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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 8/28/2008 9:41:27 AM | | I am open to dating all races, and I am pretty observant. you do tend to get looked at a little differently but unfortunately if you can't handle it then the relationship won't last anyways. I've been running to (and away from) more black men that date white women but wouldn't call a white man a friend. im just like dude wtf? my son is white. so there are several different forms of ignorance when it comes to interracial relationships. best thing to do is take pride in setting the example. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 8/30/2008 8:08:37 PM | I'm not against Interracial relationships.
My profile is all about it.
Heck it' s in my artwork. I'm even making more of it.
I have a collection of IR movies. Yet I live in one of
the worst cities for fostering interracial relationships
between black women and white men.
So no way am I what the original poster is describing. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 10/5/2008 3:23:05 PM | chocolatebrowne:
Whats stopping you from starting a "black-focused" singles events or a truly ALL-inclusive" one. As I have said before, I dont believe black women are as against interracial relationship as portrayed. If anything they are at a loss as to why most of the well-to-do black men prefer women of other races. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 2/1/2009 8:17:50 AM | Lots (not all) of women would like their men to date them only, not women from other cultures, religions, races.
Jewish women, have names for non-Jewish women that date their men, so do Jamaican woman, and the list goes on, that’s how they feel, so be it, you cannot change that, nor should you want to.
As for those that chat about the media and it little impact on this topic, get real!!!!!!!!!If the media did not have the power, why are so many pretty women, on a diet?????
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 3/6/2009 2:53:00 PM | Don't worry why people are looking. There are always going to be those rude, racial and ignorant individuals out there, no matter where you go. If you concentrate on those type of people too often, it might over stress you and effect your relationship(s).
But also, people could be looking because they could be happy to see an interracial couple. You could be giving somebody hope that it's not hard or uncommon to date outside your race.
People could also be looking because you and your date look good together.
There could be any number of reasons why the looks. But don't stress over it. Worry when someone is outright offenceive to your face by commenting rudely about your date.
I've lived in Toronto all my life, my mother is married to a white man; my sisters and I mostly date white men, so I can relate. But we don't care about what anybody thinks and neither should you. It's your business, and yours alone who your dating or like.
But go for it! Date whom ever you like! | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 3/6/2009 3:21:06 PM | Once again, peacethx gives out a piece of wisdom to the world that it could have lived without.
Racism exists in Toronto and in Canada. We are fooling ourselves if we think it isn't. Tolerance, as someone said earlier, is the ability to look away from something you don't like without acting on your TRUE impulse. Just ask a group of Italian, Greek, Portuguese, Armenian, Turkish, Lebanese, Russian, Irish, Scottish, English, Dutch, Jamaican, Trini, East Indian etc etc etc what they think of Asian drivers ... go ahead ... ask. You'll get the same response from 95% of them.
As for interracial relationships, things are changing but slowly. An italian woman who brings a black man home, IF she brings a black man home, will be chastized and ridiculed. Not all, but many will. Same with a Greek man who brings a black woman home. Tell me that is going to be accepted with open arms by the majority of greek parents? As generations grow here in Canada racial acceptance and interacial acceptance will be more prevailant. However currently, it isn't just black women against interracial relationships its people in general.
There are many who don't care and will date someone regardless of the color of their skin or religion that they practice but I would bet that there are many, MANY more who would not, who have personal predjudices, and who if push came to shove, wouldn't have an interracial relationship. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 3/9/2009 5:30:43 PM | Toronto is a covertly racist city
No it isnt. And Dante, your last words of wisdom were that you wanted to start a Straight Pride parade. That was a real gem of a contribution.
Now that I have dealth with you dissin me, which is a TOS violation by the way, please;
We dont have to love a culture to love the people in it. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 3/9/2009 7:19:44 PM | | Perhaps because each and every one of us is different in many, many ways? Skin colour for sure! More importantly, we're all much more different on the inside. Our thoughts, learned (and otherwise) stereotypes, beliefs, views, misunderstandings and lack of knowledge sadly, can lead to perceived racism. No doubt, racism does and will continue to exist. A learned understanding of, respect for and tolerance of different peoples reactions, interpretations and cultural would serve us well. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 3/12/2009 2:44:10 PM | ^
Thats my point. But to say Toronto is racist is really being over sensitive. You want racism? Walk around as a white guy in the wrong part of Detroit, LA or San Francisco at night. The only racism I have ever experienced here in North America was at the hands of black gangs. I havent seen any white gangs in Toronto hunting down and beating up black kids. But I sure have been hunted down and threatened by black gangs. Racism hurts, I have first hand experience. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 3/17/2009 8:52:41 AM | Racism exists in Canada....True...but to a limited extent, sadly social prejudices are much more prevailant here.
