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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 8:37:28 PM | I find it really frustrating myself... seems that the women where I'm at (modesto ca.) that posted either
1. don't have the time
2. already seeing someone ( then why do they say they are looking)
3. Don't respond but keep reading your email.
4. never check the site but keep thier profile still
5. looking for fantasy man
So much for the 115 women that posted in my area....................
would love to see automatic deletion if you don't even log on after 30 days...
and a way to report to webmaster (sending a copy of email) of people who say they are seeing someone but don't tag thier profile so that it doesn't show up in the search database or change the FSM to email/chat only................. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 9:32:16 PM | Hey - if I were in your age range - I'd drive all the way to Plano from Fort Worth to meet you.
If you are seeking young guys - they will play and play and you will often be disappointed.
Guys in the 43 to 48 y.o.a. group should be bombarding you with email.
It all depends upon who you are seeking - who you rule in and who you rule out.
Joe | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 9:40:34 PM | i have met one person off of here, she lives in the same town as me,
it didn't go well because we have two different out looks on life, | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 9:49:51 PM | | I have to agree with you opie...it doesn't appear that there are too many people on here that want to meet. I'm personally sick of this going back and forth with email for weeks on end, only to be upgraded to msn for another several weeks and by the time you do meet..which could be months from now, the interest is either gone, or you forgot why you liked the person in the first place.....If I'm interested in someone, I would just prefer to do it the old fashion way..set up a date..if it works, great, if not...life goes on | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:41:01 PM | | Well i will tell all you ladies this you are limmiting yourselves to a possible nice guy by limitting your contacts with Must not be looking for Activity Partner is rally going over board!!! Just because a guy is looking for an activity partner does not mean he is looking for sex!! If he is like me he want to find someone to do fun things with and from there hopefully it will turn into something else. Also lady's sex is a big part of all relationships and if your not compatible both in and out of the bedroom i doubt you will ever have a good relationship!! Myself i don't care what your looking for in a relationship i am not that closed mined to see someone as a bad match because they want to meet anyone for any reason. You will never know if you passed up a great match by closing yourself off to so many guys. Haven't you learned yet that 90% of all men think about sex all the time and the other 10% think of it a least everyday and if you women were honest about it you are not far behind us on thinking about sex!!! That's like us guys saying all women want nothing more than a guy thats a so called hunk!!! A guy that is all looks and body and that loves himself more than anyone else and no brains and not time to spend with you because he is either working out or admiring himself in a mirror. But i know not all women are like that thankfully!!! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:46:29 PM | I have the same dilemma... but in my case after a couple weeks or months of talking i give them my phone number and they drop off the face of the earth.
I prefer to talk on the phone after a a couple weeks so i can see for sure if they are real or not.
I want to find the right lady to settle down with but it's hard with so many fakes.
Sincerely,
Joe | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 10:50:24 PM | i have the same problem. the only women who write live over 100 miles away. but the local chicks? forget it.
kenny | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/6/2007 11:10:30 PM | I find on this site there's more interest in meeting for sex and that's it....I'm on a 'pay' site and I've met several from there. The whole thought process and such is different...I find it much more effective and the deadwood just isn't there to the same level as here.
On this site it's fun for a chat and to talk on the forums. I've had a great time meeting people from all over and I have so many forum faves...you just have to be open and roll with it. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 2:46:29 AM | I would be absolutely delighted to meet women from this site; there seem to be many that are interesting, intelligent, charming and attractive.
And if I knew what I was doing wrong with my profile and/or the messages I send I would make the necessary changes to make that a possibility……
But I don't so I can't so I probably won't! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 3:43:19 AM | | I think the peoblem is most live to far away!!! Its one thing if you are into one night stands, more power to ya. But>>>>>>>>>>>>>> I just think you are taking a chance on dating someone far away hell they could be married or have a girlfriend. Who wants that!! To me when i do have a boyfriend I am not going to wait once a week to have sex I would want it everyday ..... cant have that if they 50 or more miles away..Its just a waste of time. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 4:30:12 AM | Dawn,
i have run into the same situations.
Men who will talk about wanting to meet you and then.. they chicken out.
Are there still men out there who will stand for their word, who will do what they said they would? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 5:55:37 AM |
Well i will tell all you ladies this you are limmiting yourselves to a possible nice guy by limitting your contacts with Must not be looking for Activity Partner is rally going over board!!! ...If he is like me he want to find someone to do fun things with and from there hopefully it will turn into something else. .... Haven't you learned yet that 90% of all men think about sex all the time and the other 10% think of it a least everyday and if you women were honest about it you are not far behind us on thinking about sex!!! ....A guy that is all looks and body and that loves himself more than anyone else ....
