| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 8:11:14 AM |
unless he had something totally repugnant in his profile like he stomped on kittens for fun
I'm so tempted to put that in my profile...
But back to the topic. I think most of the respondents saying 'No', are just viewing things from a different angle. They see the question as 'Does money change someone you don't like into someone you do', or alternatively, 'I have a theory that all women are just golddiggers, do you agree?' and naturally when you're putting them on the defensive like that they're going to disagree.
What money does do though, is show someone in a different light. It makes a difference whether you realise it or not... | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 8:29:52 AM | | I don't know about advertising it in your profile, but I have known of women who took no interest in a man until he became very wealthy and then wanted to date him seriously, and I have known of women who were very interested in a man, until they found out he had an honest normal living, and dropped him like a hot potato. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 12:14:39 PM |
So what is it about women that makes then not want to share their income with someone who does not provide an equal or close to equal income? Are women just more greedy? Are they cheap? Are men naturally more generous? What is it?
I think it goes back to the caveman days, women want a provider for her children. This may not be conscious, she may not even consciously want children, but her instinct drives her to hook up with a guy who will not let her "children" starve, as what happened often in the Pleistocene to women with men who cannot provide resources. Even if she makes more money than most guys, this instinct is still deeply ingrained into the "reptilian" part of her brain. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:44:26 PM |
For 80% of women the answer would be yes or if they dont say yes they are lying. Good thing I'm not in that 80%.
Actually, I think that the 80% is backwards.
It's usually women from poorer backgrounds who are goldiggers,
What a crock! Anyone who knows me knows how poor I grew up. For that reason, I am RICH in appreciating the value of a dollar.
I have dated men with money and have dated men without money. I have been offered 'the world', but it wasn't going to change the way I felt about him. Sorry, but I want happiness before wealth. If the man I spend the rest of my life with happens to have money or win the lottery, then so be it. If he happens to have a 60/hour/week job paying minimum wage and we are more than in love, awesome!
I struggle with money every day. But, I certainly do NOT want someone else's money to pay my bills! I would much rather continue to struggle. Nope, winning the lotto or coming into money another way has no impact on my opinion.
I have noticed some younger posters - early to mid 20's. Maybe it's immaturity that brings those opinions. Maybe I'm wrong. Not all women are gold diggers and not all women want money. There's more to life than the all might dollar. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/12/2007 7:43:58 PM | Y'know tejas yuki ... we are so wasting our effort trying to explain how we feel about this. The biggest point they just don't get is that "yes, there are many women who would be swayed by knowledge of 'big' money, and some would do anything to get their paws on it, but, there are some of us who just don't have "hooker" mentality... that wouldn't willingly try to sell our bodies and souls for cash.
These men will never understand what really matters to some of us.
I guess to state it in simple terms, if a guy we liked/loved came into money, that would be okay. But, a guy we never liked that had money would remain unliked. I guess some may try to get to like a man with money, but if he is a s.o.b. .... even millions will not make that man attractive.
What you men seem to fail to understand is that many men with money are in fact arrogant a$$holes, think they can buy anything, think they own people, and can be very self-centered and act like spoiled kids. But then, i suppose this might be why some of the rich wives have affairs with the "poolboy" or the truck driver... | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/13/2007 6:35:24 AM | If money is not important then please explain:
The majority of women insist that a man have equal or better income than they do. They say "it's only fair that a man not be a drain on the relationship financially". What is it about women that makes then not want to share their income with someone who doesn't have equal or close to equal income. Greed? Are they cheap? Are they less generous than men? What is it???
I'm restating this because no one is answering the question.. you all just go off on some tangent about how money doesn't matter. Well it must matter since the above statement is so true. Really I want to know. I've posted this elswhere and women won't answer the question. Is it because the answer is embarrassing? | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/13/2007 6:44:19 AM | | I can't answer that question, as I am not a majority of woman. But, I never hear my friends say that. They want a man with a job, sure. But, they want to be happy - that's their number 1 priority. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/13/2007 6:52:27 AM | | ^^^ I don't inist that his income is equal to or more than mine. I DO insist that he has a job and is able to take care of himself. I pay for my own bills, and my son's, without assistance; it's only right that he should be able to support himself, too, without my help. Many guys I know feel the same way about women, so it isn't a gender-specific thing. I think it's only fair to expect your partner-- whichever gender you happen to be-- to be able to support themselves. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2007 6:58:45 AM | ^^^^
Ohhh but it is a gender specific thing. Most men don't care how much money a woman makes. And it's stated time and time again that he must make at least as much money as I do. You 2 ladies claim you don't care but you are definately a minority.
Msg 45 is one example. But you see it through out the forums and in profiles.
Msg55
You seem to exagerate everything rather than debate the points mentioned. Hard to debate with people like this. All of your posts include over exagerated statements that aren't mentioned by anyone. We understand that the majority of women wouldn't choose a guy just for his wealth. I dont' think anyone in this thread stated that. We are saying, and this is getting tiring, that if you are on the fence about a guy, which means you may or not be interested, then if you found out he was loaded you would give him a second look. Thats all the OP said, that's all I said and you go off an these ridiculous exagerations. Drama much?!
Just for the record. You are keeping record aren't you. I'm not a whining poor guy. I have a successful business and travel all over the world for fun. That doesn't mean I can't have compassion for guys who make less money.
