| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/11/2007 5:23:00 PM | I have a story to tell.. ;)
At 14 i had a friend give me a tattoo with india ink and a needle.
It was of a skull. It was absolutely perfect.
At age 18, i stared gaining weight. i went from 90 lbs to 180 lbs over the course of the next 7 years, and the shape of my arm changed. And my perfect skull became a broken jawed jack'o'lantern.
Today, 21 years after i got that perfect tattoo on my arm, i had it redone, and it took a LONG time to get it back to it's former perfection and not to mention the $$$. But it worked.. :)
SO a tattoo at 18, when they are still growing, and their body is changing, is probably not a good idea no matter how cool it looks.
(i will be posting a before/after pic once i take off the bandage!) | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:22:02 PM | I my first tattoo when I was 17. I didn't tell my parents, i just went out and got it. I went into the tattoo shop with my boyfriend and we just picked something off the wall together. Now I hate that tattoo and i can't hide it.
So i have decided that i will allow my daughter to get a tattoo when she is 17 or 18 - if she wants one, but she will have to pick out something reasonable, something that she has put a lot of time and thought into. And she will have to get it in a place that she can hide it if she wants to.
So I would suggest that if she really has her heart set on it, maybe you should help her decide what and where she is going to get it. And take her to a good, reputable tattoo artist. Because if she is like most teenagers, she is going to get one whether you like it or not. This way a least you can maybe keep her from getting something that she will regret.
Good luck with whatever decision you make. :) | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:14:05 PM | | The before/after pic is posted, just click the link to see it... I really wish i had pics of it from when i first got it.. so i could have th whole transition.. but i don't... | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:36:09 PM | | Times are changing! I have 5 tattoos...I have a 1 year old right now, and if the worse thing she's going to do is color her hair, get tattoos and piercing...WHO CARES? There are so many things out there that are so much worse than that. I got my first tattoo when I was 19, not that much older than your daughter. It has a meaning so I dont regret it and I doubt I ever will. Seriously, I wouldn't worry that much about it, especially if she's been a good kid. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:58:53 PM | | i think if a teen wants a tattoo so bad she can get it when she is out taking care of herself and indepedant of her parents. My kids can do what they want when there 18. It their life and their choice. Until then i will discourage it and tell them to wait. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:42:27 PM | Get her to talk to a tattoo artist and explain the situation to them. They can talk with her about making this decision. Get her to READ this site as well. It gives advice to those who want a tattoo: http://www.supersites.ca/renaissancehairbodystudi/tattooing1/#tattoopricestitle
Then, if after all this she still wants to get one, it is then her choice. And if later on she complains that she doesn't like it and that she wishes she never got it, you can tell her that it's her problem since you took the time to get her to really think about it. Unfortunately, once she's 18, you can't stop her from making those choices, but you can help her to decide against it. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/12/2007 8:05:35 PM | Smiling Eyes...
My daughter got her's at 16 without telling me. I had no idea ... then one night we were having a heart to heart, two weeks after she turned 18, and she admitted to me that she had a tattoo.
She had brought it up once and I gave the ole when you're 18 speach, and she never metioned it again. I was kinda dissapointed that she went behind my back - but in all honesty I wouldn't have allowed it.
She wants it and will probably get it anyway when she's 18 - will a few months really make a difference?
Dusty | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/13/2007 1:49:48 PM | ahhh when my son was about 13-14 y.o.. he wanted a tat (he knew what my answer would be before he had asked me..  ).. i said 'ok'.. so i went out & got him a stick on tat.. he hasn`t asked since then..  .. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/13/2007 2:14:54 PM | Tell her to wait and shop around for the next 6 months, tell her its not turning 18 that matters, its choosing the right tattoo in the right place as its going to be with her forever.
Tell her to look at everyones tattoo's everwhere she goes for the next 6 months so she gets a good idea of what she wants.
Turning 18 isn't a reason for a tattoo, its wanting one that is the reason.
Remind her no NAMES of boyfreinds! lol | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/13/2007 5:43:14 PM | I was 19 when I had mine done. For very personal reasons. I do not regret it at all - it symbolizes the struggle I went through, and it reminds me every day that I beat the odds and am still alive.
