| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:16:22 PM |
Yeah, I used 'Dating' because there is no choice that says 'No Fat Chicks'. Get it? The next step down is 'Activity Partner'...NO.
Actually you skipped Friends, Hang Out and Talk/Email. Although lately I've noticed some people seem to interpret "hang out" as "f*ck buddy", so I wouldn't suggest that one. But Friends, and most especially Talk/Email, is a good alternative for "here for the forums". It's what I chose and the bullsh*t has been greatly reduced since. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:20:27 PM |
I don't like fat women No one ever said you had to date fat women, but your reference to us in a derogatory manner is pretty low. If you ever have to work with woman that is overweight, do you get in her face and announce to her your feelings? Your announcement about women actually says more about you and your personality. Most people won't date an ugly personality. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:28:19 PM | | "I don't like fat women" is a preferance! A lot of men like fat women, have you ever heard the saying "The more cushion the better the pushin"? And I do work with fat women, but I keep it on a business level, as I don't dip my pen in company ink. I don't get in a woman's face to announce my feelings, because she has probably looked in a mirror in the previous few days or stepped on a scale and doesn't need a reminder. My God, is everybody so simple minded or what? I DON'T LIKE FAT WOMEN, leave it go at that for Christ's sakes! I don't insult your preferances....anybody else want to dog pile on me? | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:49:46 PM |
DON'T LIKE FAT WOMEN, leave it go at that for Christ's sakes! I don't insult your preferances....anybody else want to dog pile on me?
He is right everyone, it is his preference and that is ok!!! Everyone does have a right to their own"type"!! My "type" is generally tall guys with glasses and that's ok and honestly, speaking of preferneces, and this is just me, I would never date an ***hole! | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:53:55 PM | prescient wrote:
Well you do have a fat head.
Now, now, I prefer to say that he is a "full faced" guy.
SelenaNJ wrote:
Actually you skipped Friends, Hang Out and Talk/Email. Although lately I've noticed some people seem to interpret "hang out" as "f*ck buddy", so I wouldn't suggest that one. But Friends, and most especially Talk/Email, is a good alternative for "here for the forums". It's what I chose and the bullsh*t has been greatly reduced since.
If you don't check anything it will default to Talk/Email (amazingly, not "Dating" for all of those who consider POF to be just a dating site) which is probably not unreasonable if you are here only for the forums, but it would be nice if there was a choice for "Here Only for the Forums".
desert rat wrote:
My God, is everybody so simple minded or what? I DON'T LIKE FAT WOMEN, leave it go at that for Christ's sakes! I don't insult your preferances....anybody else want to dog pile on me?
No, not everybody is simple minded, they just appear to be more decent and less judgmental human beings. You dug your own hole and now you complain because it is too deep. You are entitled to your preference, yet you did not simply state it, but felt the need to spell it out as if people could not understand that you do not prefer overweight women. Apparently you believe that after "average" there is only fat. Did you really think that you could come onto a public forum and post a derogatory statement like you did and that you could just skate by without anybody calling you on it? I think at this point if POF had an ignore function that you would be talking mostly to yourself. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 6:55:16 PM | OK, so guys who don't like fat women are ***holes, right? And to think I had a higher opinion of Texas women...oh wait, I won't stoop so low as to make a generalization based on one biased woman. Any comebacks??
Fat is fat, no matter how much anyone wants me to sugar coat it or make it sound pretty. I suppose, with that mindset, you are going to vote for Hillary, too? | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:06:31 PM |
OK, so guys who don't like fat women are ***holes, right? And to think I had a higher opinion of Texas women...oh wait, I won't stoop so low as to make a generalization based on one biased woman. Any comebacks??
Boy you sure are sensitive, I was speaking in general of course about MY preferences! GEEEZ!! | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:10:21 PM | It's one thing to have the preference wher you don't date overweight women. That's fine, I have the same preference.
It's completely another to post something like this;
When I read 'A few extra pounds' I quickly close the posting and move on. There's nothing I desire less, except maybe root canal without anesthetic, than a fat woman. I would put a gun to my head before I would go through life with a woman that should be eating out of a feed sack!
There is nothing witty, informative or redemptive in any of those words. They are derogatory and contemptuous. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:21:22 PM | sassysue71 wrote:
I like you krimiariver!!!
