| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2009 7:33:30 AM | | excuse me! i am almost 20 and have been living on my own, paying my own bills since i was 17. i definitely do not need a 1200$ purse, even a 50$ one for that matter to make me feel attractive and i doubt that will change as time goes on and i climb up the money-making scale. i am a smart, witty, funny, beautiful and confident woman and i don't need older generations of women(or should i say cougars-since you like to generalize so much) telling me that i am spoiled. instead of ranting out of jealousness or spite, maybe you should mentor younger girls since YOUR technique was so much better. knowing what i want out of life and getting what i want on my own does not make me spoiled it only makes me a stronger individual. oh, and none of my friends are using half-naked personals to find a man either. stop generalizing and maybe you will see that there actually are 20-somethings out there who aren't all lining up outside of nightclubs for thirsty thursdays. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2009 8:42:16 AM | I guess this explains why all the women that I date are dead ends. The women that I date always turn out to be psycho, gold diggers or meal hunters. Men have been reduced to the status of an ATM machine and women have been reduced to the status of a sex toy. We are so doomed!
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2009 10:15:19 AM |
excuse me! i am almost 20 and have been living on my own, paying my own bills since i was 17. i definitely do not need a 1200$ purse, even a 50$ one for that matter to make me feel attractive and i doubt that will change as time goes on and i climb up the money-making scale. i am a smart, witty, funny, beautiful and confident woman and i don't need older generations of women(or should i say cougars-since you like to generalize so much) telling me that i am spoiled. instead of ranting out of jealousness or spite, maybe you should mentor younger girls since YOUR technique was so much better. knowing what i want out of life and getting what i want on my own does not make me spoiled it only makes me a stronger individual. oh, and none of my friends are using half-naked personals to find a man either. stop generalizing and maybe you will see that there actually are 20-somethings out there who aren't all lining up outside of nightclubs for thirsty thursdays.
Paying your own bills/living on your own/not having expensive taste doesn't define you as being classy. Secondly the guy was making a general statement about (i would say) the majority of 20-something women . He even said that there are obvious exceptions. However, for some reason, you along with a lot of women who posted in this thread felt the need to prove yourselves saying "I'm not one of those girls." For being such a strong individual, the way you handled a post that was created 2 years ago was rather weak. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2009 11:17:26 AM | Good grief, mclaugh, you sure took my post personally, didn't you? Maybe you nor any of your friends fit that category, but you are becoming a rare thing in this day and age. It's not your generation's fault, I blame my own generation for raising a bunch of "entitled" airheads who have to have their mama call their college professor and complain if they get a bad grade for not doing their work or not showing up for class. (this actually happens!) My mother would have laughed in my face if I'd expected her to "fix it" for me, if I didn't do my school work.
Oh, and mclaugh, I think you need to check out the definition of the word "cougar," as you are using it in your silly little context. That definition of "cougar" would be an older woman who goes after younger men. Since I have a son nearly your age, I am pretty grossed out at the thought of being a "cougar." Seeing as how my fiance is several years olderthan me, so that definitely lets me out of the "cougar" category. If that was supposed to insult me in some way, you missed. But hey, nice try. And if you use a lot of sunblock on your face, you can look this good when you are 42. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2009 12:38:13 PM | As a 20 something i don't even begin to take offense to the things said in this thread, why? Because most of them are the truth. What I do take offense to are the 20-somethings that act in the manner they do and make it harder for the "rare" find in a more mature young woman.
You also have to look at the demographics in the areas where you find the less-classy less-mature younger "girls" if you will. The whole rural and urban aspects of someone's life play a huge role in their overall demeanor, personality, and general outlook on life.
The younger more mature women are still available and I think that is not a coincidence.
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| You know...if you were as mature as you believe yourself to be....
Posted: 6/17/2009 1:03:42 PM | ...you'd know that this...
i am almost 20 and have been living on my own, paying my own bills since i was 17.
...and this...
i am a smart, witty, funny, beautiful and confident woman
...were exactly the sort of self aggrandizing that is typical of teens ("Look at how great I am!!! This is why I am great!!) that if you are fortunate you will out grow, while this...
instead of ranting out of jealousness or spite
...is also the type of behavior typical of the type....the assumption that others simply MUST want to be like you, because, well, look at you and how great you are (trust me kid...and when you get her age you won't have to because you will know for yourself...that woman is most certainly not jealous of you, and probably has more important things in her life then to feel spite towards you...)
knowing what i want out of life and getting what i want on my own does not make me spoiled it only makes me a stronger individual.
