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Posted: 7/17/2007 12:32:39 AM | I do agree with the statement of "people were getting hung up on some of the wording." It is semantics. The question about my 'finances being handled' (not exact wording) threw me as I wondered if this pertained to my handling my finances adequately or if someone else was handling my finances.
A few questions could have been worded differently to make more sense. I am a communicator and I take great pride in my ability to communicate effectively and efficiently. Just a few words here and there would have not raised some red flags with me. For example, I would not think "bargaining" in a conflict is something I would do.  I know that compromise is a big issue in relationships thus I will compromise, yet bargain didn't make sense...like cutting a deal if you do this I'll do that...again semantics.
Honestly, some of the questions did not pertain to past relationships, they pertained to my personal life right now, and issues I am working through. Thus, I answered honestly via that perspective.
Otherwise, the analysis was quite good. It read like I feel under most of the circumstantial questions asked. I also found it insightful. "Awareness is change" is one of my favorite quotes. I believe if we allow ourselves to grow, through both the good and the bad, then we are truly living life to the fullest.
Thanks for having this assessment on this site. I enjoyed thinking about my answers and strove to truly be honest even if it might show up as a flaw. That's OK I'm human and we're not perfect.
I recommend this test for all members. It tells it like it is even if we don't want to admit it!
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Posted: 7/18/2007 10:10:00 AM | | It would be nice if there were a button that one could "push" on a profile that would show you the % match from that persons results to your own! I think that would be very helpful!!!! Plus adding the ability for us to add a filter to the compat results for age, physical shape, geography, or % match .... please, all these would be most helpful!!!! Thanks | |
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Posted: 7/18/2007 6:37:41 PM | I don't like this assessment. In some respects, the results are contrary to my values or comfort levels. It states that I need an extraordinary amount of together time, whereas I feel suffocated and need to go off by myself at times. It is important though, to have things in common that we may do together. As well, often, I need my own space and am assertive enough to ask for it when the need arises. Also, I'm not dependent on the need for affection. Again, I feel used and stifled if someone is constantly touching or grabbing at me. Also, I don't NEED to receive gifts to be shown I'm appreciated. It's nice on occasion to receive something, but usually, I'm the one who gives the gifts in my relationships.
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Posted: 7/18/2007 6:50:21 PM | Thanks for this test, and for continuing to improve this site! I also found the test to be very accurate, other than the very last section. I had (truthfully) replied that touch was very important to me in every question that mentioned it, and there the results came up telling me that touch was not an important expression of love to me. Admin, dear, it is NOT the wording. BTW, I can get as picky about spelling and grammar as anybody, but I think I pretty much understood the meaning of the questions without trying to find hidden alternatives in the way they were worded.
As far as being a useful tool, you might really be surprised at who you end up being COMPATIBLE with.... but it's probably important for two people, however different they may be, to want the same things from a relationship. That is, if they expect to be in that same relationship together!  | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 12:44:10 AM | Hi!
Was it really? Profile and image is totally different things. (Profile=how you want others to see you. Image= how they really see you.) Are you absolutely sure your profile match up with the image of yourself. The question is...does your profile match with other peoples image about you? Is there a difference in cyberspace and IRL? Profile and image don´t always walk hand in hand, you know. I thought, when reading your profile (for me an image) quite interesting. But could not send you a thought since you are very restrictive....no one from other places can contact you. So I just popped by here to say hello and wish everyone peace, love and understanding. Love has no boarders. From Urga  | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 5:34:19 PM | I like what you did with it.. its very nice.
The only thing I do question however is why put in "somewhat like" that and "somewhat unlike" stuff when in the assessment your responce to "somewhat like" would be the same if you selected "Much like" ? Thats the only thing thats wrong with it. If it does not matter then you should simply take out the somewhat parts of the questions. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2007 11:35:09 PM | Interesting what you can relate and confirm about yourself from this type of thing if you can see, both the positive and negative at once. Enjoyed the results thanks!  | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 8:21:24 AM | | When someone has the test on their profile and you click on it - you don't get their results, you get your own. This must be an error, right? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2007 9:49:30 AM | Congratulations Bene elim on completing Plenty of Fish’s unique “Relationship Needs Assessment.” This assessment determines what you need in a relationship across nine key factors:
Interdependence Intimacy
Self-Efficacy Relationship Readiness
Communication Conflict Resolution
Sexuality Attitudes About Love
Preferred Expressions of Affection
Your report gives you valuable feedback on each of these factors in several special ways. Based on your unique answer patterns, you first receive a synopsis of what you need in a relationship on each factor. To help you address these issues in actual practice, your report also contains a customized set of questions for you to consider asking or exploring with potential dating partners to determine the degree to which a person may meet those unique needs. In other words, you have guidance for understanding and exploring what it takes for someone to be “relationship material” with you.
