| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/11/2007 12:17:47 PM | | Of course, meeting in real life could almost be likened to that lovable sports star who never wins the big championship of his or her chosen sport. You spend your days fantasizing about what the other person will be like and how much they will like you, and then when the time comes to actually sink that last, eight-foot put on the 72nd hole at the Masters, you realize how scary it is to have to move beyond the dream. That's probably an extreme case, but I'll bet it happens. In fact, I'd say that after the first four or five messages back and forth, the odds of ever meeting the other person start to go DOWN. Thoughts? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/11/2007 2:25:12 PM |
In fact, I'd say that after the first four or five messages back and forth, the odds of ever meeting the other person start to go DOWN. Thoughts?
I think that the odds of meeting stay the same after however many messages. Although, I prefer to not tell my life's story before I meet someone because then you won't have much to talk about on your first date beyond daily things! Even so, if you hit it off with someone you can spend an hour talking about the most mundane subject and still have a good time. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/11/2007 4:08:58 PM | My problem might be the dress in my photo. I thought I looked pretty.
Quite a few of the responses I get appear to be from men looking for a "mattress tester".
I'm with you DawnMarie. I would love to go out, enjoy dinner and conversation. If a guy lays the sex angle up front then I just move on. It's all he wants. He doesn't want anything serious. And guys, don't tell me you are just trying to see what kind of girl she is.
If she wants to have sex right away, let her tell you. Unless you don't want to spend any money on her just to find out she wants to wait til she knows you better. what was she thinking?? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/11/2007 11:36:04 PM | Life is sooooo busy, and its not slowing down. seems like even if i want to meet someone (i am highly intrigued with) we can never find a time we both agree on. then if you do wait too long, she is hurt or has moved on | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/15/2007 5:57:02 PM | Dawn, I have found the same thing.
Was texting/tallking via phone for about a week with someone (He kept telling me about the desperate women he had dated). He proposed a meeting for the next night. I already had plans but suggested we could meet for coffee earlier. He said he would call at noon and we would get together at 3 or 5. Well, I waited an hour and then thought 'whatever', left him a message saying I was going to the gym and to leave me a message or text telling me when we were meeting. No call.
So, I figure I'm not going to hear from him again and that's probably good! Nope. 4 days later he calls 2x, and sends me a text message at 11:30 pm asking me what I am doing (?), calls again the 5th day and leaves a message. I do respond to this , saying I'm returning his call (voicemail..surprise). No response. The next day I get a text late at night asking me: "Whatcha doin?". I texted him to basically leave off. He then calls. My best (gay friend) answers as my secretary...It's a longer story, but it was amusing. I never like to take someone down a peg but this guy definitely deserved it. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 7/15/2007 5:58:05 PM | | If it's that hard for anybody to get together for a first date, what does that say about the rest of the realtionship? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 10:19:21 AM | ya know, meeting someone is what i'm here for. i'm not looking for a one night stand. not to say i would turn the girl down if she offered and i felt comfortable with her. but what i want is a woman who want's to be with me. who when i call to see if she is gonna be home cause i want to visit is waiting for me is watching for me instead of watching tv and waiting for me to knock on the door. i want a woman who when we get together wants me to put my arms around her and give her a good hug. but don't mistake this for being my "feminine side". i'm a man's man which means i don't have a feminine side. i just like the close physical contact with a woman
kenny | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 10:32:11 AM | | I have met some POFers since March. First couple months I tested the waters and did not date. Now like most want to meet within reasonable time. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:03:35 PM | | I find the same thing as the OP...i just make it clear very soon that I"m not into internet chat for very long. You want to meet someone let's meet, if not go waste someone elses time! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:14:45 PM | I have learned that most women just want to read emails to feel better about themselves, then maybe start to email someone reluctantly and then leave the guy waiting for another email that never comes.....such class they show. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:18:35 PM |
If it's that hard for anybody to get together for a first date, what does that say about the rest of the realtionship?
Exactly, but why are they online all the time wasting everyone's time? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 4:42:09 PM |
ok ya have too keep in mind here, that probaly about 80% of the people on here are either married or invilved in some sort of relationship,
That's not very comforting. What the hell did I sign up here for? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 9/24/2007 5:34:42 PM | Wow, 80% huh? Maybe that explains why I've had a couple no shows. Twice now I've had someone say they couldn't wait to meet and then all of a sudden I didn't even hear from them any more (no emails OR phone calls). One guy even relisted his profile under another screen name! What kind of game is that??
I guess I'll keep trying this for a bit longer though. When you don't go out clubbing or hanging out in bars what alternatives are left for meeting someone besides a site like this??? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/14/2007 6:27:30 PM | | have talked to a few that i enjoyed meeting...but for one reason or another things didn'e work out...have talk to a couple i would have loved to have met but for some reason we never did...mostly distance...hope someday to meet somone that the stars will aline and things fall into place and the sun will shine again...lol | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:10:00 PM | I find comfort knowing i make up the 1% who isn't looking to meet anyone and when i do, it will be in real life w/o the net... and if it turns into anything, my POF account will be terminated & leave no traces that my account ever exsisted.
until then... bring on the stereotypes! they are indeed entertaining.
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/14/2007 7:45:44 PM | | It is odd behavior isn't it? I have had been who will chat up a storm but will run as soon as you mention coffee. After being on here for awhile I can almost tell if they are married or to different for me. But I do the Email thing a few times then the phone conversation. I trust my gut feeling about people. Yes some people will get away with meeting even if they are married and they are very sneaky. Or they try to prolong the IM thing. All of the people that I have set up to meet for a quick coffee have showed up. Why coffee or a soft drink. Because not everyone is honest about their pictures or profiles. We can check each other out without having to drag it though dinner besides if I don't like someone my stomach will start hurting especially if they are rude. Or if they have lied about something in their profile or their pictures. It isn't easy meeting someone nice. But when you do whether you have chemistry or not you hang on to them because the nice people are hard to find ,,,,,,,,,,,,,besides I need all the friends I can get,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Smiles Blue | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/16/2007 7:35:26 PM | | I hear ya. I've tried to make some good conversation in emails, and I see that they've read them, but I get almost no responses. I actually respect the one I got that said, "Thanks for the effort, but I'm not really interested". Do you send another email still trying to make small talk? Or assume no response = not interested? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/16/2007 7:45:26 PM | I am glad I am not the only one feeling this way. There are so many men on here for ......................I haven't figured that one out. I am too am new to web dating and am finding it is not of much use. You seem to get contacted by the guys who are between jobs for 2 years!!!! :-) They don't really want to meet. I haven't figured out the psychological game yet. Give me time.........I am attractive, educated, articulate, and maybe that is what scares men worth having away. If they were worth having though they wouldn't be intimidated by me though?????
Just glad I am not the same woman feeling waht you are Dawn Marie! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/16/2007 9:26:49 PM | | Or sex?? That sounds very detached and generic? I never want any woman to flash themselves on a cam, I do not see the harm of men and women who are singled unless they are on a date keeping company on AV, ut can be a wholesome experience that breaks the vacuum of isolation. I don't want any power trippers to think isolation will motivate me into lowering my expectations. I want a lot more then just sex with a woman. On a night alone a woman on AV can make life seem much more natural and light. A lot of women are making it seem to be degenerate to want their company on AV. Maybe the mentality on a no fee dating site is readically different from a premium cost service? What ever this is, it's making me nervous. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/24/2007 4:26:44 PM | | migivadam...sorry but not everone on here is just looking for sex...some of us really do want a real relationship...but i am begaining to think woman on here dont | |
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