| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:28:35 PM | I noticed this when I was younger as well. Actually, because of my youthful appearance, I still date women in their early 20's and you are correct. There is a lack of sophistication in most of them.
Physically women mature faster than men, but remember life experience is a grand teacher. A lot of these younger girls just haven't been exposed to real life issues like the older females have. Fertility peaks at about age 22 for females so it's no surprise that most men would prefer to have sex with women at about this age, but having a conversation or an adventure with a 22y/o woman is somewhat boring . I've been there, man. There are a few young ladies that do have this level of sophistication though. You just have to look hard. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:34:15 PM | The whole "age is just a number thing" thing is exactly what I'm talking about. Islandkittie is a good example of what I'm talking about. Age 24 and quite attractive. However, she blurbs out an old saying that has been thrown around since I was in junior-high school at least (early 90's)
Age is an indicator of so many things. It is more than just a number. The 35y/o woman's mentality will almost always be signicantly different from the 25y/o's. Anyone that has been dating into their 30's will know this is true. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/15/2008 7:53:17 PM | | I am 25 and I find myself choosing friends that are quite a bit older than me because people my age are so focused on impressing people and seeing who can get into a bar w/ the least clothes on. I think part of the problem w/ people my age, especially females, is the way our society is. It's so easy to get confused as to what a man wants. And it's gotten to the point where it's almost socially unacceptable to be anything less than a supermodel. That statement may not be reality, but it's definately a common perception. With that being said...I think girls in their 20s are just searching for some kind of affirmation of their social acceptability. So, they do what they have to do in order to attract the sleezeballs and 1 nighters just so they know they're "attractive". I'm proud to say I'm not like that. I'm far from perfect but I'm ok w/ that. If a guy can't like me for me...then I'd rather be alone and be who I am. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/15/2008 11:04:02 PM | | Sigh. I find it hard to believe someone is "sophisticated" when they believe that they can determine the characteristics of a group of people by one trait. Very rarely are statements that involve the words always, all, or none correct. You cannot decide that all women who are in their twenties are immature just because the twenty-somethings you have met are. Just as I cannot assume that the majority of twenty-somethings are mature because the ones that I choose to interact with are. Life experience and the ability to listen are often what determines a person's maturity. The whole life experience bit does make it easier for older people in general to be more mature because they've had more time to see the world and learn from their experiences, and, hopefully, from the experiences of others. But a younger person can also be very sophisticated because they have taken the time to glean knowledge from the experiences of others. Please judge people individually and not as a group. Thanks. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/16/2008 4:40:56 PM | Of course age matters. I'm not even that old, and I've noticed that ever 5 years or so I look back on something in the last half decade and think, "God I was stupid..."
That's normal. You learn as you grow.
The funny thing, though, is that many of the people that I knew to be silly and superficial when they were 15 are still silly and superficial at 25. Some of them will be the same way at 35.
So age brings the knowledge of experience, but I don't know that is THAT important of a factor... since different people learn at different rates. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/16/2008 7:22:07 PM | | So you had bad luck so far with girls in there 20's or whatever. But it's not fair to say ALL girls in their 20's are lacking in sophistication, classyness and conversation skill... Not all are like that. Everyone matures and stuff all at different ages... also I think it also depends on how they were raised. Same can be said about guys. Just keep fishing and before you know it, you have found that person just for you. Being patient for what you want is always worth the wait. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/17/2008 7:26:57 AM | That is not true! Not every 20 year old is the same. Besides I know some 30 and 40 year old women that are insecure and also stupid. I am very mature for my age and have my shit together. There are some older women that are immature and some younger women that are mature and same with men. I have no kids and definitely not ready for any. I have a wonderful personality and very confident in who I am. Also if a 30 year old or 40 year old wants to date a 20 year old you can't get mad. That is there decision and you can't change that. There are plenty of fish in the sea . Age is nothing but a number. Its the maturity level of a person. Remember everyone is different!