Finally, the assessment reveals any specific issues that you seemed especially to under-value or over-value. These are likes and dislikes that are often hidden from your awareness, but they can strongly affect your relationship decisions. Enjoy your report, contemplate the information and insights it provides and good luck in applying the results here at the Plenty of Fish community!
Bene elim, Your Assessment is below
Interdependence
Interdependence refers to how much you need dependency or a “couple identity” with your partner. You are highly interdependent in relationships. This means that you desire – and perhaps even demand – a substantial degree of physical and emotional connection with a partner and other loved ones. Those connections and interactions can be frequent and superficial or they can be deep and meaningful. And you are probably attracted quickly to someone who you can deeply respect and even emulate to a degree. In fact, it is typical for a person in this score range to consider how a particular romantic partner might reflect on his/her own family and friends. All of this does not mean that you do not need personal space now and then; nearly everyone values being unique and different from others in some respects. However, people in this range draw considerable strength, comfort and sense of identity from close relationships. You like to know about virtually all aspects of your partner’s life. Thus, when you feel close to someone this person becomes an extremely important part of who you are on the inside and outside. You probably prefer that you and your partner’s recreational activities be shared together since you like having your partner physically close and desire showing off your “couplehood” in public. Bottom line: you need someone who responds to the fact that you enjoy the reassurance of physical contact and emotional sharing, but who helps keeps dependency in check in the relationship so that you two do not lose your identities as individuals and whose character is deserving of your loyalty and affection.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “interdependency” needs with potential partners:
“What degree of possessiveness do you think is healthy in a relationship?”
“Tell me all about your philosophy or view on PDAs (‘Public Displays of Affection’) “
“On any typical night out with your friends, would you prefer to have your partner there with you or not?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
A main consideration in choosing a romantic partner is how he/she would reflect on my family. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you tend not to consider your family’s comfort level or feelings or that you ignore issues of compatibility between your family and potential partner. On the positive side, it could mean that you tend not to be enmeshed with your family, that you are not overly susceptible to social pressures or that you are not superficial and concerned with appearances.
Intimacy
Intimacy refers to the how much you need emotional closeness with your partner. You are very comfortable with being intimate and vulnerable with a partner. However, your desire for emotional closeness and security puts you at some risk for disclosing too much, too soon when a relationship is newly developing. People like you have big hearts and an impressive openness to your partner. That openness includes lessons learned from your past experiences and relationships, extending trust, believing your partner returns your feelings and devotion and being generally comfortable with surrendering yourself to a partner. In fact, you probably feel very uncomfortable – and even guilty – if there were any secrets between you and your partner. Likewise, you regard your lover as your best friend and your foremost confidant. There is typically no hesitation discussing current problems or concerns with this person. It also seems that you have realistic expectations for a committed relationship. You are willing to act on the belief that your partner’s feelings are equally as strong as yours. Therefore, you are probably not deterred in taking the risks associated with being vulnerable on all levels. Bottom line: you need someone who believes and acts on the belief that the intimacy of a relationship is sacred.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “intimacy” needs with potential partners:
“Under what circumstances do you think it is okay for someone to discuss details of his/her relationship with family or friends?”
“What type of issues would you talk to your friends or family about before sharing with your partner?”
“Do you think couples should have access to each other’s bank accounts, email accounts, calendars and basically all personal information?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
It is difficult for me to depend on others. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you fear you will not live up to your partner’s expectations or that your partner will not live up to yours, that you are overly proud or that you are generally insecure. On the positive side, it could mean that you are naturally independent and self-sufficient or that you do not like to burden or inconvenience others.
