| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/11/2008 3:01:55 PM | | You're right, the current trend does seem to be younger guys going for older women. I had been noticing this as well. I'm mid 20s, and have found a lot of girls my age to be quite unpredictable, change their mind often, don't know what they want... probably a good reason guys look for something more settled | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/11/2008 4:57:12 PM | Foxyred I totally disagree with yourself and the OP. Both of you are making sweeping generalizations about those of us in our 20s. I have 2 college degrees and going for a 3rd, I'm self suffient and work as a sole proprietor doing administrative work. I'm focused on my education and career (which is established) and one day wish to marry and start a family of my own. Life experiences taught me what I want from life and love and thus I have standards developed based on those experiences. My standards are also derived from my upbringing.
Some have no standards, no clue what they want from life and love, no sense of maturity or responsbility and this applies to individuals of any age bracket. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/17/2008 8:04:52 AM | I have 2 college degrees and going for a 3rd, I'm self suffient and work as a sole proprietor doing administrative work. I'm focused on my education and career (which is established) and one day wish to marry and start a family of my own. Life experiences taught me what I want from life and love and thus I have standards developed based on those experiences. My standards are also derived from my upbringing.
-Keep reaching for the stars brunette :) I agree with you, I am working on my career now as well, which is not so odd as a woman in her late 20's...I think that if one looks to themselves more and pop culture less, they will be truer to themselves...thus finding who they would like to be with, even if it takes some time....Good things come to those who wait, and by wait I don't me sit around and do nothing...
Life is what happens when you're busy making over plans...think Dylan said that :) | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/17/2008 8:55:56 AM | what is it with guys who generalize?
i have more to say but im too busy dressin like a hooker and getting drunk.. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 5:50:27 PM | wow you are so sure you really know us all huh?
well let me just add a few words to you...
we WOMEN in our 40's are not girls at all...
not all women in their 40's pretend to be in their 30's...
nor do we want a young man in his 20's who is inexperienced
in most aspects of what a true woman wants and needs in the bedroom...
young men in their 20's want us women in our 40's because we
know how we want it and what we want out of life...WE are not girls...
girls in their 20's are just that girls still trying to figure out who and what
they want from life...and you are absolutely right they go after the men in
their 30's and 40's for the money...as for the sexual experience? that is to be seen
i have been with men in their 30's and 40's who still need lesson in how and what
to do with a woman in bed...
something else to ponder not only do some women pretend to be younger than
their true age...MEN also do...i have had several that i have met tell me after a date
or two their real age...how sad for those of us who are truthful...because it gets messages like yours to be written and not all of it is true...
just thought i would give my point of view on this subject after reading what was being said about ALL women...
thanks for letting me share...
onefinedai | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:08:36 PM | They are screwed up in the head. Not all of them but most are...
Ah, hell, just like guys in their 20s. See, I'm an equal opportunity crap giver :) No discrimination here! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:11:46 PM | It could go either way really, but from my experience, and stories from friends, women are so not maturing by the time they're 20 (or early 20's). They still believe in the "party like a rockstar" / "everything good comes easy" mentality. They haven't had enough real life experience to fit in a thimble. Though, they'll be the very first ones to disagree.
On the other hand, I have seen women in their early 20's that are very mature for their age. We call these anomalies. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:30:10 PM | | Op I Definitely agree with what you're saying! I find women around my age very fickle, superficial, immature, lacking in conversational skills etc. There are obviously exceptions. However I get a long a whole lot better with women who are in their late 20's and older. I seem to be able to have better and more meaningful conversations with them. to be honest with you, if I had to get married right know, spekaing hypothetically at my age..I'd rather it be with a woman who is a 4-5 years older than me..than a girl my age..And no its not about the sex or fantasy or any B.S like that, i genuinely appreciate older women and feel more attracted to them, especially mentally..and even physically sometimes too! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:49:58 PM |
what is it with guys who generalize?
i have more to say but im too busy dressin like a hooker and getting drunk
no one said ALL girls in their early 20's were like..but its true for a LOT of them..most of them i've come acroos are like that..and a lot of guys have the same experience.. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:05:11 PM |
Girls just wanna have fun...and when you are in your 20's, that is what you are doing...and learning all of the other stuff for later!
