| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 12:01:26 PM | You make a good point, Jamison.
I haven't taken the plunge yet because I feel less like I'm whoring myself out if I don't pay for the priviledge. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 12:09:34 PM | | from my experience,most of the fellows on here have nothing to offer a partner....they can't even take care of themselves...so,they fantasize and talk with us and inflate their piddly egos,knowing full well they can't do anything about it....or have no intention....most want me to come to them,wherever they live,as if,.....on my tab of course....I'm not exactly sure where they get the moxie,other than what's between their legs...it sure isn't their looks or their bankbook... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 12:10:23 PM | | Im with 1Fish2Fish ... ive not had any trouble messaging, making friends, going out on meets/dates for coffee, movies or dinner etc, or more recently finding someone with whom i want to focus on and see if we can build something more substantial ... not sure what the issue is for you is Dawn ---------- hang in there, enjoy the conversations, weed out the losers, keep your eyes open for wolves .. and keep plodding along. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 1:14:10 PM | Anyone else having this problem??
Ohh I agree 100%. I feel some are just here for validation of whatever they are missing in their lives, married and such. I just closed and opened up a new profile alltogether cause I had 100 guys had me on their fav list, but yet I sit home every weekend only to see them pop up on Sunday night asking how my weekend was. The guys just want to do whatever they want to do, and have a girl to bang on the side when THEY want it, that is why they are on here. The fish others threw back. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:01:18 PM | But surely you just want to meet the right people ?
Just dating anyone does not work, its a waste of time for both parties.
From my years of experience on here the right ones are few and far between ! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:31:51 PM | I totally agree with you - all they want is to get on the webcam or want your phone number right away and then nothing happens. I thought I was the only one feeling this way. Then you finally find someone to meet with you and you have a great time get along well plan to see each other again and time passes and then you get the "Dear Jane" letter - "it is not you - you are great person I just don't know what I want right now" Then don't be on a dating site.
I am beginning to wonder where else there is to go to meet guys that really want to go out..... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/13/2008 4:55:42 PM | | I do agree with hellofagal, but i must say that most of the ladies on this site, and a few others, are very critical of all men, not just of those who just want sex. Most of you women are looking for the perfect man, sorry but none of us are perfect. Not even you. I am not looking for the perfect woman, i'm looking for the woman that is perfect FOR me. A woman who will want to get too know who i am, not what i look like or what i can do for them. If people would take the time and actually try to know one another, they might find who they are looking for. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 11:28:42 AM | 95% of the women here claiming to want a serious date/long term are really here just to come home open their email send back a real email addy or cell number just to get a couple communicatios going to know you WOULD take them out, but have no itention of dating and the returned emails/phone convos just make them feel good about theirself...
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 12:41:23 PM | All my life I've had to deal with "flaky" people, sometimes close friends, sometimes strangers, who 'talk the talk' , but can't 'walk the walk'. 'Tis the same here as elsewhere in life; people aren't who/ what they say they are, and rarely carry through with doing what they say or what seems rational.
Personally at this point in life, and within this idiom, they do me a favor. They weed themselves out. I really have no interest in getting to know people like that even as friends, let alone date. Better to know up front. There ARE people here who are sincere, It's just that the percentage is lower than one might think.
So, yes, be sad there are so many behaving counter-intuitively to the mission statement in their profiles, but be glad you're not stuck with them every day. :) | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 12:43:21 PM | | !st thing you should do is post a picture...might help. No offence , but physical attraction is important...why spend time chatting with someone if they are afraid allow you to see her appearance. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 12:53:24 PM | | hi.i have had the same problem.either get talking 2 men and they disappear into thin air never 2 b heard of again,or arrange 2 meet then cancel.also met 2 who said they really liked and got on with me but cancelled seeing me 4 a 2nd time.do feel like giving up.oh and one that was married and kept arranging 2 meet then cancelling then i got a text from the wife! do wonder if there are any genuine men on here.good luck | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 2:38:22 PM | | we are all window shopping,let's face it....and sometimes,when it comes down to the crunch and somebody really likes us,or us them,we disappear because it's all too much hassle....far easier to just date or hang out,even tho guys say that they want long term.....yes, but that's probably another long term away when they've exhausted all interesting avenues....it goes the same for women,particularly when we've had a few relationships...there are various factors why people act interested and then you never see them again....mostly to do with their motivation,hang ups,realistic goals or not,confidence or lack of it,situation in life etc...I figure,if someone is really interested they'll come around....sometimes things have to grow and settle,sometimes we just like people and that's ok too....the flash in the pan isn't always the answer to people who have been thru several relationships....most look for trust,security,honesty,same old,same old,and many on here just can't cut it...they might like to,but it is just easier to split....and some guys still only value a sexual relationship and use it as their guide to the future,and they often change their mind after awhile,realizing that it doesn't always hold things together...or even make things interesting....and some just don't have enough brains to make anything interesting...cos they are boring people...surely we realize that nothing is perfect....with out flaws...after all we are human....so rather than have/be with someone who is less than perfect,like us,(lol),that was ajoke but some guys really seem to believe they are,they think they are going to win the lottery ticket of love somewhere later....later.... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:13:41 PM | | i have learned on this site that there are just alot of bored people who are on here to pass the time.some like to see how many favorites they can get.i have had them add me to favorites and never even talk | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 3:21:55 PM | I've actually had better luck, or whatever you call it, on here than I have on the paid sites. Yes, there are some people on here that don't take it all that seriously, but you will have that on any site. As for myself, in the past four weeks, I've had two "meetings" and one "date". The meetings involved just that... meeting.
