
| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/19/2007 2:09:54 PM | You told someone your deepest DARKEST thoughts and she didn't fall madly in love with you ?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm gonna have to be like Tom Hanks' character in Big by raising my hand and saying " I don't get it "
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Posted: 2/19/2007 2:12:18 PM | | RT, your 20 years old, you havent even hit your prime in dating, you have a lot to learn about women, its starts by knowing yourself first and go from there, we have all exposed our hearts before and it doesnt always turn out for the best. otherwise most of us would not be on POF, we are our own community lol. heres some helpful advice to all that will take it, if you breed confidence most women will bite, again, not arrogance, CONFIDENCE! if woman ignores you move on, if she acknowledges you, its a beginning. women are not much different then men, trust me. most women do not want to socialize with men they find unattractive, even as friends unless they find them intellectually attractive. women can have ugly girlfriends, but when it comes to the men no way thats gonna happen unless the guy is persistent in his thoughts. compell a woman when you meet her, intrigue her. show you mean bussiness. that gives the image of the legendary "bad boy", in truth what there seeing is not a bad boy but the alpha male, the man's man. they eat that up. now you have to decide, are you the bench warmer or the guy thats gonna win the game on a last second shot, women want the star player, the leader. let it become you guys on this forum, dont let apathy take you out my brothers! | |
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St3v0
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Joined: 8/14/2006
Msg: 94 | |
| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/19/2007 2:14:14 PM | First off. You should'nt have faith in women.
You should have faith in yourself.
I had the very same happen to myself a while back. Meet someone, chat with them and get along really well. They ask my number and kiss me passionately. Then when I make contact I am a stranger.
Just move on my man. Move on. Don't let someone take your time away from someone else who would deserve it better.
The worst thing you can do is put down women in general instead of the things that a few have done. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2007 2:19:47 PM | | well, hopefull you will drop this woman...and keep looking. I find this kind of thing happening to both sexes. People have just taken on different ideas of how they treat others. Move onand don't let her continue to yank your chain.Some of us women are still actually looking for nice guys and fining it very difficult.She obviously isn't worth your time..... | |
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St3v0
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Joined: 8/14/2006
Msg: 96 | |
| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/19/2007 2:21:51 PM | First off. You should'nt have faith in women.
You should have faith in yourself.
I had the very same happen to myself a while back. Meet someone, chat with them and get along really well. They ask my number and kiss me passionately. Then when I make contact I am a stranger.
Just move on my man. Move on. Don't let someone take your time away from someone else who would deserve it better.
The worst thing you can do is put down women in general instead of the things that a few have done. | |
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St3v0
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Joined: 8/14/2006
Msg: 97 | |
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| Losing faith in women...
Posted: 2/20/2007 8:09:37 AM | | Its not just women, men do it to...but I know....I've been through and still through that BS....I don't knwo why people talk about being REAL, but yet they're the fakest ones going....Just friggin be honest!!! Lol, guess I'm a bit bitter myself, oh well.... | |
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Posted: 2/20/2007 7:07:23 PM | | gonna sound strange,but some females feel that is an easier let down, and i guess at times we lack the consideration to be totally up front and say, hey im not interested.but guys do the same thing, they say, ill call you and never do. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2007 9:09:16 PM | | to msg 6: i think you're right in some cases, but in other cases, from the first e-mail if someone isn't super interested, but thinks you're in their range (yet on the lower end of your range), they'll sometimes string you along for a while - just in case. they're not all that interested, but they don't want to cut off the option in case... i hate to admit it, but i've done just that to people. i never meant to hurt them. i just kinda figured the person barely knew me, so how could it bother the person much...plus, i figured i really didn't owe an almost stranger anything. i quit doing it mainly because, over time and enough people, i came to realize if i wasn't super interested from the 1st (max 2nd) e-mail, i was never going to be interested, so why even string a "maybe" along? adding to that, i dated a number of people with the same idea. after a few times with different guys sitting at dinner, at a movie, or whatever, i'd find myself thinking "why i am i here with this guy for whom i don't really feel much of an attraction?" a little of it was also trying maybe 3-5 dates to see if i developed more of an interest. i just never did, so now i realize there's no point in e-mailing or dating anyone unless i'm really thrilled with them. i really hate to admit this, but i will: i DID let them kiss me. i didn't want to kiss them, but i figured they'd KNOW i wasn't all that thrilled with them if i didn't kiss them...and i until i was SURE i wasn't interested, i didn't want them to know. at the time, i rationalized it was just a kiss. after kissing 2 or 3 of them and feeling kinda repulsed, i just could never do that again. it wasn't a nice thing to do, but you people want the truth...and that was it in my case. | |
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