why do some girls always use that lame old excuse about "we're young, we're supposed to have fun" bullshit?....sure you should have fun when you're young..but you can be classy, mature, act intelligent etc..and still have fun....its ridiculous when some young girls think that just because they're young its ok to party every weekend and get drunk and have sex with whomever etc...thats retarded...you should learn as much as you cna while you are young..NOT when you get older..I mean who told you that?..the more you know when you are young the better it will be for you..because it will help you to grow up better and be able to make important decisions as you go laong in life... | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:31:38 PM | I've found that Myspace and texting has pretty much rendered the younger generation illiterate (save for some extraordinary exceptions  ) u no wat i meen. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/25/2008 7:42:48 AM | I find what the OP says very interesting. I was suprised to find so many younger male suitors when I first started dating again.
When I was in my 20's I was much thinner and better looking (in maybe today's standards). With all I had going for me, I just didn't have "true" confidence. Little did I realize it then.
However now I have to say the quality of men I am meeting is much better. All of them say basically the same thing. Confidence, genuineness, knowing who you are, and being comfortable with who you are are serious turn-ons.
I am impressed to know that many younger men feel this way.
classy-ness (if that even is a word)
It is a word, but it is spelled classiness.
*not meant derogatorily * | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:12:01 AM | Dude... take it from an old man who has been around the block a time or two. It's not just women in the 20's, it's women all ages. When it comes to relationships, give me someone mature who can handle an intelligent conversation over a bimbo anyday! If I am just looking to have sex... I'll take the bimbo. But I've said this before on other sites, so I will say it again,
The foundation... not the basis, but the foundation of a solid relationship... is 50% physical attraction, and 50% mental attraction. Remember... the foundation to building anything, be it a relationship or the empire state building, has to have a foundation that can withstand the test of time.
I have dated some beautiful women in my day. Some that would just make your head spin and make your little head throb. But even though they I may have been physically attracted to them, they were either dumb as bricks, had no common sence, or just flat didn't seem to care about anything other than what was on thier mind. So as a result. No mental attraction.
I have also dated some very intelligent women who could hold a conversation and could express desires and ideas, with detail and expression, and had the common sense to know that a "conversation" is an exchange of information between "two or more people".... and not just... I talk you listen. But for what ever reason, Height, weight, Molds on her face or what ever... I was not physically attracted to her.
Now, if you are ever lucky enough to find a woman who both stimulates your mind, and your body... that's a wonderful thing. I found that once, built a relationship on that foundation, married her and lost her to another man 12 years later. 11 and 1/2 of the happiest years of my life.
Maybe someday you and I can both get lucky and find that again. Good luck and good hunting | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:58:08 AM | My opinion:
Women will get mature very-very hard, I mean very-very late in life...maybe..perhaps. Or never ever. Period...Age does not matter.
That's another myth about women getting more mature. A galactical BS...
Yes they get more mature how to screw you up, that's true...if that can be called "maturization". And all their wishes are "mature wishes"....If a guy when is young wants to have say fun...that's imature from their perspective. On the other hand women start at younger ages to think what they want and how to get it....and "secure" themselves if they can....and that's where all this big "scam" is coming from.
Open your eyes guys and don't let yourself fulled by their "ass".
They want to to put to work till you bleed...and that's ...hmmm "mature". | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 8/25/2008 10:46:47 AM | Would I want to repeat my "Roaring Twenties"?-Heck NO!!
Would I want to repeat my "Roaring Twenties", knowing what I know NOW?-Heck YES! | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/10/2009 8:55:19 PM | Honestly, I see both sides of this subject. I myself just turned 30 but cant seem to find anyone around my age; for several reasons but the main point is that girls in their 20s seem to want to hang with me and thats fine. But problems start popping up and it because most gals 2@ that age haven't experienced life to mature.
I am all for having fun but the bar and party time is a little old for me, nothing worse then dragging your date home because she is drunk off her ass. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:03:25 PM | There are folks of each gender that dress or act in such a way that they "think" is what you want to see. Then there are those that just do what they know works for them and make it work. Those women that are secure in themselves are the classy ones to look for. Just as the guys who are patient and mature and etc....
I've known some in early 20's that are classy and intelligent and artiulate and I know those in their late 50's that make me wonder how they escaped the oven. Some folks its an age and experience thing and some it could be raised right.