Those sorts of events do not often happen young for people. Make sure it is something momentous for her before inking it on. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/13/2007 10:31:30 PM | | When I was 17 I wanted a tatoo, my dad has several and most of my uncles. My dad said sure as long as I picked something I really liked and I had to like it for at least 5 years. It was good advice or else I would have every band I liked in the 80's / 90's all over me! lol. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/14/2007 9:24:46 AM | She graduated already.. whats to wait.
She came to you, so you should should buy it for her as a grad gift. My suggestion would be that she puts it someplace where it can be easily covered incase she one day lands a job or career where she must maintain a professional appearance.
Other then that, take her. If you don't she may just end up doing it on her own and in a bad place...
I told my daughter when she asked about peircings, that I will take her to get them done, as long as they are aloud in school, and she must stay an "A" student, or I she will have to remove all piercings. She agreed and liked that rule. If she asked me for a tatoo at 16, I would alow her at the end of that year on the condition that she got rewarding grades. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/14/2007 10:15:22 AM | Hi,
I just wanted to drop you a line, and here I am now 28 years old and when I was 16 I wanted to get a bunch of piercings... So I talked to my mom about it and she begged me not to, she said wait till your at least 21 and if you still want them fine.... Well I still wanted my piercings and finally my mom said to me don't peirce and I'll pay for your first tattoo.. The deal was she came with me and picked it out with me. That was fine I did pick out a little tiny rose & heart that are attached and they were to be a tribute to my dad who had passed away earlier that year. I got it on my right ankle. And I loved it. I never did pierce I felt satisfied that I had my little tattoo....
Your daughter is just wanting to express herself and they are so common today and really they can be very beautiful. Perhaps instead of fighting her because we all know they will do it anyways...*laughs* suggest that the two of you look at some designs and talk about what it is that she wants. I definently think the first tattoo should be small discreet and very feminine.
Wish you all the best!
Heather | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/15/2007 9:08:19 PM | | I was in getting tattooed at 19. Apparently I over heard the another tattoo artists talking to a couple with an 11 yr old daughter. They were adiment that they wanted to get there 11yr old daughter a tattoo.. Personally I dont think the 11 yr old wanted the tattoo and it was just the parents. They were super pissed off and outraged when they found out that the artist would not tattoo their daughter because he did not want to get hardcore fined for penetrating a minor as they call it in the tattoo studios. I thought that is bloody ridicoulus. Sure I would allow my kids to have tattoos but I would not take them to a tattoo studio at 11 yrs old. They can get them at 18 if they really want them. What kind of parents are they, thats what really made me wonder... | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/15/2007 9:42:33 PM | Tell her no. Under the age of 18 she cannot legally get a tat without parental consent. If she is able to con somebody into applying ink, they are in deep doo-doo! She can wait the next few months until she is legal, and use that time to find the right tat. Not something in a book, or what her friend has. But one she has a real feeling for. Unique.
Most professional tattooist not only enjoy creating something unique, but will make a better effort and charge a little less for something not in a flash book!
When getting a tattoo removed it cost and hurts a lot more compared to when you get it! And if you want to be devious, see if you can get 'her' to decide on a spot over bone. Ankle, clavicle, shoulder-blade. The thinner the skin, the more it hurts. I've seen people walk away after a minute because of the pain. And use the old "don't get anything you wont show grandma/grandpa" routine. And No Names! Unless it's a family member it is always a mistake! Any reputable tattooist will not tattoo a boyfriend/girlfriends name. Keep that in mind.
And if she decides to get inked, check around and talk to people who have been to the tattooist. Ask if they are happy with the work, and always remember 'Good Tattoo's are not Cheap, and Cheap Tattoo's are not Good'!
Bob | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/15/2007 10:04:42 PM | so an update for everyone ..
We had dinner last night and spent a long time talking about tattoos, why she wants it, what she wants, where she wants, what the signifigance means, etc etc.
Bascially she wants to get two small sparrows * and she hasn't found the "right" design for those yet" on her shoulder blades... something that could be hidden if she wants them hidden, and something that's small and very tasteful and classy that would look okay even in an evening gown or her wedding dress...
Symbolism.. she just graduated from high school and her life is about to take wings and she has newfound freedom to choose her life's path.. she thinks they will signify her freedom to her.
