zsuzs
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Joined: 3/5/2007
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 7:40:20 AM | | Well I am 45 - most think I'm in my early 30's. I get asked out a lot by much younger guys - it's very flattering - but I find that after a few dates the commonality is not there. Maybe it's my fault - because I want a long term relationship - and I don't want to wake up in 3-5 yrs to find him regretting his decision. Because I may look good now - but as time goes by it's inevitable I will show my age. I'm out to have a broken heart. It does make me happy to hear that there really are men out there that really can appreciate the qualities of an older woman. Good luck young man! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 12:00:05 PM | what you are doing here is playing mind games.
we all know that this whole thread is just a `look at me` ruse to get ladies over 30s attention.your photo confims this scenario.
if you are attracted to ladies over 30 ,i wish you well,but please dont just use the forums as free advertisements,if its what you are looking for fine,but respect that other people may not want to date below their league(just to get easy dates)
thanks
john | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 5:37:07 PM | Nthn0011....I was one who commented on your attire, or lack of. I was being humorous! I thought it funny and ironic that someone is talking about class...but did not even show up to picture day with a shirt on! ;)
How important is a guys physique? His HEALTH is most important. I don't need a six pack and pecs...I need someone who takes care of themselves.
So those responses you had....the sort you want?? | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 6:01:54 PM | Yes, Harley...the HEALTH thing is the most important. I've tried dating men in my age bracket (50s) and men in their 40s, and while the 40-ish group start OUT having more energy and stamina (Im an avid hiker and work out regularly), those who are a bit older (and apparently wiser) seem to have figured out that drinking, smoking, partying, eating poorly, etc. don't make for a healthy life. They start to get the picture when they reach middle age, long after most women have figured out that things don't stay where they were when we were 20 unless we work at it...for EITHER gender.
And although the younger men are more "fun" at the start, I'm finding that those in their mid 40's to mid-50's have a heck of a lot more going for them in terms of stability, success and sensitivity. Plain and simple, they have more life experience. Too bad that it seems like more men begin paying attention to their health a lot later than most women. Why is that? I'd love to find a man who has the energy and strength of a 25 year old with the maturity of a 45 year old. But wouldn't we all? | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:16:05 PM | Mind games???.... where did you get that - ever thought of expressing thoughts, and trying to understand other people's perspective?
But hey, you're entitled to your opinion and I respect that but for the record... you're way off SIR!
Thanks for posting your comments! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:19:18 PM | Harley - I did catch your sense of humor - good one ;).
I wasn't really expecting for a particular response... just wanted to see what you value in a man's physique and you put it well.
But on a separate note though, rendezvous_exotique's post of me putting up a post to solicit women to look at me is actually irritating... albeit interesting on how people interpret things.
In any case, thanks for the note! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:34:25 PM | I too get far too many emails from men in their 20's which I find flattering, but in all honesty I just don't see any potential there - I'm more comfortable with men from my own generation and besides that I find older men much more attractive to me (I think my preferences have aged with me).
I can understand why some younger men may seek out older women - there is something to be said for seeking out less complicated women - but eventually they will begin seeking women in their own age groups again down the road when more long term needs begin to develop.
There will always be exceptions to any rules so if one seeks out someone drastically different in age I guess there could be hope for it working - but the odds are against it in the long run.
Disclaimer - NOT all older women are going to be less complicated, NOT all younger women are going to be competitive or have hang ups about their bodies, generalizations are simply that - generalizations that will never apply to all. I've known mature women in their 20's - I've known immature women in the 50's... age does not guaranty maturity - youth does not guaranty energy or vitality. | |
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Schags
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Joined: 5/14/2007
Msg: 35 | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 8:59:56 PM | | Its because at 20 and being an "attractive" female they dont want to do anything but have fun because, well they are the hot topic guys older younger and even some women want them plain and simple finding someone who is willing to have something serious is easy but finding someone who is "exciting" enough to hold their attention is where they find problems. Thats why i tend to click better with older women or women with children, they are out of their "I just wanna have fun" phase | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 9:20:59 PM | Ooooh I had to post to this thread. Lets see. I'm of average attraction. I don't ever expect the "hot" girls to look at me or give me the time. However, it seems that more and more young women who are still adolescents, think they can do alot better than they really can. Now, adolescence is a state of mind, not confined by age so really it can extend to people in their 30's, both men and women, but do not necessarily include everyone from 18 to 29.