Why, thank you.
Isn't it interesting how some people can dig themselves into a hole and then think the answer is to keep digging? Yep, keep digging, keep digging.
Preferences are preferences and are just fine when simply stated because I think we all can get it. If a woman prefers a tall man, I think I understand that one pretty well. There is no need for anybody to get nasty and derogatory about those who do not meet your preferences, putting them down.
But for preferences everywhere, here is one of my favorite quotes from JRR Tolkien:
"All that is gold does not glitter, not all who wander are lost". I try to keep that in mind myself and temper my own preferences with its wisdom and truth. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 7:52:47 PM |
OK, so guys who don't like fat women are ***holes, right? Again, no one said you had to date fat women. You might not be writing things the way you are thinking? It's your writing and how you are saying things that are coming off as @ssholish. So, it's either a case of where you consider fat women as second class citizens, OR it's a case of where you can't communicate effectively. We're not mind readers, ya know. What you write on a forum is taken at face value, since we can't tell by facial expression or body language how you mean things. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:02:49 PM | Desrt, what is your idea of a fat woman? So, do you say average is fat? how about athletic?
I like the A**hole comment, very fitting indeed, and agree witht the others, they never said you had to date a fat woman. And if the 'few extra pounds" thread title bothered you so much, why did you even bother to post on it?
Why did you not just move on and go get a root canal?
Personally, I would not say you are average, termed used to loosely deserrt, I do not see a photo of you with a flat stomacjh, ripped muscles etc, as some pof users show.
And wasn't it agreed on this forum that aearge means, you could lose a few extra pounds? Such as you Desert?
On that note, there are many women out there that would not date such a man, but I do not see many of them on here using such derogatory remarks against men that may need to lose a few such as yourself!!
At least sassy admitted she is trying to lose the few extra pounds ,I did not see you stating the same!! Perhaps you are the one that needs to click the description... "A Few Extra Pounds"
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/5/2008 9:27:04 PM | | This one really gets me. I believe that I'm a "few extra pounds" or maybe I hope that I'm only that! What kills me is when a woman says she's a few extra pounds and then we meet and she's bigger than me!! I think simply trying to be honest about it is the best option. Ask a friend that will be honest with you and post what you are in agreement with. Going off of a weight doesn't really work. Someone that's 4' and 135 is a lot different than someone that's 6' and 135. Just a thought. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:15:59 AM | Can't tell.
None of your pictures show your butt.
I have seen women who look great from the belly button up but are 2 axe-handles wide across the butt.
Average = looks good naked
Few extra pounds = maybe chubby but doesn't jiggle when walking, can wear a string bikini and still see it.
The rest are self-explanatory. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:55:21 AM | midtempo wrote:
So to make a long post short..
Ahhh, too late for that.
That is how WE would describe you, which is what you should be putting in that field.
I noticed you used "we" early on in your post when you said:
we all know that most women who say they are "a few extra pounds" are really just fat.
Who exactly are this "we" and when did they name you their spokesman?
I am 55, 25 years your elder, and it amazed me as I got older how much I thought I was right about or knew all about and it turned out to be simply an opinion or observation based upon my personal experience or prejudices.
Since POF gives no specifications for its body designations everybody is free to choose then own and if they choose, provide a photo that supports that choice. Still, it's up to them. Even BMI with a healthy weight based upon height is deceptive because, especially in men, it doe not take into consideration muscle mass which weights more than fat.
I had a physical a month ago and at 5'9" I weighed 175 pounds(Average American male is 5'9", 190 pounds and that placed my BMI at 25.8, just in the overweight category. My doctor is in his 30s and in great shape told me that I don't look heavy at all which might have something to do with performing physical work for the last 13 years doing moderate lifting most of the day. So "a few pounds extra" is a matter of perception, one that "we" all do not know. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:17:09 AM |
Who exactly are this "we" and when did they name you their spokesman?
I am 55, 25 years your elder,
Actually there are a few of us who think the same way. 25 years his elder, thank god for newer and better upgrades. Frankly getting tired of fat people complaining they don't get attention, it seems that if we say the ski is blue when it is, someone will object to the label. In this world of politcal correctness it is offense to offend people; well, its time to be alittle less PC and much more honest. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 7:55:04 AM |
Well you do have a fat head.