I would will and have dated women from other ethnicities/religions/socioeconomic backgrounds, we are all the same!
As for past statements of Parents not wanting their children to date other races (using Italian and Greeks as an example) This is less about prejudices and more about culture and the preservation of said culture. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/4/2009 5:25:01 AM | OP:
I have 3 much better questions:
1: When did you become a telepath?
How do you know that every black girl who gives you a look is thinking that.
Sounds like vanity to me. She may be thinking "Sheesh, that white girl picked the ugliest brother she could find." It goes both way bro.
And you don't seem to have a display pic so...
2: Aren't you guys in Canada?
Wow, cause I thought the whole nasty angry black girl "you took our men" mentality would be limited to this place, but then again, black American culture is a direct influence to various others.
Take Japan for example: It is so "in" to have an American, stylish, hip black male, that some women there obtain Africans, right off the boat, and take care of them. And By that I mean, they spend lots of money taking care of them, dressing them in FUBU, and paying for hip hop dance lessons.
This sounds silly but I am being completley serious.
3. Why the fukc do you even care?
Interracial dating will cease to be an issue everywhere the minute people stop acknowledging it as a problem. If the ignorant women don't have anyone to vent/whine to about us black men who have dated white women, they will either STOP or begin talking to themselves.
Both end results are acceptable. Everyone likes silence, and would you listen to criticism from a nutter who talks to them self?
I personally like my women like I like my coffee.
Puerto rican.
To be quite honest....if you tend to look at the women we black males prefer....
We tend to prefer Yummy Curvy thick women.
And seeing as white women have finally evolved to the point of EATING instead of attempting to be scrawny scraps of tanned leathers, it's only natural for transition to take place.
WHITE PEOPLE OUTNUMBER US.
More options.......
A person who would even have an opinion on who a Black Male they do not even know is dating, has personal issue far deeper than just having a problem with white girls.
Though to be quite honest, With African in ruin, and interracial dating being so trendy, I have a sneaking suspicion that Globally, were are being breeded out, the same way the English attempted to do the Scottish.
As an adult, I've mostly dated black women, thought it's hard to find a girl who loves to listen to Nas, and Wutang, as well as Bjork, and The cure, or The smashing pumpkins and Lauryn Hill.
I don't like to be placed in any form of box.
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I find this very humorous as most black women have gotten over it here, if there is a problem in Canada....well.
HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA!! | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/18/2009 6:39:45 AM | | I personally think interracial dating is unnecessary and disrespectful to one's own race. There is enough men and women on ones own ethnicity that racial mixing isn't necessary. I have more respect for Asian women though who date white men than a white woman who dates a black man. I would have no interest in a black female anyways as there is nothing attractive about them and I can't stand how they talk, act and move their head back and forth sideways like a chicken when they talk, is that supposed to be intimidating or something? If white women became extinct for some reason I would go for a race who is on the same intellectual level as Caucasians and that would be Asians. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:38:10 AM | Apainlessend;
Right on brother.
I would not exist if it weren't for interracial relationships, so thank God my White father found my Black mother, and thus "me" came forth. And I'm with you on diversity too, I like R&B, Raggae, Rock n'Roll, and some Classical too. So, yes not easy to find a sista' on that level, but, hard to find a cracker girl on that level too. And yes, Canada does have a lot of maturity to undergo, lot's of talk about melting pots of people, but no integration so what does that mean in reality? Nothing. No black leaders here, no black CEO, no black mayors, no black, Prime Ministers or Premiers. Catch my drift? So, yes, just a lot of 1st. generation Canadians that don't even know black people existed in Canada for several hundred years. And many ignorant, generational Canadians that don't know shit about real Canadian history.
So, please folks, stop asking me where I came from, and when I say I'm Canadian, please don't respond by saying, no, but you know what I mean, where did you originally come from, because the answer doesn't change. I'm Canadian, so was my parents, and their parents, and their parents, etc....