Older women, for me, are more mature and have come back down to earth, realizing that the perfect guy is a myth. I also find it easier talking to women who are my senior, because the conversation has depth, flow, and isn't based upon what is actually up.
PS. I realize smoking is unattractive, so keep your comments to yourself | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 7/10/2007 9:34:07 PM | | I think you're right. I'm 26 myself... and I see it a lot (especially in the early twentysomethings), very giggly, almost Paris 'the prisonator' Hilton style. too many lol's in places where there is nothing to lol about. Downright confusing. But hey...easy to pick out right? | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 1/31/2008 8:22:42 PM | i tend to disagree - I'm in my 20s and there are many more I'm sure who are very mature and goal oriented. Some are even very successful and hold positions like directors etc. I consider myself as one of those... I'm 25 now and I am a manager who has 13 people offshore reporting to me (not bragging)... just making a point.
I think the moral is at this day and age - anything is possible. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 1/31/2008 10:21:00 PM | nthn0011-
I honestly doubt that it is JUST women in thier 20s who are immature. If you think women cannot hold a decent conversation. What do you think men want? Actual sence of security with a smart modivated woman? HA, I think not.  | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 1/31/2008 10:53:38 PM | N fact when it comes to the copybook signs of immaturity a great many women are often in thier forties before they mature.
Things like
1/Tantrums
2/ Sulks
3/ Self centredness (you never take me anywhere)
4/ Lack of responsibility. (its all your fault)
5/ Lack of empathy and understanding. (Many women have no idea what it's like to be assumed as evil and then have no way of proving they are good untill thier children marry and they go from poor overworked, neglectd mother, to totally evil mother in law.) | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/1/2008 3:44:24 AM |
Okay so science says that women mature before men do... but in experience, I find it quite the opposite... but there are other guys who enjoy the conversation, classy, sophisticated type of ladies...
I've seen a bunch of ladies in their early 20s (my age) on this site, and I have to say, there seems to be a lack of sophistication, classy-ness (if that even is a word), or lack of conversation skill....
You can find us. However, most likely your problem is that we will not accept you. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/1/2008 4:00:43 AM | and conversationalistic (it's a new word, go with it :p) than most people in their late twenties.
try saying
I consider myself a good interlocutor
oh and there are many many many women even on POF in their 30's 40's 50's who are immature - you can see it in their posts -eg reversion to silly name calling | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/1/2008 4:03:46 AM |
Why is that? I'd love to find a man who has the energy and strength of a 25 year old with the maturity of a 45 year old. But wouldn't we all?
many of those types around - you must not be looking hard enough | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/1/2008 4:58:01 AM | Ever consider that your just responding to the wrong women?
If you strike up an intellectual conversation and then she will respond with intellect if you send her a message saying "whats up" you may not get too much in the way of conversations. They go two ways.
Some guys I have talked with give one or two word answers and don't try to stimulate other conversation so I give up, but I have found that there are a lot of intellegent people on here. Of all ages. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/1/2008 7:03:34 AM | I think that people in general are maturing later. We're keeping our kids...kids longer.
And I agree with the Op in that I notice lots of young girls out who seem to get some sort of kick out of being insulting towards guys....very childish and spiteful...playing stupid games as if the guy is a toy.
Of course, I also notice lots of young guys out cougar hunting and a young guy who does that is not going to be looked at by his female peers as someone who is serious about a real relationship. It's no different than watching someone my age chase after a young girl. You know there's a maturity issue in both cases as far as seeking a real relationship on an equal footing with someone. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/1/2008 7:07:13 AM | i like being an A$$hole
and i've been told my tantrums are worthwhile,effective,and sometimes a turn on
so i guess
the boys don't seem to mind | |
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