| | Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!Page 2 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | Couple questions not asked. Was this ring a family heirloom? I could certainly see a guy reusing a ring if it had ties to his relatives or significance outside your marriage. As the marriage is over, the commitment the ring symbolizes is gone. It should not bother you that he recycled but it might bother his new girl. I would be more upset that he took it without your knowledge but thats the way divorces work. Both parties try to take what they can get without the other knowing. Nasty stuff. I did not think my wife deserved to keep the 5K ring so I had a copy made but instead of a diamond had the jeweler install a cubic zirconia. Swapped rings while she was in the shower and she was none the wiser. That is until she tried to pawn it a year later.  "You told me it was real!" My response was "It was as real as your commitment you cheating @#$(%." | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:34:31 AM | Its just a symobol of a relationship gone wrong. Why would you want it back?
I would be mad if he stole it from me .. but if you gave it back, then its his to do as he wants....
If he stole it from you... then file on your homeowners insurance for it and a police report. Give them pictures of it.
The thing about jewlery is that it is just a material possession and if it were that important to you, you would never have taken it off. | |
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iris43
| | Joined: 4/20/2007
Msg: 29 | |
| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:43:50 AM | I'm in agreement with the other posters, she is just an innocent victim in all this....the ring is a symbol of happier times gone a muck ( why would you want it back?)....leave it alone and rise above it, if he that much of a loser he will get his just rewards without you get acting like the scorned bitter ex wife .....we reap what we sow!
Be grateful that you are done with him and do a happy dance | |
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TeJ_25
| | Joined: 2/17/2007
Msg: 30 | |
| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:46:54 AM | | think it deals with sentimental value. similar to an ex spouse keeping her married name after a divorce. or a newly weds decision to keep her or his maiden although married to someone else. this situation though seems to be dealing with emotional issues. for him to purchase a ring then get it without her knowledge seems to be immature. but moreso some display of vindication | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:53:18 AM | That is why I made sure to keep my rings. Gold is VERY expensive right now. Add my diamond to that, and I can sell them for a decent amount!
I don't need the rings, but I could use the money. :up: | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:59:29 AM | What a slime-bucket!
Let it go. Be the better person, especially since there are kids involved. The girlfriend will figure out he's a slime bucket on her own. Let her enjoy her misery in the meantime.
Go out and treat yourself in a new way. Maybe get yourself a nice little piece of bling (doesn't have to be that expensive) to reward yourself for your better qualities and to celebrate being rid of such an insensitive idiot. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:04:18 AM | | If I was the new GF I would WANT to know !!!! She has a right to know that it was yours first even if you don't want it back . Think of it like this ... you might be saving this poor woman the pain you have already been through with this jacka** ! | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:05:40 AM | No,id rise above it. Hes your ex,let him give her your left overs and leave em to it.
Would you want the ring back anyway? After hes given it to someone else? I wouldnt personally,if its so easy to give away,i wouldnt want it,doesnt matter how much it cost itd be worthless to me.
No,you be the better person and leave them to it,pity her,and thank your stars you arent wearing it nomore. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:10:37 AM |
Pilot152: I have no words for people like you.
Judgemental much? She was none the wiser, assumed it was fake all along. I got most of my money back out of the deal (In fact I made a small profit). I did not save it with the intent of giving it to my next ex girlfriend/wife. That would be tacky. Plus with infidelity she is lucky all she got was a ring swap.
Oh and put on a top that fits. You are sagging out of your outfit, no one wants to see that. | |
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rune3
| | Joined: 7/13/2006
Msg: 39 | |
| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:42:31 AM | | Saying anything about it achieves nothing positive for anyone concerned, so why would you say anything now you've got past the moment where you might have blurted out something without thinking? You don't need to hurt either of these people -- you have your own life and your own future to think of -- let them do the best they can do with theirs. The ring was symbolic of something that is over. Unless you were going to sell it and need the money to be able to put food on the table, take a deep breath and just let it go. It's in the past and no concern of yours: wish them luck, not ill and you'll feel better. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 4:57:57 PM | Ha Ha Ha Pilot 152 - good comeback there, mate. You sure you have no aussie heritage in your family, with such a comeback ?
I think I would have to made some comments such as - "oh you found my old ring, _______ (insert name) ? Only 19 more payments and it will be paid off". The girl is an innocent victim and I read about a man who re-used his dead wife's rings for his new wife which resulted in theft charges against him by her children. They were heirloom items and he was keeping them for the family - not for her kids to pawn.
I could not recycle stuff like that unless it was an heirloom but do recall when I was 18 that my g/f at the time broke up with me just before her 18th b/day but still invited me to her party knowing I had spent a fortune on jewellery for her. On the day I swapped it over with cheap fake stuff - getting a refund and then meeting her new b/f that night, passing over her fake gold jewellery with a warm greeting.
My ex's exhusband found his wedding ring in a box and threw it at me telling me I could have it - which my ex pawned and got a lousey $20.00 - it was a cheap fake he had bought to cover losing his 1st ring. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:39:17 PM | Wow that is incredible. I wouldn't want the band back. If the marriage is over not sure why you would still want it.
I wouldn't let her know either. I think everyone has the right to make their own mistakes and if he gave her something that belonged to you she will eventually find out herself. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 1:21:08 PM | | I think we all have a little devil in us at times and if it was me and my ex did that and gave my wedding ring to his newest s**g peace i would of merely pointed out to her that you had seen the ring on her finger and wondered where his C**k ring was as it always slipped off....hehehehe meeeooooowwww peee weeeee......... I say i would say that but in reality i would feel nothing but pity for her as she now had to deal with this man and you dont....dont let that man make you feel like crap because you are worth so much more and deserve it to just keep smiling xxx | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 3:56:22 PM | you should tell that girl it was u guys wedding ring ..coz now u have known he is a cheap man ..
ONE . he took the ring without telling you .. Thieves
TWO. he gave this ring to his girlfriend ... Cheap
poor his girlfriend is being with that sort of man ..you should tell her ..if she doesnt care means she is stupid coz i know one day she will get the same as u got .. if she does listen to you ...... and she will leave that guy ..she should think that she is lucky to know what sort of man he is before they get marry .. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 5:01:49 PM | | I actually had an ex's ring for my own. It was a family heirloom and he proposed to his ex with it and they never got married and then he proposed to me with it. I should have ran then but he promised me that he would get me a different one when he could afford it. 7 years later and nothing, i took it off a long time ago, it was hard to look at. For me anyways. Just my 2cents | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 5:26:33 PM | | Hey Pilot mind your own business, leave the photos alone hon I didn't see a thing wrong with them, anyway given to you out of love, at the moment anyway, you might be opening her eyes to see where she is heading, no MAN re-cycles a ring, unless he is Bob Barker? | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 6:20:56 PM |
I'm not sure how you kept your mouth shut when you saw it on her finger. I am sure I would have blurted out something.
I think the poor girl has a right to know. Just my opinion
I agree. She should know what a cheapass loser she is with. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 6:45:22 PM | | I'm sure the ring holds sentimental value, it's yours, and I'd let him know when his girlfriend isn't around that you'd like it back. He'll probably just say it's not the same ring though. Tacky, tacky, tacky. | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 7/14/2007 7:02:26 PM | | It is to my understanding that it is never a good idea to give a used ring. That it will just bring bad luck your way. So in a way it will serve a good purpose. Yeah, i would say something to her. Why should she have a hand me down ring, that is just wrong | |
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