Self-efficacy
Self-Efficacy refers to your self-image, stability of mood and level of motivation. People like you are characterized by a strong self-esteem, sense of self and sense of accomplishment. Those who know you best would likely describe you as influential, patient and accepting of others – and calm, cool and collected most of the time. You are content with your personal qualities and feel you are an attractive person. Moreover, you probably have a good sense of control over the events in your life and are decisive in managing your life. In this sense, you likely do not overreact to circumstances as others might do. Rather, people in your scoring range are quite adaptable and are able to maintain a balanced perspective on situations. Additionally, you are also very influential and persuasive with others. Therefore, it is expected that family, friends and acquaintances often come to you for ideas of guidance across a range of issues. You are confident that people who are important in your life understand you, but you also tend to be comfortable not giving in to peer, family and other social pressures. Family is indeed important to you, but their expectations do not strongly influence your life. Instead, people who score like you tend to have their own well-defined ambitions and goals – and may even set specific benchmarks to monitor the progress made toward achievements. Bottom line: you need a partner who is energetic, enthusiastic and has high self-efficacy like you and will support or even participate in your personal and professional interests that feed your sense of identity and accomplishment.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “self-efficacy” needs with potential partners:
“To what extent do you need a job or hobbies that allow you to express your energy and creativity?”
“Do you like solving the challenges that work and home life throw at you? Why or Why not? “
“What are some of the best ways to turn around a ‘bad day’?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I think highly of myself. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you question your self worth and personal competence, that you are self critical or that you are an underachiever in some aspects. On the positive side, it could mean that you are modest, that you are concerned with self improvement or that you understand how you have misused your gifts and resources in the past.
Relationship readiness
Relationship Readiness refers to how prepared you are emotionally, psychologically and pragmatically for a committed relationship. You seem to have a good foundation and appear pretty much ready and willing to find a committed relationship. In fact, most people in this scoring range have a clear vision and a sense of purpose for their life. They have the ability to connect with others, they have well defined ideas about where their life is headed and they are assertive and resourceful in meeting their goals. Therefore, you likely feel in control and are able to take charge and go after what you want in life and in a relationship. Your housekeeping is also probably in check – meaning that you do not have any negative baggage that can weigh down a relationship, like financial or legal problems or emotional, health or family issues. As such, you do not seem to be seeking a relationship primarily to fill a void in your life or to gain a feeling of acceptance and belonging that was weakened or lost due to other relationships that ended or disappointed you. Rather, it seems to be that you are striving for a balance in your life and that now includes wanting to offer everything you can to a partner. Bottom line: you need someone who wants a relationship, rather than needs one to feel personally fulfilled.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “relationship readiness” needs with potential partners:
“Tell me in what ways you are a happy and successful single”
“Are you truly happy with the way you have lived your life? Explain”
Are there any ways in which you feel your life is not balanced?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
I feel I have people I can trust and rely on if I need them. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you put up boundaries with loved ones, you are overly private or prideful, that you are in a state of personal flux or change or that you have difficulty bonding with others. On the positive side, it could mean that you try to be respectful and not burden others with your issues or that you have a strong sense of self reliance and independence.
I have a good sense of where I am headed in my life. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self critical, that you are in a state of personal/ professional flux or change or that you are addressing personal issues or baggage from past relationships. On the positive side, it could mean that you are open to new and varied experiences, that you are not overly rigid or that you are not a black-and-white thinker.
Important relationships have ended or become weaker. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not in tune with your relationships and how others treat you or that are unrealistic about your life’s circumstances. On the positive side, it could mean that you have good relationship skills and good self esteem, that you are not experiencing a state of personal/ professional flux or change or that you do not have personal issues or baggage from past relationships.
Communication
Communication refers to your approach to interpersonal interactions and level of emotional intelligence. Effective communicators have strong emotional intelligence, and you seem to fit this description. It is expected that you show considerable tolerance of ambiguity and emotional expression. You are usually extremely sensitive to other’s feelings and to their body language. Those who know you well would probably describe you as patient, open and eager to listen to others. People in this scoring range are also not afraid of making or admitting to mistakes. They consistently and bravely show vulnerability to others. In fact, they are constantly aware how their behavior impacts others. You can communicate your needs and feelings honestly when someone engages you directly, and you can take the initiative and be assertive when needed. However, a defining characteristic of people in this range is that they do not rush to judgment. Rather, they pay attention, listen without jumping to conclusions and then reflect on information before responding. In a sentence, you seek both to understand others and for others to understand you. Bottom line: you need someone who is eager to give, collect and discuss information with you patiently versus communicate with you on superficial levels out of convenience.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “communication” needs with potential partners:
“Does the success of a committed relationship take priority over any other aspect of your life?”
