| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 12/6/2007 10:38:10 AM | ["Why would anyone want to meet you for a relationship after giving that much info"]
Well considering its a FWB. I don't tell guys about him that I talk to. Its just something I use so I can get my fix while waiting for a guy who will accept me for who I am. Its not something to brag about when actually getting to know them. Its not there business either what you do for pleasure when getting to know them. Many do this anyway. I'm not gonna delete an account just because I'm not looking for a relationship.   | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/3/2008 8:55:18 PM | I have so much difficulty expressing myself in typed text......I want IP for all ecounters lol. Sarcastic humour and msn don't get along. Most comunication is done through body language and gesture. Words compliment the first impression and they have to be "heard" in proper context.
I would rather meet in person then be missunderstood in text. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/3/2008 10:25:06 PM | I hear this complaint a lot, but I can't relate. I'M usually the one who is hedgy about meeting. If it's too inconvenient, I'll usually demur and eventually call the whole thing off. I will not meet someone for the first time at a far-away place, because if he doesn't show up or if the date is bad, I'm not near home.
I don't see why people wouldn't want to meet. My policy is not to correspond with anyone who goes overboard on sex-talk; that usually weeds out the men just looking for cybersex and webcam fun.
What's worse and more rampant than the "don't want to meeters" is the "first date and leavers". These are the people you meet for one date, had a reasonable (or good) time with, and leave, never calling you again or answering your calls. I've had fairly good odds; I've met about fifteen guys from online dating. At least seven called again and wanted to make definite plans to see me again (as in, called the next night and said, "How's brunch on Saturday?" or something).
I've also met many guys who never spoke to me again, and I was not sure why. Some of these guys had very little to offer anyone of the opposite sex, and so I doubt it was anything I did. I think some people just go on a date, hoping to feel that BANG of instant love, and when they don't, assume it was all a bust and don't call again. Some people are addicted to online dating and are always looking at whoever's standing behind you in line. Some have incredibly high standards and can't get over a bad perfume or an annoying giggle.
My luck's been really great, actually, with online dating, and I am not sure why. I am no looker; just an average 23 year old girl who works in an office and likes board games. I am not the kind of person people go home and say WOW about. My father said recently, "Sweetie, I don't know why all these boychiks keep calling; I love you dearly and you're cute, but you ain't no silver fox."
I appreciate the honesty, and he's right. And what confuses me is that I see women more interesting than me, more well off than me, and more attractive than me (and thinner than me) having problems on the dating sites, and I'm not sure what to say, except I must have had an inordinate amount of luck. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/3/2008 10:57:02 PM | I did not read all of the posts, I would, however, like to respond.
I love men, I love everything about men, that is why I am here to possibly mee one.
This goes for men AND women........I do not believe anyones words. I believe words when they are either proven to be true or when the words are backed up with actions.
If someone want to meet, they know just what to do and what to say to do it. If they don't show any interest in meeting, I lose interest.
My life is a good life, full of activity and wonderful people. I want to make room for that one single man in my life...........he is not a fantasy man. I know he is out there right now looking for me. I am on POF just to up the odds. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:45:15 AM | OPer:
I know what you mean. I've lost interest in dating on this site. I'm in friend mode. Keep in mind, this is a "free" site, think about it. I was on pay sites and the games and amount of work involved just meeting for a cup of coffee wasn't much easier. My view is, I just relax and whatever happens, happens. I don't even contact women on here any more. I wait for them to contact me, or forget it. I wait for "them" to suggest a meeting, I just don't worry about it anymore. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:09:40 AM | After many dates and different experiences since being single, I have just slowed down alot.
If someone catches my eye in a special way, I always try to meet them ASAP. Women like that only seem to come along a couple of times per year where everything seems right (location, non-smoker, artistic, etc.) | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:21:12 AM | I have no problem meeting people...never really have...I have worked in the public's eye for so long that I am just at a point in my life that I am far from being shy... I do live active lifestyle and some can deal with it and some can't... I have met some men I could have done without meeting but if you never take the chance then you have no reason to b*tch...I do have on-line friends that for whatever reason we have never met location being the biggest obstacle with that...but just for the record not all women are afraid to meet off the pc...
Always,
Kat | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:29:05 AM | [never take the chance then you have no reason to b*tch]
I'm not complaining. I'm perfectly content. Don't lump me in that group. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/4/2008 11:47:54 AM | | I've been on here for a year now.I hear you ,I have only been online since before last Christmas.I have tried many different sites and in total I have met in person only 2 ladies.I have been told I am an attractive man with a good job, drink little,drug free and no criminal record. I have never cheated on a woman.I would also like to add that I hate anyone that would hit a woman or a child.So people what more do you want? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/4/2008 3:57:37 PM | Geez. After reading these posts, and from what I've personally experienced so far, I might have to one-up you: I think I'll commit hari kari  | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/6/2008 3:43:12 PM | | I have been on this site for over a year now and have not got past the e mail thing. I would like to meet someone even if we just have coffee and shoot the breeze. I thing men are looking for the perfect women..good luck with that. lol | |
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Posted: 1/6/2008 10:01:07 PM | Well I've dated other women from other personals sites in past 10 years but as of yet
have not actually met anyone from this site in real life.
I think that online dating is geared more for women these days its so secure and safe and the women call the shots as to who they want to meet and when.
