| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/22/2008 8:38:33 PM | | I think there's alot of guys that like younger girls and I think it's a matter of dominance. I prefer older women cause they're more mature in the dating experience. older women like guys their age or older based on the fact that supposedly they're more mature and make more money. Most guys arn't mature, and most of us know that and arn't going to admit it. but we're serious at the same time, by the way not putting anyone down here | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:04:30 AM | | I find that older girls are likely to be more chatty. Younger girls usually are very cautious with me. I don't know why, I ask girls questions and they give me one word answers like they don't care. But older girls are more open I find to wanting to get to know me. | |
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ACinSD
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Joined: 1/8/2008
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/23/2008 5:39:02 AM | I have a "dotcomrade" who is an absolutely stunning 24-y.o. woman and quite frankly, she is one of the most mature, intelligent, wonderful friends a guy could hope to have.
Just wish she wasn't in NC. LOL | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 8:28:48 PM | Wow it's been a while since I checked out my own posting and didn't know my topic would draw such a crowd... interesting to note the various perspectives people have on this topic and appreciate the time to express...
I was in Dallas recently and maybe it's because of the part of spot I was in but I noticed younger girls/ladies mostly with older men and vice versa. The hotel manager, very sweet and drip dead gorgeous but when she introduced me to her husband, I thought he was her uncle... to my surprise I noticed that many young ladies in the US prefer older men... is it money? Maybe....
On the flip side you have older men out with younger women... I guess we live in a world where we are changing our thinking and becoming more liberal without any lines when it comes to age.
I can personally say that I have see a lot of older women who would definetly catch any guy's (regardless of age) attention... but there's always that "position in life" which I think would interfer at one point or another.
In any case, to each his own.... but it's always nice to meet someone who is young but a lot mature - I met some like that cause they had to mature quick as they had to support a family or had to work to make ends meet - it's all part of growing up.
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 8:50:31 PM | tarpeia
an intellectual who hides it well under a veneer of blondeness... My sensuality and sexuality will also help
a REAL classy lady, NEVER hides her intellect with stupidity and SUBTLY (as in not in your face scankiness!) uses her sexuality to drive home the fact that she is intelligent and to be taken seriously!
yes you are quite classy honey with your partially nude photos and career choice! you proved his point! BRAVO! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:02:20 PM | | a persons maturity co-relates to the type of life they have had. some people live in a moronic bubble and never mature. its not about age at all | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:21:54 PM | I think the younger women who are with older, wealthy men are with them for financial security and indirect control. More often these women aren't college educated. Women who are college educated typically have good paying and fufilling jobs, and tytpically behave like they don't need a man, when in fact they're dying to have one come and sweep them off their feet! TRUST ME a lot of these women do get swooped off thier feet real quick by men of the same calibur.
I'd say that if you're interested in women who are sophisticated and educated, you won't find them at the local club. You may see them at sporting events, charitable function, community forums, etc. Consider you hobbies when thinking about going out and finding yourself a sophisticated lady.
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:37:36 PM | I think it's a lot about advertising. Most people don't advertise sophistication because they don't think that other people WANT sophistication.
My level of sophistication depends on the company that I'm keeping. I'm happy talking about a novel.... but I'm also happy watching Futurama reruns. So I put both in my profile and figure let people sort it out.
Conversations with strangers are hard to start-- that's why I have a large profile. I delete any "Hi, wanna chat?" first contact that doesn't make any attempt at conversation-- if you can't find anything in my profile to start with we probably won't get along anyhow.
You don't really know what a persons interests are until you talk to them (again-- people are advertising because they WANT to attract someone), but you can't really talk to someone without providing something for them to talk about... it's a circle with no real answer.
But I would be more likely to say, "Hey, what's with me?!" than I would, "Hey, what's with women in their 20s?!"-- I know that I'm an oddity, and that I'm looking for something very particular. My "total package" would need sophistication, class, geekyness, and the ability to throw both sophistication and glass out of the window on a lark because they were looking at us funny. (Sophistication was eying the last cookie-- I saw!)
To sum it up quick- 'cause I wrote a lot.... there are a great number of people of all varieties. The odds of finding someone who is everything you want a person to be and more are really quite slim. Flip through the channels on TV really quick-- go ahead, I'll wait. Now-- how much of what you saw showed sophistication, class, or good conversation? Not much, probably. Some people who have these characteristics aren't advertising them because they're afraid it won't get them a date. | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 9:50:57 PM | I think it's a lot about advertising. Most people don't advertise sophistication because they don't think that other people WANT sophistication.
The issue there being that people are trying to be something they think others want opposed to who they are.
a persons maturity co-relates to the type of life they have had. some people live in a moronic bubble and never mature. its not about age at all
Indeed, though most in their 20's seem to want to emulate Paris Hilton I have to agree with the OP here the typical bleach blonds who think the word "whatever" is punctuation is on the dramatic rise.
I find females on this continent typically turn from girls into women much later as they spend a lot of their time basing their interaction with the world (men) on their looks and demanding something for that; then when it begins to fade, they either become bitter or mature and actually interact with others in a more genuine way.
Thankfully there are a lot of exceptions to that, though society and the media here are weeding them out and converting them to the dark side.
Give me a woman over a girl any day. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:49:23 PM | And the twenagers squeal, "Prove me wrong, not young!"