“Do those closest to you think that you are an easy person to get to know? Explain”
“If you are sure you are right about something, do you waste time listening to other people’s arguments or viewpoints?”
Conflict resolution
Conflict Resolution refers to your stress management and problem solving skills. Effective conflict resolution has nine general elements: View Conflict as Positive; Address Conflict in the Proper Atmosphere; Clarify Perceptions; Note Needs, not wants; Draw on the Power of a Positive Partnership; Focus on the Future, then learn from the past; Identify Options for Mutual Gain; Develop ‘Doables’ or stepping stones to action; and Make Mutually-Beneficial Agreements. Your score indicates that you are generally strong across all of these basic elements. This suggests that you are very flexible and action-oriented when addressing problems, yet not so eager to find resolution that you settle for quick, temporary agreements. Settling on a temporary agreement is often a way of avoiding conflict, and it can lead to needs not being met. You do not seem to avoid conflict; instead you appear to evaluate the possible solutions and then actively engage your partner to work on a positive outcome that is best for the relationship. In fact, a defining characteristic of people in this scoring range is the capacity to relinquish their control and pride for the greater good and growth of the relationship. Bottom line: you need a partner who is patient, a “big picture thinker” and can relinquish control and pride to make the best decisions for the good and growth of the relationship.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “conflict resolution” needs with potential partners:
“In your past relationships, have you felt responsible for your partner’s well being? Explain”
“Is it the case that you can not be happy unless you place your partner’s happiness before your own?”
“What sort of things or situations would you not endure for the sake of your partner or relationship?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Under-value
In conflict my reactions are based on how I think the other party perceives me. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self absorbed or egotistical, that you have poor emotional intelligence or that you jump to conclusions. On the positive side, it could mean that you value individuality and independence or that you try not to posture for people.
Sexuality
Sexuality refers to your needs (frequency, boundaries, expressions) related to physical intimacy. Scientific models of love and attachment always include physical chemistry and sexuality. It is a crucial topic for any couple to address, because it involves issues of control and vulnerability. People at your scoring level have a firm sense of their sexual orientation, preferred sexual activities and comfort level. You like sex that is romantic, adventurous and fun, but for you sex is not a casual event. Sex has great importance in your relationship, and it is reserved for someone you love. You may think your sexual preferences would be viewed as conservative by others, but you are no prude. You are confident in your own sexual ability and are open to try various activities. In fact, you probably like to experiment actively. A defining characteristic of people in this scoring range is their willingness to be vulnerable and relinquish control in the bedroom to their partners. In other words, you are not sexually selfish – you like to focus on pleasing your partner and submitting to his/her desires. Bottom line: you need someone who regards sex as a meaningful bond between people in love and who appreciates being the center of attention in the bedroom.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “sexual” needs with potential partners:
“Would you eagerly talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies?”
“Is it like you to direct your partner what to do in bed so s/he knows best how to please you?”
“In your mind, is there any difference between ‘having sex’ and ‘making love’?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
I wait until I am in love with a person before having sex with him/her . Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are neither spontaneous nor passionate or that you are ambivalent. On the positive side, it could mean that you prefer a deep and meaningful attachment to a partner, that you have good self esteem, that you are neither selfish nor hedonistic or that you are not impulsive in thought, feeling and deed.
Issues you seem to Under-value
One of my goals is to be a "perfect" sexual partner. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are not sensitive to your partner’s needs and desires or that you have low motivation and self esteem. On the positive side, it could mean that you are not self absorbed or a perfectionist, that you have good self acceptance and self esteem or that you have a positive attitude on sensitive issues.