Nicole | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:16:10 AM | | It's funny, because even when I was in my early 20s, I didn't hang out with silly, flaky women. This didn't lead to any shortage of female friends. It's all a matter of choosing the right person. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 9:23:59 AM | Okay, so as I said I was one of those girls in her 20's and I played guys like a fiddle and I tanned, partied and smoked my way through college. I did study as hard as I partied though and thanks to someone up above I have been spared any wrinkles or anything else that can mare one's beauty. I always like dating younger men and I did marry and divorce one of them. I feel like they can keep up with me because I do not look my age. I try to act my age though-whatever that might mean. I am worldly, classy and sophisticated and all that came from years of travel, experience and education and now I am in my late 30's and do not feel like it or look it. I have been one of the blessed 20 somethings!!! Rebecca | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 10:50:06 AM | | i'm not so sure how to respond to this.. Sex actually plays less of a factor then many might wish or imagine.. I am 52.. I have dated girls as young as 23 and older then myself.. I don't date around, I date one person, I date with a mutual goal of marriage.. it isn't the age of or an age where someone becomes more or whatever, classy or conversational or intellectual.. it's The Person.. we're all different and learn only as we can.. sure society says this an that... however.. and forgive my phrasing this in such manner.. I won't date someone I can't talk with and share with and can't imagine they would either.. and odd as it sounds I have found said measures I am seeking in and not in every age bracket there is... I know of several female friends who have the same concepts and date guys in various ages as well, women my age dating guys ( two are married now to guys in their 20's and several in their 30's).. it's what connection is made and with whom... either way, you are the only one who can know if your somoene is who you want to be dating or other relations and it's going to end up being mutual between you an she... there are no set guidelines.. it's a crap shoot... | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 11:14:58 AM | I met my current boyfriend on this site and he is two years younger than I am, I guess I'm in your "older woman" category being 28 and all. I've chatted and dated men both younger and older than myself, in my experience you can't really judge someone based on their age. I've always been told that I seem much older based on my level of maturity, even when I was 19 and 20, so I tried dating older men thinking they would be more in line with me, some where some weren't, so I decided to not worry about age and see who I found. Labeling people based on their stats or pics or first impressions rarely works, just find the one you connect with and who cares if they're younger or older (as long as it's legal)  | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 11:15:20 AM | | Ok I think this one can flop either way from my own experience. I have friends in their 40's who to this day party like its their 21st birthday almost every night, and I have friends in their early 20's that are as mature as the average 35 year old. It depends on life and what has happened in part for them to get life experience. Such as myself I grew up fast & hard and had a ruff life so in some aspects my maturity level is way off from other people my age. A lot of it comes from life experience some people at young ages have not had life experiences and some have have. Personally the comment about all young girls dressing sexy and showing off. Come out by where I live a lot more older women do it then younger women and depending on the person it can sometimes not be such a good thing lol. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 11:33:26 AM | Being a woman in my early twenties, I am finding the complete opposite that you're finding...I find guys around my age are too immature or have no idea what they want from a woman or just want friends with benefits or something along those lines...i've never dated a guy who was much older than me but I feel that that is what I have to go for if I want a meaningful balanced relationship.
I feel that I have great conversation skills and i'm classy and sophisticated and yada, yada, yada, but unfortunatly all I seem to find on here are guys who are all wrong for me...and frankly i'm getting tired of waiting around for Mr. Right....i'm beginning to think maybe there just isn't someone out there who is right for me, and who i'm right for as well.
I guess the bottom line is that we're all different - it sounds like you've had some experience with girls your age who didn't fit what you were looking for and i've experienced the same with men...but i'm hoping I will meet more guys out there who are looking for something more stable like what you sem to be looking for...you have given me a glimpse of hope. :P | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:04:36 PM | | I'm with the OP on this one. I find that a lot of women in their mid and early 20s care about one thing... partying, getting drunk, and screwing every guy in the room. Maybe their fathers were too overbearing and they're just now breaking out... who knows... There are some exceptions but they're few and far between. I prefer the company of women in their late 20s and up. I find that most of them are far more intelligent and attractive than the younger ones. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/2/2008 12:26:25 PM |
I find that a lot of women in their mid and early 20s care about one thing... partying, getting drunk, and screwing every guy in the room.
