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Posted: 7/20/2007 5:31:00 PM | I'm sort of in that same boat. I got scared there for a minute and decided...it might not be love baby...but it ain't bad! Hope you continue to enjoy yourself, I know I sure am! | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 2:01:15 PM | | Did I understand you to say you've been seeing this guy WEEKS , and still out in public?? That makes me uncomfortable - WHY? Public is fine for the first date. But why is an ongoing relationship still out in public? And why this eternal wait to mate? And why even mention the idea of risking your home. At this age, we - male or female - don'tRISK the home because most of us have to use it for old age concerns or inheritance. And a man from a 30 year marriage might well be da bomb for his long term commitment, but that 30 years may also be years of bad habits. So time married doesn't seem to me to be a reasonable criteria. I prefer a middleaged man who's been married and who's had kids because it means he's in the mainstream. But other than that I don't see longevity as necessarily a good thing. In fact - it comes with certain longstanding difficulties. | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 2:15:11 PM | Ohhh Just reading the OP's post made me smile
I could feel the glow just reading her typing, i bet she was beaming while typing that. Ok just go with the flow....the first 3 months they say are the most blissful period, but you can keep that bliss. It doesn't have to go away. This is the you that is happy you found a match for your heart....You are in love chica and it feels sooo good you are giddy and excited. He will notice that bliss and it will make him smile too. Cause I am willing to bet if he is spending that much time with you he is feeling the same way too (some men do feel that way).....Good luck | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 8:23:16 AM | Try looking at it this way...
Do you wish to live or exist?
There is a difference if you truly examine what the two different words mean.
When you live, you give yourself the opportunity to discover all the many wonders of the world as we were created/evolved to do, when you simply exist, the mindset is to just survive each day and hope for another. Which one sounds more fun? Hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 1:03:00 PM | You`re love sick and your hormones and chemical balnces are all messed up. So your biochemical physiolgy
is actually messed up by the emotional stimulus. If you are more interested in hearing how this works, go on to theNational Geographic web site and you can watch a short video on love and how the emotion effects the body. Just type in love on the video search and it will bring you to it. So you aren`t crazy ( well maybe a little) but you just have to level out which can take anywhere from 6 months to a few years. Ain`t being a human great? Just try to balance the head and heart (which can be tough) Good luck! | |
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Posted: 10/1/2007 1:47:51 PM |  UMMM..seems that sometimes Forumites forget to pay attention to OP's profiles
and posting dates!!! 
HEH! That first posting was THREE months ago...and from looks of her current profile, still the Ever Ready Wabbits!
She should pop in and tell us all how it is going...and whether, or not, they are in cruise-control mode now. Imagine they are...... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 1:25:42 PM | K, I'm checking in to say that this stuff CAN work! It's now been over 4 months of dating and it gets better every day, we both thank the internet and other forces for bringing us together. We live an hour apart, it CAN work if you want it too.
My knight in shining armour turned out to be at lot more than I expected, instead of whisking me away on his horse, it was a yacht and we're looking to sail away for a lifetime.
Consider me blessed, good luck to you all! | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 8:14:52 PM |  I KNEW it! You GO Flower! You got your Hummingbird!
Good luck!
Hey...why don't you drop in on the ongoing (yawn) thread "illusion of online dating" and tell those poor jaded folks that yeah...just like real life...another medium that works if one allows it and is open!
Stay safe and keep in touch! | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 9:27:19 PM | | It sounds like you've been cautious enough, and gotten to really know each other. Just relax and enjoy it. You don't want to miss out on something really special. Those kind of things don't come along that often. Best wishes... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:02:01 PM | | I think you are correct in questioning having exaggerated feelings like this so soon. You sense these feelings are out of control and not reasonable. The euphoria of finding someone who is in need as much as yourself and who needs you can be dangerous. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2007 10:06:27 PM | Enjoy every moment...youve got most of us jealous.Even your words beams..Good Luck.Nothing like love...I sure miss it...
