| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:08:48 AM | | tbh, I don't even look at that setting just the pictures. So I doubt it's a massive issue. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:25:02 AM | | What's wrong with just meeting ppl, and they can judge for themselves? It goes the same way with men too after all, saying they're athletic when "thin" would be more accurate. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 8:46:26 AM | ^^^^ whats wrong with looking at a few pics clearly posted on one`s profile where they can judge for themselves without having to drive somewhere to do so ?
No rocket science here...... | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 9:01:53 AM |
What's wrong with just meeting ppl, and they can judge for themselves? It goes the same way with men too after all, saying they're athletic when "thin" would be more accurate.
You haven't been here long, so let me fill you in on one little thing.
People who post profiles without photos have very little chance to be recognized or acknowledge. If you choose to play the pompous martyr role, with the "what difference does it make how I look because I am a wonderful person inside", you won't get a lot of traffic here. It's just the way it is.
The men here, for the most part, see "a few extra pounds" and no photos, and immediately make the conclusion that the woman needs 2 seats at the dinner table.
The women here, for the most part, see a male profile with no photo and assume he is married.
Obviously that is not a 100% true scenario, but I'd wager a buck it's about 95% accurate.
So to respond directly to your comment of "What's wrong with just meeting ppl, and they can judge for themselves?", the point is that for the most part that initial meeting isn't going to happen without photos.
Do YOU actively seek out the most disgusting, hideously ugly male you can find? Does anybody go out looking for a date with someone they can't stand to look at? Or do normal people want to be out with someone at least pleasant to look at? Nobody expects raving beauty or drop dead handsome men (since most of those men already have boyfriends  ), but would you meet men sight unseen and risk it, particularly when you are looking for someone with whom you may have a long relationship?
There are a LOT of no-no's here. A lot of men detest the Glamour Shot, since we all know you will never look like that again, the group photo where we have to guess which person you are, and the up close face only shot that could be concealing a rather large body. Larger women are fine (personally I LOVE that larger hourglass body type) but don't try to hide what you are.
Thus the "few extra pounds" is delicate terrain.
I am fat. My profile says so, as do my photos. I wish everyone was honest about this. It would cut down on the "he/she lied about their appearance" posts quite a bit. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 9:12:33 AM | | I've had similar questions about what to put and this thread just made me more confused. I used to put prefer not to say and put up the full body shot just because I didn't know. I finally put BBW based on my actual pounds even though I know I'm a bit more compact for my pounds. Basically, if we played tackle football, you'll definitely know when I plow into you and you may just land on the ground as well. Everyone keeps telling me I should post a few extra pounds, but I think that's a combination of perception and/or being nice. I think they need a designation of "built like a brick sh*thouse." That more describes me. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 11:23:05 AM | Well, sorry if I hit a sore spot and I will admit, there are some pretty valid points being made here. However, I am not pompous thank you very much, and while I may seem new, I was on for a length of time before under a different name.
Just because I don't have proper pictures of myself does not mean I don't see the value in them. I just don't happen to have any right now, hence meeting for coffee would be a logical option. I know what you mean though, I wouldn't want to meet somebody I couldn't stand to look at either. I guess that since I don't see myself as a three eyed troll, I just assume that nobody else will either.
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/9/2007 7:47:33 PM | | I don't think there is a major difference between average and someone who is literally a few pounds overweight. Like other people have mentioned, the issue is when someone puts a few pounds extra when they are 75-100 lbs overweight. I also think that there should be a weight class between a few pounds extra and BBW. I think there are a fair amount of people in between these categories. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:07:58 AM |
What's wrong with just meeting ppl, and they can judge for themselves? It goes the same way with men too after all, saying they're athletic when "thin" would be more accurate
Whats wrong with posting such that the person can see for themselves. I'd never date, communicate or otherwise waste my time on someone with no photo.
Your ex is on the site, thats nice, use call block when he drunk dials or have a few marines / friends knock him into next week every time he calls and does not get the hint.
