| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 7:04:57 PM | you are a beautiful person and it is their loss!
my theory is if they say they want to meet and after 3 cancellations - they are out! if you respect yourself you don't deserve to put yourself through that drama, pain and sadness. you are worth so much more! why not hold onto your self worth for a guy who will truly treasure you!? | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:34:52 PM | | Had a great date... well, more of a meeting.. tonight. We IM'd a few times, spoke on the phone twice.. I texted him today to tell him where I'd be tonight, and he texted back to let me know that he wanted to meet... we had a good time... I think that we clicked. He said he'll call tomorrow..we'll see. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/14/2008 10:47:13 PM | HAhahahaha, I've been thinking about this site being bullshit, I sent a few EmAils that were well thought and put together only to watch the reader casually delete them. I would think to myself where there was a waste of 15 minutes of my life that I'll never get back. More so If they write an ESSAY FOR a freaking description. I don't despise them for doing so but why the hell are they on this site? Most of them don't even check out my profile Just go through and delete sometimes without reading the ****ing 3-5 paragraphs I wrote. Uggh I should just chain mail these mofo's lol. I don't know so far no luck with dating sites. Most people never want to meet, shy or timid, i guess i can expect that from a girl, I can't see why you would have problems with a guy.
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/15/2008 10:31:01 AM | ^I do agree with some of what you're saying, I mean earlier in the week I sent out some emails to some females and I'd like to think they were well thought-out and were somewhat lengthy and I just ended up with a "Unread Deleted" message.
So, I try to remain undaunted as I'm sure I'll find that special someone sooner or later (preferably sooner:) | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/15/2008 11:12:19 AM | | Some people will talk to you for a few weeks or even a few months. But whenever you try to make plans with them, they are never available. It could be because of several possible reasons. Sometimes they aren't serious about meeting someone. Sometimes you are their "backup option". Sometimes they are afraid of meeting someone from the internet or are afraid of getting into a relationship because of past experiences. Sometimes they are married or have a boy/girlfriend. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 9:09:53 AM | I ALWAYS RESPOND BACK TO EVERYONE
even if the guy isn't my type... I personally breather here....Sorry your not my type....Then be ignored/deleted....Honestie is way better then being ignored or deleted or unread and deleted
is the worst...But such as life....You win some you lose some....
It's just nice to get responded back to is all....No matter what you think of the person...
Have you people ever gone to a Plenty Of Fish gathering? Maybe you should host one...
Maybe that's better then profile/email's....Face to face is always better as well.... | |
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Posted: 3/17/2008 10:58:37 AM | I just started getting to know people on POF...I think it is so fun. But when it comes to meeting people in person...pay attention to what they talk about whether it is through chatting or on the phone. I definetly have an open way of thinking everytime someone contacts me...but its very important to be realistic about your attraction. I take my time and then meet who I feel has been honest and open. I have met others off of one singles sight and they where great guys. Haven't gotten to meet anyone off of here...yet. But I take this fun experience one day at a time...Good Luck to you Dawn..be patient. | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/18/2008 2:58:46 PM | Meeting sooner rather than later is about the best way to go in my opinion... What's the point in spending lots of time emailing/texting only come to find out that there is no connection once you meet.
nobody remembers the BEAUTY AND THE BEAST series with linda hamilton and ron pearlman? i like talking first,seeing if u can have a conversation without the interferance of 'looks' and chemistry of physicality being an issue...after u have chatted,emailed,texted,talked for a while and loving every minute of it,it doesnt matter what u look like,or shouldnt,because THEN U HAVE GOTTEN TO KNOW THE INNTER person...well, that's my deer caught in the headlights,rose colored glasses,never to humble opinion anyway....     | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/18/2008 4:35:28 PM | I've realized that most men don't follow though. They have a hard time finishing what they start but I don't want someone like that anyways....It takes patience and a lot of fishing......... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/19/2008 5:20:27 AM | | I appreciate your situation, been there a few times myself. It's like the girl wants all this attention from ya, wants you to call her and all this, things seem to be starting out great, then if you tell her you're not ready to commit to a relationship on the first night before you've met her, or after you first meet her, the enthusiasm goes down the toilet and you have to struggle to get her to talk/text you even as friends again. It's like some women want to jump right into a relationship, and others are afraid you want to. Is there no simple woman out there that DOES want a healthy relationship, but doesn't want to jump over the edge into one? Why does it have to be so complicated? | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 5:23:17 AM | | For the record, I am NOT on here to waste my life away, I would meet anyone who wanted to providing they were within a 20 minute drive. Even if they just became friends. I've never stood a date up, and never intend to. Not sure why some guys treat you as second best, blows my mind. | |
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Posted: 3/19/2008 6:39:31 AM | Well I think a lot of the time, we play this "back and forth" b.s. to the point that when you do actually "meet," there is just nothing new left to experience, and we have all this "built-in drama" and expectations about this seemingly "wonderful" person we've been emailing/texting/conversing with.