No, it makes you an adult. As Chris Rock says, stop expecting a pat on the back for shit you are SUPPOSED to do....
Newsflash kid...being self sufficient and being mature are NOT the same thing.... | |
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| You know...if you were as mature as you believe yourself to be....
Posted: 6/17/2009 5:38:01 PM | | emlamnsea, you definitely get it. I find it laughable that she would think I was jealous of her. I wouldn't go back to that age for all the tea in China. Even as a 20 year old homeowner who was married and had two kids by the time she was 24, I can look back today and know that back then, I knew nothing. | |
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| You know...if you were as mature as you believe yourself to be....
Posted: 6/17/2009 9:32:41 PM | | totally agree with you Spoken For. I was in my 20's only a few years ago and I can tell you I know a lot more now than I did back then and a hell of a lot more now than I did at 19 or 20. no amount of mentoring an older woman would have done could have taught me what living life is actually all about and the crap you need to deal with to make you a better, more mature adult. I would definitely NOT go back to being 20 again myself knowing what I do now. At 35 I now know what I want,what I dont want and what I wont put up with. | |
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| You know...if you were as mature as you believe yourself to be....
Posted: 6/17/2009 9:59:39 PM | personally i think that nowadays many social behaviors are influenced by the age we live in... in other words when i was a teenager cell phones, computers, email, and the like were seldom available, thus to communicate and/or socialize, you had to get out and actually talk to people in person....
nowadays i hold most of my conversations via txt and email (yes i caved in !!!!) and i see the younger generation doing just that as opposed to actually getting out and mingling.... back when i was a kid, going camping or hiking was the highlight of my week whereas it seems that nowadays playing xbox live or socializing on the puter is the highlight of kids' week...
no wonder there are so many non-campers, non-adventurous , socially maladjusted youg folk these days....
that's the problem with online dating/socializing you no longer need to actually meet someone in person to get to know them.... | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2009 10:58:50 PM | I agree with you mostly. I find that a lot of woman my age (23) act more like girls. However I also see women that are younger than me who act classy and sophisticated.
It somewhat depends on how females are brought up. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:34:48 AM | I'm actually going to have to agree with you. I'm 20, but I have never gotten along with females my age for as long as I can remember (with the exception of a few select individuals, of course).
Honestly, if I'm making female friends, I prefer them to be 25+, because they are usually like you said--more class and sophisticated. And they actually have something to talk about. I hate hanging around girls, who, all they ever talk about, is how hot a guy is or what type of thong they're going to buy. That's usually what you'll get with a early 20's gal. | |
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| You know...if you were as mature as you believe yourself to be....
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:21:43 PM | | nygirl73, you are so right. There's no amount of mentoring by an older woman that could have taught us anything at that age, because if you remember correctly, at that age, we wouldn't have listened anyway...we thought we knew it ALL. Shyeah. Right. | |
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| You know...if you were as mature as you believe yourself to be....
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:52:00 PM | | you're definitely right spoken for. i have to say though i wouldnt change things that happened but the way I let them affect me or stay with a guy longer than i should have hoping he'd come around. things happen for a reason and whatever happened was meant to. these are things that cant be taught, only learn for yourself. now people (men mostly) think im a **** that i dont put up with garbage or ill open my mouth about it, but hey id rather be labeled a **** than have people walk all over me you know? | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/21/2009 12:38:09 PM | I think I'm shocked at how horribly ignorant so many young women (and men) still sound these days. I find it scary that women like Lindsey Lohan and Paris Hilton are popular, as if the message to young women is, don't be too smart, it's not attractive.
I listen to some girls at work (there's a group of 20 somethings) and they can literally talk about shopping, makeup, their nails, tanning, partying, etc, all day long and nothing else. It's depressing really. When I was in my 20's, I was interested in more things going on in the world, but maybe I was more unusual.
I suppose you could blame our overly materialistic society on this. I'm amazed at all the young people who are in college, but still sound so terribly stupid when asked a question they should know the answer to. (like who's the recent vice-president of the US, etc)
Seriously, the next generation of young people, scares me. People seem to be getting dumber, not smarter, over the decades. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/21/2009 2:51:59 PM | | I have found through my 20's that the vast majority of 20 something women are superficial hypocrites that lack majority. I have found that the women who say that they aren't this way, are normally the worse. It is always nice to find one of the rare few that don't fit into this category. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 8:26:43 PM | Let's face it: Most women in their twenties are a waste of everybody's time. Period.