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Posted: 10/21/2007 6:51:13 PM | | Well .. All Right!!! I'm reading this thread smiling and remembering my time in a place like that .. rock on girl !! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 7:36:04 PM | Hi Flowergrower,
Sounds like you got bit by a love bug. So did he. I had a similar incident. The love of my life had just come out of a 30 year marriage. We had a year of the most contented
and happy time of my life, until the hormones started leveling out and reality kicked in.
The loss of that relationship almost did me in. Remember, that he is coming out of alot of emotional upheaval, probably more than you , so it is important that you keep your head on straight. Seeing that you said that you are a bit of an eccentric (as am I ) I am giving you a link to read from the National Geographic website. It explains how when you fall in love, the hormone levels and brain responses change violently. No, You`re not crazy, just human and in love. Read the articles about the research on love and brain chemistry and check out the video. You may feel a little better about feeling freaked out. It happens to everyone at some time in their life. Wishing you the best!
Enjoy the read!
http://www7.nationalgeographic.com/ngm/0602/feature2/index.html | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 8:23:58 PM | Congratulations OP,
I think that Everything that your Experiencing is Perfectly Normal!!!
I am Very Happy For You!!!! I Will Continue to Wish You The Very Best!!!
There is a lot to be said about a 30 year marriage, besides the word Rebound.
In Order to have that Long of Marriage it Takes Work and Commitment!!
It is Something that has to Be Nourished!! Which Say's A Lot About this Man.
I Came from a 31 year Marriage and 3 Year's of Dating and Engagement
before that!!! I Now Question will I Ever find someone that is in for the long
Haul? After Being With Someone That Committed. Sounds Like You Have Found
Him!!!! God Bless You Both!!!! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 8:32:25 PM | Over analyzing this will hinder it.
People wait their entire lives to feel the feeling which you are currently in.
Everyone wants to feel the great emotional bond which is obvious the two of you have.
He was out of a 30 year wedding? And the point being....
Everything happens for a reason, maybe you were the one he was destined to be with and vice versa. (Not suggesting anything here, just stating that you two met for a reason)
Don't think too much or else you will start to nit pick things to try to comprehend them.
Some things just can't be explained...thats what makes them special!
Just let nature take its course. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 8:40:37 PM | | i aggree with fishbill be careful and protect yourself for awhile. it is wonderful for you yes but give it time as far as his concerns were. get to know him better. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 8:45:54 PM | | Just enjoy the moment...its such a wonderful feeling...I too am at this place in my life...and loving every minute of it....relax...enjoy...for who knows what tomorrow may bring.. wishing you much happiness:..... | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:01:56 PM | Hey, he fell in love with all of you! He may feel a bit out of control too. Stop putting on the breaks! be the best you can be, do things that you want to do, you are not being silly, it is called... happy!!
Have fun! | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:12:34 PM | | I think soul defies rationality and the rational mind fights with that and it gets confusing. I think you should enjoy the moments of companionship and treat it as a gift.It sounds like love to me....but I understand not wanting to day it out loud to yourself! Best Wishes! | |
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Posted: 12/13/2007 4:37:19 PM | HOW EXCITING ... a happy ending - well so long as you like boats!! YACHTS!! You go girl!! I'd say - cut your POF ropes and set sail.
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Posted: 12/14/2007 8:23:43 PM | I know where you're coming from. There's this one certain woman who makes me feel like I'm a teenager again, all flustered & shifty-eyed. She doesn't exactly find it attractive.
One solution I tried was to get sh*tfaced. But then I got all lewd, which for some reason she doesn't find attractive either.
So now I avoid her and date Palm-ela while I look for other opportunities. Just like a teenager, ha. | |
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Posted: 12/14/2007 8:47:52 PM | | You don't need any advise darlin! I wish I was in your shoes..... (but with my own guy, LOL) | |
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Posted: 12/15/2007 9:00:03 AM | Embrace the budding romance completely
Realize it may not last
Love as if it will
I'm happy to read a good story finally :) | |
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