Attitudes toward love
Attitudes Toward Love refers to your level of needs for romantic love and friendship love. There are two main types of love – Romantic Love and Companionate Love. Romantic Love is passionate, emotional and intense, whereas Companionate Love is a deep, affectionate attachment. People feel these two types of loves to different degrees in a relationship, and the levels of each can fluctuate over time. You scored as someone who may be best described as “a “hopeless romantic on the inside and a realist on the outside.” This means that you value very highly both the safety, security and comfort of Companionate Love and the excitement and passion of Romantic Love. You desire someone who is on the same wavelength as you –sharing similar attitudes, moods and impulses. You are a clearly a hybrid, and someone who probably views love as a transcendent thing. That is, you regard true love as a precious and rare state that must be nurtured to grow and thrive. Most people in this scoring range believe that a passionate sex life is not the most important factor in a stable and satisfying relationship. Rather, a relationship must be nurtured with acceptance and compete connectedness with a partner – a couple building and possessively protecting their “own world.” Bottom line: You need someone whose highest priority is your relationship and is willing to do the hard work to keep a transcendent level of love alive in the relationship.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “love attitude” needs with potential partners:
“If a partner professed that s/he would do almost anything for you, would you see that as healthy or unhealthy love?”
“When you are separated from a partner, does the rest of the world often seem dull and unsatisfying?”
“Do you think that a person must have great confidence in his/her partner’s judgment in order for the relationship to work?”
Food for Thought! PlentyofFish wants you to know about some idiosyncrasies the assessment identified in you. These are issues for you to contemplate on your own or explore with a professional relationship/dating coach.
Issues you seem to Over-value
Love comes but once in a lifetime. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are unrealistic. On the positive side, it could mean that you deeply appreciate a love partner, that you are not overly pragmatic or that you are very romantic.
Issues you seem to Under-value
It is hard for me to say exactly when friendship turns into love. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you do not see your lover as your friend and confidant or that you are not in tune with your feelings or those of your partner. On the positive side, it could mean that you are patient, that you are not manipulative or that you focus on your partner’s needs before your own.
My partner is the sort of person whom I myself would like to be. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are self absorbed and egotistical, that you have poor emotional intelligence or that you do not appreciate the value of mentors and role models. On the positive side, it could mean that you value individuality and are an independent thinker, that you are not enmeshed with your partner and that you have good self esteem.
I feel very possessive toward my partner. Possible reasons you responded this way include negative motivations and positive motivations. On the negative side, it could mean that you are overly independent, that you do not form deep attachments or that you are self absorbed. On the positive side, it could mean that you are not a possessive or jealous person, that you trust your partner or that you have good self esteem.
Preferred Expressions of Affection
Preferred Expressions of Affection refers to your likes and dislikes for different ways a partner can express love and devotion. There are many ways in which people show affection to their loved ones: physical touch, doing favors, spending time together, giving gifts or communicating love through words. Statistically, you gave higher weighted ratings to Physical Touch. Bottom line: You need someone who can express affection through touch – a playful tickle, holding hands, hugs and kisses or a light touch as s/he passes by.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“How do you flirt physically with a partner and how often do you like to?”
“Do you like to act like a kid and playfully wrestle or have a tickle or pillow fight with a partner?”
“How comfortable are you with PDAs (Public Displays of Affection) and which kinds?”
Out of the various modes of expressing affection, Verbal Communication received lower weighted ratings from you. Bottom line: This does not mean that you neither like nor need Verbal Communication. Rather, it suggests that you need someone who can show affection in ways other than just verbal expressions such as spontaneous compliments, frequent “I love you’s,” occasional notes for you to find and recognition of your achievements.
Next, PlentyofFish presents some customized probing questions to use “as is” or as inspiration to develop your own to help you explore your “affection” needs with potential partners:
“Is it important for you to hear ‘I love you’ every time you talk to your significant other?”
“Do people typically have to fish for compliments from you?”
“Do you like to exchange emails with your partner during the day… or talk for long periods on the phone when apart?” | |
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Posted: 7/21/2007 10:10:20 AM | The PoF Relationship Assessment was surprising accurate for me albeit for 1 or 2 points that I am in disagreement with. I haven't looked at nor have I taken the assessment again since Admin. tweeked it's wording. Thanks Marcus, for providing yet another useful tool to us fishies!! 
I'd like to comment on the following post...
For example, I would not think "bargaining" in a conflict is something I would do. I know that compromise is a big issue in relationships thus I will compromise, yet bargain didn't make sense...like cutting a deal if you do this I'll do that...again semantics.
To me, compromise and bargaining are fundamentally the same in meaning ...
Merriam-Webster Dictionary definitions for:
Compromise: 1 a : settlement of differences by arbitration or by consent reached by mutual concessions b : something intermediate between or blending qualities of two different things.
