| | Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!Page 7 of 10 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10) | | You had no business giving the ring back when you broke up-which you did, in effect, by not keeping it on your finger until you were long gone-and he had no business asking for it back, or taking it back...with, or without, permission. A gift once given is gone for life. Now that you gave it back to him it is his to do with as he pleases... including giving it to another woman. Now that he has given it to her, it is hers, and he can not take it back from her, let alone give it back to you. If you want to say he stole it from you, go to the police. That will tie you up in the courts awhile, and when he has friends testify that they saw you give it back to him of your own free will, he will be acquitted, and you may be charged with making a false report...even if he/his friends were lieing. Can you prove-in court-that you did not give it back to him? You could go to civil court by suing him, and stand a slightly better chance of winning...as the burden of proof is different in civil court. Then, you will have to hire a good attorney to have a real chance of winning. That will cost you a lot. Is the ring worth a years' worth of attorneys' fees, and court costs? Probably not. If the ring mattered to you all this much, you would have kept it on your finger until you left him, and he would not have gotten it. You probaly took it off, and threw it at him, and walked out. That would make the ring his. Grow up, get a life, and fixate on something more important than a ring you weren't wearing. | |
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Posted: 9/18/2007 3:30:12 PM | | That is just palin tacky! I would bet anything that she has no idea that she is wearing your band. Tell your Ex you saw it, then see what he says. I bet you he gets terrified that you will tell the new wifey...lol. Of course, he will just deny it up and down and say you are trying to cause trouble if she finds out! | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 9/18/2007 4:39:23 PM | I'd go direct to the cheapskate and tell him you want cash for the ring that his honey is wearing so that you can replace it with one that you'll actually enjoy wearing! Then if he declines ask him if you should ask her for the cash.
My bet is he'll pay you plenty for that ring and maybe learn a lesson too from it! | |
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| Saw My Wedding ring On My X Husbands New Girlfriend!
Posted: 9/18/2007 4:57:19 PM | He gave it to you, so it was yours; you gave it back to him, so it's his.
If it's a perfectly good ring and he has it, why shouldn't he give it to the new woman???
What else would he do with it?
If you're feeling bitter about it, then you should have an open, honest conversation with him about your feelings.
Once you've heard each other's positions, you'll probably both feel better about it.
If you can't have that kind of conversation with him, then why did you marry him in the first place? | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 5:09:01 AM | Was the wedding ring bought or did it belong to his family?
Did it has a personal incsription or not?
I do not believe in rings and such materialistic things or relics of customs past, myself. If it was a family ring or a symbol of the union, then it should have been given back upon separation/divorce, IMO. If it was just a precious (in $$) thing, then maybe it could have been kept and maybe sold.
A ring is either a $$$ thing or a symbol, IMO, not both.
My ex- fiancee never gave me back our engagement ring (and the purl necklace). But then I never gave her back the PC gift she gave me (I did not want a watch or silly things like that).
Things are things. It is the people that count, IMO. | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 7:26:21 AM | gentlegendo, my comment was made for effect. It was written because of the sense of entitlement that many women feel - even in this so-called era of equality- towards this outdated relic, the blood diamond, and the sense of outrage they feel towards any man that takes it back or passes it on to someone else. When a woman cleans out the house and takes every possession, including the gifts she gave her husband, no one labels her as cheap or tacky. I'm glad your situation has been different, but there are exceptions to every rule. Ask yourself, how many of them plunk down 1/3 of their annual income on a present for their man? It doesn't end there...with all the anniversaries and all...
Personally, I would never take the ring back if I gave one, but I would expect the same in return. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 11:52:17 AM | It's just a piece of gold...
I would rather find a new heart to hold...
But I might be inclined to slip it into a short but sweet conversation next time you pick-up the kids...
"Nice ring Hun...I had one just like it!" | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 7:07:35 PM | | I'm with the others on this one... I kept both sets of rings from both marriages (for my kids...not to re-use!)...so I don't worry about that. My sister had something similar happen to her...and she totally went off, and the other woman didn't have a clue that the ring had been hers prior. I'd say tell her, and leave it at that, unless you want it saved for your kids to use later. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2007 7:26:26 PM | Wow hun, I can sympathize, but you had it worse than me. After being separated for four months, I went by my former house to pick up something for the kids (we hadn't fully moved out yet, the ex said that was okay) and found a lead crystal vase that was a wedding present on the table, full of flowers for the new gf that was literally hiding in the next room, she didn't and still hasn't ever wanted to meet me. I flipped out-inwardly. Outwardly, I calmly asked for my vase back - now. I stated it was a gift from a college friend of mine and that she gave it to me and I wanted it back, I had only left it behind because I had ran out of packing boxes and wanted to make sure it was properly wrapped. I left the house with the vase tucked under my arm, the flowers on the table....there were a half dozen other vases in the house that he had bought for me, cheap glass ones that I purposefully left behind because they were from times when he was working out of town and wasted money sending flowers to my work for everyone to see, but at the same time "couldn't afford" to send money home for bills or groceries. Before I left I told him he was free to use one of those other vases he had bought for me for his girlfriend, hopefully I said it loud enough that she heard. Obviously, I am still rather bitter. My point - don't be afraid to say something about the ring if you want to. It was quite a freeing thing for me to come right out and ask for that vase back and leave the house with it, I felt better, I would have been REALLY bitter if I had left it there and said nothing, like I did with the blankets and quilts my mom had made for me.....I didn't say anything when he took them out of the house (while I still lived there) but he didn't return them the way he promised, now of course, after his new gf apparently lost her virginity on them, I don't want them back...ewwww. You have every right to choose which things to keep, and which things to leave behind. Don't let him make the decision for you.
P.S. My mom is making me a new quilt for my birthday - I love new beginings!!! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2008 10:31:34 AM | | glad you are rid of him. cheap-she has no idea that the ring was yours? just be amazed and say" damn i thought i had flushed that down the toilet! " where did you find it? and then go about your business. He may soon be looking for another wife. Now i have heard/read everything | |
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Posted: 8/1/2008 10:37:38 AM | | Wow what a cheap, disrespectful SOB!!! That really is one of the lowest things I've ever heard. Telling her??? idk that's up to you. Throwing a huge party b/c you're rid of the butthead - OH YA!!!! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2008 12:22:08 PM | Wow, just wow. Now I really have read it all! That is so tacky it's not even funny.
I'd do what a few people have already said and say you thought you'd thrown it out, and walk away with your head held high. If she knew it was yours, she's a skank, and if she didn't he's in BIG trouble! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2008 12:30:44 PM | I'd ask for the ring back, especially if you would like to give it to one of your children some day.
Chances are the girlfriend doesn't know she's wearing your ring, but your ex- should respect your former marriage -- especially since the two of you have children.
I wouldn't bother telling the girlfriend, let your ex- deal with telling her.
JMO | |
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