As far as I'm concerned women are women, and as far as I know physically, theres not much of difference between a Black or White girl, especially nowadays, dem'all a bubble'still. Hahahahaha.....
au103;
Take a look at my profile, the product of interracial love. Don't be a hater. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 12:11:27 PM |
Racism exists in Toronto and in Canada. We are fooling ourselves if we think it isn't. Tolerance, as someone said earlier, is the ability to look away from something you don't like without acting on your TRUE impulse.
I couldn't have said it better myself. Not sure if this post or another, on similar topic. But, agreed, tolerance towards others is in fact a form of racism or predjudice.
As I've posted and said time and time again, show me a black leader in Canada. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying there aren't any I'm just saying, it's very sparse to see a Black person in a "true" leadership role. I've been an IT professional for many years, I work on a contractual basis, I've been to many corporations, so have been interviewed hundreds of times, never once have I been interviewed by a black person, and never have I reported to a black person. Or have met a black person in a position of power to do something for me, from a business perspective.
Seems strange to me that a city like Toronto, where blacks have been living for numerous years, even before many Europeans, Asians, etc... (if I my remind ya'll), claiming not to be a recist city, and most tolerant of all Canadian cities wouldn't have at least one black mayor someplace. If there is please, let me know who that is. Also, why are blacks in Toronto doing so poorly, even if you compare the most influential blacks to whites or other equal counterparts. ie - Lawyers for example. Does anyone know of any popular (top) Black lawyers in Toronto? I don't.
Does this mean, Toronto is not racist but, perhaps maybe a bit predjudice? Good question I'm sure.
So, don't get me wrong, this is not simply a Black / White thing. And I am both white / black myself so don't get me wrong, all of us have soem work to do when it comes to acceptance and equality for all nationalities, and skin colours. A large part of resolving a problem is to realize there is a problem and put forth solutions to fix them. If all ya'll Torontonians want to continue pretending there isn't a social problem here, nothing will ever get better. And isn't that the whole point, bettering the Country for the good of mankind (all of mankind).
Americains have made great strides in terms of race relations, perhaps us Canadians should take some lessons, and recognize we need to do some real work in this area. Perhaps, then if two people of differing colours want to be together, they won't be judged by their families and friends.
Now if any of ya'll don't believe me and want to test my theory, I suggest you go to an all (x) club someplace and try to mess with one of the ladies there, and see what happens to your ass if you're not one of them. Try it out and let me know. Try someplace in Woodbridge, for example. Good luck with that. I do it all the time, and even on POF, I'm sure many folks see me, and are interested, but as soon as they see my less than all white boy features, they don't even have the decency to reply. I've also seen posts from white women that say they only date "black" dudes. So, what's up with that? Isn't that racism? Or how about the women that approach me and ask me what is my background, and when I tell them I'm mixed, the next question is with what, and as soon as I say "black" and "white" they're gone as if they just saw a ghost.
No racism in Canada, no slavery in Canada, and all that shit, don't kid yourself. If you're really interested to know the truth go seek it out yourself there are many historical texts on the topic, and stop believing your own bullshit hype, eh. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 12:25:49 PM |
Thats my point. But to say Toronto is racist is really being over sensitive. You want racism? Walk around as a white guy in the wrong part of Detroit, LA or San Francisco at night. The only racism I have ever experienced here in North America was at the hands of black gangs. I havent seen any white gangs in Toronto hunting down and beating up black kids. But I sure have been hunted down and threatened by black gangs. Racism hurts, I have first hand experience.
You just proved the point. You're a white dude, speaking for blacks. How would you know what's it like to live with black skin? Are you saying racism doesn't exist in Toronto, because, you've only experienced Black on White racism? Don't be idiotic. The form of racism doesn't matter, and you just proved the point that racism does exist in Toronto and in fact Canada. Try walking around as a black guy in the wrong part of town anywhere you want to choose. I was raised for a time in Montreal, PQ, and I can tell you those White French boys don't like Black English boy very much in the east end. There is all kinds of racism dude, black on black is one of them for example, even South Asians (Indians) are racist if you ever noticed lightskinned indians get preferential treatment over their darker counterparts, white vs black, black vs white, greek vs itialian, blonde italian vs brunette italian, etc., etc., etc., etc., I can go on because I have also experience racism and not from one perspective either but from many because my family has always been interracial. So, as I said before, go to the bookstore and pick somthing up on the topic before you spread racist remarks on the forums. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 3:30:34 PM | I've always had a hard time with using the word "tolerant". People will say that Canadiens are very tolerant of other cultures and they say that with pride. I think we can be proud when we view people on an equal footing regardless of colour or culture and we stop just "tolerating" them.
