| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/24/2007 4:39:05 PM | | I have found out the same issue and even go to the extent of making dates with these so called guys who want to meet and then be stood up. There are a lot of game playing and I am beginning to think that maybe meeting people the old-fashioned way might be better than looking at these sites for any real human life. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/24/2007 8:19:16 PM | | sweetlady39...... i have to say im very interested in getting to know you.... she has a block on her profile that want let me respond to her because i dont have a posted picture on the site.. well darlin.. im here to say some men dont know how to post pictures... so maybe you can drop me a line and ill prove that all men are not the same... ill prove that some men still believe in love and romance.. and darlin your veryyyyyyyyyy beautiful and yes mr perfect has his eyes on you.... would mr perfect stand you up... with one chance ......oh i would make it so right... i belive in being honest,no head games here and i belive its all in a kiss you cant fake a real kiss.... stay sweet mr perfecttt | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/24/2007 9:33:18 PM | | I have met three people in total on dating websites in my life. I consider one person to be someone that I respect 100 percent, and we even dated for a year. He still has my respect. It took me a few months to figure out that the other dude wasn't worth calling a friend/ wasn't worth my time at all. (cant be a fool, ya know?) And the most recent person I have met? Well, I think he may be someone I can respect, haven't had enough face to face time to figure it out yet, but I think it would be cool to see what happens. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:32:24 PM | | Gosh, reading all these threads makes me reconsider doing this at all. I think I'll pull my profile............. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:40:00 PM | Dawn.
When it comes to the women there are instances of one girl breaking up with her boyfriend because he turned up on a date weaaring and out of fashion belt. Another who broke up with her date because he wore his seat belt and she regarded that as sooooooo immature.
So pardon me if you don't get a flood of replies paticularly as you havent filled in a profile or e mail address and there's no way anybody can contact you. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:42:30 PM | I'm completely cool with that. My thing is, men who constantly pursue you and when you finally commit to a meeting, they never contact you again.
Somethings fishy. No pun intended.
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The man who talks to you, in rreal life, or cyberspace, in not necessarily pursuing you.
The same as the woman, who wears low tops, and talks to me when I'm around, is not necessarily trying to get me into the sack. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 11/25/2007 1:53:35 PM | Some people are frightened to venture any further than their PC in their living room datewise.
People are too frightened of being hurt.
This applies to men too.
Who wants to go back into a possible divorce scenario or be with someone in a bad relationship ?
Divorce laws certainly protect women but they dont encourage men to marry again or even live with someone.
There is a lot to be said living alone. It makes lfie seriously less complicated. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 5:38:40 AM | Some people are scared to meet becuase of internet predators. YOu hear about it in the news all of the time so tell peopel where you are meet ina public palce, maybe bring a friend or be in an area with peopel and don;t be alone with eachotehr until you feel comfortabel with eachother. Talked for a bit. some people don;t want to meet I don;t get it either. I hate being jerked around. persoanlly I like to meet inside shopping malls. Or donut/coffee shops. And I ahve met women on POF in person.Its really not a big deal. its good to send a few meeages and get to know eachother online first then actually go out and meet somewhere. a Bar, mall or coffee/donut shop. a place where you cna tlak where there are otehr people and maybe some police offiers or bouncers to protect you. And if someone looks liek a crimminal or acts sucpiciaous be on your toes. We are not children on facespace. We are adults trying to meet other adults to have relationships with.  | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 5:54:19 AM |
I find it hard to believe that I am that unattractive,
Yes and No. Well, it is almost true that most are THAT unattractive to meet because there are other hotter women on the exact same site messaging the guy. It is about holding out. As long as prettier women are messaging the same guy; fooling him; teasing him; getting his hopes up for a BBD (bigger better deal) then the guy is not going out and spending his last dollar on drinks for a nice normal semi-hot woman. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 6:30:14 AM | Crazy world we live in that for sure. Many seem so steadfast to a monitor. While many claim does anyone want to meet.
In my case even the frist step is tough can't even get some to write or even say a simple hello on their IM. Seems like most rather find faults and negatives than looking for the postive someone has to offer. Some even afraid to anything more than frist date.
Seems to me plenty use internet dating sites like a good bar in there convince of their own home.