Bargain: an agreement between parties settling what each gives or receives in a transaction between them or what course of action or policy each pursues in respect to the other.
In my opinion (yes - semantics, if you will) to compromise/bargain is one and the same for a solution to a conflict which satisfies both sides ... Whereas, concession is the act of giving in and admitting of a point claimed in argument/conflict which satisfies only one side.
It's also my credo to agree to disagree if compromise/bargaining is not an issue. The assessment had me pegged based on how I deal with conflict.
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Posted: 7/22/2007 3:57:40 PM | So.... are you guys gonna work on this some more so we allowed to re-take the test?
Just wondering.
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Posted: 7/23/2007 5:25:42 AM | | Is there any way to retake the relationship assessment? After I read the results I realized that I could have answered a few questions more accurately. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 8:22:18 AM | My son decided to take MY test. So, the results that I have are about him.
How do I delete it? Then, take the test over? (I suppose I'm technically challenged!)
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Posted: 7/23/2007 9:15:06 AM | | hi just spent the last half hr filling this in and could stop laughing at the results they are mainely on te possitive although dont aggre with it all in its fullness its mostley right and iv got a fair few questions i need to ask myself id like to no how you come to these questions and how is it summerized also can ppl view this like the personality 1? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2007 11:25:23 PM | | Somebody's been reading my heart. It's uncanny (sp?) how they nailed it. I think sexuallity should be shown when selected for the "add to profiles", though. I was thinking about an old girlfriend who is, after 16 years of a rocky marriage and found out she's been thinking about me and I have her, that I would really like her to see the whole me. This does it. I have to copy and paste this. Put the sexuality back in thought, please. She and I are absolute soul mates and I don't want her to miss a single part that you have psycographically compiled in my being and how we are a true part of eachother. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 10:54:14 AM |
The perferred method of expression has been updated slightly. To make it more clear, as people were getting hung up on some of the wording.
Enough time has passed to make it clear that this section (Preferred expressions of affection) of the test will likely never be fixed. From the comments I have seen, everyone who has the result that says they like to be touched is very happy with it. Who wouldn't be happy with that, even if it were not correct? Everyone likes to be touched. So not enough people are going to complain to get some action on this.
But my result is too offensive to me, and so exactly the opposite of my character, that I cannot leave the test results visible, even though I really want to show the rest of the results. The other results are all extremely accurate and telling. They would be a good guide for a prospective partner.
Would Admin consider allowing us to choose which sections of the test to make visible? Perhaps with checkboxes in a form? I understand he is very busy, and this would require considerable effort to code and test. But I would really appreciate the opportunity to take advantage of all the effort and expense that has gone into the creation of this test. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2007 11:01:19 AM | "It would be nice if there were a button that one could "push" on a profile that would show you the % match from that persons results to your own! I think that would be very helpful!!!! Plus adding the ability for us to add a filter to the compat results for age, physical shape, geography, or % match .... please, all these would be most helpful!!!! Thanks"
There is abutton it the Compatability Button.. will show all the singles that match you and by what percent... it is limited in age, distance, etc factors but check out those matches...
I'm wondering if anyone has used any of the suggested get to know questions when emailing a possible match....
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Posted: 7/26/2007 12:45:22 AM | | You know what would be good; is a side by side comparison with selected people. "At a glance matching" without having to wade through -reading all the words - to contrast and match various profiles with your own. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2007 7:13:23 AM | Well Mark side by side is not available but to share your results is act of good faith, you first have to get to know the person of interest enough to share that information... With so many judgemental people I see on line it's hard to let your guard down that much.. seems most this week are the glass half empty types versus the half fulls.... I would share these profiles if and when we were contemplating more than just dating...
In the between time.. I'll use the questions to see if we have "things' in common.
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Posted: 7/26/2007 10:50:35 AM | Everything in my assessment seemed pretty accurate except the Physical Touch assessment ... just as it did with 'princess leigh' ... not sure if I answered one or more questions incorrectly or whether the algorithms know something I don't .. overall, it is good to have...
It would be good to have some easy way of interpreting the Compatibility and/or Needs results relative to others.
I have no idea what 85% compatible means versus 95% - most of the highest scorers for me were less compatible than lower ones based on subsequent messages. | |
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