I know there is a minority of women out there who just want a guy who is intellectually compatibly, physically attractive and employed (no matter the income level). I've been unemployed and dated professional brilliant women with no problem since they could tell by talking to me that I had plenty of ambition and would make it some day. But you are a minority.
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/13/2007 7:35:40 AM | I cannot answer that, simply because I have never been in that postition, and have never lived with a man ... where we would share incomes.
However, I do understand the reasoning in a woman insisting that a man do work at least ... if living together and if all the bills and assets are to be shared. I could give you many examples of where women make more money than their sig.other ... one inparticular who has supported her love for the past 6 years...while he "studies", sleeps til 2 in the afternoon, and somehow buys "the best" of everything... Another who made big money while with her big-spender boyfriend was regularly 'in-between' high paying jobs, her paying off his debts and payments on his big shiny truck.
So, I think for SOME women, experience has taught them to at demand at least some balance of financial equality in a relationship. For SOME it may be fear of being used. For SOME it is totally irrelevant. And yes, for SOME it may be that they are greedy, cheap, and totally materialistic. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/13/2007 8:04:11 AM | I have had several chats with a guy off this website whose father is a millionaire but it does not change my mind, I'm not attracted to him so thats that but I'm happy to be friends and chat.
Winning the lotto would not change my mind because I need to feel passion and romance with som1 I'm really attracted to. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/14/2007 1:51:12 PM | No, I wouldnt date a man just because he had won the lottery. If he wasnt attractive to me without money, he wont be attractive to me with money. No amount of trinkets, cars , houses, clothes or whatever are going to make up for the fact that i would be at the end of the day having to go to bed with some who isnt attractive to me. if you can sleep withsomeone you have no attraction to, for money, then you have a prostitutes mentality. And in case the men who think that most women would havent noticed,.. the majority of women do not earn money by prostitution. There will always be a minority of women who can stand to have some unattractive guy paw her in return for money, but I honestly do think that they are a minority. So, i conclude that the majority of women on this thread who say they still wouldnt date him are NOT lying.
As for racing car drivers? Bah!! Again,.. a small minority of women follow these men, I personally dont see the appeal in a man who has a death wish. Over grown schoolboys spring to mind. Its not glamorous to me,.. its just a load of glitzy trashy nonsense. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 7/14/2007 2:10:07 PM | | I have also noticed that the racing car guys have very good looking wives. I guess when you see them on TV and they can get their hair done and goo make up and will look good. Some ladies will be more willing to forgive a guy's lack of attention and issues if he has more cash. So, those guys may somewhat have more attention at least from some ladies verus a guy who makes 45K per year. ...Some ladies are like (not all) let me take a second look here of he has some good cash. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 6:06:56 PM | Saw a show once, they told the stories of several lottery winners,
it's incredible , yet there are far more tales of misery!
Both genders dumped their mates, or broke engagements,
lots of 'fast investments' that broke them in no time.
Rare was the successful winners, if one measures success
in 'happiness'. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 6:35:50 PM | | Ok, first of all. I would think he was a liar lol. If it was true I would think he was showing the money off and trying to buy women. I think a guy showing his money off is less attractive than a guy with nothing at all. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 6:40:21 PM |
Would that swing your "vote," so to speak?
absolutely not.. if we have nothing in common.. then no amount of money will change my mind about him..
but what about race car driving and what would you think if a guy listed that in his profile?
i like it when a guy goes fast.. ummmm errr drives fast.. oh dear i hope this comment won`t increase guys emailing me now..    .. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 6:51:22 PM |
I think a guy showing his money off is less attractive than a guy with nothing at all.
You are a one-in-a-million lady! Most women will only pay attention to a guy with a fat wallet and a "hot" body. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:04:19 PM | | To the OP: There have been two men in my past who had a ridiculous amount of money. One was pursuing me and I had no interest. He thought telling me this would make me want him. His personality, lack of intelligence, height and looks could never be compensated for with money. Last year I dated this young man whom I found out after two weeks of dating had acquired a large settlement because of a traffic accident several years previous. He thought it would change my opinion and try and stick around. Sure, it certainly is attractive to think that someday I could never worry about paying my bills, but it's not everything. He turned out to be a huge jerk, and now I always consider personality in addition to wealth. That young man was so laissez-faire about everything in life because he didn't have to worry about bills or where his next meal came from. This made him incredibly selfish. :/ | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:06:04 PM |
and a big c0ck!
haha beat you to it red!
Actually, having a giant wiener is not required of men in order to hangout with a woman. She won't see your member until after she has agreed to hang out with you, unless she requires a pic of the package beforehand which is rather uncommon. | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:07:06 PM | | I could care less if a guy says he won the lottery... the fact that he feels the need to share with strangers that he is Mr. Moneybags is a huge turn off.."Hey look at me, the best thing i have going for me is my money" Majorly pathetic. I'm not sure about the race car driver thing...i think it would depend on what you were passionate about...for instance if the guy was in a band, that might interest me because i like music....Though i would seriously wonder why a person with celebrity status would be on a dating site... | |
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| Would a guy winning the lottery change your mind?
Posted: 5/5/2008 7:12:49 PM | | I respect a woman that looks out for herself first. I live comfortably and I know that there have been women who have been attracted to my credit cards. Honestly, it doesn't bother me. It is just as superficial for a guy to want to date a woman who is gorgeous. Looks are just as superficial as money. The most important thing for me in a relationship is LOYALTY. | |
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