People are scared any more to meet cause they too busy to make making time cause they don't understand the value of good friendships and or.afraid to commit themselves enjoying a simple wonderful posslibity of  | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 11:32:20 AM | Yes, I completely agree that meeting asap is vital to determining if there is any reason to continue with that particular person. I made the mistake (many years ago), of establishing a fantastic telephone relationship with a woman connected with my job at the time. We flirted outrageously for years, getting more and more risque and intense. Due to a change in her job, she ended up visiting Victoria - no doubt with expectations of hot and steamy sex (on my mind, as well...). Well, when we finally met - what a letdown!! Talk about lack of chemistry - we couldn't even muster up the will to do more than shake hands.
The moral is - talk a little, than meet - and see if you "click". No point in endless wordplay or messages; if when you finally get together it all falls flat (unless you are satisfied with the phone/email relationship thing).
I'm on here to meet someone - in person, and in the flesh! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 11:53:10 AM | I now understand why people get so persnicketty about meeting right away. I didn't really think it was such a big deal until I was considering meeting someone who lived out of my postal code.
We chatted for an INSANE amount of hours and when I actually did have a window of opportunity to sneak away for a week and meet him, I thought he would be elated. I was fully confident to meet him in person and didn't think that there would be any issues with lack of interest upon meeting in person. However, I was disappointed when he responded that it wasn't a good time and suggested that maybe it would be better to meet in a few months.
It was annoying when I was booking my Option B holiday plans, because the pull down menu on the airline's website kept landing my cursor on his city. It was almost like little gremlins were trying to coax me to go surprise him. However, I wouldn't have felt right doing that.
Anyway, after a time he made it clear that he wasn't exactly sure which woman he wanted to meet and I nicely suggested that we stop discussing any plans of meeting until he was sure what he wanted. Then, he got P-ed off and deleted me from MSN.
Honestly, I wish I could have been his best male friend at that time, so I could have directly told him what a sillyhead he was being. Now, I've come to the realization that he probably was just farting around on the computer (like interactive video games for adults or something) and didn't really have any true desire to meet.
Live and learn. I'm not going to do that again and if I feel that I have clicked with someone, I would expect to meet as soon as possible. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 12:59:30 PM | | I totally agree^^^^^^^^^^^^^^If you find someone that you totally click with then I am with you lets meet right away, it actually does seemthat no one on here is for real, people want to callyou on the phone with meaningless things to say and never want to meet but they say how much they are interested in you and when they say they have a job, why is it that they can call you at 12 in the afternoon at a movie? LOL I just do not get it, I have never met anyone from this site but God willing hopefully soon. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/4/2007 5:04:21 PM | In my opinion, a lot of people are on POF just to have the power of saying "not interested" over and over again, when that isn't the case out in public where they probably aren't approached very often if at all. Some people want to meet, but you have to realize who you are dealing with. People's actions will tell you if they want to meet or not. People who want to remain computer buddies and never get to anything real, leave them be. People who want to do the web cam thing, leave 'em be. Someone who actually wants to talk on the phone and get to know you sounds like they are actually looking to get involved or at least are interested in really getting to know you. Meeting someone shouldn't be a problem if they are actually interested. The only way they wouldn't be interested in meeting is if they are not interested. Ask him or them if they'd like to meet somewhere for something. Not necessarily a full date, but just a place to meet in public and talk for a bit. Not all attempts are going to be successful and not everyone is everyone else's preference, but I've seen some people get pretty nasty when the situation didn't even call for it and I think it would've been different if it were an "in person" situation. People practice much less tact over the internet, but that also tells you a little about their character when they do it.
Don't keep all your eggs in one basket. While POF may be free and an excellent way of meeting people, there are a lot of people who take a unique opportunity like this and do nothing but make the worst of it. You might want to contact the people that you are interested in. While it's a great opportunity to meet tons of people. People tend to be really lazy or really snobbish in their pursuit of a relationship here. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/5/2007 4:58:33 AM | | I've met a few and have yet to meet a true gentleman who wanted more than just a roll in the hay. You may be better off searching in the supermarket! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/5/2007 5:05:51 AM | Yup it's like trying to pull teeth in here.
I see you're gone now, but I'll just say you have better luck networking through friends, family, and colleagues than on the net to find someone to date. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/5/2007 2:36:16 PM | You are right. Total Bull Sh**!!
I have been here for more than a year. Gave up once and came back in August. Not one date!
If you look at my profile, you might say no wonder. I blew a fuse recently, but my profile used to be nice and peachy. I have a lot of interests and I am Mr. Wonderful...