I don't generally contact men who say they are looking for an activity partner for one reason. The reason is that I'm not looking for a friend to do things with. I have loads of male & female friends that I can do activities with. With friends the activity that I don't do is sex. It is not that I'm closed minded. I'm ok with men thinking about sex. Actually at my age I hope they are thinking about it with ME! lol I'm not looking for a hunk. I don't want someone who looks at themselves in the mirror more than they look at me. I am looking for a man who is looking for the same things as I am. PERIOD! I am ISO a long term relationship. I am looking for someone who wants to be with me until we grow old or longer! I am looking for someone who is real. I am looking for someone who means what they say on their profile.
I sometimes send out 3 or 4 e-mails at a time thinking that the law of averages is that someone will answer back. It rarely happens. I don't know why. I can see that they read my e-mails, but that is the end of that. There is a statement somewhere that says that people get hundreds of e-mail & may not be able to answer all of them. If you are one of those people, please contact me. I want to know what you have that everyone here does NOT.
Another thing is that I used to type long e-mails about me & the things I like or am interested in doing. Shoot, I don't have time to do all that & then get no answer. I'm almost to the point of sending a statement like "Check me out. Am I hot enough for you? Call me at xxx-xxxx."
I'm with most of you all. I'm frustrated & lonely for some companionship that I can laugh with & at some point grow into a loving relaitonship with.  | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 6:18:16 AM | | I am guilty of stalling the first meet, its not that I don't want to meet women, but I would rather do the weeding online! Quick meets lead to awkward first dates, both parties are too nervous to be themselves and it becomes more like a job interview, make one mistake and thats it! I would rather spend a month or two getting to know a woman online and over the phone, no physical distractions, and its a great way to find out if our personalities gel. It takes time but at least you get to know each other properly, makes the first meeting a lot more comfortable and you can enjoy each others company without going through an "interviewing process"! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 6:34:05 AM |
I'm fairly new to this whole web-dating. Help me out somebody, please. Isn't the whole point of this and similar sites, to actually go out and meet some of the people you "text"? It seems as though no one really wants to meet. They would be happier with a quick flash of your boobies on the web cam!!! WTF! (Excuse my french). I'm a real woman who would love to meet a real man. Be it to have a drink, see a movie, have a conversation OR have sex. I find it hard to believe that I am that unattractive, and I do know how to use proper grammar. What's the deal? Anyone else having this problem?
I was thinking of posting a similar thread until I read your post. And I always thought this complaint was a guy thing. It seems that so many women on this site are looking for someont to "chat" with. What is that? After meeting online, seeing that there is physical attraction, hitting it off through conversation, and seeing that there are things in common, isn't the whole point of this thing to actually find someone? I can understand being cautious, but online dating does imply meeting and screening each other online, not actually dating online.
I have met quite a few (dozens and dozens, actually) women whom I have talked for hours with several times, had wonderful conversation with, exchanged pictures, and then after the second or third time doing this asked if they wanted to meet, only to read, "yes, but I 'refer to chat for a while first. I need to get to know you first". Which seems incredibly ridiculous, because after the initial "getting to know each other" phase (the first few conversations), all you can possibly get to know about someone online is whether they are a talented writer or not. Not how he/she would behave in a real relationship.
Because of this, I've adopted the belief that if someone is not interested in meeting by the third conversation, then she is a time-waster.
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 6:47:38 AM | Dawn Marie, no, you are not unattractive, and maybe that is the problem. Perhaps men are intimidated by you. The only man who didn't meet me (after expressing great interest) told me that he didn't want to become "another victim" on my "refuse heap" of rejected suitors whom I had met.
Beyond that one guy, I haven't had a problem with men not wanting to meet me, but I can guess as to why some men are reticent.
1. They are married and dating venues are places to flirt and maybe see boobes on a webcam.
2. They have misrepresented themselves on their profiles and know that a face to face meeting would blow the image that they present. Some people live vicariously--they do it chat rooms and they do it on dating sites. The Internet is a place where you can be anyone whom you want to be--as long as you stay online and don't venture into the real world.
Keep at it, real men will step up to the plate.
I would rather spend a month or two getting to know a woman online and over the phone, no physical distractions, and its a great way to find out if our personalities gel.
There is no way I would chat with a man for a month or two in emails or on the phone. I want to meet NOW because personal energy tells me more about a person than the written or spoken word can. In addition, personalities could gel and the physical attraction could still be "yuck." | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 6:50:09 AM | I agree with you Dawn Marie1969
I am also fairly new to this but it seems to me if you don't have your photo on there no one wants to know. Whatever happened to a little mystery
Java123 | |
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Posted: 7/7/2007 6:50:28 AM | I agree with you Dawn Marie1969
I am also fairly new to this but it seems to me if you don't have your photo on there no one wants to know. Whatever happened to a little mystery
Java123 | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 6:54:05 AM |
I would rather spend a month or two getting to know a woman online and over the phone, no physical distractions, and its a great way to find out if our personalities gel.
