| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/10/2007 10:09:27 PM | | Fran, if the man I was going to marry bothered to even get to know me a lil wee bit there would be no need for a prenup, but sure I'd sign one. I'm thinking if he's got to ask me to do such a thing he really doesn't know me at all, and probably not someone I should be bothering with anyway. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:42:11 AM |
wow, country sugar and ugly betty you two are solid catches. so would you both sign a prenup.
I wouldn't get married with a 12 gauge to my head, but if I lost my mind for some reason and did, not only would I sign a prenup, I'd suggest one. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:49:29 AM | It's going to be hard for you to find a women to admit in a public forum that she would be swayed to contact a guy that she wasn't sure about if she found out he was loaded. It's human nature for women to be attracted to financially secure men. Just as men are attracted to healthy looking women.
They may say money has no influence but I don't believe anyone of them that has posted. I'm sure it plays a part in their decision making. It's their nature. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:58:16 AM |
It's going to be hard for you to find a women to admit in a public forum that she would be swayed to contact a guy that she wasn't sure about if she found out he was loaded. It's human nature for women to be attracted to financially secure men. Just as men are attracted to healthy looking women.
Dude, I already spotted one contradiction!
Post #12:
Nope, wouldn't change my view. Money may make the world go `round, but it surely doesn't buy happiness. (love the Beatles song "Can't Buy Me Love")
Race car driving also has no impact on my "swinging vote". Just having a job sure does though.
I said in response:
Just so you know, many drag racers who race on the "amateur level" made more money in select "bracket races" than when they held down jobs.
Same woman in post #15:
OH! Then in that case, yes that changes my 'vote".
See what I'm talking about?  | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 8:38:32 AM | Braindrain...you just don't get it, do you?? Is your obsession with thinking women all just want money because (a)you have so much that you are paranoid some gold digger will take you, or (b) is it because you don't have any money and fear you cannot hook a good woman without lots of cash??
Besides, the question was more "if he messaged us, and we saw on his profile that he had won a lottery, would we be more likely to message him". I don't think you understand that IF HE ADVERTISED THIS FACT, most women would be turned off immediately.
Yes, women do prefer a certain level of financial security ... as men do also... but security and riches are not the same. And this comes from a gal who doesn't have a whole lot, but does not seek much ... and has dated a man for many years who has even less than her in the financial sense. Why? Because he is a wonderful person, enjoys the natural beauty in life, is intelligent, is a great lover and best friend, and .... is not obsessed with money. {Before you fire back with why i am here then, it is only certain differences we have that are our problem}. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 10:17:35 AM | I'm just tired of dumb people.
I say "money will be taken into consideration if a man admits he has a lot" and you interpret that as
your obsession with thinking women all just want money
It's just not possible to debate topics with people like this. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 11:54:26 AM | Actually, I said this ... not just because of this one thread ... but based on all your comments I have read the last 5 months ... all the other postings about 'women and money'.
But, back to the thread... | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 4:45:27 PM | NHRAguy82
Do you know what sarcasm is?? Der! Did you not read just below that - 'but seriously'...
Not only do race car drivers not change my 'vote', but dumb a$$es are even further down the line and if that means they are a race car driver AND dumb...geez, I have no time for them! | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 4:51:17 PM | | I would never sell my love for money! Money is not that important to the joy you can feel in your life - when you are with someone you really choose to be with - for all the right reasons! | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 5:53:06 PM | Someone once told me this: "the only people who win are stupid people who blow it within a couple of years, young and irresponsible people, and old people who already have one foot in the grave. Never anybody truly deserving."
For the record, the first 2 groups believe the lottery is like free money. In a way it is, but it's still finite. The 3rd group knows they probably won't be around long enough to enjoy it so they either donate it to charity or set up a very nice fund for their grandkids.
The 4th type know who to set a preset limit to splurge initially and then invest the rest in low-risk high-gain funds like tax-frees. If a person in this group wins say 7 million after taxes they might set aside 1.5mil and invest the rest and just live off the interest.
I have also noticed this, on the rare occasion when I do take note of who has won the lottery. I think the explanation is that these are the types of people who buy most of the lottery tickets in the first place. People who are smart with their money and understand how money works realize that that lottery is a bad bet, and know that their money would be better invested elsewhere. On the other hand, the "stupid" people who blow it within a couple of years are the same stupid people who go out and buy 100's of lottery tickets hoping to strike it rich. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 6:41:42 PM | LOL
WTF so many liars on this thread...
Any girl I talk to...whenever the big jackpot prize is won by a guy...
the first question any female seems to ask is...
Is he single?
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 7:26:33 PM |
BTW, here's another variation. Let's say you went out on dates with a guy and he won but never told you. You had to find out by finding his picture "holding the big check." Would you be pissed at him?
I'd actually prefer it to be that way. I'd hate to find out immediately and then have to fight with myself about whether I liked 'him' or 'him with $$$'. It'd be even better if the dates we had gone on were completely normal (no jet-setting to Paris for croissants, or India for tea).