She could just go and get them and hide them like some folks have mentioned.. I could make her wait four months.. I could tell her not to do it but she'd do it anyways the day after she turns 18.
So.. I've agreed for her to get a consultation with the tattoist who did mine who is highly acclaimed **he and his brother own shops in Calgary and Edmonton** and he did mine which turned out extremely nice. She will pay all of it herself and she will save the money for it all before she goes to the appointment.
Going to see him for a consultation is good because he'll explain alot to her and help her with the design.
I'm glad that she came and talked to me about it and we had a really good conversation about how permanent they are, that she needs to be able to live with it forever and she may change alot in the coming years.
Thanks to everyone for their advice, sharing of their stories etc. I'll keep you all posted. | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/17/2007 9:14:16 AM | | i paid for my oldest to get her first which we all know can be expensive but here was the deal........she had to pick it out and still want the same thing two years later, we ended up with matching back pieces. And as far as not being good, check your place out with her, and teach her right as in "she wants to see the packaged needled opened" | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/17/2007 2:06:12 PM | Ok I never read any other reponses past the first one posted here so if I repeat anything I apologize.
I just wanted to give an opinion from someone with a child and someone who also has tattoos and got them young. First of all I don't have e teenage son or daughter ( my son is 10) but I do have a 17 yr old brother who wanted a tattoo and I convinced him to hold out for now just to be sure of what he wants and not follow everyone else ( as teens tend to do).
NOW ... if she wants a tattoo, I personally don't see anything wrong with it if it is something that means something to her and is a statement or something she will look at 10 yrs from then and still love that ink. DO NOT allow her or try to reason with her if she wants to get it someplace that is not so well hidden and could affect her in future jobs or such. I know people should not judge others on this but I have been judged because I have tats on my arms which can only be hidden with sweaters or long T's and also on my neck which basically cannot be hidden at all. They have given me some grief in the past with jobs and such and others who judged (church lol) But none of that bothers me personally.
As a parent and as a rebel who would do it anyway when told not too in the past ... I would allow her to get the tattoo but talk to her and even go with her to support her when she does do it. If it is small and can be hidden or is not showing on a leg or forearm or something ridiculous for a young girl and a first tattoo then I would allow it. Just talk with her and ask her what she is thinking of getting and if honestly 10-20 yrs or more from now would she still like the tattoo on her body?? If she is sure, I don't see a problem but it is your choice as a parent. I just think it could be worse ... drugs, young pregnancy, dating a 40 yr old from POF lmao (i'm joking!) Seriously though, she will probably get one anyway so why not be there with her and support her, heck get another for yourself ;) Good luck mom, i'm sure you will both come to an agreement!! | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/17/2007 5:57:30 PM | | That's good...Then I couldn't see any problem with her getting a tattoo seeing that you talked to her and there's going to be a consultation first. I say way to go girl for her having a good descussion with you. Hope it all goes well... | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 7/17/2007 6:01:07 PM | | Sorry for the big response earlier, I read your conversation that you had with your daughter now lol .. anyway good job and the tattoo sounds awesome! Its very symbolic and original and I would definitely let my child do the same. Hope it all works out and she enjoys the new ink. Good job mom! | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 6/8/2008 10:32:02 AM | I really can't offer any help but I can suggest that you be grateful that she is talking with you about it. Gratitude is a powerful tool.
My little angel got herself 6 yes 6 tatoo's behind my back and covered them with regular bandaides whenever she was around me for months. I'd rather not discuss the piercings all 4 of them or the stretching of the ears (which will never regain their original shape).
I will not let anyone shame me into thinking it's my fault although many have tried. My child is severely ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder) so I know that telling her not to do something is a waste of effort. My blood pressure is 190/110 from wasted effort.
Your ex should look to her peers if he is so bent on laying the blame.
Best of Luck,
Otternobetter | |
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| 17 and 3/4 year old girl wants a tattoo .. HELP?
Posted: 6/8/2008 1:07:35 PM | | Someone gave me some pretty sound advice for me to use with my son one day if it should ever come up, they should put pictures of whatever the tatto is up all over the place so that they can see it all day everyday for a couple of months, then if they still like it and want to get one at least they know they will like the tatto, since they either have to live with it for the rest of their lives or pay a lot of money and go through a lot of pain to remove it. | |
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