Okay, WTF? Are you kidding me?
Maybe you're just looking for girls in all the wrong places. There are tons of nice, down to earth, responsible and mature women in there early to mid 20's out there.
I find it so weird how some guys can think that...it is not the case! Maybe you just intentionally go for those types of girls. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/3/2008 12:10:49 PM |
I find that a lot of women in their mid and early 20s care about one thing... partying, getting drunk, and screwing every guy in the room.
you do realize that's not a limted to any age concept with either women or men.. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/3/2008 12:51:29 PM | I see this lack of sophistication in my city on friday and saturday nights.
Hundreds of 20 somethings drunkenly falling along the streets dressed like hookers.
Many have tatooes and so look butch like men.
I blame the hormones in meat, its turning women into men ! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/3/2008 1:01:46 PM | Carlisle, that is one of THE dumbest posts I've read on this forum yet. Maybe you meant to do that. 
There's nothing wrong at all with younger guys wanting to date older women and vice-versa. Big deal. The older guys get their noses out of joint about it even though it has nothing to do with THEM. What two consenting and LEGAL do is no one else's business so long as the two are not causing harm to anyone else.
I know a couple where the woman is quite a bit older than her husband. Not boyfriend, not boy toy, not play thing. They've been married for twelve years and are still decidedly in love with each other. How they feel about each other, iow, couldn't be hidden by them on their best day. It's definently working for them and they adore each other. And, btw, she is not his Sugar Momma. They are financial equals.
A couple like this will face the same issues that any May-December romance does. How they weather these issues together is what is important, not what people outside of their relationship think about it.
When I was in my 20's I knew a couple of guy friends involved with older women and I could've cared less. However, I did notice that other women in my age group were intimidated by and bitter about it. To this day I think their snipey attitude was incredibly rude and the lack of 'sophistication' it reflected was probably one of the reasons those guys didn't want to date THEM. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:32:19 AM | My hypothesis is that after years of the young guys catting around and the usual double standard, that the tide has turned and the gals are giving as good as they have been getting for the past hundred years or so. Everybody loses now. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/11/2008 10:52:38 AM |
Posted By: staffycrackers on 8/2/2008 3:04:36 PM
Message: I'm with the OP on this one. I find that a lot of women in their mid and early 20s care about one thing... partying, getting drunk, and screwing every guy in the room. Maybe their fathers were too overbearing and they're just now breaking out... who knows... There are some exceptions but they're few and far between. I prefer the company of women in their late 20s and up. I find that most of them are far more intelligent and attractive than the younger ones.
LOL That's not even close to true. It's more likely that they're all interested in getting with the same 1 or 2 guys, rather than each one wanting "every guy in the room." The guys that don't get any tend to be bitter about it. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/11/2008 11:05:32 AM | I think they are spoiled brats! Some just need to get there butts kicked and get there head out of there. They are fresh out of highschool and have a there life is the worst kind of attitude. Drama drama... Throw her out in the street and see what happens. LOL! Im kidding... I think poeple in general not just young women will get a big slap in the face when something bad happens to them and actually realise what being thankful is all about. Thats my thought at least
Nicole - age 20 =P | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/11/2008 1:00:57 PM | I have found myself to be attracted to women in their later 20's, when I myself am only three years into mine. A lot of it has to do with the maturity of women around my age. DOn't get me wrong, I realize all 20-something year olds aren't like this, matter of fact, two of my best female friends are younger than me, and they have their lives more together than I do. But in a college oriented area of this country (between YSU, Kent State, and Akron U), I find a lot of 18-21 year olds to be lacking in the maturity level that I look for and plan their weeks around the next party. No of course this isn't a fact of 20 year old women, but when I see a life-complaining, party-seeking, plastic Valley Girl I try not to get too involved.
The funny thing is, most women in their late-twenties early thirties are looking for men who have a stable job and good education. Unfortunately for me, I have yet to graduate from college and earn a degree which would get me a stable and respectable job. There's nothing wrong with that either! Just gotta hit those books! | |
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