#1 - We met briefly, chatted, said that we'd get together, then both decided afterwards that we weren't really attracted to each other and that there was really no point in getting together. #2 - We met for drinks and dinner, hung out and afterwards both decided that there was really no attraction... but we still talk and I like to think that I made a new friend. #3 - He drove an hour to meet me (his decision) at one of my favorite bars - we ended up drinking, listening to music, and shooting pool with a couple that I know. We had a great time, I thought that we clicked... but apparently he didn't. At first I was bummed that I haven't heard from him... but I figure that I had a good time regardless.. and tell myself that he lives too far away anyway! I have another "meeting" tonight... going into it with no expectations and an open mind.
So.... I have found that to have success on here, you have to really put yourself out there and go out as much as possible to meet new people. You may not find Mr. or Miss Right, but it can be a fun ride... it's all about what you make of it. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 5:21:27 PM | I think tho,that you either have to move some where else where there are more people,or meet people in your area...I don't really think that a long distance relationship really works,other than friends,and that's great,until of course,they get hitched...but,who knows,maybe they would still correspond...I think also that there are more people on here who are like me,lonely for some company and looking for someone who cares even,,,,but we all know,that it's our own backyard where it makes more sense.....some men on here tho,have exhausted a few backyards by the look of their Facebooks.....I'm not totally sure of just what I want yet....but,to be fair,I know what just isn't possible at all.....just wouldn't work....and we all have experienced rejection right?..even if we knew exactly why we were being rejected .so,really,what's another one????....
There are some nice ladies on here too...I enjoy reading their posts....hey,maybe they might be interested....there are many variables as to what our future holds....we have to go by gut feelings,and we have to get out and meet people...I totally agree...and I must say that I have really enjoyed meeting people on here....and what is really nice was,that we all understood each other ,I think,and we all have idiosyncracies.... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 5:34:25 PM |
Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
POF is like a lake turned into a radioactive waste dump
Amusing to throw rocks in... wouldn't swim in it though.
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 5:39:55 PM | Agreed!
Meeting sooner rather than later is about the best way to go in my opinion... What's the point in spending lots of time emailing/texting only come to find out that there is no connection once you meet. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 6:11:06 PM | yes,if someone lives close to you....but what if you want to remain friends?...it's my friends who really get to know me best,not those who are just checking out the goods.
I don't think that there is anything wrong with emailing...the ones who stay with you are the only interesting ones anyway....dont'cha think?....but,I'm in a different age bracket too... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 6:46:00 PM | | my experience..no. which makes no sense to me. why come on a dating site when you don't want to meet people? texting, writing e-mails, phone calls...lasts only so long. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 6:51:52 PM | Amen to that!!! I am an attractive professional intelligent lady with a great sense of humour...have been told am very sexy..but can not figure out why...despite GREAT chats..it is so hard for guys to actually agree to meet. I have actually been stood up twice in one month. Rest assured, I did not take it personally, absolutely THEIR loss. Is it fear, is it ambivilance, is it just the fact that this is a very big pool of opportunity, and they are looking for the next best "catch".
Hey guys, be brave, this is at the very least a chance to meet great people, and learn some things about life along the way; and guys, unless you want to have a virtual face to face chat....don't suggest the cam...a lot of us are past being offended and just laugh at it.... | |
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