I do not mind wasting time while online talking to someone but to meet someone who has so many "body" or "ex" issues they can't post a picture is not one I'd meet in person. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/10/2007 7:13:57 AM | Hello sassysue.......I believe you can put your pic in as average/ athletic....i think you look good in your photos.....saying a few extra pounds is doing yourself an injustice...
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:47:58 PM | | a few extra pounds?scares the crap out of me,lol,i went out with a women who claimed that,a few to her was like a hundred pbs of extra but,no lie, | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/15/2007 2:53:35 PM | I hate when people don't post picks, and I totally won't answer them without pics.
Our written profile and some pics is all we have to go buy when choosing to talk to someone. I agree with the poster who said no pics gets no attention. I totally agree.
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| Lies, Lies and more lies!
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:00:26 PM | Weight is subjective to individual perception and even logistics, IMO.
I've met men off this site that had "average" listed as a body type.
When did "average" mean 250 plus lbs and under 6'0? That brings me to height. Hmm. A man that is 6'4 should tower over me.
Not the case by the PoF measurement system. LMAO! Oh well~ it is, what it is. Deception.  | |
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| Lies, Lies and more lies!
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:02:07 PM |
I've met men off this site that had "average" listed as a body type.
When did "average" mean 250 plus lbs and under 6'0? That brings me to height. Hmm. A man that is 6'4 should tower over me.
Not the case by the PoF measurement system. LMAO! Oh well~ it is, what it is. Deception
Yes and they lied, like women saying a few extra pounds that is the point. Their darwin awards.
Judgement is part of life, we are judged when picked for a team, judged by our bosses for raises, teachers grade us, etc, etc etc. | |
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| Lies, Lies and more lies!
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:08:19 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I agree, Pepsi.
But in regards to the actual question~ my opinion is that the OP has a feminine figure and definitely not a larger women. But others may disagree. Perception. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/15/2007 3:11:34 PM | | I would think average also.If I were looking ,I like women to have a few extra pounds .I'm not so attracted to really obese women nor skinny ones.Just my taste. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/15/2007 8:16:30 PM |
Whats wrong with posting such that the person can see for themselves. I'd never date, communicate or otherwise waste my time on someone with no photo.
Ditto. Never again. Started chatting with someone who didn't have a pic and at first I didn't even care because it was just chatting and I was sick so it was keeping me busy when I was stuck in bed for a week. But after two weeks naturally I started to get curious, so I asked for one. After three days of no picture and a very flimsy excuse, I just deleted his emails and user names. Something is definitely fishy with that one. From now on, even if I only intend to chat with someone, they need to have a pic. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 12/16/2007 11:40:42 PM | Also, it is a generally accepted fact that women think less of themselves than what they actually are, and men are the opposite.
OP, you should list Average as your body type. You look great how you are. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/3/2008 3:11:50 PM | | I agree with ya Looking4more2. But also i think a few extra lbs. For a female is different...then a few extra pounds for a male.......However we all have preceptions...of Few Extra Pounds......Anyway a few extra pounds in my mind is less then 10 over your ideal weight.......so many profiles here the female will say a Few Extra Pounds".......and she 5.5 (height) and 200lbs........that to me in not "A FEW" thats like boarder line obese......And what about the females that post a picture of them selves hiding behind a tree or in a car.......and all you can see is their arms whitch look like oak tree limbs....But they Say their AVERAGE....you gotta luv POF...but o well its free so im not complaing to bad! Keep fishing | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/3/2008 3:29:30 PM | | Again, POF chooses not to specify exactly what the body designations mean, otherwise they would simply have you put down your exact weight like they do for height. It says "average", but compared to what? The average weight of adult men and women? Or the health chart weights based on height? If it is the health charts, then very few of us would be average. People will always tend to fudge on their weight, but POF does not specify exactly how many pounds constitute a few pounds extra--they leave that up to the individual. | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:20:33 PM | | A few X-stra Pounds 15-30 then after that they should put chubby then bbw thats just how i see it | |
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| When I say a few extra pounds
Posted: 1/3/2008 6:47:07 PM | you.. a few extra pounds??
wow, women sure care about the shape of their bodies.
you are more like average than a few extra LBs. | |
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