I can remember one time (I was maybe 15) I would talk and chew gum at the same time and my mother threatened to reach in and rip my gum out of my mouth if I didn't quit chewing it so loud. . I hear her saying it to me as I listen to grown women I work with IN Public do this and I appreciate her now saying that to me. Thanks mom!  | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:19:31 PM | | I guess I am in the same boat! I will only go for older (not much older) guys, and not for sex. I like an independent, educated guy with a job and all the things every woman wants. Unlike some women who "turn heads" I don't find being "pretty" or "desired" enough. It just isn't stimulating for the mind when some young (my age) guy wants to play the "hey you're a hottie, wanna hook up" card, or even ask for a date, all is good, but he's cute until he opens his mouth and can't even spell independent let alone hold a good job in a field other than the minimum wage or just over jobs that don't require a GED or Diploma. I graduated early, went to technical school, then college, finished, and I am re-enrolling in college for another subject on-line, and even considering a local college in one of two fields. Maybe even both. I have always been interested in learning, as well as taking care of myself. I take pride, unlike some women, in working out, getting my nails and hair done, going to the doctor and the dentist, and even getting tested for the forget-me-not stuff once every two months if I even KISSED a guy. (Chlamydia, so you know, is an STD passed also through kissing). It seems the guys that are attractive, don't have their head in the right spot, live with their parents, already have a kid by accident and they are 20 or 22, plenty of women like this as well, such as even my mom, but, I vow to NOT be one of them. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/10/2009 9:33:45 PM | metalguy30, I can empathise with you there. Welcome to your 30's. So far its' fun for me.
My mom worked as a bartender ever since before I was a split egg; from hole in the walls to posh hotels. Drunks are drunks. I got to my 21st bday and said ok. Now what?
I love going out to see my friends play in local bands but to hear the girls at work tell me about "I got soo drunk last night" I just shake my head.
Good luck. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/11/2009 2:28:48 AM | I hear you!
I have alot of men in their early 20s who hit on me, and respond, but it's tough because alot of them arent ready to take on responsibility that comes with someone who has a child.
But a friend of mine, age 23 ran for city council, and another close friend of mine, 21, is an active community organizer and very dedicated, very responsible, she impresses me. I tell her that at age 21, I was out partying and having fun, but she's sooooo focused! But I do understand your argument there...
-Stacy | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/11/2009 3:01:46 AM | I consider gals in their 20s eye candy; however, that's about it. Like the cat and mouse, I wouldn't know what to do with one when I caught it; past the expected. I mean, there really has to be something more than sex, once one gets a little older, and that's the point I'm leading to.
It's not so much them as it is you. Men might have one thing in mind at an early age, but that one thing evolves to include intellectuality and mental stimulation as one matures. After all, it makes for better sex, lol. And let‘s face it; gals in their twenties typically have little to offer in this department, since most of their intellectuality involves girl talk. Indeed; they‘re still honing their head game skills and all those things a young gal requires to mature into a fully developed, judiciary nightmare.
Older women, however, are another story. They’ve typically fulfilled their intended purpose by now, to include at least one divorce. And one divorce, as most would agree, is usually enough to satisfy anyone’s sense of purpose, lol. By now, they’re biologically prepared for the business at hand which, oddly enough, takes us back to that one thing they all grilled us over for years, lol.
Indeed; men might be tomcats for life, but how does a mouse evolve into a cougar? | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/11/2009 3:26:28 AM | Now, now Socratic...................we are not all cougars by any means. I don't want a 20 year old guy because like you I wouldn't know what to with him apart from the obvious. However even that wouldn't interest me because when I watch the 18-20 year old guys at the shops they are so darn goofy - it's a major turn off! LOL
So really I think the thing is that girls and guys in their 20's are basically self-centred because mostly everything they talk about is to do with them. They are also very inexperienced in life. Some may find the eye candy aspect appealing but I'll bet it doesn't last long. | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/11/2009 4:50:03 AM | OP: with your claims... if:
1. women mature before men do
2. women in their 20s are immature
what does that say about the maturity of us men in the early 20s? | |
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| What is it with girls in their 20s
Posted: 2/13/2009 6:45:50 AM | | There biggest problem is thy have a HUGE EGO and think thet are never going to get old and stay twenty something for life.bUT THE FACT IS LIFE IS SHORT AND before you know it you are 30 then 35 -40 and until they figure what life is the will remain immature. | |
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