I haven't been on here all that long and for the past 10 days or so, I've been emailing with someone back and forth and found out he lives a lot closer than I thought. I emailed him and said, "Hey, if you're in the area this weekend, give me a ring and we can get together or something..." and gave him my phone number. Well, he emailed me back so quickly it was SMOKIN' when it got to my "in" box! He said he was on his way out to his car right that minute to drive up (he phoned me practically from his car) and that was that. This is a guy that says he never does ANYTHING spontaneous! We met and had a great time...he's one of the sweetest guys I've ever met, and yeah, we're seeing each other again this weekend.
On the other hand, I met this guy through craigslist that was just wonderful. We emailed back and forth for months (I was uncomfortable meeting someone from craigslist! LOL!) and we did finally meet and he was handsome and nice. After a couple of real dates, though, it just wasn't "there" you know? So we parted friends (kind of). We found we really didn't have a lot to say to each other because we'd SAID it all already. He still emails me on occasion to say that he misses my emails...what can I say? I give good "E"!
So, I guess what I'm trying to say is that while I think handing out your phone number at the drop of a hat isn't really the way to go, this endless "email" crap just makes everything so unneccesarily stressful--living up to your "internet" persona. If someone truly wants to meet you and they've been honest with you, a week or two should be enough of the emailing hooey.
Just MHO.
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Posted: 3/21/2008 8:07:14 AM | Funny that this was brought up (or bumped back up)
VERY recently, I had been going back and forth with this woman, I think she stopped responding to one of my emails or something, and I emailed her, "So, you still interested in getting to know each other?"
And she goes, "You sure may"
Then I aske dher soem questions about herself, she answerst hem fully....." then I asked about getting together....she ignored that email
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/21/2008 8:53:14 AM | poster 193 dont waste ya time she was prolly a preop transsexual looking for some stray befor she went male lol honestly dont waste ur time if she didnt have the backbone to respond to the gettin together thing she aint worth ur time .
yall have a nice day
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 3/21/2008 11:44:58 AM | I've had the same problem, we chat for a "while" make plans to meet & he either a doens't show or b doesn't commit to the plans.
I figure it's his loss, he asks to meet I agree & that's the end I never hear form him again...
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 5/26/2008 8:35:52 PM | Yes, it would seem all very much a game. My X wife tells me about all the seperated, divorced, or other painfully loanly women she meets in her line of work and yet I would wonder what many are doing on here. As I agree with what you say; although I have only just started to give this a try?
I guess this medium is an unfortunate reality of our busy life styles to day, as I never had a problem with meeting and dating lovely women in the past; but now a days, life does seem to get in the way of these encounters, and so here we are.
Cheers all! | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 5/27/2008 9:15:40 PM | some people get very into this online "lifestyle" and don't know how to get back to relating to a real person.
I have dealt with this plenty. The person at the other end seems to say the same thing all the time: They like talking to a lot of people. Serial talkers if you will.
The problem comes down to the serial talkers don't understand that they are wasting other people's time...
They think they are interesting to talk to... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 5/27/2008 10:17:48 PM | Well yes they want to meet ... I've been on about 5 dates so far from POF and there would have been others but I disconnected interest for various reasons. I can tell you from experience however THAT YES men do want to meet you on these sites but it can take some time. I never work with just one dating site ... its too narrow an approach. Try adding some others as well.. and your dating prospects should soar.
As for here -- I havent met as many men from here as I have from match.com -- which is likely a random personal experience but who knows.... | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 6/2/2008 12:41:51 AM | I don't know about others, but I've met many people. However, I've noted that about 80% aren't really interested in meeting, for whatever reason they choose, and about 10% have a different timeframe for meeting. Many just want to meet on day 1, which might be comfortable for them, but very uncomfortable for me. Personally, I like to get to know someone better on here, before I meet them. Of course, if they're too pushy, well...they won't be meeting me, hehe. ;)
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:12:42 AM | I did a search on this subject, and I felt this one was pretty close to what I was looking for and replying to.
I was browsing my area, and I came up with this profile of a very attractive woman, a couple of her taking shots in her bikini in her bathroom in front of a bathroom mirror with a camera phone. (Hm, not hot a picture of her at a beach or out by the pool....more natural that way.)
And she has like full paragraph in her intro of her profile that she's ONLY here for friends of a PLATONIC nature and ONLY the forums (yet she has bikini shots) and she has a plethora of men singing praises about her in the testimonials. Kind of pointless to post testimonials of someone if she's not wanting to meet you.
Now I'd buy it if she has a boyfriend, but she makes no mention of one in her profile....if she did she would she would have added that to her profile...."Sorry, guys I'm taken, and only here for the forums! I found my fish!"
Apparently she's been on this site for a few years, made alot of friends (not that there's anything wrong with that.)
So, this supports the theory of her being on here just to have her ego fed.
Sure , she admits to being here ONLY for friendship of a "Platonic" variety, but what man who is ogling her pictures is on a dating site for that, right? Notice on top it says, "Free Dating Site" | |
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| Doesn't anyone REALLY want to meet?
Posted: 6/14/2008 4:30:56 AM | | I've met quite a few men from this site. Looking back, I wish I took more time to get to know them first before arranging to meet them. Why? I think it wastes both people's time and energy (and money) to meet up and just have absolutel nothing to talk about. I'm also a bit weary of playing Barbara Walters and interviewing someone in order to get to know them while they make little or no effort to do the same. | |
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