Exceptions: I have seen women in their twenties that are amazing, consistent and settled. Yes, that's right, close to 100% of the women in that category (many in their twenties) will give you just what you want. They will not change their mind, they will not let you down.
Wanna know who they are?
Well, I believe the most reliable women in life are the one that you pay :)
Good time everyone ! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:09:04 PM | Well as a 20yr old, I have to sadly agree with this thread....
But what I don't understand is why the gender specifications? BOYS at this age are just or perhaps more inmature at times!! 
Like a previous post mentioned, I do think it's how our new generation is being brought up...It's definitely irritating at times dealing with the lack of accountability, superficiality, or priorities being screwed up that so generally define our age group.
I definitely believe upbringing, society, technology and many factors are directly connected to this issue, like many in life, very complex. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:33:54 PM | Personally I prefer men over the age of 30 since I find them settled and on the same level as myself in terms of maturity. I refuse to date men in their 20s. I, myself, am educated, settled, financially secure, and I'm gainfully employed and I seek the same in a man and such men tend to be over 30.
OP, don't like women in their 20s? Then don't date them. Issue solved. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:46:12 PM |
Okay so science says that women mature before men do...
I'm curious to know how that's possible to quantify...
Age is not a proper measure of maturity nor is it indicative of a person's experience. Plus, maturity may be relative to each person's needs in another.
but in experience, I find it quite the opposite... is it just me, or are more guys in their 20s into women who are older...
As much as I hate making sweeping generalizations, I'd bet that most guys usually seek women/girls that are younger than them.
and I know what you are thinking... the SEX factor right? Well, let's put that aside for now because there are young guys who like to have their fantasy fulfilled ever since American Pie... but there are other guys who enjoy the conversation, classy, sophisticated type of ladies... and they happen to be ladies in their late 20s or older....
I've seen a bunch of ladies in their early 20s (my age) on this site, and I have to say, albeit they are extremely gorgeous and would get heads turned, there seems to be a lack of sophistication, classy-ness (if that even is a word), or lack of conversation skill.... and just for the record, there are the exceptions who just by talking would take your breath away
You qualifying maturity as someone who's sophisticated, classy and "conversational" (vague) may not coincide with the next guy's conception of maturity, which could simply mean a person that pays their bills on time or is ready to settle down and get married.
You have specific preferences, that's all, each of which are also relative.
Plus, how many profiles did you skim in order to make such a generalization? Did you click on 100 twenty-year olds in a row? Did you only click on the "extremely gorgeous" ones?
.... I am pretty positive that that's what guys, at least in my age, would want to settle with...
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Thoughts? Ladies... gents.... holla back... wanna hear your take/perspective... disagree/agree..
I bet "holla back" really brings it home for those classy girls | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 10:47:00 PM | Mr. Goodtime (gee it's obvious what that name insinuates) you posting was a waste of time 
Against us ladies in our 20s? Then don't date us. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/8/2009 11:00:49 PM | | as an "older" guy, while girls in they're 20's look good, they have nothing to offer, (besides, I'm invisable to them)..I think most younger men just want the sex part...you can't last with a woman who is 20 years older, when you are 40, they will be sixty and no longer interest you...it is flattering to some women that a 20 something is interested but I belive they are the ones trying to stay "young"...only to be let down later down the line...I want a woman who is around my age so we have things in common, who remember the things we all grew up with...not the latest tune...just my thoughts on this | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/9/2009 12:03:44 AM | | I personally like older women, they are a bit more assertive and direct. Being 25, i've attracted many who are hovering around 20. I keep telling myself was I really like that when I was 20? No I wasn't, I was much worse. Women probably still do mature faster than guys, we just don't realize how immature we are until were out of our 20's. I have my tendencies which I choose to blame on alcohol, even when I'm drinking water. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/9/2009 2:23:12 AM | | I totally agree with you on this. I want a guy more my age because the younger 1's seem to just want the sex and nothing more as to men closer to our age want a committed relationship unless he's one of the men that refuse to grow up. I think that when I was told "When you turn 4o you'll think differently". I was like yeah sure. But I really felt at 40 I did just wake up from a coma and I now know what I want in life as i did not before. Thanks for your imput. You rock my friend! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:22:21 PM | | Most of the guys I know from work or school or whatever are still trying to bang 18-22 year olds. Only now they're in their late 20s and early 30s so they're better at being 20, if that makes sense. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/12/2009 7:44:08 PM | maybe it is the females you meet...meet older women...is it important to flaunt your body?i guess that what happens when you are mature...real women look at what you have to offer...showing your chest is not cool...i willl give you advice...change your picture...be more serious...good luck | |
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