What would be the politically correct version of fat head, latitudinally challenged?
And "horse face" would be longitudinally challenged?
In my case I am "Frostinally" challenged. I have a body like a snowman. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 8:33:40 AM | pepsi40 partially quoted me:
Who exactly are this "we" and when did they name you their spokesman?
I am 55, 25 years your elder,
and then added:
Actually there are a few of us who think the same way. 25 years his elder, thank god for newer and better upgrades. Frankly getting tired of fat people complaining they don't get attention, it seems that if we say the ski is blue when it is, someone will object to the label. In this world of politcal correctness it is offense to offend people; well, its time to be alittle less PC and much more honest.
But the full sentence I wrote is:
I am 55, 25 years your elder, and it amazed me as I got older how much I thought I was right about or knew all about and it turned out to be simply an opinion or observation based upon my personal experience or prejudices.
The rest of the sentence kind of fills out the idea. The upgrades may be newer, but that they are better is simply a matter of personal opinion. Some skis are blue. And when you offend people it is an offense, at least to them. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 11:07:09 AM | Thank you Midtempo you are very sweet and have made my day! I can't change my profile to average though but I appreciate the compliments. I am not "average" per say to most men's standards so I would never want to decieve anyone! I did put pics up so people could see me and they can decide for themselves wether they want to date me!! I really have no problem with people who don't want to date overweight people or what some would call "fat" I just wanted to make sure I repersented myself correctly to the male population! When I posted I never thought to put average I wondered over AFEP or the next one up!!!! I also never thought it would get this far  obviously a huge controversy!!! | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 4:48:02 PM | midtempo wrote:
So, Krimiariver says we can describe ourselves any way we want to in the body type field.
And that's exactly right according to the way it is now (I am talking about average a few pounds extra, not athletic or thin a few pounds extra--people are free to fudge at the margins.) I would like for anybody, anybody here to please show me where POF specifically says exactly what is average or what is a few pounds extra......................I thought so.
It is no accident that the body type designations are kept deliberately vague and the determination of body type is left up to each individual. Otherwise, POF would and could simply allow us to input our exact weight just as we input our exact height. Why don't they do that? Because as it is now somebody who might be a few pounds extra can put down "average".
Simple solution: instead of body type, POF simply has us input our weight. No need to go round and round on this one. Besides, describing ourselves as others see us is not helpful because people see others in different ways. One person's "few pounds extra" is another's "average". Welcome to real life. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:18:38 PM | DaveB951 wrote:
^^^^ LOL Like people will be honest about listing their exact bodyweight
You mean like people are honest now about listing their exact body type? If they were, most of this thread would not exist. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 5:59:56 PM | Simple solution: instead of body type, POF simply has us input our weight. No need to go round and round on this one. Besides, describing ourselves as others see us is not helpful because people see others in different ways. One person's "few pounds extra" is another's "average". Welcome to real life.
Fair enough, except it would really screw a few tall women if men who have been burned by deceptive types decide to "limit" their searches by "pounds" without taking into account her height.
Not to mention that many of us have a bit of range in our weights depending on the time of the month and the time of the year - I'm a full 10 or so pounds more at my heaviest winter weight than at my lightest summer weight (that's quite a bit, because I'm short, but I don't really mind; I'm freezing all the time during the worst of winter as it is), but the only way to be precise would be to add a paragraph in the wordy bit of the profile to explain. Come to think of it, along with honest, fairly recent photos, that's not such a bad idea.
One final note: some very smart men I've known in my life seriously didn't have the first clue about what I weighed until I told them. And at least one of those guys had picked me up and carried me around the house and seen me naked. "So what do you weigh? 100? 105?" Man, are you nuts? I haven't weighed 100 pounds since I was a young teenager.
I have no idea what the number on the scale would say for those women my height, and about my basic shape, but who also have nice large breasts and behinds. That's GOT to add pounds, without making her either A Few Extra Pounds or beyond. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/6/2008 6:46:36 PM | sure, a lot of us could stand to loose "a few extra pounds" to be absolute ideal body weight for our height, but that does not mean we have to sell ourselves short.
Of course, it is all based on individual perceptions but a few extra pounds to me consistutes something entirely different from what your pictures show! | |
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