Its just a good social experiment for me to say that I have found my recent dating experiences from online to be a complete waste of time. BUT.. someone real could actually prove a jaded soul like me wrong after all a broken clock is right twice a day :) | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 1/7/2008 1:17:56 AM | I understand your point.
Here is one for ya, I did a search in my area, wide open mind you. I had about a dozen hits. Out of a dozen hits, it does not take long to get down to 1-3 and then... yeah your at zero before you know it.
As far as people being married and playing on here, I don't have any hard facts so i don't worry with it.
I will tell you this, *No Photo, No Talk*.
I think that if someone is serious about dating and or finding their *one* and if they are worth having, then they will have at least a photo up. Every site tells you that is a very important thing to do. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 3:11:23 AM | | most seem to want to meet, what I've found is that regardless of their "style" it all comes down to sex. Some are just more gentlemanly in how they go about getting to that point. Such is life. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet? Hope So:run: :run:
Posted: 3/13/2008 3:41:50 AM | I have not had many reponse's. But at the same time I do no wish to make mistakes, where a persons feeling s may get hurt... I'd rater go slow, and maybe develope something good.
That being said, this is not just a one way street...
2 People have to participate in it to get it going.
So if your interested, send me an e-mail, and Iwould be pleased to contact you.
You'all have a great weekend
See ya guys later!
Rick TensawEagle | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 3:42:09 AM | | The problem I'm having is, the closer someone lives to me, the less they want to meet. I get women who live an hour away who keep asking to meet, and the women who live closer, send an e mail or two and then quit. And if they live in the same town I do...forget it...I kept e mailing with one for weeks...she lives ten miles away, and you think we would move on to a phone call?...nope...it's not like it's long distance...and if they live in another state, it's come on, drive an hour or two to meet half way! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:09:09 AM | You said it! But, I find that true from the women looking for men. Some want to chat, chat, chat, but as soon as you say let's talk on the phone they are gone.
Brian | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:49:03 AM | I have the same experience with rachelmybell. I am actually getting more requests/demand to meet than I can handle and I did not originally come here to date many. I would be perfectly satisfied with pen pals and friends w/o benefits because in real life, I do date already. I am more into knowing people online first before rushing to meet. Yet, I have guys asking to meet right after saying hi. And they get upset when I decline. And those who really get upset are usually married or just have sex in mind, in my opinion.
It's either they are fooling me and don't really want to meet or something else. At times when you get so many persistent ones, you feel that it is another full time job just to do it. lol
Sometimes it is hard to make some guys understand that it is impossible to meet each and everyone who asks even if you have the desire and inclination to do so. It is not that you are hiding something but that that is how you are. You also have a right to choose who to meet! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:18:10 AM | | i think that most on here have the same thing on there profile...but when you e-mail a couple times it just stops...appears there not interested...doesent even send an e-mail that says so...i think they feel that it's just somone to talk with till somone better comes along | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 7:31:42 AM | The impression I have is that men are expecting: good looking, sexy, smart interesting, easy-going women that will give us their full attention (and of course sex) (maybe without a commitment) for some.
The women are looking for: EXACTLY the same thing, but in men!
Reality: Women or men, are not all super models, they are not all sexy, smart, interesting, or easy-going. In other words, men or women, may be gorgeous, but dumb-as-a-stump, but lacking in other desireable qualities.
The possibilities/combinations are endless. I won't list them all.
There are also some jerks here, female and male, just as there are some real sweet-hearts. The trick, is to be lucky enough to find/weed-out one from the other. The ones that are not here just to see how many hits or favs' they can score. The ones that can spell and form complete thoughts and sentences. The ones that answer questions when asked. Those are the ones I'd like to hear from. You get what I mean, I'm sure.
Is there a right way to do something? If someone contacts you, but you find them unattractive, should you say "thanks, but no thanks", or simply say nothing...no reply?
That's up to you.
I'm still new, but it's been my observation that: The very attractive women are only interested in the same, a "pretty-boy". Then they get upset when the guy 'just' wants to get in their pantyhose....and he's got a couple of other girls on the side. Of course, the attractive men want a "hottie", one that will put-out and do it well. (Hell, we all want that!) Sadly, we'll have one good quality, but a deficiency of another. Today's emphasis on looks has a real impact on all of this.
With things as such, I'd say it's really looks that are most important. I'd be lying if I said looks don't matter to me. If you are good-looking you are going to get "asked-out", there's no question 'bout that. If you are in the middle, then you'll have to work a lot harder to charm the other peson into meeting you. The ones below average in looks with have to rely on inner beauty even more and that the person who reponds, to pick up on it.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder...there is somebody for everybody in the world...
everybody wants something for nothing...
I'm here for something, or someone that will both see my inner beauty and hopefully find my average looks attractive to them. Do I want to get laid today? Hell, yeah!
Will it happen? Not today, cause I'll be at work! When it happens next, I want to be for love not lust. (Doubt it'll be thru POF.) | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 10:53:51 AM | | personally i'm not really interested in actually meeting anyone off the web. i know that kinda makes me being here redundant but i'm just being honest. the idea is nice the whole 'youve got mail' vibe.. who knows really. but i'm sure lots of people sincerely want to go from here to a facetoface relationship | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 11:01:27 AM | | I honestly think if your serious about meeting someone from online go to one of the pay sites like match.com. if people are paying money to meet someone, i think the tendancy is to take it more seriously. I have been on this site for at least 3 years and never met anyone on here. yet match.com ive met quite a few people. | |
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