But now I am 
Well, I sincerely wish you best of luck. Some people told me that if I persevere and be patient, I might meet someone. I hope it is going to be before I’ll be pushing a walker and I’ll be peeing in my pants…  | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/6/2007 8:11:20 AM | My first time to the forums. Found this thread quite interesting. Figured I would add my 2 cents worth here. Finding much of the same problems most here are experiencing. I feel I have a good profile listed. Due to my profession I am prohibited from posting a photo on the net. There are people who can't post a photo due to their jobs. Still I get women who are interested and make contact. I try to make contacts but many have so many restrictions that you get blocked. Those I do get through to seldom answer. I see in the sent messages a lot of unread/deleted or read/deleted. To be clear, here, I can and do write nice, informative, more then one sentance emails. Just because there might be one minor thing that's not YOUR preference doesn't mean this person might not be the one your looking for. You might of just blocked that person who would be the one you are actually seeking. Check out my profile and see for yourself if I am out of line in it.
Many that I have contacted or have contacted me are willing to correspond for a while. Even exchanged regular email address and corresponded from that forum. I have wasted so much time in doing this. They write for a while. When the talk of actually meeting comes up I get excuses about so many things why they can't meet. Eventually they quit corresponding.
Then there are the ones that I have actually met. The part I really prefer as one can only get the feel of someone through face to face meeting. You get to see their body language, smiles, hear their laughter and get to see what each other is really like in a one to one atmosphere. The time when chemistry comes into play.
I would say of several contacts, through this site and one other, I have had the pleasure of actually meeting 4 in a years time now. Had a great time talking and laughing. Finding many things of common interests. Parted company on a good note. Talked about getting together again. Even recieved emails saying how good of a time they had. Then in short time they are gone. No explanation. Nothing.
The other problem I have encountered is one of time schedules. I lead a busy lifestyle with family, working and traveling. I have to plan times for socializing as many do. Then add a distance factor to that and its not always condusive to easy dating practices(seems most of my contacts are always long distance. 50 to 100 miles). I don't seem to have any luck with anyone local. I can and do find the time but need to have the other party to be a little flexible too.
As would hope all do, they don't just rely on internet dating as their avenue of meeting someone. I don't. But just be honest and tell your internet interest that you can't meet them on this particular day and time as you have another engagement. Regaredless of the engagement. That's dating suicide. Their immediate reaction is that you have someone else your dating also. They will be gone in an instant. My arguement is that unless you have made a commitment you shouldn't assume that you new interest is going to loyal, now, to just you. I don't believe a commitment can be made from just a quick meeting. Or after 2 or 3 actual dates. Commitments take time to develope. In the interium one should realize that no one can make a decision based on one date or sometimes several. Plus men and women should have the opertunity to explore more then one interest. If I was one of more then one who was vieing for your loyalty I would try to make myself more presentable to you so your decision would, hopefully, make me look like the favorable one for you. Not feel that if your exploring other possibilites, at the same time, that I don't want to bother with you because you might not be a faithful person in the long run.
In conclusion. From my personal experience. This intenet dating is like trying to pick pepper out of fly crap. Time consuming with little to no results. Too many on them that are just bored with life and looking for some excitement. Those in a relationship looking for the same. Many women TOO worried over meeting the wrong person or an unsavory one. Then the ones that are just so picky that even the smallest detail they don't agree with slams the door shut on so many that might just be that one they seek. I have a lot better luck picking up a date from a club or in the everyday enviroment then I have ever had on a dating site. Until you have actually been face to face with someone how can you judge who might be or not be right for you? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:20:48 AM | | I think there are a lot of sincere people on here that really want to meet. I'm sure there are a lot that just want to chat on here also. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/6/2007 9:41:55 AM | | Some are serious about meeting and some are not. I will not meet a guy right away from the internet. I have to talk to him for a bit before I'll even consider meeting him. Since I have FWB right now I'm in no rush to meet anyone. I will never commit to my FWB but not really interested in a relationship yet. Dating is too much because I keep meeting the wrong guys. So now I just talk to them on msn at most till my mind decides what I wanna do. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:27:41 AM | what a small world.
*recognises OP from yahoo chat*
*remembers that no one wanted to chat with her in the main room because her presentation seems too 'desperate' and she was very impacient*
add that with this :
Since I have FWB right now I'm in no rush to meet anyone.
equals.... "Why would anyone want to meet you for a relationship after giving that much info"?
Deleting your account is not very suprising either.  | |
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