As for interracial relations, why should it matter to anyone? If two people are into each other, good for them. Let them enjoy each other! | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 6:37:55 PM | i think it has more to do with the law of attraction, what you think about most is what you attract, if you think black woman are looking at you funny, that is ll you are going to see.
yes there are black woman who will give you a pissy look cause you are with a white man, but how do you separate the ones that are just jealous of your looks? or having a bad day, or angry cause they are alone, or want your man? you can't, you can only assume your thoughts. i use to see people eyeing me up all the time and i just knew they were thinking, what race are you.. when i stopped caring and got more self esteem. they stopped looking.. but did they really stop looking or did i stop ? did i start seeing other things in their eyes as i changed my views?. it is all relevant. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 9:52:26 PM | I have no experience with dating men other than ``white``.. not by choice, this is just how things have happened... except for one man who is Native. I`m relating to the man who got pulled over by the police when his wife was in the car, but never since. My ex-bf told me he got pulled over quite a bit which I found hard to believe; he wasn`t one to assume it was a racist thing, he was simply making a statement and thought it might be because he was Native or because he drove a crappy car! Well.. one night about 1 a.m., he was driving me home and we got pulled over. The officer asked him who I was, he stated his girlfriend and he`s taking me home (oh, yes, I`m ``white``, forgot to mention it and also looked about 10 years younger than he did)... the officer was not rude but when he asked for my bf`s license he stated it was in his coat in the backseat. He got out of the car, opened the back door and pulled out his work jacket... from the Fire Department. The officer looked at the license, confirmed my bf`s job and said goodnight. I found that very insulting... if he`d been a factory worker, what would have happened.. who knows.
Now, the reason I replied to this post. My daughter was watching that movie, with Julia Styles.. she played a young girl who wanted to be a ballet dancer. In the movie she befriends a black male classmate who teaches her to hip-hop (I think) and they start dating. Anyway, at some point, a black female classmate with a baby got angry at this girl for dating this black male. As this character put it, there are not enough decent black men to go around, with so many getting killed or going to jail, or running out on their children... sorry if I`m not getting this quite right, I only saw the movie once.... the point being, the white women are taking the ``decent`` black men. So.. not to say a movie is correct but maybe there is some truth in that assumption.. not necessarily reality, at least in Canada .. this was a US movie after all, about a US city.
So the point being.. this is a perception issue and of course it`s not right to assume things are only one way. I agree with the poster who says to love who you want.
I do have one observation... I have seen many black men, when dating white women, choose blondes. What`s up with that!! It makes it difficult for the rest of us! lol.. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/19/2009 11:51:27 PM |
the point being, the white women are taking the ``decent`` black men.
Yeah. And the white boys are taking all the decent, black women too. I'm just wondering who's getting all the really hot mixed woman. Can someone help with this one? | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 4/22/2009 11:23:45 AM | | OneLifeTwoLive, you have got to be the most hilarious "Yo G" I have ever heard, to say blacks were in Toronto before Europeans lol. My white European ancestors were the ones that founded this country and built it into a nation long before any blacks were even in Canada or knew what North America even was. I'm from Halifax and if blacks were anywhere in Canada it was here before anywhere in Ontario. However even in Nova Scotia it was only after whites built it up and the blacks came here to consume and exploit what we already created so spare us your erroneous nonsense. Go back to your job you no doubt got from an Affirmative Action quota. And by the way there G, blacks are way more racist against whites than whites are against blacks and crime stats on hate crimes prove that without a doubt. | |
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| Why aRe MORE Black Women Against Interracial RELATIONSHIPS?
Posted: 6/16/2009 5:01:19 PM | | I found this question quite interesting : moreso, I found the responses even more interesting. Then to top it all, it was amusing to take into consideration the responses of those who were not even "black women. " I would not be so audacious to speak for all black women but speaking for myself only and what I have experiened it is a "two way street situation". I being very independent and confident have contacted white men who do not respond my initial contact. I have had better responses when I've messaged other non-white male. Overall, the outcome is not a big deal to me. Although it would be nice to get to experience different types of relationships the reality is that we still live in world controlled by customs and traditions. In dealing with this reality, I'm impellled to stay in my"safety" zone until I'm confronted with a different reality. | |
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