With experience, comes learning, given, and time will logically account for that....caveat: to an extent. For example, browse through the forum topics, and look at the issues up for advice (young, young(ish), old, older, fossil) out there. Age doesn't predict- neither sentence structure, life understanding, nor, maturity. Perhaps, it's a biased sample (POF). Then, again, OP, you're part of the sample. Are you an outlier? Prove it. Don't 'try' to talk the talk...only.
A great deal of character comes in the duality of intelligence with personality, with a sprinkling of looks, and a dash of interpersonal skills/charm, thrown in (on the grander scheme of things). Age is not contingent on this. If it is so, I suggest you question your pool from which you select your sample. And...why, you, yourself, are in the pool that attracts your fellow tadpoles (hoping for frogs). | |
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RoRo1
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Joined: 12/16/2007
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:50:45 AM | Im going to agree with most of what you said. I try to avoid dating women in the their 20s because they are GENERALLY flakey and dont know what they want. I have a met a few that arent, but they seem to be few and far inbetween. I dont know about the women on this site since I only met one and we had no chemistry, so thats not enough for me to make any judgments yet. However, based on what I have read in most profiles on here, most (definition: more than 50% of the whole population) of the women are unfit to seriously date (but for fun, well theres plenty of that on any dating website probably). Anyway, I wouldnt consider myself to be very mature, but it seems that I am compared to most girls (I dont know about guys, since I dont date them) my age.
Advice to guys, go for women in their early to mid 30s if you are looking for a decent relationship because they have brains, tend to be better educated, financially independent, not emotionally needy, and know what it is they want in any type of relationship and they are willing to be blunt about it (i.e no head games). Good luck everyone. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/21/2008 11:20:04 AM | :/ Its blatantly obvious, many guys want a silly girl they can have fun with/screw and not have to do/say much to get what they want.
The women obviously notice this and think they will keep the guy after he sleeps with her.
(Path of least resistance)
I'm guessing the older women wise up to the fact they are being screwed over, and some young women who value intelligence over ability to attract the majority of men | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:07:54 PM | 1seximami
while i appreciate your ability to put it all out there, and your profile actually sounds somewhat mature, your pics tell another story...why would you want men to contact you based solely off your sexuality?...there's another perfect example of this whole thread! | |
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RoRo1
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Joined: 12/16/2007
Msg: 116 | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/23/2008 2:20:24 PM | yes you like to look and i can understand that! lol...then it's these girls who are wondering why men don't take them seriously and wonder why men only want to have sex with them and then never hear from them again. duh! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/24/2008 9:21:09 AM | Some older men like girls this age because these youthful women put these men in touch with their "second childhood"...
I just can't figure out why the "second childhood" makes these men go and trade-in a good wife of 20-30 years ...FOR these "young-uns"...Stupid!!! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/26/2008 6:38:05 PM | I've signed up with a lot of dating sites in the last 4 years (at least 40) I'm 52 so I'm always searching for women between 45 and 52. however, for who knows what reason ,I seem to get far more interests from women between 35 and 40. I don't know why. I know I'm not rich and I'm sure not that good looking. the woman I've been talking to for the last 7 months is very mature and very nice and 36 and african-american. I think women my age are all looking for younger guys forcing guys like be to settle for younger women
I also seem to get more interests from african-american women than white women. | |
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custis
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Joined: 3/16/2005
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/26/2008 7:10:46 PM | | I am forty-nine and yes, I sometimes date girls in their twenties. I find differing levels of maturity. The biggest problem I have encountered is that the young girls hate to sit still very long and they want to do things that I am no longer into, such as going to nightclubs. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/26/2008 9:28:25 PM | | That's a whole lot of generalization going on, OP. I'd like to think that I've picked up a lot in life between the ages of 20 and 29. I attend night classes with a lot of people in their late teens and early twenties, and let me tell you, there's a world of difference a few years makes. Please don't insinuate that all of us (including those of us who are just barely hanging to their twenties) are in the same place in life. | |
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Joined: 1/14/2008
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/27/2008 3:47:44 AM | well, in my opinion... sucks to hear about the ladies in their early 20s that you seem to keep meeting which has given you this perspective about us. I however find that those of us who are - as you mentioned to be sophisticated, classy, outgoing and great at holding up conversation... have it rather hard to find guys your/our age to provide us with that type of etiquette. So as for myself, like those boys who go up in age to seek their "milfs" or whatever the case may be, as do women. Now thats a not given because I've met some people who are just as young and very articulate, just as i've met some older guys who are.. well lets just say with a lack of education... its just a matter of where you're looking and who you're meeting. :)
ha ha and if thats what youre looking to settle with... kudos to you because most men around our age are looking for complete opposite.. or so in my experience.
good luck to you in finding your bonnie-lass though :) | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 3/27/2008 8:17:31 AM |
Okay so science says that women mature before men do... but in experience, I find it quite the opposite... is it just me, or are more guys in their 20s into women who are older... and I know what you are thinking... the SEX factor right?
nthn0011,
I have no idea where you live but in my state men are going for girls in their late teens.
I happen to be a sophisticated 24 year old woman that no one from Jersey wants to date. And honestly, hey, thats fine by me. More time for focusing on grad school and getting my first house. :) There are some very successful, ready to settle down females in your age group...we're just not bombshells. :) I happen to think I look "ok" but whatever! :) Just remember that the tables can always be turned! | |
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