And then after all that time you finally meet and one isn't attracted to the other - no chemistry, no spark, no something. What a waste. Meet as soon as you can. The forums are full of people who have become dillusioned, then disappointed, then bitter, then angry about this online dating thing. Who are they? They are the ones that took it all to seriously; the ones who spent months writing letters then the exchanging of phone calls before finally meeting and facing the big let-downs instead of just jumping right in and having fun. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:07:54 AM |
Well i will tell all you ladies this you are limmiting yourselves to a possible nice guy by limitting your contacts
Don't assume that a woman doesn't answer or want to meet you because of the "limitations" that she puts on her profile. It might be a very polite way of saying, "I checked you out; I don't like your looks/spelling/grammar/what you say in general."
i am not that closed mined to see someone as a bad match because they want to meet anyone for any reason
I THINK that you are saying you will meet anyone who wants to meet you, but I could be wrong. Why waste time on someone who is obviously not a good match?
A guy that is all looks and body and that loves himself more than anyone else and no brains and not time to spend with you because he is either working out or admiring himself in a mirror.
Shallow as it may be, I want a guy who takes care of himself. If he doesn't like to look in a mirror at himself, why would I want to look at him? And if I don't want to look at him, why the hell should I have sex with him?
But i know not all women are like that thankfully
And all women who don't agree with you are just plain wrong, aren't they?
In just reading over the profiles on this forum alone, I can see why many women would not want to meet many of the male posters. Multiply that to the nth degree in reading the profiles of a plethora of other men. Emails rarely reflect anything other than the profile, more's the pity. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:08:46 AM |
And then after all that time you finally meet and one isn't attracted to the other - no chemistry, no spark, no something. What a waste. Meet as soon as you can. The forums are full of people who have become dillusioned, then disappointed, then bitter, then angry about this online dating thing. Who are they? They are the ones that took it all to seriously; the ones who spent months writing letters then the exchanging of phone calls before finally meeting and facing the big let-downs instead of just jumping right in and having fun.
Never had that problem! There is too much emphasis on looks, in my opinion and from past experiences most chemistry and spark occurs through personalities, if both people are are being themselves during "the getting to know you" stage online and over the phone the first meet is rarely a let down. Sure, they might look a bit differently but once the conversation gets going you realise why you liked them enough to meet in the first place....i'm not shallow!  | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:15:01 AM | Java123
I am also fairly new to this but it seems to me if you don't have your photo on there no one wants to know. Whatever happened to a little mystery
I'll use the "fish" alliterations here:
When you are fishing, you need bait to attract fish. Not many fish will nibble upon an empty hook.
Gwendolynn2006
Don't assume that a woman doesn't answer or want to meet you because of the "limitations" that she puts on her profile. It might be a very polite way of saying, "I checked you out; I don't like your looks/spelling/grammar/what you say in general."
If you have a bunch of limitations on your profile, people cannot even send you a message.
The profiles I laugh at have a 2 line description "about me" and a list of limitations that is far longer than their description. I often wonder why these people even bother.
As far as the restrictions, I have only a smoking restriction. I know that I can make a decision to say no to people based upon each individual.
I have written to people who listed "intimate encounter" as their intent. This does not mean I was seeking an intimate encounter; I have contacted a number of people from the forums. I have contacted men; this does NOT mean I am looking to date them. (One had a car that impressed me, for example.) Now I am unable to contact anyone with the "intimate encounter messaging" block.
My thoughts are that this is their loss, not mine. I believe that I am a decent guy. I think that the ladies I have met will validate this. If you choose not to talk with me because of who I have spoken with, I feel that this represents a narrow-minded attitude. (We will probably not get along anyway.)
Let me step down off my soapbox now! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:20:58 AM | Time and distance can make or break a potential relationship.......
Many on here enjoy the banter, flirting, open discussion, and all that goes with it, but will not take it to the next step unless everything else fits in their universe.
I have stated many times on this site that if you really want to meet, then you make it happen as soon as possible. Email on here, take it to your personal email account, messenger, cam, phone, and meet.
All of this sounds so good if both are committed to doing it, and one of the biggest problems from making a potential relationship a reality is distance. Both need to talk and understand what your distance limits are for a real relationship and what and how you can do to make a go of it.
Just my opinion......   | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 7:38:02 AM | Have found that also, too much talking leads to... well, nothing.
I'd rather meet within a couple of weeks , latest.
*C* | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/7/2007 10:12:51 AM | 1Fish2Fish,
While it is true that limitations such as smoking and drinking preferences will keep someone from emailing another person, many people also list limitations in their profile blurbs. A lot of those preferences are laughable, i.e. the 300 pound man who wants to meet "slim, attractive women," or the 60 year old man who wants to meet 21 year old women.
By the way, you have more lrestrictions than just smoking. I read your earlier post and was going to comment on it in an email, but I am over 53 and forbidden to contact you. | |
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