I don't think any information like that would be relevant until things got serious. I would be pissed if we've been married for 20 years and never knew. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 10:46:49 PM |
I totally agree with the above post.
Glad you're not bamboozled by the brown haze in the air...
I thought it was pretty well known that guys who win the lottery get anonymous marriage proposals when their name is printed in the paper (state lotteries are a matter of public record).
A friend of mine who is about ten years older than I got a BMW Z4 about a year ago... a nifty 2-seater convertible that costs under $40k new but looks like a $50k (or more) car. He says when he takes it to the grocery or mall there are middle-aged women hanging around it to see who returns to it. (He's happily married, so he and his wife have a good chuckle over this.) It's the same with any obviously expensive car. Women throw themselves at men with money. Not ever last one of them, but enough to say "success is the best foreplay". | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/11/2007 11:29:31 PM | | So basically what's you're asking is "Does money talk?" Like appearances , the answer is "Of course it does." And anyone who says money or looks don't influence them is a liar, firstly to themselves and then to others, IMHO. Is either enough to base a relationship on though? Absolutely not! It may be what attracts you to the person but it won't keep the relationship alive and kicking. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 5:28:43 AM | ^^^^ One honest answer
All these testamonials that money doesn't matter. Yet all these women would insist that the guy has a job.
I like this answer: If you aren't appealing without money , you won't be appealing with. I'm sure that's true but if, as the OP says, you aren't sure about the guy, you are on the fence about dating him, would you be swayed by large sums of money? Sure you would. But like all other posts on all other threads no one answers the actual question. They run off on all these selfrighteous tangents about how ethical they are. If you were on the fence about a guy and you found out he was loaded you would definatley give him a second look. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 5:42:05 AM | ^^^^
I think it depends on the financial status of the woman. It's usually women from poorer backgrounds who are goldiggers, and who knows maybe it's easier to have sex with ugly men if you are desperate. But for financially secure women, I think it's only fair to ask that the man is equally financially secure so he's not a drain on the relationship money-wise. No need to lower other standards though just because the financial status is elevated. No amount of money can fix trailer trash for instance - just look at Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee, or some of the rap stars that were lower class before they hit the big time financially. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 6:22:14 AM |
It's going to be hard for you to find a women to admit in a public forum that she would be swayed to contact a guy that she wasn't sure about if she found out he was loaded.
Or a man, either, for that matter.
But back to the question. If we're talkinging literally, and a guy had that on his profile here, my first (and very strong) thought would be that it was a silly joke or a lie.
If by chance it was true, and the guy was reckless/naive enough to advertise it, I certainly wouldn't bother contacting him (whether I found him interesting with or without the loot), because I'd know I'd be about No. 2,000 behind a lot of other women much younger and prettier than me (none of the women on this thread, of course, but hundreds upon hundreds of real-life ones).
Stretching the fantasy a bit further and if he contacted me, unless he had something totally repugnant in his profile like he stomped on kittens for fun, sure I'd date him. We're talking a date, right? It would be a hoot to date someone rich for once in my life. I'd date him, hopefully have fun, and give him some good advice about taking that bit of info off his profile. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 7:29:22 AM | > It's usually women from poorer backgrounds who are goldiggers...
You're seriously misguided, yesiamcute (as usual).
A survey of women at an Ivy League college showed they both expected to earn as much money as a man and to marry someone who made more than they did -- an obvious logical impossibility. Hypergamy is a fairly universal female trait.
I don't think you're right either, dawn1114, in your first statement. Money is way less important to men. As some other astute observer noted, men go for what they don't have. Paul McCartney didn't go for Heather Mills because she was loaded (though she is now...). No doubt there are some men who go after rich ugly old maids, but I've never met one. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 7:58:30 AM | msg 45 states:
I think it's only fair to ask that the man is equally financially secure so he's not a drain on the relationship money-wise
I believe the majority of women think this way. It's certainly not true for the majority of men. So what is it about women that makes then not want to share their income with someone who does not provide an equal or close to equal income? Are women just more greedy? Are they cheap? Are men naturally more generous? What is it? | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 8:04:34 AM | ^^^Why does either party have to share anything financial? He pays HIS bills, you pay YOURS. If you're both living responsible lives outside of eventual property purchases and marriage (if you're into that sort of thing) - and even then it can be split 50/50, why does anything financial have to be throw into a pool? You both work hard for what you have, keep it to yourself.
This is why I say "love" and money just don't mix. If/when you try to combine both, you get the arguments in this thread, pretty much. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 8:09:24 AM | Not into the race car thing. I kinda want my guy, um, ALIVE when he's done at work, and racing's just too dangerous. Cars flip over, catch fire, all that stuff. No thanks.
And about the guy winning the lottery-- no, that wouldn't "sway" my opinion toward him. Away, maybe-- he's advertising that he has money and is bragging. If he isn't bragging, he's going to get the wrong kinds of women to respond to him, and that won't end well. Most of the time, what the winner gets is less taxes (which take out a LOT, because it's such a large sum), and they go through it pretty quick, so the girl he attracts with money will be pretty disappointed when the money's down the drain within a month. | |
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